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is she bullying me?
19/f. i have been best friends with this girl for 3 years. we've had our ups and downs. When we first became friends she would spread rumors about me and other people and i forgave her, but then she became a christian and started going to church, and i went with her and i liked it, but then i felt like she became overly religious to the point where she started shoving her beliefs down my throat. Like for example they think twilight is bad and so is harry potter because they talk about vampires and witches. She started believing what they tell her, and one day she came to my house and i was reading harry otter and she started saying it's dumb. Then there was another time when we were in my car, and i had a ganesh figurine in my car, he's a hindu god and she started saying oh what is that it looks weird, and started laughing and i was like why because it's not jesus? and i told her it was ganesh and i was really angry. she's so disrespectful and at church she either ignores me or she's extremely rude to me in front of our friends. like one weekend i was at her house with two other people from church and i went out of the room to get someone and i came back and was like ugh i don't get this movie and she was like well you would understand it if you weren't eating and paying attention. and i got mad and told her she's annoying and that's why no one likes her. and then the next weekend i was at my house and she was coming over and i had to watch this movie i needed to return and she was like why are you watching this movie it's bad, because they were making sexual references and saying bad words. and i was like you don't have to watch it so she went to my room, then came back and said the same thing and i told her i didn't care what she thought, and she said well if you didn't care what i think you wouldn't be telling me that. and i got so mad i thought i was going to punch her. and then she goes on my facebook and comments my status because i put jealousy is a disease get well soon beetch, and she was like wow, and i know her so when she says that she doesn't approve. and i texted her and told her and she was like yeah it's bad and i told her well it's my faceboook status and i'll put whatever i want. i mean i don't go on her facebook and comment on her statuses that are about jesus. she has no respect for me. then she has the nerve to text me and ask me if im still mad at her and i lied and said no because i didn't want to make a big issue of it, but then i told her that she hurts my feelings, and she said well we're both guilty of it so let's drop it. i don't know what i do wrong. she's the one who is so rude and then she says i don't care what you think i have jesus in my life blah blah blah. last week we went to the movies and saw a movie and i told her i couldn't spend the night so she asked me to ask my mom if she could spend the night at my house because i had a lot of homework, and i didn't ask because i'd figure my mom would say no. and then i called my mom after the move to ask but she didn't pickup so my friend said to just come over to her house with out telling my mom and i said no and then she keeps telling me to come over because she's too tired to come to my house so i said im going home and i was super mad. so i don't know what to do. i've tried to tell her how i feel but it's no good because she doesn't take responsibility for what she does and she's so selfish. what should i do?
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I would tell her that as a Christian she is a representative of Jesus and she is doing a poor job. Would Jesus treat you as she does? Leave it at that. If she doesn't change, then you need to move on because you know in your heart whether you're being bullied or not.
I think she means well when she talks about the things that are acceptable and unacceptable in Christianity because, as a believer, she needs to distinguish between the two and the behavior that leads up to it. It seems to be her delivery that needs adjusting. She is too abrupt and crude and I'm sure there is a degree of self absorption there. The next time she makes a demand of you or makes a demeaning comment tell her, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Would Jesus talk to me like that?"
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you say shes a good friend, but a good friend would never disrespect you like that. She sounds like someone you shouldn't be friends with. My advice is try to sit down with her and have a serious talk and if she won't listen then she isn't a friend and you should move on and try to make new friends, I know making new friends is a little though, but being with a friend who mistreats you is a lot harder to deal with.
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