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I'm a 19/f and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend 22/f of 1 year. He himself is not a virgin and has had I think it was 3 partners in the past. There have been recent reported cases of HVI infections in our area. Well, I was always taught to treat everyone as if they had the virus because you never know who might actually have it. They probably don't even know. So, as a precaution I want to ask him to get tested. It's not that I don't trust him because I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't lose my virginity to him. I'm just afraid that he'll take it as if I don't trust him. I know it's a smart decision but I just don't know how to approach the subject. And, if he agrees to it then I will go with him and get tested also. Any opinions/advice is appreciated.
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dont have sex b/c you are throwing one of the most sacred thing away all for some boy. sex can be good for but can also be very bad too. most teens dont realize the dangers of having sex so young a good friend of mine is due in four months b/c of sex. please dont make the same mistake she did all for a boy!!!!!!!!!!!
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all you have to do is just like tell him that you do love him and trust him and you just want to be safe cause of all the stuff thats around you and your only 19 and it would really suck to lose your virginity and have an std that can kill you. so just tell him you will be there with him the whole time and you just want to be safe hope i helped
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ask him if he has HIV. like right before you do it. hope i helped
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It's really not a matter of whether or not you trust him. It is out there everywhere and you are being very smart about it. Symptoms of HIV can hide for 10 years. Use a condom regardless.
It wouldn't hurt him to know either. If all his other partners had 3 of their own besides him...your talking about having sex with at least 9 other peoples sexual history's, right. A lot of people. If he doesn't want to do it for you then don't have sex with him. Simple as that. That is one thing you need to be selfish about. :)
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tell him what you just told us!!! he should understand! you sound like you've got it all figured out!!
and i totally agree with you about getting tested! even if the other person hasnt had another partner! :)
-KeLsA-
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I would ask him. If he doesnt have the virus then he will more than willingly go and be tested. However if he resists, he may have the virus and be trying to take advantage of his time left. He could have it and not even know. Be very careful...AIDS is a growing problem...safe sex is the key after abstinence. Hope I helped! RATE ME!! maddie
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I think your being very smart and responsible to get him tested and get tested yourself. It would be a shame if you ended up getting the virus- don't chance it, it's really not worth it. Hopefully he'll understand where you're coming from
good luck-
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I think this is very good. Yourr smart kid. Yea. That's good that you want to get him tested and that you are willing to get testeed also.You are just trying to stay safe.Thats all and theres nothing wrong with that. I'm sure that if her really loves you and he's sure theres nothings wrong that he'll get testes for you. Good job love ya smooches!
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Let me just start out by saying I am so glad that you are informed and are firm in not losing your virginity until he has been tested. As a guy I totally respect a girl who is that intelligent and firm in her beliefs. This whole thing isn't an issue of trust, its you being concerned for your health and his health. Tell him that. Plus many people go for YEARS being healthy and perfectly fine with HIV and they don't even know it. Sit down and tell him it straight, you love him and care about him and for both of your health you want to be tested for HIV. I know you’re a virgin but as a gesture of good faith offer to be tested as well. Being tested can put his mind at ease and you’re not asking him anything your not willing to do yourself. Its just so your negative results can be down on paper that you don't have it, its undeniable proof. When he gets his results back, ask to see the results on paper and show him yours. With the results (that you have seen with your own eyes) you two can be happy together knowing that your in love and healthy. And that... is a beautiful thing. :)
By the way, I am sure you already know this. But don’t forget the condom. Its not only to prevent pregnancy and HIV (its not 100% protection, as I am sure you know) but a condom also helps protect you from getting other STDs (many of which he may not know he has). It’s also just a healthy thing to do. Not to make light of the situation but, this is something funny a friend of mine told me his girlfriend said to him before they had sex. Just tell your boyfriend (once you get the negative HIV results back) “Nothing without a raincoat gets in, just incase things get wet.”
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Well girl what you should do is tell him that youll go with him to get tested because you dont want to get infected because your young and you have a whole life ahead and that youll feel safe if he gets tested and is not infected. Tell him that is the best for both of you's. And if he really loves you he will go get tested and if he doesnt go then dont even bother losing your virginity with him! Hope i helped and good luck!
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Yes, tell him to get tested!!! If he loves you like he should, he'll respect that decision, and he'll get tested. He should want to protect you as much as you want to protect yourself. Just tell him that you love him and trust him, and that is why you're willing to lose your virginity to him, but you don't want to do anything to risk ruining your future, so you would feel much safer and better about the whole situation if he got tested first.
You're doing the smart, right thing to do, and he should understand that.
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Tell him this,
"________ (<-his name) I Love you with all my heart and i trust you. But for safety precautions I would like us both before sexuall intercourse get tested for HIV I want us both to be safe I want you to be safe just in case and me to be safe just incase and if either of us do then we'll just use protection (you should anyway the pullout method does not work)"
Good Luck!!
Kristen*
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i agree with what your choice is about the whole thing and being by him if he decides to do it is good too.. if he dont do it then i think you might something to worry about.. just tell him how you feel about the whole thing.. ♥
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