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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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My BF and I have been together like 3 months (we're 25). I have to work 9-5pm but he can pretty much choose his hours and tended to work til about 10pm most nights. So after about a month of gettin together he changed his hours to start earlier so that he could finish work at a similar time to me.

Now it seems he has slipped back into gettin up really late and starting really late and has come to expect that i will go home and have a sleep after work, so that I can stay up til when HE gets tired about 2am... but i cant keep staying up til 2am when I have to be up at 7am... even if i do have a sleep before.

Should I either bring this up with him or just go to bed at 11.30pm (when i feel tired) and see how he likes it?

Or am I just jealous that he gets to sleep in when i have to wake up at 7...

I don't think it's jealousy. It's not fair he gets to sleep in or choose his hours, but that's basically life, and you've gotta deal.

Just sleep whenever you want, get up when you want & if he gets mad, then he's dumb.

hey i was just wondering if anyone knew how to make some really good powerpoint slides

Add photos, make little sounds, use nice colors, give good information, make it interesting.

it's really obvious that my guyfriend has a crush on me, but i dont like him - i like his friend.

he said that he will tell me who he likes "later" when we talk on an instant messenger.

well i dont know whether to go on or not later because i dont want him to say he likes me because i dont like him.

please, any suggestions? & i know he likes me and not anyone else.

If your friend is going to tell you who he likes later on, then sign on whether you want to or not. He's there to listen to you, right? Be there to listen to him; whether it's what you want to hear or not. He's going to tell you eventually, so why not let him do it now & get it over with?

If you don't like him, don't be scared to tell him. His feelings will come into mind, yes, but don't let that revolve around everything. If you don't feel the same way about your friend as he does you, then you need to tell him & be completely honest. Don't be rude, just say that you appreciate the fact he likes you, and it's really sweet, but you don't see him in that way & you don't wanna ruin the friendship or lead him on. Not only are you being honest, but you're not crushing him either. His feelings might be hurt, but at least you'll know he'll get over it eventually.

Ok I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. So my ex-boyfriend of three months supposedly cheated on me with this girl at work that is notorious for spreading rumors that aren't true. They supposedly made out in her car and two of our managers saw them together in her car, but just "hugging." I confronted him about it and of course he denied it, but I broke up with him anyway. So then a couple days later I found out that while we were going out he wrote another girl at work a note that said "I like you and have since the moment I first met you, but I don't want to act on it while I'm with my girlfriend. Can we please keep this between us?" When I confronted him about this he said that he was convinced to do it by someone else and since he's moving in a month he would regret never telling her how he felt. So that's basically about it. He can be very flirtatious with other girls though as well and very touchy-feely. I don't know what to do because recently he has come back to me begging for forgivness and to take him back. I really really like him and he makes me soooo happy, but then there is all that stuff he did and the fact that he is moving about a thousand miles away in a month. All my friends tell me not to get back together with him and that he's a "not nice person" and deserves to die, but I can't help but feel that he's telling the truth and I should take him back. I'm just really confused and would appreciate any advice what so ever. Please and thank you!

Rumors are rumors. Chances are they aren't true. If found to be true, then that's all the proof you need not to trust someone, not to talk to them, & not to even look at them anymore.

You said he can be known to be flirty. Why be with a guy like that? All he's going to do is flirt with other girls behind your back and once you find out it's gonna break your heart. You'll confront him, he'll deny it. Then he'll do it again. Repeatedly hurting you in the process. He obviously cannot be trusted.

I honestly wouldn't take him back if I were you. He supposively does these things, and then denies it only to do it again. Then when you break up with him he comes crawling back. How long is he gonna do this for? Probably forever. Don't be stupid & take him back. You left him for a reason. So stay that way. You deserve better.

Okay i have two questions. First, how can i get rid of my thunder thighs? Second, how can i prevent razor bumps "down there"?

For your thighs:
Walk. Work yourself up to a jog. Do that for a while & then work yourself up to a run. Pace yourself so you don't get tired easily & try to quit. If you have asthma, bring your inhaler & a drink. Riding your bike helps with this too. Swimming also helps as well as lunges do. If you know how to roller blade or skateboard, that can also help if you're working on abs as well. With all the tricks you do in skateboarding & roller blading, they help to get abs.

To prevent razor bumps:
Your razor is probably dull, or you've been using it a lot. I usually use my razor about 10 times & then I throw it out because it doesn't work anymore. If you don't wanna use it more than once, then don't. Use a new razor everytime if that's tickles your fancy. Make sure to use lots of shaving cream. After you've used shaving cream, use the soap you use to wash yourself as a cream & then shave again to get extra softness & spots you might've missed. If you want, you can go over it a third time with your body wash. After you're done with your shower or bath, use lotion & moisturizers to make it extra soft. Use lotion & moisturizers everyday to make sure you prevent razor burn.

14/f I know that somebady just asked this, but I have a question too. I got my period when I was ten and have had fairly big boobs since then. I am currently wearing a size 40C bra. I'm about 5'2 in height and I could still possibly grow a little bit. Lately, my aureoles have gotten bigger and bigger. I know this is a sign my boobs could grow more. My question is, how much bigger do you think they can grow?

It's a possibility. Big boobs aren't in my family at all, and I'm the only one that's got them.

You don't stop growing until your late teen years or early adulthood.

Another thing, get used to other girls telling you they want your boobs. Get used to guys hitting on you, and get used to back pain. Big boobs can be a blessing, but they can also be a curse.

i really want to lose some weight in my legs,thighs and stomach.and just tone up all my body.going into the summer i really want to get back into shape.during the winter i have got flabby in my stomach and thighs which i never had.
i dont look tubby its just i feel i do need to lose weight.im tall for my age.

if you could give me exercises that i could do it would be great.

Exercise:
-- Walk. Work yourself up to a jog, and then work yourself up to a run. Run everyday for maybe an hour. Pace yourself so you don't get tired & quit so easily. If you've got asthma, bring your inhaler, & some water. Running will definitely target your legs as will lunges.
-- Do situps, push ups, lunges, and crunches. These will target your stomach to make it abs, and to take away the flab.

Food:
-- Get rid of junk food. That means no more sweets, no more sodas, no more candies, no more munchies, & no more fast food. Those things are high in fat, and are only okay once in a while. Making a habit in eating them will only help you gain weight. You should rarely eat them.
-- Eat vegetables & fruits. They're good for you. =)
-- Eat meat. If you're vegetarian or a vegan, then you should probably take supplements or eat something else as a replacement.
-- Drink 8 glasses of water, and 4 glasses of milk a day. You'll be guarenteed to pee a lot, but it's worth it. If you're lactose intolerant, try to take a pill so it won't make you sick to drink the milk.
-- Eat yogurt. Yogurt is really good for you because it's light, low in calories & it tastes yummy. Granola is also really good for you.

Good luck.

i'll make this short (13/f)
one of my guy friends (goes to a different school) and i are really close. we met in camp a few years ago and we were friends since. for the past 2 years i didn't go to camp with him, but we stayed in touch. now he admits to liking me, but i don't exactly feel the same way. i care about him a lot, and i think i'm afraid that it will ruin our close friendship. should i give it a go? or stay true to my feelings (i'm not even sure if i like him)?
help is highly appreciated.

I say you should give it a go. Although you don't have feelings for him, and it'd be leading him on, at least you're seeing & experiencing exactly what it'd be like to be with him. If you don't like being with him because it feels weird, you don't like him, or you feel like you're betraying the friendship, then break up. If you do happen to develop feelings for him, then great. =) Good luck.

There's this guy I've known for a few years. We had a math class together & became real good friends. I ended up liking him but he had a girlfriend. Well, he graduated and I haven't seen him until now & the feelings are coming back. He doesn't have a girlfriend this time.

Anyways, I went with him and his sister (a close friend of mine) to the lake this past weekend. His sister told me on the way there he said he didn't like me, but the way he was acting that night was totally different. He kept grabbing my hand and holding it, looking at me and smiling.. we watched a movie in his sister's car and he was holding me the whole time, & also when we went to sleep. There were other things I probably don't remember..

So question 1: do you think he was lying? I don't think he was, because his attention was on me the whole time. But his sister and the other people with us said different. I just want to know if he's playing mind games.

Not ONLY that, my best friend, who used to go out with him, wants to have sex with him again. I told her no, but all she would say was "I will, watch me. If I'm not with anyone I will." She has done this to me SO many times. But then again, it hasn't just been him. She's been trying to get back with all her ex's lately. She's tried to get one's phone number, and the other she hangs out at his house a lot & told me she liked him again. That didn't last for long though.

Question 2: Should I even worry about her? I just don't want her around him if that's all she's going to do. She has done me this way with so many other guys I've liked & I'm tired of it. I'm not gonna let it happen to me again.

Thanks!

This is tough.

His sister is a reliable source since they are related. Are they close, and do they tell each other everything? If so, I doubt she was lying. Maybe he lied to her. He might like you but didn't want anyone to know until he was ready to tell. Maybe he's not ready yet. Either way, his sister could be hard to believe because actions speak louder than words, correct? Agreed.

You honestly should worry about your friend. She seems like a whore to me who will basically sleep with anything that has a penis. If she told you she would, I wouldn't doubt her word basically because she's done it before. If she's done it before, there's always a high chance she'll do it again.

If she knows you like them & she does this anyway, she's not a real friend. Your best friend wouldn't hook up with the guy you liked. Your best friend wouldn't treat you like dirt. And your best friend wouldn't steal anything from you. Material possessions, boys, money, whatever. They wouldn't steal anything. She doesn't sound like a real friend so maybe you should rethink the friendship you have with her.

If you like this guy, and you've got some type of way to communicate like email, phone, myspace or IM, then go for it. Start talking to him more. Ask him why he did the things he did. Tell him you've been hurt before & you'd do anything to prevent it from happening again. Ask him if he likes you. Honestly, he's the only one who can tell you the truth since it IS coming from HIM and not someone else. Don't be discouraged if he doesn't like you. If he doesn't, he's a player, he leads girls on, and he's not worth your time or love. And it'd be his loss. Besides, there's always other hot guys that are willing to be with you, so what the hell? Chances are never too short.

19 f
ok so for my college psych class i have to do a five minute presentation on epilepsy. I was just wondering if anyone had any good ideas to get the class involved on the presentation. I do have epilepsy so its not the information im worried about i just want to make it interesting instead of the usual powerpoint deal. any advice is appreciated!

When I make a presentation, I usually make a note sheet for them, or a quiz about the topic. I don't grade the quizzes, but it's just fun to know they're paying attention. Try to make your presentation funny naturally. Any forced jokes & you'll sound corny/lame. If you can make them laugh, you'll keep them interested. Good luck with the presentation!

Can anyone explain to me why, after you get a shot, your immune system is weaker?

Just curious.

When you get a shot, they give you a little bit of the disease/sickness so that your body can learn to fight it off if ever infected with it. It weakens your immune system for a bit until your immune system can react and kill it, but then it gets stronger & goes back to normal.

I met this girl awhile ago. She is my sister's neighbor and I was atrracted to her. She said she just wanna be firends but something can happen. So the friendship is going great, we hang out, talk all night on the phone just as friends then last week she said she wanted space but she was laughing when she said. While she said that, she said she wanna do something we me that she could not say over the phone, what was that about? I been giving her space, but how much space should I give? Should I call and say hi or just wait??? This started about 6 days ago and when talked once on the phone for 5 mintues?? Is this a game? Does she like me?? We do stuff friedns wouldn't do and she calls me all these nicknames that usually isn't her???

It's possible that she likes you. Give it another day, and call her tomorrow. That'll make it a week [obviously], and it'll be better to call then. Call & say hi, and maybe talk some more if a conversation starts up.

If you do stuff friends usually don't, then the chance of her liking you may be a little bit high. You need to talk to her about this though as I am not her & cannot make up her mind.

19 f
ok so ive recently gotten a boyfriend and hes really special to me. I also have my friends. theyve both met but thats pretty much it. I feel bad if i go out with him and leave my friend out yet on the other hand were in our first stages of still getting to know each other. I dont want her to be mad at me...ahh any advice would help thanks!

Have certain days for your friends, and certain days for your boyfriend. Mostly, 2 days each so you can focus on school & work [if you're doing both, or just one even]. Keep the balance & try hanging out with them both. If they seem to get along, it shouldn't be long until you're either double dating, or all hanging out together.

can someone give me ideas on what to wear with red converse? like what color clothes would look with them. thanks!!

Anything will go with them. Jeans, skirts, shorts, capris. Anything. Shirt colors would have to be either black, red, white or gray. Most colors don't go with red since it's not a shade.

Shades are Black, Gray, White. You can wear ANYTHING with them & still match.

how can i impress a guy so he can like me? if its possible because i like this guy but i want to get closer to him before i ask him out?

You can't make anyone like you. But you can flirt.

Laugh at his jokes. Joke around with him. Touch him. Smile a lot. Make eye contact.

If things go good, ask for his sn, his myspace or his number.

whenever my boyfriend touches me like on my boobs or something my facfeels really hot why is this? jw

You're either blushing, nervous or embarassed.

14/F.

Hi everyone. My friend [Audrey] invited me to her house to 'hang out' with her, her boyfriend, and my secret crush [that Audrey doesn't know about]

I said 'sure, sounds fun'

Well, Audrey said 'hmm...we should play truth or dare...'

I was like 'sounds fun' [once again]
Now, I am really nervous because what if Audrey dares me to kiss my crush but he starts protesting saying 'NO WE ARE JUST FRIENDS.'

I really don't want to cry in front of him.

BUT, I want to kiss him.

URGHH....PLEASE HELP!

I doubt he will. It's a dare for two people at once. If he doesn't go along with it, then he shouldn't be playing the game. Why play Truth Or Dare if you can't handle what's thrown at you? If he does, then just walk away & go by yourself for a little bit, or hold it in & suck it up. You might like him, and if he doesn't like you back, his loss. Don't even worry about it.

Ok so I am a prep, all the way around, its the group I hang out with and the label I am given, my thing is recently my mother went through an extreme pay cut, I am used to shopping at Hollister and AE, but since I wouldnt be able to do that does anyone know some good stores where I could still get the style I wear on a budget?

Kohl's.
Charlotte Russe.
DEB.
Rainbow.
Lola.
Macy's.
Wet Seal.
H&M.

in 5th grade i was friends with a group of people.
lets call them clique #1...
we were a pretty tight group..
but then one of the people got mad at me in 6th grade,
and it was a real big fight.
so i became great friends with a new group..
lets say their clique #2...
ive been great friends with clique #2..
ecpecially my two best friends in that clique.
"kristina" and "elsie"
now, clique #1 and me have been hanging out again.
they have been so sweet to me and i love being with them along with clique #2.
the thing is.. clique#1 thinks im replacing them with clique #1.
about 4 girls from there called me and told me they miss me.
kristina is so mad at me that she took me out of her top8 on her myspace and put the guy i like first.
also.. she hasnt been talking to me and she's telling all her friends how sad she is.
i'm so hurt by this.
ive been crying for a while.
i cant pick between groups and theres no way i can hang out with both of them together because certain people from a vlique dont like certain people from another.
i seriously have no idea what to do.
=/ help?

Dude, top 8's mean nothing. Your position on them should mean nothing to you. Whether you're 2, 5, 7 or 8 on a damn top, it doesn't matter. Position doesn't matter. The people who go into my top don't matter. I just place random people there because I like change & new faces. Her taking you out isn't the end of the world. Get over it.

Cliques are retarded. They're made up of pretty girls who think they're everything & that they rule the world. They're stuck up, snotty, rude, insensitive, & cruel. They make fun of other people for NO reason & they revolve around drama.

If clique one can't accept that you're hanging out with clique two, then they're lame. Same deal for clique two. If clique two can't deal with you hanging out with clique one, then they're the same position of lame. Be friends with whoever the hell you wanna be friends with. Hang out with whover the hell you wanna hang out with. If people don't like it, then tough. That's their problem & they'll just have to deal with it. If they can't learn to get over the changes & the new friends, then they're dumb & you shouldn't be friends with them in the first place.

So basically, if your friends cannot accept who else you're friends with, drop them. Being mad at someone because they're hanging out with new people & trying new things is rediculous, and the person whose mad should get shot. End of story. Life goes on, things change. Grow up.

hi, what is the average penis size for a 14 year old?

About 4-5 inches.

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