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Okay so today in school we were working in our groups because we have to create our own political parties and each member of the group had to choose two topics that they wanted to talk about. We went around the group to see what each person's points were, and mine really sucked. In general, sometimes I feel like I don't have basic knowledge of things going on in the United States and just in general. I mean, I know stuff and follow the news from time to time, don't get me wrong here...but I always feel so slow and inferior to everyone else at school, like I don't know anything. How do I overcome this feeling and how do I gain more knowledge?
Dear Inferior,
Knowledge is power. You seem like a very intelligent person. You are aware of your own emotions and interactions with your group members. You desire to change what you do not like about yourself.
The best way to learn more about the government is to watch and read the news. There is so much information being provided, you just need to access it. For the information you do not understand, don't hesitate to ask others.
Keep in mind that you are a student. You are in a classroom to learn. You should not feel as though you are required to know everything.. about everything.
Best wishes,
She Screams.
16*f
yea so i've been starting to talk to this kid and i think i kind of like him. i mean we have fun together but im not sure if i exactly like him enough to actually start anything. i have been single for soo long and kind of " obsessed " (so my friends say) with my ex bf that i went out with and we had a pretty good relationship until we stopped talking after he went on vaca. well anyways we broke up and kinda stoped talking, so now when we do occasionally talk its just like "hey whats up .. oh cool.." stuff like that,i know he doesnt like me right now because we like neverr see eachother anymore or he is out but should i wait until like spring comes because i would deffinately see him around then. or do you think it is just a waist of time to wait around when i could have another nice guy. i know this doesnt make much sense but its just so hard to get over something like this because i liked him so much. my friends don't really understand... please try and help * xOx Kaylin
Dear Kaylin,
It really is true what they say.. that age old saying "There are many other fish in the sea".
I think you are wise to move on from your previous relationship. It is unhealthy to dwell in the past. It seems to me your ex boyfriend is content where he is and perhaps this is for the better. It would be best for you to move on to bigger and better things.
Never allow anyone to take hold of your emotions and keep you from experiencing new things. Who knows what wonderful things (or people for that matter) could be waiting for you! Be happy you are able to begin a new adventure. Seize the moment and take the past for what it is worth.
Obviously you care very much about your ex boyfriend. Be thankful you had the amount of time you did together. Learn what needs to be learned from your experience with him and take it with you to future relationships.
As for this new love interest, take it slowly. If you find that you are not truly interested in this boy then you should not push your emotions. You will meet other boys you do honestly like. Keep this in mind. Befriend this boy and let your heart lead you.
Love never dies, it is only changed. You will love again.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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Ok so here's the deal. Im a 14 year old female and my best friend in the WORLD is 15 and he's a guy. I love having him around and he means the world to me! Recently, my feelings for him have been changing to say the least and he knows that but neways, My dad is really overbaring! He grew up in Jersey and was a jerk when he was a kid and he assumes that all 15 year old guys are the same way. He doesnt trust my friend even tho i do. It doesnt change how i feel about my best but it does kinda bother me that he doesnt trust ME to not do something i shouldnt. No matter what we're still gonna be BEST friends so it would be tonnnns better if he'd just lighten up!and i know that neither of us like hiding the fact that we're hanging out to w/e whenever we see or talk to my dad.
What should i do??
Dear Secrets,
Secrets are never good. They burn inside and way heavily on your mind.
I think it is fantastic that you get along with the opposite sex so well. To be quite honest I have more male friends than female friends. Somehow they just seem easier to get along with.
But as happy that I am for you and your friend, I do have a problm with you lying to your dad. It isnt healthy for your relationship. If you and your dad cannot calmly communicate then it is not likely that you both will get along.
My best advice to you dear would be to communicate with your father your feelings. Let him know in a calm manner that you are thankful that he is concerned about you. Be sure and let him know that your male friend isnt as bad as your dad seems to think he is. Consider having your friend come around more often so that your dad might understand that he is a good person.
Keep in mind your dad is only trying to look out for your well being. Try and understand he is only doing what he thinks is best for you. Fathers will always be sceptical of young boys when it comes to their daughters.
Keep your friend close but keep your family closer. Try and balance the two. Communicate your feelings and you will succeed in both.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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dear scream,
My step-dad is a pure ass most of the time but sometime's is cool. ok here's the story, one day he come's in my room and say's no wonder it always stinks in here, BECAUSE i had some food right where he was standing and i said well if u don't like the smell then just go out, In a nice way, and he goes and tell's my mom that i'm coping an aditude with him but i wasn't and i got grounded. Scream what do i do i don't wanna argue with him cuz he's like my father YOU know and i'm scared if i make him real good and mad and then him leave me and my mom. HELP ME PLEASE
Dear Step-son,
Have you ever noticed how in the animal kingdom many species except other species into their family unit.
Family is very important. Im glad to hear you care about your step-dad enough to be worried about your relationship with him. It is important that you and the members of your family are close and are able to communicate well.
My advice is as follows: Talk to your step-dad. Let him know that you understand why he is concerned about you (and your room) and inform him that you greatful he cares about you enough to worry. Make sure you respect your step-father and his opinions.
Do not fear that your step-dad will leave you and your mother. Obviously your step-dad cares about you very much since he is concerned about your wellbeing. Keep this in mind.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
P.S. I apologize for the late response.
My boyfriend and I went out for almost two and a half months and we recently broke up. His friends initially dumped me for him,but afterwards he said that he didn't want them to.I then asked him if we were over and he said idk.Over and over he said idk and finally I confronted him and he finally said ok I don't wanna go out anymore.Everything was fine(other than the fact I was hurt) until he told me he still liked me.For two weeks we hung out and things seemed like they were going good so I asked him to our semiformal.He said maybe and I asked him if it had to do w/a girl he supposedly liked and he said maybe.Finally we got into a fight and he said that the reason he dumped me was cuz he didn't like me that way and then he changed his reasons over and over again.The next day I saw him at the bball game w/that girl and yet the school day after that he hit me and smiled and acted like everything was normal.His mom emailed me once to say she thought he really liked me and he also bought me a $60 gorgeous necklace for christmas so he seemed to like me a lot and he won't tell me what went wrong.I want to wish there is still hope, but I don't think so.What can I do to fix it if there is hope?And if not how should I move on?
Dear Hopeful,
If Ive learned anything from my years of experience with boys Ive learned that if you arent given a definite yes then you are left with a definite no. Keep this in mind.
Im not sure why this boy insists on stringing you along just to leave you hanging while he scopes out other adventures. But I do know it isnt right. No one should ever have that sort of power over you. No one should ever think that they can leave you whenever they like only to come back to you whenever they please. This is not a game, these are your emotions. He should not be toying with them.
If this boy truly liked you and wished to be with you then he would be. No matter what diamonds he gives you, no matter who says he cares about you, the only way for him to prove his feelings for you is to actually be with you. You and only you. Like wise, if he did not wish to be with you, a real man would say so himself (and not send his minions to do so for him).
My suggestion? Leave him. It is probable that a heart will break from time to time but it is unnatural for it to be broken repeatedly by the same person. Seek a better companion. Realize that you are a wonderful, caring person who should be with someone just as wonderful.
Understand that not all relationships will last. Learn when to fight and when to bow out gracefully. The world is full of billions of people. Be selective. Never settle for less than perfect.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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ok i think my subjetc gives it away-im sucidal and im stoppin gradually but still everythin thin makes me want to jump out and cut.....whats wrong with me?
love me
janine
Janine,
Life is full of ups and downs. The key to survival is to make your own happy moments.
Janine, Im not sure what is going on in your life. I do not know what causes you to think so negatively but perhaps it is not as bad as it seems. Here is some homework: Make a list of everything you like about yourself. Make another list of everything that makes you happy. Put both lists together and add your family and friends. There my dear are your reasons to keep living.
Since I do not know you personally I can not imagine what troubles you. I can only suggest that you seek the guidance of someone you trust. Talk to a parent, friend, or teacher. Talk to someone.
There is nothing wrong with you, other than being terribly unhappy. You will be happy again. Think positive and seek help.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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Hi. You came to my space and said I could use this website, you were right. My boyfriend Mike is doing drugs and I dont know how to stop it. Last time he got high he cheated on me. (at least thats what he says) and also he lies to me all the time. I can smell the drugs on him and i ask him if he's had any and hes all, "no" and he did and then I finally get it out of him. How do I get him off drugs, and how do I get him to stop lying?
signed: Confused.
Dear Confused,
"Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better." By King Whitney Jr.
To help fix your problem we must first understand it. For what reason does your boyfriend do drugs? When someone feels the need to rely on something they know is unhealthy for them there is always some underlying reasoning for it.
Perhaps your boyfriend is/and has been having problems with his family and taking a drug is the only way for him to cope. Perhaps he is insecure with himself and only finds acceptance when he is intoxicated. If you are comfortable enough, communicate with him and ask him why.
Someone once said that if a person truly loved you they would do anything for your happiness and well being. Keep this in mind. If this boy cares about you as much as you care about him then he will resist taking drugs as well as lying to you. Your relationship together should be more important than his addiction. Mention this to him.
The only way for him to become healthy again is for him to first admit that he is not. He must realize himself that he needs help. No one else can help him but him. Seek the advice of an adult and inform them that he is hurting himself. If you truly care about him you will put his health and well being before your relationship.
I am aware that you care very much for this boy but I must stress the idea that you reconsider your relationship. If he is treating himself badly then it is questionable that he will treat you better. Trust me, you deserve better.
Be wise and be safe. Drugs never solve problems but rather only create them.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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Hi i'm jack my girlfriend is a little fast u know wanting to kiss and like we've only been going out like for a couple of day's i mean i would like to get some sugar if u know what i mean but then again think about it only a couple of days. help me please.
Dear Jack,
Relationships are special, they are meant to be savored slowly. Congratulations on being the only guy I've ever come in contact with to realize this.
I understand how you want to be affectionate with your girlfriend but that you do not wish to rush things. So perhaps the best way to solve your dilemma is to confront her. I realize that as a male you do not want this girl to think any less of you by turning her away but I think it is important that you do speak your mind.
Tell her this relationship is important to you. So important, in fact, that you want to make sure that you both are able to make it last as long as possible (without rushing things).
You might also want to reconsider this relationship. If this girl is fast to physically connect with you then perhaps she is a bit more experienced then you think. How experienced is where you should be worried. It would be a shame for you to find out she has been with many other boys.
Also consider your future with this girl. Keep an eye out for suspicious behavior. It is likely that she will go wandering if she is not satisfied with what she is able to have from you. Be careful.
The perfect relationship is hard to come by but never settle for anything less.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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O.K. heres the deal. I am a female and 15 yrs old. I have a b/f in a diffrent state i talk to him on MSN and the phone but I also don't want to be hurt by someone else. I have many people from his high school that i have talked to and even met, but still I'm not sure if he might be cheating on me or not! i would like to know your thoughts on long distance dating and what you think I should do. Do I ask him outright or ask a friend of his? Do I get a girl from his school on my cell or MSN and ask her?? I'm just really not sure what to do. I met him at a camp I went to earlier in the year. I really have only been with him in person once. Please give me some advice as to what to do! Thanks a ton!
Dear Long Distance Dater,
Relationships are always hard on the heart. Long distance relationships not only tug at the heart strings but like wise on the mind.
It's funny how the eyes and heart must work together to have perfect trust in another person.
Trust is the key word here. Has your boyfriend given you reason to doubt that he is faithful to you? Do you and your boyfriend have a strong enough relationship to be able to trust each other?
It sounds like you do not. There seems to be another issue at hand here. Perhaps you should discuss with him how you are feeling. You should never devise a plan against someone you care about but instead rather be able to openly communicate about your problems. Tell him you are concerned that your relationship is too distant. Explain to him that you do not feel you both are as close as a normal couples are. Do not directly tell him you have doubts he is faithful to you but rather say you care about him and are unsure about your status in each others lives. The point here is to make sure that your concerns are for your mutual benefit.
Long distance relationships will always leave you unsatisfied one way or another. Keep this in mind.
You might even want to reconsider your relationship. Obviously long distance relationships require a great deal more effort than normal relationships. Perhaps you will find it easier and more enjoyable to have someone you care about closer to you.
Distance creates confusion and mistrust. Honest relationships can only come from direct contact. Keep your eyes open for love a little closer to home.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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I am a 14 year old male mormon and I hold my relegion very high in my life. I have found that I have fallen in love with this girl who goes to my school who has been going out with the same guy for 9 monthes. I have told her how I feel and it seems the only thing between me and her (besides her current boyfriend) is the fact that mormons aren't supposed to date until they are 16. My question is if her current relationship was to end, should I go out with her, or should we stay close friends until I am supposed to be dating?
Dear Religious Dater,
Religion is very sacred. Many people Ive talked to do not have any spiritual beliefs whatsoever. So Im glad to hear you do.
With that, Im concerned about how much or how little your religion is important to you. You state that you "hold {it} very high in {your}life" but still question whether or not you should be dating at your current age.
This is a very personal question that I am afraid only you can answer. Honestly, how important is your religion to you? How much or how little are you willing to allow your religion to take part in your life? Are there parts of your religion that you do not agree with? (The dating part for example) Are you willing to participate in your religion but still manage to maintain your own decisions about what is right or wrong. Can you compromise?
If you feel you are not betraying your religion by dating this girl at your current age then by all means go for it. But if you know you will feel guilty later on in life for not waiting, then be sure and wait. Think about the positives and negatives. Try and imagine how you would feel during and after either choices.
I am aware I am not giving you much of a straight answer because I honestly have no place in telling you how to regard your religion. But as a religious person myself, I believe it is important to understand what is necessary for you to be a good person (according to your religion) verses what is suggested.
Understand the basic idea of all religions is be a good and kind person. If you choose to date this girl and in your heart you still believe that you are a good person then have no worries.
Above all, be true to yourself and do what you feel in your heart is right.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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i'm almost 17 years old and my boyfriend just turned 15...we've only been dating a couple weeks, but everytime he asks to do something with me, his mom makes up some excuse or another not to let him go...i realize that he's younger and everything, but i don't understand why she won't ever let him be with me...i just can't take it...i really care about him, but i always want to have a boyfriend that i'll be able to do things with and go places with...i don't know what to do because i don't think i'll be happy either way :(
Dear Age Difference,
Love knows know color just as it knows no age. Love is a wonderful emotion that can overcome any obstacle.
But the only way to achieve perfect love and perfect trust is through communication.
If you and your boyfriends mother do not get along because she feels you and your boyfriend are too different in age, then you must respect her feelings. Perhaps she doesnt think you two have anything in common. Show her that you do.
Have you spent very much time with his mother? Did you give her time to get to know how wonderful you are? If not, then this should be your first step. It is very important that you and the family of your relationships get along. If you are serious about the way you feel for this boy, make sure you are able to bond with his family.
Id advise you to spend an hour or two at his house every now and then. Let his mother know that you are serious about your relationship with her son. As a mother she is already naturally over protective, you must understand this. Be willing to show her that she is not the only person who cares about this boy. You obviously care very much about him as well.
You might even try talking to her directly (if you try and convince your boyfriend to speak to her it will only prove that you are not mature enough to handle your own situations much less your own relationships). Tell her you care very much about her son and your only concern is for his happiness. Tell her you are serious about him and you dont mean for your relationship to cause her any worry.
If you are serious, mature, and capable of having a relationship then be sure and prove it. You must also keep in mind, that just because you are able to convince your boyfriends mother that you two can have an honest relationship doesnt mean that either of you are off the hook just yet. You both must continue to prove your maturity.
Love knows no boundaries but communication does. Talk out your problems.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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ok well ive been goin out wit this guy 4 about 2/3 months and we still didnt kiss he alwayz sayz he is gonna kiss me and wen he is wit me he he dont stay by me at all he alwayz makes ^ exuses about y he didnt tak 2 me n stuf i realy like this guy & he tells me he luvs me & he tells his friendz he loves me but i dont this he realy likez me ! he also dont like some of mi friendz i think & he says they r the reason y he dont tak to me and i think it is wrong i am not alowed to have a boyfrend cuz i am only 12 and he alwayz says he wanna hang out n stuff but when we do hang out his frendz alwayz come before me and he ignores me n wen i talk to him about it he says he tried n stuff and im getting tired of it ! i really like him ! so wat do i do !please help mee
is he shy , scared of me or wat?
Dear Tired of Excuses,
Okay okay, lets take a breather and take this one step at a time okay? Ready? Here we go..
First of all you said you arent allowed to have a boyfriend. I cannot tell you I am okay with this. Disobeying your familys rules is not very wise idea. But since you still choose to be in a relationship lets try and figure out what's presently wrong with it.
If you have been dating this boy for 2-3 months and he still is not comfortable with kissing you, then perhaps you should consider the idea that he may have never kissed anyone before. You two are very young, he may not have had many relationships before yours. The only advise I can give here is to confront him about it. Tell him you think you two are ready to take your relationship to the next level (the kissing level). If he still feels he is not ready then you must respect his wishes.
But trust me when it comes to kissing, he will come around eventually.
As for the dilemma between both of your group of friends, I think it is best that you have a discussion with them separately. Talk to your boyfriend first. Tell him you want both him and your friends to get along. Tell him you are also interested in befriending his friends. I think it is important for your friends and boyfriends to get along with each other. Both will help balance the other.
I supposed the key to fixing your relationship is communication. Be sure and let your feelings out. Tell your boyfriend how you are feeling. Tell your friends you want them to get along with your boyfriend. And you may even consider talking to your parents about you being able to have a boyfriend. Secrets are never good.
Talk your problems out and I promise you they will fade away.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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Hello my name is J.B. and i am 17. I have asked this girl at my school out several times and she always seems to have something to do. Im thinking of giving up on her and moving on to this other girl that i have a crush on. She (in my oppinion) is the best looking girl in the school. Im not sure if she has a boyfriend or not, but i really like her and i just dont know what to do. Just so you know i also write poetry.
Dear J.B.
Crushes are a wonderful thing. They come and go with such ease and there always seems to be another that follows.
Im sorry to hear that the girl you desire is not responding to you very well but I think you have made an honest attempt to win her affections. She may be telling the truth (that she has a busy schedule) but if she did feel for you the way you do for her she would make time. With that, I think it is time you move on.
Now the question is, if you think this new girl is the most beautiful girl in the school then why havent you chosen to pursue her first? Well whatever the case, I think it would be best to advise you to learn more about this girl before planning your next move.
Befriend her before you pursue her. She may be beautiful but she may lack other qualities you find important in a significant other. This is also the best way to learn if she does or does not have a boyfriend.
I think it is excellent that you are a poet. Im sure you are very talented but I do not think it is wise for you to try and woo this girl with your poetry just yet. It is better to save the romance for when you are in a romantic relationship, which you have not started yet.
Enjoy youre new relationship J.B. Move through it slowly for you have plently of time on your hands.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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ok...i met one of my best friends like 3 years ago and she has a brother who's years older than me.(he's 16 now)When I met him, i was young and stupid and he's hott so naturally i fell for him and fell hard. neways, not much happened durring the year i liked him(yes i think it was a whole year) but now that im completely over him he acts all jelous and protective of me. i used to be able to convince myself that that's only because im his little sister's best friend so maybe he sees me more as a little sister but now im starting to think otherwise. i go on vavation w/ them every year for 2 weeks and this past year things were akward between us.i dont even know if he ever liked me at all but i just cant help thinking about it...what do you think?
Dear After Best Friends Bro,
Oh what a sticky situation you are in my dear. It is always tough to seek affection from another older mate.
It seems to me you and this family are very close. You are right to wonder whether these protective feelings this boy has over you are romantic or friendly. In either case it's nice of him to worry so much about you.
But I have to wonder.. Does he give you any other signs to make you think he may have a thing for you? Does he openly flirt with you?
Im not sure exactly what is going through this boys mind. But of course you know there is only one way to find out. Im sure you know that already. If you really cannot stand not knowing whether or not he has feelings for you then be my guest and ask.
But I should warn you, It could be very possible he is only seeing you as a second little sister. And also keep in mind, that if something should happen between the two of you, it is not likely to sit well over with your best friend. She may not like the idea of her best friend and brother dating. It could cause quite a bit of family drama. So be careful.
My advice? Try quizing him. Mention you have a new boy in your life. Tell him he's fantastic and watch his reaction. Does he automatically think badly of the boy? Does he suggest you be with someone better, when he obviously doesnt know anything about this boy?
As Ive always said, it is better to know the truth then to be left wondering. If you cannot find out his true feelings from the quiz you give him then you might as well ask. If hes as nice a guy as he sounds Im sure you have nothing to worry about.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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Im 18, just realized im totally inlove with my bestfriend, we've been friends forever and Im afraid that he will notice my new feelings for him. Besides he's seeing someone else already, though he has told me he's not really sure aboout her being the one. I dont know what to do :(
Dear In Love,
Love is such a tricky emotion isnt it? Especially when it envolves your friends. Because this situation is so unstable Id first be wise to warn you to walk softly.
Lets consider your options:
If you tell this boy your new found feelings for him you might risk being rejected by your best. You may change your relationship (negatively) forever. You may loose a potential boyfriend and best friend all in one simple wave.
Or you could tell him and live a fantastic life together! Since you know him so well you and your best are likely to make the perfect pair! You'll already be able to understand each other and there for your relationship will ride smoother than most.
And your last option? You could say nothing. The upside to this is you risk nothing. But a quiet mouth leaves a heart burning with questions.
Ask yourself: Am I okay with never knowing how he feels about me? Do I trust our friendship is strong enough to be able to with stand this change my feelings will bring to our relationship?
Understand that you announcing your feelings for this boy will change your friendship forever. But this Advisor feels it is better to know than to be left wondering all of your life.
Make sure you have true feelings for this boy. If you decide to tell him be ready to confront the challenges that will face you. Be brave and be honest. Tell what's in your heart, it will never steer you wrong.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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i need a date but i'm to chicken to ask the girl out and i also really like her we hang out alot and i just get to nervous to ask her we've been good friends for a while and well i'm just too nervous> somebody help me!!!!!!
Dear Dateless,
Oh dating is fun! The nerves, the plan, the entire situation is full of possibility!
Im sure youve already made sure your potential date isnt already in a relationship, so Ill skip the lecture.
There really is no trick to asking someone on a date. Just be sure to be "calm, cool, and collected". Confidence will get you everywhere in life.
Ask this girl out in a very casual way, just in case you are turned down. Try this line for example "Hey _(name)____ , I was thinking of seeing that new movie _(name of movie)___ . Would you like to see it with me on _(day)___ at __(time__ ?" Be sure and be specific when asking someone out. Show your confidence by asking for a specific date and time.
Remember confidence is everything. Be confident and your more than likely to always succeed.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
alright, my boyfriend just recently broke up with me. he has changed his reasoning for doing this at least like 4 times. one is that i was sleeping all day last saturday cuz i was sick and i guess that meant i blew him off, and then he says that its too much for him in basketball, and not hes saying that hes been talking to other people. i try to confront him about it so we can be at least friends, but i guess he doesnt want to even be friends, but i dont want to let our relationship go, signed, it was too good to be true
Dear It was Too Good to be True,
Relationships are always hard. Its practically impossible to be able to understand whats going on in someone elses mind. For this reason people say the only way for a relationship to truly last is to openly communicate.
I find it odd how for some reason your ex isnt too keen on rationally talking things out with you.
In hearing that your ex has continually changed his mind as to why he left you, I am left only to believe that he is looking for some excuse to put you off.
Since you sincerely want to remain friends with this boy I will advise you to try and talk to him one last time. Tell him you care about him and you dont want to end your relationship on a bad note. Tell him you are not sure exactly what went wrong but that you are happy with the time you did spend together.
If he still suggests you two go your separate ways then do. There is no point in chasing after someone who does not wish to be with you any longer.
Perhaps it just was not meant to be. Happily move on. I have no doubts that you will find someone more fantastic.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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well i really like this guy but im not sure he likes me but he always stares at me ever since we broke up! but all his friends say he likes me but he told one of my friends he rather date a dog(but that friend likes him!!)!!! but my mom & his mom r best friends & they are always like they should go back out! im just real confussed plz HELP!!
Dear Confused,
Wouldnt it be wonderful if we could all have some kind of magic device that could automatically tell you how someone felt about you? Too bad it doesnt exist yet. I'll keep working on it. In the mean time...
If this boy is staring at you then obviously he's got the hots for you. Oh and mom's always know best. So if both of your mom's think you two should go back out and give it another shot, then why not?
Your suspicions are right not to believe his friend. If she likes him she is definately not going to want to help you hook back up with him. Never completely believe anything you hear from a second party.
My advice? Go for it! Plan a date and make it happen!
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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Hey, I like this guy, and uh. well its complicated. We're having a hard time. He is in a differnt school now and its weird because i can't know what he's doing. and now he's into drugs...and i mean that wasn' the guy i went out with three times. but everytime i see him, i see the old guy. not the new one. and i really like him i get like shakey around him and well, we haven't talked since october but he just texted me last night. i'm not sure what to do..? he is calling me soon and ah..just help please! what should i do?!?!
Dear Complicated,
Distance sure changes people doesnt it? I guess you know this better than anyone else right now.
The real issue at hand here is if you can accept this boy for who he is now. Are you okay with him being into drugs? I hope your answer is no.
I know you may still want so desperately to believe that this boy is still the loveable, goodhearted boy he once was but that obviously is no longer the case. I sincerely doubt that he will ever be that boy again. I think you may need to come to terms with this sad realization.
You seem like such a nice person. I would hate to have you date this boy only to be dissapointed in him later. Choose to find someone else who will meet your expectations. You deserve someone who will respect you and himself. Drugs are never an option. This boy is just not strong enough to turn them away. You need someone smart enough to know how to treat their body. If he hasnt enough sense to know how to treat himself right how sure can you be that he will treat you right?
Turn him down gently. Tell him you two just arent compatible. Find someone better.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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well i have this friends see, and she keeps blowing me off to be with another friend that she sees @ least like 8 times more than she sees me. like today we were supposed to go skiing but she told me that she couldnt go n decided to go to another friends house-what am i to do? im afraid if i tell her then it'll be like she won, but if i dont tellher then i'll end up telling other people about it which will get us all ended up into a fight.
signed, blown off for eternity
Dear Blown Off for Eternity,
What is it with friends these days? No one seems to have time for more than one friend at a time anymore. It's mind boggling really. I dont see why three friends cannot hang out together.
I honestly dont know why your bud has decided to blow you off but I can only assume something really important must have come up for her to treat you the way she is. Does she act this way often?
The only real way for you to understand what is going through your buds brain is to ask her. Tell her youre feeling a little left out and you want to get your friendship back on track. The only possibility that's likely to happen is that she'll tell you whats up.
If for some odd reason your friend doesnt seem to care about your feelings and continues to repeatedly blow you off then be sure you let your friendship die. Hang out with your other friends and choose to leave her behind. Im sorry to say but sometimes people only learn how others feel by going through the same situation.
Keep your head up and dont let this girl get the best of you. Have fun with or without her.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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