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Q: You see my best friend is a guy. i am a 15 year old girl stuck in a high school world. Between girls being all over my friend jack and guys hanging out we never really have time to ourselves inless it's in a class. You see on friday one thing led to another and we ended up kissing. It was just on the lips but it was still a kiss. Ever sence that kiss ive been getting feelings for him. Very strong and true. and it's not like i haven't liked him before. at the beging of the year i admit i was "in love". but the real thing is i only have 12 days left with my friend until i leave to go to a new school. so should i put the moves on him, confess my feelings, or just forget about it?

Girl i think that you should confess your feelings to him. You might never know, he might also be feeling the same thing you do and if you dont tell him in time before the school ends you might regret it and never know what he actually feels. So go up to him and tell him that you will like to have a serious conversation and if he can give you a couple of minutes or so and confess to him! Good Luck and hope i helped!

Q: i went out with this guy before, but then we broke up after one day because we didn't really feel comfortable around each other. but now i like him, and everyone's telling me he likes me too and that he might ask me out, but that's been going around for days and he's barely said a word to me. we don't really talk that much because we barely have any classes together and we just never get the chance. he likes someone else, but he sais that he likes me better than the other . how should i let him know i like him? i can't tell him online because he doesn't have a screen name, but i just can't tell him in person. Please help!

Well girl what you need to do is talk to him and dont be shy. If you dont tell him how you feel then he's never going to know and if you want to get with him then talk to him. Dont be shy nor nervous you know and before you get with him or anything make sure what he really feels towards you because he might be trying to get revenge if you were the one that broke up with him. I wish you the best and hope that everything works out and hope i helped!!

Q: I'm a 19/f and about to lose my virginity to my boyfriend 22/f of 1 year. He himself is not a virgin and has had I think it was 3 partners in the past. There have been recent reported cases of HVI infections in our area. Well, I was always taught to treat everyone as if they had the virus because you never know who might actually have it. They probably don't even know. So, as a precaution I want to ask him to get tested. It's not that I don't trust him because I do. If I didn't, I wouldn't lose my virginity to him. I'm just afraid that he'll take it as if I don't trust him. I know it's a smart decision but I just don't know how to approach the subject. And, if he agrees to it then I will go with him and get tested also. Any opinions/advice is appreciated.

Well girl what you should do is tell him that youll go with him to get tested because you dont want to get infected because your young and you have a whole life ahead and that youll feel safe if he gets tested and is not infected. Tell him that is the best for both of you's. And if he really loves you he will go get tested and if he doesnt go then dont even bother losing your virginity with him! Hope i helped and good luck!

Q: I'm a 14 year old guy and im in love with my best friend. We've been friends for about 3 years now and ive liked her for around 2 and a half years now, I've gone out with her before, multiple times actually, and i can say without a doubt that im happiest with my life and myself when I was with her. But she left me because I am too romantic and I am not I suppose silly enough for her, she got her friend to break up with me when she was in a different state on a field trip, I've had my heart broken by her many times but I've never given up on my feelings for her. I do not know how I can deal with the pain i go through every day, sometimes i just want to die, I just can't get over her I've tried but I've never succeded and I now know i never will. She's just oblivious to my feelings and I just don't know what to do anymore. Could you help me?

Hey what yo need to do uis move on and forget about her is not worth your time to be waiting for her! Your young right now and you have a whole life ahead of you! You'll find someone soon its going to take time dont rush anything if u want to find someone that would be honest with you and really have feelings for you and like the way you are. The love of your life will come but it all takes time! Hope i helped and good luck!

Q: well there's these two guys at my church.1)Philip. 2)Sam. Well, first i liked sam, then philip, then sam, then philip then sam. I just kept going back and forth. Philip, he's extremely nice, but when he gets mad...it's just really scary. Sam, he's nice too, it's just that, he can be a jerk sometimes. Well...Philip likes my sister, and they went out. but my sister dumped him, and he's really sad. Sam, likes my cousin, but she doesn't like him at all. i just dont know who to like. They're always asking me for advice about my sister and my cousin cause im related to both of them. I help them the best i can...but they just don't seem to notice that i like them. help?

Well first of all you have to make up your mind in who you like. You cant be playin mind games! After you decide who you really like and would like to be with then let them know you like them. What you can do is like flirt with him or just tell him straight up what you feel and tell him that you would like to know what he feel for you honestly. Hope i helped and if your couzin nor your sister know you like them then i also think you should let them know! I hope i helped and hope everything goes well!! GOOD LUCK!!

Q: me and my parents have never got on i was kinda sexual abused by my dad (not going into detail) and my mum never did anything about it i didnt know what was going on as i was young at the time, now its 5 years later i know there was something wrong about it, i have cut my wrist many times and mum and dad know i have tryed to kill myself just endded up on a drip for days my friends and boy friends will do anything for me but i dont feel like its enough at the moment im always gettin into arguments with my dad whenever i say u hav hurt me he like denies it and says he has never touched me (which is complete bulls**t) and he knows it, i want to do anything i can to hurt him to get him abck for the times he has hurt me and all he seems to do is punish me hes really stubborn and wont listen to anything i say at all he just wants to take things away from me and i dont know what to do anymore, going into hospital and cutting my wrist didnt seem to make him think that he was the one hurting me, my mum wont listen to me and whenever i say something to her she goes off crying and my sister does the say i feel like im all allone all the time and dont knwo what to do aymore :'( when id did get a social worker they didnt believe me because my mum dad and sister lied and now i have a counseller all she does is go on my parents side and it p**ses me off!
what can i do????
btw im 14!

I'm really sorry sweety for what happened. It must be really hard to be in that kind of situation. What you should do is go talk to a police because what your dad do to you is really bad and is not right for you to be living under the same house that a guy has abused you please go as soon as you can!! I know that you might b scared to go cause you might think that your dad my try to harm you but dont worry if you go talk to a police officer everything will be fine from there on and please stop cutting yourself and dont try to commit suicide!! WISH YOU THE BEST AND HOPE THAT YOU WONT SUFFER ANYMORE!! hOPE i helped!

Q: 13/f
I just got my school year book and I want a certain guy to sign it only I'm too shy to ask. If someone told me if I should or should not and give me confidence then I would ask him directly. So, should I or should I not ask him to sign my year book directly and why? Also, if you said no is there any other way I can get him to sign my year book?

well girl is not that hard to go up to him and tell him to sign your yearbook. is da end of the school year so he is not going to aSK you why you want him to sign it and if he does well just tell him that you wanna try to get everyone to sign it. So go up to him and tell him to sign it you'll be fine but one thing dont get nervous or shy cause then he's going to know that you like him or something and if you dont want him to think that then dont get shy or anything but if you do want him to kno then flirt with him! Good Luck hope i helped!!

Q: ok ya'll this is a long one but please help me out and i'll rate ya high! ok im 16/f and ive been single for a pretty long time compared to usual. but lately ive been really crushin on this guy in one of my classes. hes adorable! he has big brown eyes and such a cuuuute smile! and his body is freakin sexy! but anyways i think he might like me too. like i sometimes see him looking at me when i turn my head to look at him (haha)! and whenever i walk in to my class he smiles such a cute smile at me and says heyy really sweetly. but see the thing is he has a lot of other girl friends, we'll like friends that are girls and they are all really pretty and really stuck up and sort of sluts (no offense). and he like smokes a lot and stuff. and i dont know if he likes me (if he does actually like me) because he really does, or if he just wants to have sex with me and stuff. but see i dont talk to him too much either. like were on opposite sides of the classroom. and i mean we've talked a couple of times and ya we were flirting, but i dont know if its normal for him. so my question is do any of you think that i should try and go for him (like give him my number, talk to him more, and ya know other things) or just move on and forget about it. ive had a couple of boyfriends like him before but i cant say i was too happy with him. i really just dont know if he is worth it ya know? what do yall think? thanks yall!

well girl what you should do is go for it give him your number and you know talk to him more and get to know him better dont do anything with him if you dont want to even if he tells you that he'll go out with you cause guys are really tricky so go for it and be careful. And hopefully everything goes out ok and good luck!!

P.S.
Theres nothing wrong with being single is actually better because you have the oppportunity to flirt with any guy you want or anything you know because if you got a man then you wont be able to do anything with any other guys that is not your boyfriend!

Q: i recently went on vacation to visit my brother. my brother is a marine. so i met other marines and i met one of his friends and we hit it off. the problem is that i have a boyfriend of 9 years. we have three kids together. but i have no sexual intrest in him at all. i felt this way before i went on vacation. we are supposed to be getting married in july. what should i do??

hey well my advice for you is to tell the guy that your about to marry that u have no sexual interest in him no more and tell him what happened with the guy because if you end up not getting married wit him and then you dont tell him what happened he's goin to think that you left him cause of the other guy and.. is really going to be hard for your 3 kids but if their old enough tell them what happened and if they are not then just tel them that things are not workin out with their daddy. I wish you the best and good luck!!

Q: hey im 16 next year but i dont know what to do. because i live in the uk sweet 16 parties dont happen over here, but i want to celabrate my birthday.i have no idea what to do!can anyone help me! id liek if you have had a 16th party tell me how it went adn what you did.i dotn know what present to get! i cant drive till im 17.
please help!

well gurl if no one has thrown a party like that then dont worry about it! You can throw a party and what you should do is go buy your dress, invite all the people u want, make sure where the party is going to be at, food catering and evrything would go fine if you organize i know because i'm throwin my sweet 15 in november and i cant wait!! Just dont worry have fun and since no one throws parties like that then make sure its the best party ever!! Good Luck and i hope i helped!!

Q: a guy at my school i knw him pretty well...not like BFF but like okay friend way you knw what i mean...well anywho he really likes me and i dont have the heart to say no...he wants to sit by me at lunch! i dont knw what to do im makin my friends surround me....i dont knw if i like him im not sure...how can i keep him away untill i deside

well what you should do is tell him that you dont want him sitting by you for the moment because you have other things and you are not going to be talking to him and you dont want him to think that your ignoring him and hopefully he'll understand and think about it really well before making a decision that at the end you might regret! Good Luck!!

Q: I'm a 15 year old girl, he's 17. We both like eachother. But he's not sure if he wants to go out with me. He's worried about our age difference since he's turning 18 in like 5 months. Even then we'll have 2 years between us still. He's told my friend that he does want to go out with me, but he's concerned about the age thing. Should I just give up on him, or still try to hook up with him? Help? :)

Hey, well wat you need to do is go out and talk to him where no one might interrupt you guyz and tell him if he really likes you he wouldnt care about the age difference. Here's one thing if he doesnt seem like the type of player or anything like that then try your best to get with him but if he is and you alwayz see him with other girlz flirting then dont even bother cause at the end you might end up getting hurt and trust me that really hurts!! But good luck and hopefully thingz work out!!

Q: Hi, I'm in 8th grade and about to graduate, I really like this boy and I wanted him to ask me to our last dance. Every time I'm around him I can never get the nerve to talk to him. What should I do?

Hey, well what you should do is go up to him and say hi and dont get nervous especially if u do you are just going to make him think that your like drooling over him and thats what you dont want to show because if u show him that,he might jus want to play with your feelings and trust me there's guys like dat. But newayz bakk to your subject just try going up to him and make conversation and then bring the dance up and see what happens.. you never know he might ask you out for the dance!! Good Luck!!