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my boyfriend is on drugs
Hi. You came to my space and said I could use this website, you were right. My boyfriend Mike is doing drugs and I dont know how to stop it. Last time he got high he cheated on me. (at least thats what he says) and also he lies to me all the time. I can smell the drugs on him and i ask him if he's had any and hes all, "no" and he did and then I finally get it out of him. How do I get him off drugs, and how do I get him to stop lying?
signed: Confused.
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Dear Confused,
"Change has a considerable psychological impact on the human mind. To the fearful it is threatening because it means that things may get worse. To the hopeful it is encouraging because things may get better. To the confident it is inspiring because the challenge exists to make things better." By King Whitney Jr.
To help fix your problem we must first understand it. For what reason does your boyfriend do drugs? When someone feels the need to rely on something they know is unhealthy for them there is always some underlying reasoning for it.
Perhaps your boyfriend is/and has been having problems with his family and taking a drug is the only way for him to cope. Perhaps he is insecure with himself and only finds acceptance when he is intoxicated. If you are comfortable enough, communicate with him and ask him why.
Someone once said that if a person truly loved you they would do anything for your happiness and well being. Keep this in mind. If this boy cares about you as much as you care about him then he will resist taking drugs as well as lying to you. Your relationship together should be more important than his addiction. Mention this to him.
The only way for him to become healthy again is for him to first admit that he is not. He must realize himself that he needs help. No one else can help him but him. Seek the advice of an adult and inform them that he is hurting himself. If you truly care about him you will put his health and well being before your relationship.
I am aware that you care very much for this boy but I must stress the idea that you reconsider your relationship. If he is treating himself badly then it is questionable that he will treat you better. Trust me, you deserve better.
Be wise and be safe. Drugs never solve problems but rather only create them.
Best of Luck,
She Screams.
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