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my morals are higher then most why doesnt he see it???
The topic says it all really! husband has a lady friend that works with him and she is married and in her 50's. Not bad looking for 50 but the fact is she IS MARRIED! We ran into her last night when we took our kids to superkicks she was there with her kid. This woman was all over a guy that was NOT her husband alot of flirting he was playing with her hair giggleing with eachother. If that were my man i wouldnt apprecitate this behavor from her. I told my husband I have lost alot of respect for her she is a disgrace to the married name. I took my vowels seriously and how do I know she is not like that with my man, well his responce you have to trust "ME". okay I do but I dont trust HER. How can she do that knowing she has a man at home. unmoral to me!! I told him as much as he was touching her leg and she was whispering in his ear she has no morals he disagreed with me on all points. What does that mean for him? Does it mean its okay to flirt and touch eachother just cause spouse aint there. How dare her and I cant stop thinking he is defending her cause thats how she acts with him.. I kindly let him know if I EVER see her touch you in a way I should only be able to touch you I will walk my happy ass to her office and give her a piece of my mind. So we agreed to disagree on it all and went to bed!!
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You're overreacting. If he's cheating on you with her, he would not defend her so you won't be suspicious and blow on him like you did. He's just defending her because she's his friend. It's cool to have a good sense of moral but doesn't mean you are entitled to criticize peoples behavior based on your ideals. You should apologize to your husband for scolding him for something he didn't do wrong in the first place.
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If you would like your husband to consider flirting around, keep doubting and suspecting him and treating him like he's already done it,and in just a little while, you'll be right!
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Why are you mad at HIM?! You see a married woman all over a man that is not her husband and you get mad at your HUSBAND? That's just crazy, and a huge sign of insecurity. He was not defending her, he was telling you that you should trust him to not let someone like that interfere in his marriage. You should apologize to him for acting so crazy and mind your own business. You can have an opinion, but the truth is that however this woman chooses to live (and ruin) her own life, that's her business and it has nothing to do with you for the moment. If you don't trust your husband then you have other issues not related to this woman.
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How about your happy ass takes a deep breath and finds a hobby.
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It's fine not to like someone, and not to agree with how they behave.
I highly, highly doubt your husband would be okay with you behaving as she did. You are his wife. He choose you. He made his vows to you. She is just a friend. He may have a degree of affection and respect for his friend, but that's it.
Agreeing to to disagree is fine.
If you don't trust your husband to insist this woman address him correctly, THAT's your problem. Not her behavoir, but your lack of trust that your husband will interact with her in appropraite ways and stick to his morals and principals (which one would assume, are similar to yours) but allow her behavoir to compromise him.
If you see her treating him this way, don't attack her. Slap him. He's a grown man, he should be able to say no and establish appropraite friendships.
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