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me and my parents have never got on i was kinda sexual abused by my dad (not going into detail) and my mum never did anything about it i didnt know what was going on as i was young at the time, now its 5 years later i know there was something wrong about it, i have cut my wrist many times and mum and dad know i have tryed to kill myself just endded up on a drip for days my friends and boy friends will do anything for me but i dont feel like its enough at the moment im always gettin into arguments with my dad whenever i say u hav hurt me he like denies it and says he has never touched me (which is complete bulls**t) and he knows it, i want to do anything i can to hurt him to get him abck for the times he has hurt me and all he seems to do is punish me hes really stubborn and wont listen to anything i say at all he just wants to take things away from me and i dont know what to do anymore, going into hospital and cutting my wrist didnt seem to make him think that he was the one hurting me, my mum wont listen to me and whenever i say something to her she goes off crying and my sister does the say i feel like im all allone all the time and dont knwo what to do aymore :'( when id did get a social worker they didnt believe me because my mum dad and sister lied and now i have a counseller all she does is go on my parents side and it p**ses me off!
what can i do????
btw im 14!
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dont being trieing to hurt yourself when your dad is abusing you what you can do is hide a hidden camera with a tape inside of it showing what your dad does send it to one of your freinds moms and get them to send it to the law you cant stay with that kind of family any longer if you do your parents can get to the point of throwing stuff and hurting you worst dont try to kill yourself you still have a long life and if you try to follow advice you might end up in a better life with out getting hurt
hope i helped ,Brittany
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I think you need to continue to talk with your counselor. She is there to be of help to you. Be honest with her and tell her everything that is bothering you. Don't just assume she is on your "parents side" because she questions you about it. She needs all the details she can get.
Don't treat her like the enemy. :)
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Hmm well im going to try to answer this as best as i can.. First of all I know its really hard what your going thought and they should totally belive u about that type of stuff. I know its really hard but killing yourself and cuttting is just another way of failing your have a whole life ahead of you cant waste it now. And in all it seems like no ones on your side be think how many people would miss you if you died.MY POINT IS DONT KILL YOURSELF!! and on the other hand if your dad touches you 1 more time just call the police or a help line if you want to talk more about it you can aim at pinknprettychick or email me at legallybrunette@bellsouth.net
Sarah
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You have been violated by the two people in your life that you are supposed to be able to trust. That hurts! A lot! And it is made worse because no one will acknowlege that the act happened, or that you are owed an apology. Everyone is in denial. Your mom's refusal to acknowledge that you were violated by your dad, and her refusal to do anything about it, most likely hurts worse. And you also have to face him each day. Oh my God, it is not wonder that you have problems. The therapist also sounds like a jerk, and you know why she takes your parents side, because they pay the bill. It is not OK,none of it is OK, but you are a minor child, so what are you do to? Nothing is happening now though right? So here is what you CAN do. Start thinking about yourself. Start loving your self and being kind to yourself. Be the parent you always wanted to be to yourself. Get an education, stay in school, be succesful....hell, become famous, and guess who will want to see their little girl and be in her good graces and share in her success.........well your parents of course, and that is when you can tell them to go f*** off!
You will never get the satisfaction that you need from these two. You will never get the acknowledgement from your father that he is a pedophile. You will never get the apology that you so rightly deserve. But you can get revenge. Stop hurting yourself, that is no bother to them, they just point to your behavior (cutting/depression) and say your crazy. And outsiders see what you are doing to yourself and agree. BE PATIENT. Get better, get stronger, get smarter, get away, get rich, get famous, then get revenge. No you don't have to shoot them, or cut them or even have them arrested. Just be polite, and when they seem to want to be your parents the most....to be proud of the beautiful young lady that they helped to raise.....that is when you reject them....and yes it will all be worth it. It will hurt them worse than anything else you could do. You know why, because all three of you will KNOW the REAL REASON for your rejection. The police don't care, the lawyers don't care, the courts don't care. In situations like that, you never know what side they will be on. IT could all backfire on you. Like it has with the therapist. But your own rejection of them, when it will count the most, is when they want to be your proud parents, and you dump them.
You sound like a very smart girl. You know the truth, you know the deal. They are the loosers, not you. YOU DID NOTHING WRONG. You are the only one who is OK. they are rotten, but right now they are the adults and in control. So it seems to you that all is lost, there is no help. but some day YOU WILL BE AN ADULT. In fact there is no stopping it. Now you can grow into adult hood with emotional problems, drug and alcohol problems, and mixed up in lousy relationships, drop out of school, and all that. That is what a lot of girls in your situation have done because of their stupid parents and not being raised in a loving and supportive home. OR you can go into adulthood with a good education, and plans for your future, and when you are standing on your own two feet, you won't need anyone. and you wil be proud of yourself, as well as the friends you make along the way.
Also be careful about your relationship. Because you were violated, you may make the wrong choices in men, choose guys that are not good enough for you just so you won't be alone. Thinking there is something wrong with you and you deserve to be treated badly. WRONG.You deserve to be treated well, cherished like a princess. You will find someone some day who will treat you that way, but you must be patient, and you must avoid trouble. Just keep telling yourself that you are taking steps to ensure that you have a wonderful future. Don't loose site of it. and follow your goals. You will be glad that you did. Good luck to you I know that you can do it. I went through the same thing. I have so much power now, on one can hurt me. And I have people who love and cherish me. And I have two sons who were raised in a loving home. They are happy and well adjusted. They are teenagers. And they don't hate me. Isn't that wonderful. I must have done something right. But if I followed my parents example. They would not be OK. This is doable. Please try. WRite to me again if you like. I will continue to give you encouragement.
PS Tell your therapist that I think she's a lousy therapist.
Good luck to you dear.
Michele
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I'm really sorry sweety for what happened. It must be really hard to be in that kind of situation. What you should do is go talk to a police because what your dad do to you is really bad and is not right for you to be living under the same house that a guy has abused you please go as soon as you can!! I know that you might b scared to go cause you might think that your dad my try to harm you but dont worry if you go talk to a police officer everything will be fine from there on and please stop cutting yourself and dont try to commit suicide!! WISH YOU THE BEST AND HOPE THAT YOU WONT SUFFER ANYMORE!! hOPE i helped!
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