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My boyfriend and I went out for almost two and a half months and we recently broke up. His friends initially dumped me for him,but afterwards he said that he didn't want them to.I then asked him if we were over and he said idk.Over and over he said idk and finally I confronted him and he finally said ok I don't wanna go out anymore.Everything was fine(other than the fact I was hurt) until he told me he still liked me.For two weeks we hung out and things seemed like they were going good so I asked him to our semiformal.He said maybe and I asked him if it had to do w/a girl he supposedly liked and he said maybe.Finally we got into a fight and he said that the reason he dumped me was cuz he didn't like me that way and then he changed his reasons over and over again.The next day I saw him at the bball game w/that girl and yet the school day after that he hit me and smiled and acted like everything was normal.His mom emailed me once to say she thought he really liked me and he also bought me a $60 gorgeous necklace for christmas so he seemed to like me a lot and he won't tell me what went wrong.I want to wish there is still hope, but I don't think so.What can I do to fix it if there is hope?And if not how should I move on?
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Dear Hopeful,
If Ive learned anything from my years of experience with boys Ive learned that if you arent given a definite yes then you are left with a definite no. Keep this in mind.
Im not sure why this boy insists on stringing you along just to leave you hanging while he scopes out other adventures. But I do know it isnt right. No one should ever have that sort of power over you. No one should ever think that they can leave you whenever they like only to come back to you whenever they please. This is not a game, these are your emotions. He should not be toying with them.
If this boy truly liked you and wished to be with you then he would be. No matter what diamonds he gives you, no matter who says he cares about you, the only way for him to prove his feelings for you is to actually be with you. You and only you. Like wise, if he did not wish to be with you, a real man would say so himself (and not send his minions to do so for him).
My suggestion? Leave him. It is probable that a heart will break from time to time but it is unnatural for it to be broken repeatedly by the same person. Seek a better companion. Realize that you are a wonderful, caring person who should be with someone just as wonderful.
Understand that not all relationships will last. Learn when to fight and when to bow out gracefully. The world is full of billions of people. Be selective. Never settle for less than perfect.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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