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two questions. i know its long but i need some advice.
There's this guy I've known for a few years. We had a math class together & became real good friends. I ended up liking him but he had a girlfriend. Well, he graduated and I haven't seen him until now & the feelings are coming back. He doesn't have a girlfriend this time.
Anyways, I went with him and his sister (a close friend of mine) to the lake this past weekend. His sister told me on the way there he said he didn't like me, but the way he was acting that night was totally different. He kept grabbing my hand and holding it, looking at me and smiling.. we watched a movie in his sister's car and he was holding me the whole time, & also when we went to sleep. There were other things I probably don't remember..
So question 1: do you think he was lying? I don't think he was, because his attention was on me the whole time. But his sister and the other people with us said different. I just want to know if he's playing mind games.
Not ONLY that, my best friend, who used to go out with him, wants to have sex with him again. I told her no, but all she would say was "I will, watch me. If I'm not with anyone I will." She has done this to me SO many times. But then again, it hasn't just been him. She's been trying to get back with all her ex's lately. She's tried to get one's phone number, and the other she hangs out at his house a lot & told me she liked him again. That didn't last for long though.
Question 2: Should I even worry about her? I just don't want her around him if that's all she's going to do. She has done me this way with so many other guys I've liked & I'm tired of it. I'm not gonna let it happen to me again.
Thanks!
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People's opinions of others change. Perhaps before that weekend, he wasn't really attracted to you. It could be that there was some chemistry between the two of you for the first time. It could be that he hasn't made up his mind about you or that he was trying to like you. I wouldn't think his sister is lying, but the only way to find out what's going on is to ask him. Be up-front.
Obviously, you don't want to give him anything, like sex, until you're sure that he does like you and that the two of you are in a committed relationship where he has shown your friends and his that you are together.
As far as this "friend," the others are right. She's no friend. But neither is she your concern. If this guy is worthy of your time and affection, he won't want to be around that tramp. He'll work on his relationship with you rather than going for the easy lay. There's nothing that you can do to keep the two of them apart - if they want to be together then they will. I'd say if you really like this guy and he likes you back, you just have to hope for the best and trust him, but keep your eyes open.
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This is tough.
His sister is a reliable source since they are related. Are they close, and do they tell each other everything? If so, I doubt she was lying. Maybe he lied to her. He might like you but didn't want anyone to know until he was ready to tell. Maybe he's not ready yet. Either way, his sister could be hard to believe because actions speak louder than words, correct? Agreed.
You honestly should worry about your friend. She seems like a whore to me who will basically sleep with anything that has a penis. If she told you she would, I wouldn't doubt her word basically because she's done it before. If she's done it before, there's always a high chance she'll do it again.
If she knows you like them & she does this anyway, she's not a real friend. Your best friend wouldn't hook up with the guy you liked. Your best friend wouldn't treat you like dirt. And your best friend wouldn't steal anything from you. Material possessions, boys, money, whatever. They wouldn't steal anything. She doesn't sound like a real friend so maybe you should rethink the friendship you have with her.
If you like this guy, and you've got some type of way to communicate like email, phone, myspace or IM, then go for it. Start talking to him more. Ask him why he did the things he did. Tell him you've been hurt before & you'd do anything to prevent it from happening again. Ask him if he likes you. Honestly, he's the only one who can tell you the truth since it IS coming from HIM and not someone else. Don't be discouraged if he doesn't like you. If he doesn't, he's a player, he leads girls on, and he's not worth your time or love. And it'd be his loss. Besides, there's always other hot guys that are willing to be with you, so what the hell? Chances are never too short.
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First things first, some friend if she goes after all the guys you like, even when you ask her not to. That set aside...I think he deffinately likes you, and he was lying to his sister. If he wanted to hold you hand and be close with you the whole night, he likes you. At least thats how i would show i like a girl.
And for Q#2, try not to get into situations where she would be around him. And maybe bemore stern with your friend, and tell her stragith up that you will be very mad at her if she does.
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