I'm a 19/f and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend 22/f of 1 year. He himself is not a virgin and has had I think it was 3 partners in the past. There have been recent reported cases of HVI infections in our area. Well, I was always taught to treat everyone as if they had the virus because you never know who might actually have it. They probably don't even know. So, as a precaution I want to ask him to get tested. It's not that I don't trust him because I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't lose my virginity to him. I'm just afraid that he'll take it as if I don't trust him. I know it's a smart decision but I just don't know how to approach the subject. And, if he agrees to it then I will go with him and get tested also. Any opinions/advice is appreciated.
Yes, tell him to get tested!!! If he loves you like he should, he'll respect that decision, and he'll get tested. He should want to protect you as much as you want to protect yourself. Just tell him that you love him and trust him, and that is why you're willing to lose your virginity to him, but you don't want to do anything to risk ruining your future, so you would feel much safer and better about the whole situation if he got tested first.
You're doing the smart, right thing to do, and he should understand that.
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i'm 13 and i'm only 5'1. i'm very self-conscious about my height so i measure myself everyday. why is it that when i wake up i'd grow half to a full inch from the night before when i measured but at the end of the day i'd measure myself again and it said that i shrunk again? this happens almost every morning, when will i stop increasing an inch and then losing an inch by the end of the day? how can i prevent it? thank u
It's because when you sleep, fluid builds up between each of your vertebrae, and it makes you gain about an inch. During the day, the fluid gets squeezed back out in a sense when you're walking and moving around, and so you lose the inch again. Don't worry about it. It happens to everyone, and there's no way of preventing it. It's normal. And don't worry about your height. People grow very very slowly, and you're probably not even gonna' notice any difference in it if you measure every day.
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i have liked this guy 4 a year now and the other day he told me how he truely feels about me and then i did the same. and today i asked him if he would every consider havin a realtionship with me and he said ya for shu every body deseves a chance as long as you mean tha lovin part, and am just lookin for a girl tha i can stay with for a long time. and i dont know what to say more to get him to ask me out! he gave me a kiss today and i did the same back but i dont know what to do can someone plz help me and tell me what to tell him more? plz and thank you.
I wouldn't worry too much about it. "Going out" is just a title. I mean, if he's kissing you and stuff, you two obviously have a thing going on. Maybe he just wants to wait a little while to officially "ask you out" because 1) it's more special or 2) he wants to wait a while to make sure that the two of you ONLY want to see each other and not go on dates with anybody else. Because I think "going out" basically means that you only belong to each other, and going on a date with someone else would be cheating. So don't stress over it, and good luck to ya'. ♥
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So there's this guy I like who likes me back.. the only reason we're not going out is because he lives in another city really far away. But its sort of understood that we have this thing going on. Anyway.. he's always talking about how hard it is for him to communicate openly with girls considering he doesnt have many female friends... ha yeah right. I just so happened to have guessed his email password (wrong I know.. but I have it and now I cant just not have it anymore!) and he has a ton of emails from all sorts of girls. There are "xoxo"'s and "love so and so"'s everywhere!!! I know Im not technically supposed to be mad considering Im not supposed to have been in there anyway.. but I cant help it. Is there anyway I can confront him about the girls.. ask him if there's someone else.. without him knowing I went in his email? Or should I shake it off and leave him and his email alone?
Oooh that's a pickle...
Well, you have to keep in mind that you guys may have chemistry, but you AREN'T going out. So really, he's still fair game for other girls. And maybe he DOESN'T have many female friends that are JUST friends, but maybe he has lots of girls that are interested in him as a boyfriend.
So really, there isn't exactly a way to confront him about it, because he hasn't done anything horribly wrong, other than lead you on a little bit, which is pretty natural for both guys and girls to do. And maybe he DOES like you, but like you said, you guys live too far away to have anything really serious. So it's only natural for him to be talking to other girls.
What I would do is try your hardest to not snoop around anymore. But since you can't erase what you've already seen, just keep in mind that you're NOT the only girl in his life right now, and don't get too caught up over him, as sucky as that is.
Maybe you could talk to a few other guys yourself and get some of your own "XOXO" "love so and so" emails, if you're up for that.
Or just keep being yourself and be there for him like you always have been. Maybe someday things can work out where you can see each other a lot and you can be the ONLY girl in his life.
Good luck. I hope I helped. :) ♥
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I was wondering how I could find a job if I`m only 15. Are places willing to hire a 15 year old? I know I need a work permet (which i have) but I now have no clue how to find a job! What are interviews like? Where are some good places to work? How do I find out if places hire 15 year olds or what are some places that ya`ll think would hire me? THANX!
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I think Chick-Fil-A hires at fourteen. And it's a good place to work because the longer you work there, the more college scholarship money they give you, or something along those lines. For the interview, just look clean, be polite, and act mature and natural.
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I have so much going on in my life right now and i feel like i dont have anyone to talk to and i found out all the people i thought were my friends are just using me or are just jerk and my family is always fighting and my parents are divorced and i had to live up to all these high standardands and i cant get over this guy ahhhh i dont want to go back to my bad habits...drinking...drugs...cutting...any of that can you please help me
OH MY GOD. First of all, let me start out with this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! What you just described is like my life EXACTLY. The only difference is that I don't cut. Here's what I try to think: Don't think too much about having to have a million friends all the time. Just be yourself, focus on the important things (school/sports/whatever you're involved in), and the right friends will find you. It may only be one good friend, but one really good quality friend that really understands you is better than a bunch of "so-called" friends. And really, friend drama is NOT going to matter after high school, so don't worry about it.
As for the family thing, TALK TO THEMMM...It really helps so much. Just be supportive of your family because they're the ones who will ALWAYS be there for you when no one else is. And hopefully, you being good to them will spread the good "karma" and you can all be one big happy again.
If your family is pushing you to live up to high standards, it's only because they want the best future for you. So listen to them, and try your best. Make school your main focus, as lame as that sounds. But it really is what will make you have a good future.
Getting over guys SUCKS, but it can be done. Just concentrate on all this other stuff going on in your life, and try not to let your mind float back to him. If it didn't work out, it probably wasn't meant to be, and you're young, you'll find someone better. There are so many other, BETTER fish in the sea.
And I know drugs/drinking is great for just making you forget your problems, but really, it gets you nowhere, so don't let it take over your life. And I can't give great advice on cutting because like I said, I don't do it. But I've heard that the best thing to do if you haven't already is to get professional help because I think it really is like a mental addiction.
Okay, I tried to give the best advice possible!!! I know life can be a bitch sometimes. IT WILL GET BETTER THOUGH!!!
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I wrote a prob earlier, because I like this boy but I'm too shy to actually do anything. People said they think he likes me too. They also told me "be yourself". Thing is, I'm really shy + boring, I hardly ever go out (long story.. moved house, new friends bullied me, were really immature and bossed me around every time i went out with them so i stopped). Please can you give me some flirting tips for shy people? Because when he looks at me I look away in case I start blushing and I'm ignoring him even though I like him.. silly thing to do I guess, but I can't help it. Thanks =]
Hey, I know what you mean about the whole "They tell me to be myself, but the real me doesn't really have a personality (shy/boring)." I'm the same way. But there is something special/interesting about everyone, you just have to find it. It could be something you're good at (dancing/acting/sport), or it could be something like you're really sarcastic and funny on the inside, but you're too shy to let it out. Once you find your "good quality" so to speak, you need to overcome your shyness. The best way to do this is by gaining some self confidence. Just try being a little more outgoing with people that you talk to at school. Then when you're ready, talk to the guy when he looks at you. Don't look away. Just start out with, "Hey, what's up?" Just like smalltalk...And it should lead into other topics. Just RELAX...He's just a person like you. And he's NOT judging you. He's probably more worried about what YOU think of HIM. And also, relaxing around people will make you seem less vulnerable, so they won't boss you around and walk all over you so much!!! Good luck, and remember: Just RELAX!!!
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So there's this boy I used to see at school a lot. Now he works at a grocery store in our town. Only he works early in the morning. I've heard a lot of really good things about him lately. Everyone says how amazingly nice he is. And considering nice guys are hard to find, I want to have a fair chance at this guy. But he also has a girlfriend (so I've heard.. from a boy who likes me..)
So I want a chance at him, but I've never spoken to him before, never had a class with him, and I dont have the slightest idea how to approach him and what to say.
Any help is greatly appreciated.
Well if the only time you really see him right now is at the grocery store, then I guess the only thing to do is to stop by one day at 6AM for that posterboard for that school project...*wink, wink*, and then when you're ready to pay, get in his check out lane. And then when you get up there to him, be like, "Hey, didn't I use to go to school with you??" "How are you doin' nowadays???" You know. Just make smalltalk. And then if you're feeling up to it, write your number down and give it to him and say, "Well hey, if you ever wanna' hang out, gimme' a call!!!" And then if he calls you up, it means he's probably interested in you. And from there, you can just hang out and be friends for a little bit and get to know him better and find out if he's taken or not, and then maybe things will spark between you two and you'll have your dream boy! I think that's worth getting up early one morning for!!!
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i have this really good guy friend who is a year older than me .in fact , i call him my "big brother" and he calls me "little sis" . LOL . anyway , the other day when i was just talking to him , i reached across him to get something from the person sitting on the other side of him . ( we were sitting in a row , with him in the center ) and i sort of brushed against his chest while bending back . After that , i noticed that he got a boner and there was a lump in his pants . well now i'm kinda freaked out cos i never thought that he would like me ( especially bcos of the little sis big bro thing ) . i'm confused and don't know if i like him .. what should i do ?
Haha, I wouldn't worry too much about it. It might not have even been a boner. Sometimes guys pants just get lumpy and bunched up when they sit down, you know? Don't let a little thing like that ruin the lil' sis/big bro friendship.
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My sister has really bad cramps! Does any one know some quick fixes. She has already had motrain if that helps! Thanks!!
Tell her to try eating a banana (I dunno' why, but it works), doing a few crunches, or sitting in that yoga cat position thing (It helps because it makes your girlie organs sag down and relax).
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i wanna get a lip ring but i think ppl will think weird of me because im the type to wear abrecrombie everyday. can sum1 tell me the pros n cons about liprings ?
Hey, you don't have to label yourself like that. Just because you wear "preppy" clothes doesn't mean you're not allowed to get a lip ring. So don't worry about what others think. If they give you shit because you don't fit under one stereotypic category anymore, then they're retarded.
Just make sure that you know what you're in for if you get a lip ring. Make sure that you won't get tired of it after a while, and make sure that you're responsible enough to take care of it and all that.
Good luck, and don't worry about what other people think! ♥
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In about a week I have this huge presintation i have to do in music class. IT has to be 10 minutes long, including an oral presintation and a song to go along with it. The teacher puts so much pressure on you because she is really strict. I don't know what to do, I am so afraid of stage fright I can't even deal with it. Please help me, if you think of anything I can do to get over this, including pills or sumthin....but not like serious drugs! Please don't say you have to take deep breaths and imagin no one is there, because it doesn't work and you kno it too! please help me..
luv..
in need of major help
Hey. Well, does the whole class have to do a presenatation? If so, you could think of it this way: You ALL have to get up there and make a fool of yourselves. No one is going to be judging you that harshly because they know that they have to get up there in front of the class and do something too. You might as well just make the best of it. Have you ever watched a really really nervous person performing or speaking in front of a big group of people. They looked horrible, right? So, the more you let them see you sweat, the worse you look. The best thing to do is just PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE, and know EXACTLY what you have to do. Know all your lines, and all that stuff. The more confident you are with what you're doing, the better it'll be. And remember, you never look as bad as you feel. And you don't have to turn to pills for something like this. You don't need it. You can do it! Good luck! Just know your stuff!
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Well, I am a sports freak, but I have started to get out and try new things. I tried color/winter guard, but when my grandfather passed away, I got behind and couldnt catch because I couldnt get anyone to teach me the things that I had missed. So now I am the manager of the track team and I love it... except for one thing. When Im at practice the coach is late, I try and tell them what they should be doing and stuff until the coach gets there. Then one of the girls tried to tell me off and say that you cant have practice unless the coach was there and one of the guys was telling me that he had been there longer and that "we strech as a team", but the rest of the team except maybe two or three, including him, were running. If they strech as a team, shouldnt they run as a team? So, how do I get them to respect me and not be smart ellic to me when I tell something to do, both in a nice way and a mean way? I have talked to the coach about the two times they have disrespected me.
Hey. I'm the manager of my school's JV baseball team. They're pretty good about being dedicated to their sport and not goofing off a whole lot, but the coach told me that I DO have authority over them, and I can tell them to stop doing anything they shouldn't be doing and stuff like that. It should probably be the same for you. What you could do is just go up to the coach one day and politely be like, "If you're not at practice yet, do I need to tell them to start stretching and warming up or anything if they aren't already doing it?" And if the coach says yes, you might want to ask him/her to tell the team that you have the authority to tell them to get started.
I mean yeah you're the same age as them, but they still have to realize that you're their manager, and you're only trying to do your job right.
Don't be a control freak or anything, but just tell them you don't want them to get in trouble when the coach gets there, so they should start doing whatever their supposed to. ♥
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Okay my friend likes this guy, but they broke up and he doesnt lik eher at all..so she had a new boyfriend...and i started to like her ex so i told her so she wouldnt be mad at me..but she got mad and we are in a fight now...and then she broke up with her new boyfriend cause i like her ex.. and ithink shes gonna try and get her ex back so i dont have a chance but im not sure...i dont know what to do cause i was only trying to be a good friend by telling her that so she wouldnt have to find out if i like dated him
Yeah stuff like that happens a lot. It sucks. What your friend is doing isn't cool at all. She needs to realize that she broke up with her old boyfriend, so he's not hers anymore. He's up for grabs for anyone, even you. All that stuff about not dating a friend's ex is stupid. You can't help who you start falling for.
When you told her that you like her ex, it made her realize that she either still has feelings for him, or she hasn't let go of having "control" over him, ya' know?
Maybe what you should do if you want to stay friends with this girl is just give it a little time before you go after her ex. Breakups can be hard, and maybe her new boyfriend was just a rebound sort of thing. You said her ex boyfriend doesn't like her anymore at all, so maybe she'll eventually realize that she's not getting back together with him, and she'll move on and get over him and not care if you end up dating him.
Just tell her that you were only trying to see if she was okay with you liking him, and that you see that she's apparently not okay with it. Just hold back a little bit from the guy and see what happens.
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Okay, I have a problem. I don't know if it's normal or not. I guess I'll start out by saying I'm fairly outgoing and loud. Anyways, my friends and I and some other guys went to this guy Micheal's house today. Micheal's a 9th grader (I'm in 8th) and we were there for like 4 hours without his parents home. Anyways, when basically everyone except one other guy had left, we started cuddling on his bed. He was holding my hand and like rubbing his hand on my stomach and stuff while we were watching a movie and earlier we held hands while I was just sitting on the bed and he was on the floor (his matresses are on the floor) and I don't know, I liked him being there with me and doing stuff with him, but I got so nervous! I don't know why, I just felt kind of awkward. Do any of you get this way too?
P.S. Micheal likes me if that means anything for details.
-Christeena
It's okay to be nervous. You're young and pretty inexperienced in the making out/being in love department, and it's gonna' feel awkward. You're doing weird stuff that you've never done before. Just make sure that you aren't doing anything that makes you feel uncomfortable or anything that you don't feel like you're ready to do. There's a difference between "butterflies-in-your-stomach" nervous and "I'm-not-ready-to-do-this" nervous. And make sure you're not being taken advantage of.
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Why do guys always have to date popular girls?Why cant they date a regular girls?
Guys usually date the so-called "popular" girls for one of two reasons:
1. Because the guy is shallow and knows that the girl is "popular" and is only dating her because he knows that it will make him "popular" as well.
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2. Because the popular girl is one of those girls that's popular because she's just really outgoing and easy to get along with and always acts like herself and gets along with everybody and is really confident. Guys like that kind of girl because they know that a girl like that won't make things awkward if they start dating.
Just be yourself, and the right guy will come to you. There's someone out there for everyone.
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Next year, when I'm in 9th grade, I want to join color guard. The thing is I have no experience at all.I have a good figure, but at times I'm kinda clumsy and I'm afraid I will drop the riffel or something. Also, it takes me a little bit longer to learn a routine than most people because I have never done dance or anything of the sort.
Does anyone have any suggestions that will help me be more cordinatted? (sp)Thanks!!
Definitely try out. If you don't, you'll probably regret it. And maybe you could take like a couple open dance classes just at a local studio. I don't think color guard requires a whole lot of dance experience. Just a little. And as far as dropping the thing goes, don't worry about that. I mean, I don't know where any of the other freshman girls trying out would have learned how to handle the riffel thing beforehand. I think you'd just learn how to do it at the tryouts. And never let 'em see ya' sweat at the tryouts. If you drop it, just pick it up, and keep going. And SMILE!!! The judge people want people who are gonna' enjoy doing color guard. Hope I helped!
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I've just had a few knocks lately with everything and i've lost my confidence and i've got low self esteem how do it get my confidence and steem back. Many thanxz
Yeah, you just have to think, "I'm me for a reason...." Someone up there thought that you were perfect for living your life. They thought you could handle it. So you can. You just have to make the best with what you've been given. Focus on your good points, and don't say you don't have any, because you do. And DO NOT WORRY ABOUT WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK, to a certain extent anyway. Don't act so weird that people don't respect you, but don't take everything they say to heart. You can't please everyone, so just be yourself. The right friends will come. If you have any hobbies or anything, throw yourself into that. Getting really awesome at something is a great way to gain confidence. Any other questions, IM me.
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ok so i've liked this guy for like 2 years off and on. my best friend said that during the summer he liked me 2. well i guess i finally got over him by the end of ther summer and then he turned up in my math class, sitting right next to me. i find myself liking him again, and he always finds time to talk to me during p.e. , and for the stupidist reasons, does he like me?? (sorry about the length ) thanx
From what you said, it sounds like he does. Flirt with him when he comes and talks to you. Maybe just start out being friends at first and then see about dating. GOOD LUCK TO YOU!!!
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Ok im sorry if this is long but here is my problem....I dont think im attractive i think i am over weight...I always think my friends are mad at me and at times i can be a bit immature...I havent had a real boyfriend only stupid 2 week things and i think its time for sumthing real but i dont know what to do..all of my close family lives in Rhode Island so i never get to see them and my parents fight constantly..This is not how a 16 year old deserves to live...i am so stressed and its affecting how i work and my grades in school..Some times i just go driving around to clear my head...half the times i feel myself crying....On some weekends i tell my parents i am going out with friends and i take the car and i sit in parking lots and cry becuase i dont want my parents to think i have no friends and all i do is sit at home...but i truly have no friends...i am caring but i guess thats not good enough for some people...Please i am in desperate need of help...I wanna stop crying myself to sleep and when i tell my parents i am going to hang out with friends i wanna mean it...I rate! Thanks bunches....
Aww...That's so sad. I totally see how you feel. You could try joining a bunch of clubs/sports at school (as cliche as that sounds). It really works though. You meet a ton of people with the same interests as you. It's how I met my boyfriend. And join up at a local gym like L.A. Fitness or somewhere. Working out and losing weight makes you feel sooo good and confident about yourself, and it's also yet another way to meet people. Just keep in mind that things WILL work out in the end. Keep working hard in school. Show that you're passionate about stuff. Speak your mind. People will see that you're a cool person and be attracted to you. Hope I helped! If ya' wanna' know anything else, drop me a line. Ciao babe!
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