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close guy friend
i'll make this short (13/f)
one of my guy friends (goes to a different school) and i are really close. we met in camp a few years ago and we were friends since. for the past 2 years i didn't go to camp with him, but we stayed in touch. now he admits to liking me, but i don't exactly feel the same way. i care about him a lot, and i think i'm afraid that it will ruin our close friendship. should i give it a go? or stay true to my feelings (i'm not even sure if i like him)?
help is highly appreciated.
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You should tell your friend that although you value him as a friend, you don't want to be anymore than that. Make sure you don't say something like "I like you, just not that way." He won't hear the part about not that way, he'll only hear the I like you part and you'll give him false hope. But make sure he knows you don't want to lose him. He may be a bit distant at first because of the rejection but if you keep acting the same way he'll realize that things don't have to change just because he confided his feelings for you.
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I say you should give it a go. Although you don't have feelings for him, and it'd be leading him on, at least you're seeing & experiencing exactly what it'd be like to be with him. If you don't like being with him because it feels weird, you don't like him, or you feel like you're betraying the friendship, then break up. If you do happen to develop feelings for him, then great. =) Good luck.
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no i really dont think you should. because realtionships with people who go to different schools really do suck. even though you guys sound very close. i wouldnt give it even a shot. just be friends for now. tell him its nice that you have feelings for me but in the future we are good friends. because just think along down the road when you guys are going out theres going to be a "hard to deal" with long distant. then you break up its difficult and then find it hard to even to remain friends. so please just trust me I would go for your gut since you exactly DO NOt feel the same way about him. dont force yourself into liking him just because he has strong feelings for you. it will be better in the long run if you guys remain friends. =)
♥ KASSIDY
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