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everything seems wrong...
I have so much going on in my life right now and i feel like i dont have anyone to talk to and i found out all the people i thought were my friends are just using me or are just jerk and my family is always fighting and my parents are divorced and i had to live up to all these high standardands and i cant get over this guy ahhhh i dont want to go back to my bad habits...drinking...drugs...cutting...any of that can you please help me
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Wow that sound terrible!! Don't ever go back to your old habits!! My advice to you is to either confide in a friend of a journal!!! Maybe listen to music.
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First of all don't do anything stupid. There's no need to risk your life over assholes who were supposed to be your friends or over anyone.
You need to get away from your so called friends and get out there and find some real friends. Join an after-school activity, really easy way to make friends or just go on a friend hunt one day hehe =P.
As for your family you could try talking to them, taking them all out to try and sort things out or just let them get on with it.
About the guy if you's broke up you just need to forget about him there's plenty of fish in the sea.
I hope everything goes well, hun.
If you ever want to talk you can IM me on siimply x emily
♥Em
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Life is overwhelming, alot. But just calm down, relax, and sit down and just think. ♥
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Take a nice bubbly warm bath with candles all around and soft music, it will calm your nerves. Tell your friends that they're assholes and that you have a life. Go out and find REAL friends. Do something with your family like go to the movies, so that they can't fight. With the guy, if you's broke up, move on, theres pleanty of fish in the sea.
TarA
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OH MY GOD. First of all, let me start out with this: YOU ARE NOT ALONE! What you just described is like my life EXACTLY. The only difference is that I don't cut. Here's what I try to think: Don't think too much about having to have a million friends all the time. Just be yourself, focus on the important things (school/sports/whatever you're involved in), and the right friends will find you. It may only be one good friend, but one really good quality friend that really understands you is better than a bunch of "so-called" friends. And really, friend drama is NOT going to matter after high school, so don't worry about it.
As for the family thing, TALK TO THEMMM...It really helps so much. Just be supportive of your family because they're the ones who will ALWAYS be there for you when no one else is. And hopefully, you being good to them will spread the good "karma" and you can all be one big happy again.
If your family is pushing you to live up to high standards, it's only because they want the best future for you. So listen to them, and try your best. Make school your main focus, as lame as that sounds. But it really is what will make you have a good future.
Getting over guys SUCKS, but it can be done. Just concentrate on all this other stuff going on in your life, and try not to let your mind float back to him. If it didn't work out, it probably wasn't meant to be, and you're young, you'll find someone better. There are so many other, BETTER fish in the sea.
And I know drugs/drinking is great for just making you forget your problems, but really, it gets you nowhere, so don't let it take over your life. And I can't give great advice on cutting because like I said, I don't do it. But I've heard that the best thing to do if you haven't already is to get professional help because I think it really is like a mental addiction.
Okay, I tried to give the best advice possible!!! I know life can be a bitch sometimes. IT WILL GET BETTER THOUGH!!!
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hey ok i knoe how your feeling i mean it's bad with one thing then shit keeps piling up and your so fucking confused!i may be being hypocritical and all but you shouldnt do drugs for any reason (i do drugs) you shouldnt drink (i drink) and you shouldnt cut yourself (i recently stopped) just talk to sum1 you trust or write poems to relieve your stress becuz if you keep that anger and you do sumthing stupid becuz of it your eventually gunna end up lyke me... being kicked out of skewl and having to go to rader skewl or a learning academy.
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ok lets try and break this down.
ALL your friends? using you for what? surley there is at least one real friend in the bunch isn't there? If not go find one and ditch the others.
There isn't much you can do about family fighting except to stay out of the fights as much as possible.
Do the best your can and set your own standards.
Getting over any guy takes time. soon you'll find another, just hang in there.
Thank goodness you realise that your former bad habits are not the way to go.If you beat all those things and survived, then you'll get over this rotten day in good shape too.Go somewhere and scream a lot, jump up and down, have a real hissy fit and get on with it!:}
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I thought I had the same problem before too. What I did was think of myself, how I could make myself better to reach my own standards, so I could eventually help other people somehow to put meaning back in life. Maybe you could do the same... Good luck. =D
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Think about your self! for a moment and think what your life has been like, and that its going to get better you just have to be willing to put in the effort and make it your choice of a life. No bodys lifes perfect most peoples parents are divorced i think you should get out more find some new friend from your school mabe from a different class and join them go out with them and get to no them! when thats all done you may desided to find a boy friend just go with it and go boy hunting with your new friends.
Why dont you get some of your family members that have been fighting and try and work it out at yours get it all out in the open and see why everyone has been arguing. Tell your parents that your life is very unhappy at the moment and that you need them to be there for you even if they are divorced.
luv roxie
cheer up hunni
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Well, to start off, you can IM me if you ever want to talk to me. I would suggest talking to one of your parents, whatever one you trust more. Tell them how you've felt lately, and maybe suggest to go to a counselor. If you don't want to tell your parents, you could go to your school guidance counselor. You should talk to somebody though, keeping things bottled up can lead to more problems. Maybe you could even write in a journal or something. If you go to a therapist they might be able to give you some anti-depressent pills, which might help you out. Just out of curiousity, how old are you? Are you a teenager? A lot of teenagers feel the same way as you do. Good job for not going back to drinking, drugs, or cutting. It can be very tempting sometimes, and takes a lot to not do it. I would suggest seeing a therapist overall.
Hope I helped! Remember, you can always IM me.
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I don't know if you are religous or not, but I sure as heck am. When I'm in a bind like that, I always pray. God can take care of everything and anything if you turn all your troubles to him
-Peter 5:7
Cast all your anxiety on Him because He cares for you.
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Just stay strong, life gets better :-).When I say stay strong, I mean don't go back to the bad habits, they wont get you anywhere. (Trust me, first hand experience here). You just need to find better friends thats all. ahh High standards arent fun to live up to, whoever is putting this pressure on you just tell them to back off and that you need some space for a little bit. Call a hotline if you dont want to bring it up, they are completely confidential. Your parents wont find out if you called one and they can actually really help you. Its like writing in a diary except you get a response back. Its also good knowing that the people on the other line are volunteers, they dont get paid, they are there because they care. If you dont know of one 1-800-SUICIDE is a 24 hours one..
Leave a message in my inbox if you want to talk to me over AIM or something.. I'm here for you
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-Christine
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It's a really good thing that you can see the bad in all your old habits, and that you don't want to go back to them. I give you props for that. I think you should just take one thing at a time, starting with your friend and family relationships, also your relationship with God, if you have one. These relationships are the balance of life, and the root of all problems is usually here. I'd begin with your family. Try to keep your calm around your parents, and don't let little things get to you. For your friends, those who talk about you aren't worth your friendship. Try hanging out with a new group of people. If you have friends from church, pick one and confide in them, because getting it all out helps a lot. I hope I helped ! <3
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