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For the past ten years I've had to live with the feeling of a broken heart. I hate it. I've tried getting help, medication, etc. Nothing works. I'm tired of the pain. It's all I know anymore. I can't remeber what it feels like to be happy. So what sm I supposed to do? (link)
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I don't know if I'm the right person to answer this, but I saw this in my inbox and had to reply. A broken heart, is hard to deal with, we all go through them, but we have to do our best to move on from what ever bad things life throws at us. I know ten years is a long time to be in pain, but to harm yourself is not the answer. I believe you can move on from the pain and be happy. There are people in this world that love you, who care about you, and to end your life in such a way, just isn't the answer. You need to keep fighting for your life, keep getting help, medication, etc. I know it feels as if nothing will help no matter what you do, but life is a struggle, maybe more for some of us. But no matter how bad life can be, you are worth still having on this very planet, you still have a chance to live a happy life. Please don't give up on yourself, keep fighting, stay strong, and keep seeking help. I would suggest therapy and self esteem classes. Try talking to people around you about how you feel, there is also a hotline in the US, at 1800-273-TALK. Where you can talk to someone about your problem the line is open 24/7, 7 days a week. If you don't live in the US, there are other hotlines around the world you can look up. I am also here to listen and be here for support.
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I'm going to confess my crush in the coming week or so! I have strong reasons to believe that the crush is mutual. I have confirmed and reconfirmed the signs just to be sure, and now I feel that I am. AND even if for some reason my intuition is wrong, I'd really like to know how he feels. Keeping this a secret is just annoying, lol.
So, it's his birthday on Wednesday and I feel like that would be a nice time to tell him. I don't want to sound all self-important, but if he likes me, wouldn't telling him on his own birthday be super good news? The alternative is to wait until after the birthday party next weekend, just to see if anything happens then. But honestly, he's so shy that it's unlikely that he'll ever admit it/act on it. I personally think it would be better to tell him sooner rather than later because there's so much of that awkward/tense flirtatious behavior going on at the moment. Won't telling him make us more normal around eachother?
I want second opinions. When would be best, and why? :) (link)
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It would be best to tell him now than later ;), because it be a nice gift to him if he likes you :D
plus you'll be together sooner :) good luck!
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Okay, three months ago I posted a blog about having mixed emotions with my boyfriend at the time. Im 17/f and he is 16/m. We was together for 4 months and I started having mixed emotions. Now its been about three months, and Im starting to want him back. I thought since I had mixed emotions it meant I didn't care about him like he cared about me, so I tried talking and hanging, and moving to a new level with other guys, but it just wasn't working. Seeing him flirt with other girls makes me jealous, and we hung out a couple of nights ago and he kissed me, and it felt good again. I recently found out he called me a "stupid fat ass bitch" because he said he knew it would hurt me and he wanted to just cause me a lil pain even though it was wrong because he's been going through hell for two months and ive acted like I was fine. A part of me wants him back, but another part of me doesn't because I don't want to get back with him and my mixed emotions end up coming back, and than I hurt him AGAIN. He says he doesn't care, he just loves me and wants me back. But I don't know. I want to be with him, but Im afraid mixed emotions will come back, but im not certain if they will.
Helpp? (link)
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sorry misread....of course in any relationship
theres a chance you'll hurt the other person I know that, but thats life, and life is ment to take chances. so i think you two should try again, hes willing to give the relationship another try and so are you. Sure you might hurt him again, but I think its better to know if your really ment to be or not, then ask the question later what if?..and later on you may or may not hurt him but time heals the heart and he'll move on and so will you.
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I'm a freshman this year. I am very social. But I will admit more so outside of school. I don't like to talk a lot at school I guess. Well I was wondering how people make friends with upperclassmen..? I am very comfortable within my grade I will talk to anyone in my own grade just not in others. I guess you could say I get kind of intimidated. How do girls make friends with guys that are like seniors? How is it done... Lol. How can I talk to them without them thinking 'stupid freshman'. (link)
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first off not all seniors judge you by your grade, in fact some seniors love freshmans :) and 2nd, just be yourself talk to them like you do to your freshman friends, we seniors are just like you :P i mean we're only like 3 years older. Acting like someone else will only make us think stupid freshman xP
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I am a 15 yr. old girl. 2 days ago a guy was asking me really awkward questions like: would i date him? when would i have sex? etc...(i ignored these) then he put his arm around me and was grabbing at my side. the next day he asked me to the homecoming dance, but i thought he was joking so i said no immediately and he walked off. Now what should i do?
*please understand that i'm really shy and socially awkward! (link)
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Hey, im really shy and stuff 2 :)
umm well do you want to go to the homecoming with him? if so, then go ask him i know its REALLY REALLY hard to, I know the feeling trust me, but you have to do what you want and not let that shyness get in the way of things.
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female/17
okay sorry if this is long bt i really need advice.
okay so me and my broke up a while ago in july long story short he told my best friend she was sexy and all this other stuff and i got mad because he kept flirting with other girl. anyways when school started up agaiin i began liking him all over again it was crazy so one day we were "messing around" and we like made out and stuff like that and i flashed him (no sexual) stuff ! but when i left his said he loved me and i was so happy so i went home and went on facebook and he messaged me telling me how good the kiss was or whatever bt that we couldnt keep doing what we did anymore i was really confused so i went to his facebook page and his staus was i love you baby 9.25 im like what the hell??? are you kidding me dude your "in love" with your girlfriend from two days ago yet you just told me you loved me ? i felt really bad because he didnt tell me he had a girlfriend ! if he would have told me that i would have never mess around with him i feel mad dumb what do i do i keep thinking about it... i mean i'm kind of glad we arent together because i found out who he really is ! he's oviously a liar and a player ! since he doesnt want to claim anybody ! am i wrong for feeling this way? should i tell his girlfriend? i mean i dnt want her to turn on me but i already been put up with him for four months and now i see his true colors so what do i do? (link)
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you aren't wrong you feel this way, its normal that you feel this way, but it isn't your fualt, you didn't know. You should tell his girfriend. he wasn't faithful to her and no one wants a cheater as a boyfriend, she may or may not like you after but at least she knows and she can dump the guy.
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okay, so i'm 19 and male. I have a woman who i have been with for a year and i don't think i have ever done anything romantic this whole year. The only thing i have done that i would consider romantic is one day we were at the park and it started raining. I swept her off her feet and while she lay in my arms, i kissed her. She said that was the best kiss she ever had. I want to be romantic or atleast something romantic. I could really use your help. Thanks in advance. (link)
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hmm well theres a lot of things you could do :D umm you could try cooking for her :) all girls love that and its pretty impressive when a guy does ;D umm you could write something really sweet to her :) umm give her flowers or chocolates (the classics :P). but really the most important thing is to tell her how much u care and love her :) it means a lot more than anything else and really, its the most romantic thing you could possibly do :)
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Ok I have been dating my boyfriend for about 4 weeks and we really like each other. Like he'll call me beautiful in front of his friends and is really nice. Buthe can be...... Weird around his friends. An I mean really wierd. Like they'll be punching each other and being very weird. But the real problem is I only have one class with him and that's band. By afterwards else have lunch together. By everyone says that he flirts with slot of girls and really flirts in his gym idk hat to do can Simone please help I really love him. (link)
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Well first off you know him, do you think he'd do that to you? and if its bothering you, you should just ask him, I know he might get mad, or something but its bothering you and your getting hurt by something thing that may or may not be true, don't hang around the bush trying to figure it out, it won't solve anything, communicating and trust is a big part of a relationship, have a serious talk about it, i hope that helped.
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Sorry if its too long:( please read
OK so I really like this guy Jose he is really nice ,but he dosen't like me.We were at camp for our school peer group.He wrote on my paper "your a good friend DON'T change"So I am really bummed.Then on the nus ride back from camp this boy Jared was hitting on me.We were talking about how boy get turned on easier i don't know why but i like grabbed his knee and it seemed like he like it so I did the whole walking w/ my fingers up and down his leg.I feel bad I was leading him on now my best friend thinks he likes me not her so i need help I am starting to realize he is kinda cute ,but i stll really like jose.What do i do??
THNX IN ADVANCE
TINK2359 (link)
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Are you sure he doesn't like you? or are you assuming he doesn't? Just becuase he wrote that doesn't mean he likes you or not. It just means he likes who you are and is grateful he has you as a friend..tell him how you feel..you never know until you actually try, its tough but thats what life is all about taking chances. and the dude that was hitting on you, just tell your best friend your not intrested and she has nothing to worry about and don't give him any signals..and he'll lay off.
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Hi 8)
ok i have a huge problem and its been on my mind for ages basically theres this boy i really like but he doesnt know me. he doesnt even know i exist. i see him sometimes but he hasnt ever seen me. ive had a crush on him for 5 and a half years now and i really want to meet him i hardly ever see him now only sometimes, and im always with parents when i do see him. i think im in love please help i need to find a way to speak to him, hes been on my mind a lot lately and i cant eat, think or study please help
thanks everyone in advance (im 19)
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wow lucky boy ;D hmm thats tough..you need to try to find a way to be friend him first your in presence of parents when you see him right? take advantage of that and talk to him, get his phone number or facebook or something so you can get more chances to talk to him and get to know him better and hang out :) and then when the moment is right tell him how you feel and ask him out good luck ;)
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so about four months ago my ex broke up with me and recently i found out that its over for good.
i want to move on with my life. i know ill never be able to forget what happened but i dated the kid for eight months and he was there through an important time in my life.
so i was just wondering, what are some ways that i can move on?
what sucks is that i didnt get any closure. he broke up with me over the phone and that sucks cause its not like i could totally give my goodbye. (link)
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I know how you feel i was with a guy for two and a half years..he broke up with me 4 months ago..he broke up with me in like 5 secs.. -.-..weener..anyway..what I did was first let out all the tears and what really helped me was I was lucky enough to have a really good friend to listen and help me through that tough time :)..i also did things to vent my anger and sadness..for me i drew a lot..also its nice to go out and have some fun to try to clear your mind and remember that person isn't the only person who was in your life, you have other people who love you and support you remember that..stay strong and try your best to move on..in time you'll heal and get over that person..if you want someone to talk to I'd be happy to listen also ^^ I hope this helped try some of the things i did it might help :) good luck!
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18/f
I've worked at a restaurant for 18 months now. I have liked this guy,erik but i asked him out twice before and he made up excuses, so i gave up on him and stopped trying. the chefs (john and nick)know i like him and they all tell me he likes me too.they make jokes about us getting married, and its funny, and me and erik laugh about it seems to be flirty and make jokes ourselves but it just reminds me how much i like him and how i need to get over it.
last night i went out in the parking lot talking with john and nick and there was balloons all over my car. the balloons all had messy guy hand writing on them saying "i love you" "you complete me" "go out with me" "to ashley (me), love erik"... and i got so excited and happy. till the guys starting laughing, claiming that it wasnt them, but i know for a fact it was because john is religious and if you ask him to "swear to god"...he wont lie..and he wouldnt say it. i called erik double checking and he says he didnt do it.
i dont wanna tell the guys that i cried on the way home about it because i work with all guys and i dont want things between me and erik to be weird if he knows i got really upset about it.but it seriously got my hopes set so high then crashed down.i took it really personal. they play jokes on me all the time and i never do anything back. i know they care about me and they wouldnt do anything to hurt me.
i want to prank them back to let them know they can't mess with me like that anymore because i dont feel talking would help.
Any ideas for pranks?
or should i say something to john and nick
should i give up on erik as well if he seems so un-interested in dating me?
sorry its long and a lot of questions, thank you so much. (link)
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I think talking to nick and john is the best way to tell them how you feel about this, they seem like caring people and so they'll listen :) and yes I think you should try to get over him, hes not intrested so you really can't do anything about it :/ sorry..
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I seriously want to commit suicide. I am begging you to help me do it (link)
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I know your serious about killing yourself I've dealt with a lot of suicide problems, and it isn't the way to go..when your dead your dead, you have plenty of time to be dead in the future DON'T waste your life like this please. May I ask why you wanna kill yourself?
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thanks for the advice so you think i should take the chance and ask my boyfriends friend if we should be more than friends? (link)
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He lied to you to try to break you and your boyfriend up. is that someone you want to be with? I think you shouldn't ask him out.You need someone you can trust. It seems like he can't be trusted. I definately think you should break up with your boyfriend though.
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What is a Discriptive way of explaning Teenage Love or Young Love? What are the feeling you feel while being a teenager and being inlove? (link)
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I'm a teenager, I'm 17 and I'm currently in a relationship. I'm not sure I can it explain it but I can describe it, being with someone you just feel free..peaceful...like nothing else matters in the world except you and that person. When your in love you just see so many beautiful qualities in that person, you feel so happy around them you could cry of joy, they change you and make stronger..you feel your heart beat..every time they touch you...they always know exactly what to say and you feel as if you could love that person forever and never let them go..
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I want to commit suicide. I want someone to help me do this. Please let me do it. (link)
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Suicide is NEVER the answer please please don't kill yourself!! life is to short to throw it all away...you will NOT be self satisfied all you will be is dead. Again, please DON'T!
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hi m sarab 25 years old..i want to commit sucide just beacause m very poor n i lost ma first love just because i m not fucking rich....but now i have already in a relationship with some other girl n in this case also money comes between us...she belongs to very rich family ...n the main problem is m unemployed n totally dependent on others even sometimes i feel hungry so i cant afford to buy 1 burger...i tried so many times to get visa of USA but every time i wasn't able to get it...every day my father discouraged me alot,..he says i spent lot of money on u..but now m not gonna spend a single penny on u, m so helpless so i think sucide is the best way to keep my self satisfy.... (link)
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NO you shouldn't do suicide. SUICIDE is NEVER the answer, you have a relationship and there are people around you who love you, so don't give up! life is to short! Get help financially from friends and family who are willing to help you get back on your feet, and then through that process get a job! You need to be able to support yourself, I'm pretty sure if you get a job life will be a little better for you and your relationship.
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so i've been going out with this guy hes done with school and is now in college and im in school with his friend his friend and i started of being friends but then we both started getting really close and he eventually told me he likes me and we have a connection then we just started getting touchy then i find out that he tells my boyfriend lies about me and tells me lies about my boyfriend to try and break us up but when i spoke to him he didn't even mention the idea of the two of us dating and i like this guy more than my boyfriend but im afraid if he doesn't wanna date i would lose him and my boyfriend
please help me! (link)
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In my opinion I don't think you should date either of them, you said you like your boyfriend's friend more, if thats the case you shouldn't be with your boyfriend anymore, you should be with someone you really like..however you said your boyfriend's friend lied to try to break you two up, to me I wouldn't want that kind of person to be my boyfriend, but of course i don't know him personally so i can't exactly say, so heres another option, dump your boyfriend and take a chance, your boyfriend's relationship won't go anywhere because you like someone more than him, and i'm pretty sure your boyfriend's friend wants to date you :) if a guy tells you how he feels about you, it usually means he wants the relationship to go further..plus he tried to break you and your boyfriend up thats a big sign that he does wanna date you.
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Let me start off by saying I am sixteen and female and the boy I like is also sixteen. For this, I am going to refer to myself as S and the boy a A. A and I have known eachother since we were littl because our brothers did sports together but we never really talked and got to know eachother until this year. He is such a sweet boy and I am really starting to fall for him and I thought he was too but like I said, he is giving me mixed signals. One day I think he likes me so much and the next it seems like he hates me. We walked to second together and we talked about him and he really opened up to me and said that he hates how people think he's so perfect and how when he comes to school he puts on a new face that he can't let anyone see that he's hurting inside or mad. Then he would ask me what class I have and we wouldtalk about our teachers and such. The best part of our walk happened next, he complimented me and told me my hair looks awesome (: but my room came up so I had to go in and leave him to walk alone. This walk only happened for me to show I was not mad at him anymore because that previous Friday, I had gotten mad at him him, when I told him I was mad, he said if he had a gun, he wouldn't alive. That made me scared so I went back to th back of the bus where he was sitting and we talked and we were okay so that is why the walked happened on Monday. Now, we have first together, which is why we walk to second together and everytime I scan the room or glance over at him 95% of the time, he is looking at me, but I'm not complaining. I like when it happens because he isn't a sissy that looks away when he realizes I look at him and sometimes we look into eachothers eyes for what seems like forever. My friend thinks there is a spark between us so the other day she talked to him and he had foun out that this girl has a crush on him and he sai that she was gross and then he said "does S have a crush on me?" and my frien answeredd him by sayig she wasn't sure because if I do, she would have expected me to tell her. Then he said i am awesome and that I'm pretty pretty. But he said he's still trying to get over his ex bcause she was "amazing." And my friend told him that he should get to know me better because we are pretty alike and he thanked her and smiled. Then she went to A's friend, J, and asked if he knows who A likes and he said "no I don't. Why? Does S like him?" which completely caught my friend off guard. Why me? I have also come to realize that J and i hav been talking alot recently and he has been nicerthan normal which is weird because he used to be rude to me before. I had just talked to A last night and I was saying how I'm mad we don't walk together to second and he looked at me and said uhh we only walked together once. So I explained to him both times and he sai he doesn't remember the second but he doesn't like walking with me if I'm with my other friends. Last night he had also been joking that I hate him so him and J made a blackade with their bodies, so I couldn't get to where I wanted. This might just be a coincidence but whn I was standing ouside, he walked by me singing "have you seen this girl, she's been running though my head" my heart melted a little.
Now, do you think the song was a coincidence? My friend said she heard him singing inside humor that song so idk. Do you also think he likes me, if so what about his ex and why didn't he tell his friend he likes me? I just want to be with him.. (link)
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Idk if the song was a coincidence or not but I'm pretty sure he likes you :), as for his ex, he'll get over her in time don't worry, get to know him a little more and then tell him how you feel :)
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19/f. i have been best friends with this girl for 3 years. we've had our ups and downs. When we first became friends she would spread rumors about me and other people and i forgave her, but then she became a christian and started going to church, and i went with her and i liked it, but then i felt like she became overly religious to the point where she started shoving her beliefs down my throat. Like for example they think twilight is bad and so is harry potter because they talk about vampires and witches. She started believing what they tell her, and one day she came to my house and i was reading harry otter and she started saying it's dumb. Then there was another time when we were in my car, and i had a ganesh figurine in my car, he's a hindu god and she started saying oh what is that it looks weird, and started laughing and i was like why because it's not jesus? and i told her it was ganesh and i was really angry. she's so disrespectful and at church she either ignores me or she's extremely rude to me in front of our friends. like one weekend i was at her house with two other people from church and i went out of the room to get someone and i came back and was like ugh i don't get this movie and she was like well you would understand it if you weren't eating and paying attention. and i got mad and told her she's annoying and that's why no one likes her. and then the next weekend i was at my house and she was coming over and i had to watch this movie i needed to return and she was like why are you watching this movie it's bad, because they were making sexual references and saying bad words. and i was like you don't have to watch it so she went to my room, then came back and said the same thing and i told her i didn't care what she thought, and she said well if you didn't care what i think you wouldn't be telling me that. and i got so mad i thought i was going to punch her. and then she goes on my facebook and comments my status because i put jealousy is a disease get well soon beetch, and she was like wow, and i know her so when she says that she doesn't approve. and i texted her and told her and she was like yeah it's bad and i told her well it's my faceboook status and i'll put whatever i want. i mean i don't go on her facebook and comment on her statuses that are about jesus. she has no respect for me. then she has the nerve to text me and ask me if im still mad at her and i lied and said no because i didn't want to make a big issue of it, but then i told her that she hurts my feelings, and she said well we're both guilty of it so let's drop it. i don't know what i do wrong. she's the one who is so rude and then she says i don't care what you think i have jesus in my life blah blah blah. last week we went to the movies and saw a movie and i told her i couldn't spend the night so she asked me to ask my mom if she could spend the night at my house because i had a lot of homework, and i didn't ask because i'd figure my mom would say no. and then i called my mom after the move to ask but she didn't pickup so my friend said to just come over to her house with out telling my mom and i said no and then she keeps telling me to come over because she's too tired to come to my house so i said im going home and i was super mad. so i don't know what to do. i've tried to tell her how i feel but it's no good because she doesn't take responsibility for what she does and she's so selfish. what should i do? (link)
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you say shes a good friend, but a good friend would never disrespect you like that. She sounds like someone you shouldn't be friends with. My advice is try to sit down with her and have a serious talk and if she won't listen then she isn't a friend and you should move on and try to make new friends, I know making new friends is a little though, but being with a friend who mistreats you is a lot harder to deal with.
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