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balancing things out
19 f
ok so ive recently gotten a boyfriend and hes really special to me. I also have my friends. theyve both met but thats pretty much it. I feel bad if i go out with him and leave my friend out yet on the other hand were in our first stages of still getting to know each other. I dont want her to be mad at me...ahh any advice would help thanks!
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Balancing friends and significant others can get difficult sometimes. Depending on each persons personality, it can determine your level of difficulty.
Sometimes our friends can get jealous of our "new" relations with the opposite sex. They are use to the "single YOU," who is more available. Once you meet someone new, your time must now be divided between this new love interest and your friends. Depending on your friends, some may completely understand your newly busy schedule, wheras other friends may become bitter, jealous or angry.
No friend should ever be angry that you are spending a lot of time with this new person. A true friend will understand and be happy for you, so long as the "new" person in your life plays a positive role.
If it bothers you that much, you may want to consider doing group dates or double dates. IF your friend has a boyfriend, go on double dates together. That way, you are killing two birds with one stone. If your friend does not have a boyfriend, than maybe your new love interest can bring out a nice friend.
The first few months is considered the "getting to know each other" stage and to truly get to know one another, it requires you to spend some individual time with this person. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone goes through it. Just don't completely abandon your friends or family to a point where you don't see them for months on end.
Learn how to manage your time evenly and choose your battles wisely. Because in a couple years, this new love may not be around but your friends and family will be.
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there are some other possibilities that you can do. maybe invite your friends to come along with your boyfriend( his friends 2 if you like) and it could be more fun to go in a big group, and maybe less awkward in some cases. that way your friend wont be so mad at you. then other days you 2 can go out alone and tell your friend that its OK to go out.
♥ KASSIDY
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Have certain days for your friends, and certain days for your boyfriend. Mostly, 2 days each so you can focus on school & work [if you're doing both, or just one even]. Keep the balance & try hanging out with them both. If they seem to get along, it shouldn't be long until you're either double dating, or all hanging out together.
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you should make a schedual dividing the week up evenly.it shouldent take to long b4 u can hang out with them both at the same time.but untill then talk to your friends about it, make sure they understand.
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