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to stay together or not
Ok I'm gonna try to keep this short and sweet. So my ex-boyfriend of three months supposedly cheated on me with this girl at work that is notorious for spreading rumors that aren't true. They supposedly made out in her car and two of our managers saw them together in her car, but just "hugging." I confronted him about it and of course he denied it, but I broke up with him anyway. So then a couple days later I found out that while we were going out he wrote another girl at work a note that said "I like you and have since the moment I first met you, but I don't want to act on it while I'm with my girlfriend. Can we please keep this between us?" When I confronted him about this he said that he was convinced to do it by someone else and since he's moving in a month he would regret never telling her how he felt. So that's basically about it. He can be very flirtatious with other girls though as well and very touchy-feely. I don't know what to do because recently he has come back to me begging for forgivness and to take him back. I really really like him and he makes me soooo happy, but then there is all that stuff he did and the fact that he is moving about a thousand miles away in a month. All my friends tell me not to get back together with him and that he's a "not nice person" and deserves to die, but I can't help but feel that he's telling the truth and I should take him back. I'm just really confused and would appreciate any advice what so ever. Please and thank you!
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Okay. Rumors you can ignore. What you can't ignore is the fact that he was crushing on someone else and told her so while he was alledgedly with you. That's not good. Even if he wrote that note because someone else pushed him to do so, he still was thinking about someone else and thought he might regret not being with her when he moved away. That means he's not thinking of you and he is not in love with you. He isn't sure he wants to be with you - he's only sure that he doesn't want to be alone, even for a month. Why manage your life according to his desires? Let him go be with that co-worker and take the opportunity he has before moving. Assuming your agenda is to find a boyfriend who will love you and be loyal to you, it's time to move on. He doesn't deserve to die, but he doesn't deserve you either.
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Rumors are rumors. Chances are they aren't true. If found to be true, then that's all the proof you need not to trust someone, not to talk to them, & not to even look at them anymore.
You said he can be known to be flirty. Why be with a guy like that? All he's going to do is flirt with other girls behind your back and once you find out it's gonna break your heart. You'll confront him, he'll deny it. Then he'll do it again. Repeatedly hurting you in the process. He obviously cannot be trusted.
I honestly wouldn't take him back if I were you. He supposively does these things, and then denies it only to do it again. Then when you break up with him he comes crawling back. How long is he gonna do this for? Probably forever. Don't be stupid & take him back. You left him for a reason. So stay that way. You deserve better.
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well if you want to get back together with him you should talk to him about how you feel and he needs to not be all flirty with other girls. but if he is moving how would you know what he is doing all the time. but if he is begging for forgiveness maybe he is ready for commitment.
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