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Hi! I just wanted to know how old you have to be to work at red robin like as a hostess or whatever? Thank you!

To start off with you need to be at least 16 to get working papers from your school. You will need these before any employer will consider you for a job as these papers tell the employer what jobs and hours your state allows you to work.

Since Red Robin serves alcohol you probably have to 18 to be a sever. This is probably mandated by the state alcoholic beverage commission more than by the state juvenile working laws.

If you are over 16 the best thing to do is to call Red Robin and ask what their hiring practice is in regard to age and positions available.

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Me & my boyfriend have been trying to get pregnant but we can't , we've been wanting a baby for a quite while. How do i know when is a good time to get pregnant?

Talk to your local pharmacist. There are kits available that will help you determine when you are ovulating. Your pharmacy may not be stocking them though they can order them for you if you request one.

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is it really a turn on for a guy to know that you keep your legs closed

What is the turn on for guys about virgins?

This is somewhat of a complex question as it differs somewhat between guys. Some guys just like the idea of being the first. It also means the girl has no one to compare them too so he has less performance anxiety with a virgin.

For many other guys it is the thrill of the chase. When I was younger and I'm sure it still goes on to day. Groups of boys had a point system for how many times they had sex. Sex with a virgin scored more points. In this scenario the turn on was and is the thrill of the chase.

After the thrill of chasing a virgin comes the fetish thrill. Most fetishes are harmless. Some guys love women who wear stockings, not pantyhose. Some guys have foot fetishes, some like older women, some like having sex in places where they might be seen. As I said most if not all are harmless.

What is important is that indulging in a fetish has to be mutually agreeable. This means if he wants to do it in a boat on a lake and you don't want to; then it is not done. The same with any type of sex or sexual position. If one partner says no then it is not done. Any begging, threatening or any other thing done to convince the partner to comply is sexual harassment.

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Well I cut my self on my thigh with a blade from a sharpner and then I bled but there was white dots in the blood. I'd just like to know why there is white dots coming out in my blood :)

I am trying to stop cutting but today was just to much and I replapsed so please don't lecture me about that

Thanks :)

This could be something called Aplasia and is found in the blood of someone that is anemic. That being said I'm not sure you can see these spots with the naked eye. I believe it takes a lab with the proper equipment to analyze the blood to make this call.

I would suggest you visit your doctor for if it is Aplasia and you are anemic you need proper treatment. This is something that needs a proper diagnosis not a layman's guess based on a few minutes of reading.

Seeing a doctor at this time is also an opportunity for you to talk with the doctor about the cutting. Cutting is a sign of depression. I don't know what is causing you to feel depressed though for young teenagers going through the early stages of puberty this is not unusual.

Back in the dark ages when I was 13, around the time they invented fire, ha-ha. Our parents called this a phase we had to go through. Today doctors know better and there are things they can do tell help you with whatever is bothering you.

At 13 you are old enough to see the doctor without mom or dad being in the room with you. Just ask to see the doctor alone. If you say so in front of the doctor he or she should understand you want to speak to him or her in private and will ask your parent to wait in the waiting room. I know the doctor will do everything they legally can to keep your confidence while being able to treat you for whatever is bothering you.

Cutting can be very dangerous and this is not a lecture on cutting but an offer of how to get help without actually having to tell your parents in order to get that help.

You need to see the doctor for the other thing, it is a perfect opportunity to speak to the doctor about the cutting and get the help you need.

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Am 14 years young female
i have had Sharp pains like at the top of my lungs its a pain in the top of my lungs but it lastes like 2 seconds then like 5 minutes later it comes back and back again ?
whats happening !?

We are not doctors and we cannot make a diagnoses. You pain may be the same as someone else's and be an entirely different problem.

The likelihood of whatever is bothering you being something horrible is like a million to 1. A quick visit to the family doctor will not only get you a diagnoses but will set your mind at ease.

Your doctor may order and X-ray to rule out something like Bronchitis or walking pneumonia. Speaking strictly as a layman the pain you describe is too high to be a lung infection. If anything you have some type of Bronchial bug which would need a doctors care to properly be corrected.

If you're under 18 years of age you need to tell mom or dad and have them arrange a doctors appointment.

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19/f Most people think that you have an eating disorder when you're waay to skinny or really big. But the thing is that I'm quite normal sized. I weigh around 112 pounds and I'm 5'4".
I was quite big as a kid and started losing a lot of weight when I was around 10 years old. And ever since then my relationship with food was never normal. Even when I was big I always ate to make me feel better cause I didn't have any friends. After I lost weight I gained some again and then I continued starving, then I gained weight and then I starved again and so on. And that cycle never really stopped until today. I either eat way too much or nothing at all. I dont know how to eat normally. I don't really enjoy food. Either I shove it down my throat or I starve. And right now I have days where I starve and other days where I eat way too much. So I pretty much stay at the weight that I am now cause I'm constantly gaining and losing. Thing is I hate my body. I want to be thin so badly and I dont think that I am. I look at myself and I could cry. Sometimes I dont even shower cause it discusts me. I hate myself so much after I eat. And i have the urge to continue eating even though I'm full. I think about food all the time. When I'm starving I watch cooking shows so I can "eat" with my eyes which actually helps me (weird I know) And when I eat I hate myself all day for eating. I dont throw up my food though and I dont have anorexia. So do I have an eating disorder? Or is this a normal thing women go through? I have talked to my mom about it but she doesn't really bother. I think she thinks that it's normal or not a big deal. I mean she sees me eating and I'm not too skinny so why should she worry right? Is there something wrong with me? Or am I really just overreacting about this?

Do you have an eating disorder? I have to answer yes because of the way you eat and then starve. This is not normal. Your weight though is at the lower end of a small framed women of your height. This I would say is more by accident than by design.

You are by no means fat by any standard you wish to use. How you feel that your body is disgusting and you want to be skinny is just another signal that you have an eating disorder. You are by all measure skinny, almost too skinny.

What you need to do: First thing is to see you family doctor and discuss this problem with him or her. You need to have a complete physical to rule out any organic reasons. Then your doctor needs to refer you to another doctor or clinic that specializes in the care and treatment of persons with eating disorders.

I will go out on a limb here and say you are a borderline Anorexic. I'm not a doctor and really can't make that diagnoses. I have unfortunate watched a friend of the families daughter die of anorexia nervosa. She was a lead Ballerina for a New York Ballet Company. I won't go into detail other than to say it was a horrible thing to watch.

So please call your doctor today. Be very explicit with the doctor as you have been with us. Anorexia is a horrible, horrible illness you do not want to deal with.

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Does it hurt when you have sex for the first time and your boy freind or whoever you are having sex with have a huge dick and you have a tight pussy or small pussyhole

There are actually several answers to this question.

The first is that the younger you are the more it is or usually will hurt. Most of the pain comes not from the tearing of your Hymen. The tearing or rupturing of your Hymen is generally a sharp momentary pain. The greatest amount of pain will be in the penetration of your vagina by the penis if the boy is not gentle and or is very large.

Why is this. If you are young say between 13 and 18 you may have the body of a women but you are still maturing. If you have trouble inserting a tampon your going to have pain or may even not be able to have sexual intercourse as your vaginal muscles have not developed the elasticity they need to allow penetration.

Remember what is meant to come out of your vagina so the ability to stretch is there. Certain hormones need to be released which happen at different times during puberty which will allow more elasticity to those muscles.

Next in line is comfort and fear factor. Here again age is a big factor. The younger you are as the female you are going to have more fear of sexual intercourse as you are the one that can get pregnant. Even if using condoms that fear is always there. We receive letters each week from young girls asking if they can be pregnant because there period is late. They used condoms or are birth control. There period is late because they are stressed out over having sex and the fear of pregnancy.

Privacy and comfort are also important. IF you can't find privacy and a comfortable place you are going to be tense. The fear of being discovered while doing the deed as it was once or may still be called will do that to you. If you can't relax your going to stiffen up.

I'll let you in on a secret that is as old as time. Boys do not have the same definition of love that girls do. Boys confuse lust with love. Many a time a boy will tell a girl; "If you love me you will have sex with me." This is not the purpose of sex to prove your love for someone. Sex is the end result of a loving relationship.

Boys going through puberty are hard wired to find sexual relief. It is the hormones of puberty hence the word horny. Don't prove your love for someone by having sex with them.

If you are a young teenage you will have several boyfriend throughout high school. Wait until you find someone you truly love and someone who has respect for you as a woman and a person.

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I bought a box of Magnum XL's the other week for the first time and I kind of had a problem with them. After I bought them I tried them on (of cores) and when I did the first one I tried was... really really tight and when i tried to put it on all the way it snapped. I thought it might have just been a bad first one so i tried a second one and it was also super tight and snapped. I checked the box and and they were not expired or dried out or anything. what should i do or where could i find something that will fit?

As in many other things sizing varies from one brand to another. I did find a brand that offers XXL condoms. Durex XXL are offered on EBAY and at Wal-Mart. You might want to try them or another brand of XL condoms

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I am trying to figure out what to do I want to press charges against him my life is on the line I have two little girls to worry about he told me he had a vasectomy and now I am pregnant and in order for me to get a abortion I have to have a surgeon present in case I bleed to death I want him to pay for lying I had no proof shown to me at all I have heart failure and a history of blood clots I can't have anymore kids I told him this.

I'm not a lawyer even though I'm not without your boyfriend admitting that he told you that he had a vasectomy I don't see you having much of a case. You would have to prove that your boyfriend told you he had a vasectomy and was lying in order to take him to court and get damages.

You really need to sleep with a lawyer and see just where you stand from a legal standpoint. I have heard of instances where vasectomy has self corrected so to speak without the knowledge of the person who has a vasectomy how true this is I don't know you have to talk to a doctor

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I just recently lost my virginity on July 1. I haven't had my period yet, which would make it about 2 weeks late. Some time in late June before I first had sex, my boyfriend and I were messing around. We "dry humped" naked, and I don't think he had any precum at that time. But before that, he had precum but then I gave him a blow job. Then on the night that we had sex, we "dry humped" naked again and I was feeling around to make sure if there was precum or not, and there was, so I made sure it didn't like drip down or anything. Then after that we had sex, but of course we used a condom. He didn't ejaculate while still inside of me, and I checked to make sure the condom didn't break by pouring water into it. And before we started having sex, I stood up to grab the condom and the tip of his penis touched my vagina for a brief second, but I'm not sure if it had precum on it or not.

The main things I am wondering and are worried about are:
- Is it possible to get pregnant if someone gets precum/semen on their hand/fingers and proceeds to finger you?
- Does sperm die when it makes contact with the air?
- Can sperm swim up into the vagina if it touches the outside/opening of the vagina?
- What are the chances of me being pregnant?

Here are some facts about me:
- I'm 18, 5'4", underweight (I weigh about 100 lbs).
- I've only had intercourse once.
- My period is really irregular. They can last for 1-2 weeks. My cycles can range from 15-50 days. I've also had 2 periods in 1 month before.
- My last period arrived on June 1 and ended on June 8.
- I normally don't experience any PMS symptoms, such as cramps.
- My diet has probably not been the best. I don't think I eat enough, and I bet I don't get the proper amount of nutrition and stuff that I need.
- I've been going to the bathroom more, and I know that could be a sign of pregnancy. Though, I've heard that pregnancy symptoms usually don't show up until you're about 6 weeks along. But for my last couple or few periods, I've experienced more urination.
- I think I remember seeing pinkish discharge when I wiped once, and I thought that could be my period. It was a small amount, but I've read that it could be implantation bleeding.
- I am generally a very paranoid person (haha), so I could just be worrying too much and overthinking every small detail.

I know there's probably a chance of being being pregnant, but how high do you think this chance is? This is all making me paranoid and stressing me out. It's probably not helping that I keep googling everything and am reading all these stories either! I just keep thinking of all these scenarios in my head. I know stress, being underweight, and other factors can contribute to a late period. I've also heard that losing your virginity can delay your period but I'm not sure if that's true. My boyfriend said that his ex was 2 weeks late with her period just because she lost her virginity. I've been thinking about taking a pregnancy test to ease my mind, but I'm really scared and nervous! From reading all these stories, I'm just really paranoid about getting a false negative, mistaking spotting/implantation bleeding for my period, being well into a pregnancy but not being aware of it whatsoever, being one of those women who still get their period but are unaware they're pregnant, not having any early pregnancy symptoms, mistaking pregnancy signs as PMS symptoms.... This all is just really stressing me out. It would be nice if someone could inform me on all of this! (And in the future, I will NOT be "dry humping" naked, just to be on the safe side since this is just too much stress for me!)

Like 05natalie05 I do not think your pregnant either. If anything I think you're stressing out about your first sexual experience and whether or not you are pregnant. Stress is the number 1 delayer of periods.

Let's put you mind at ease on this with a simple at home pregnancy test. I'm 99.99% sure it will be negative. If you're concerned with mom finding the test kit in the trash. Keep the kit in your purse, take the test in the morning. Repackage the kit afterwards put it back in your purse and dispose of it away from home.

Your 18 now an adult legally allowed to have a sex life if you want one. You are also allowed to ask your doctor for birth control and your parents have no right to know or to stop you from having birth control pills; even if you are still on their health insurance. You should be carrying a copy of their health insurance card with you at all times

As an adult you now have total medical confidentiality. Your doctors and dentists can no longer discuss your medical health with your parents without your expressed written permission. So if you want birth control ask your doctor for it, you cannot be refused except for medical reasons. If you are going to be sexually active birth control pills are the most effective form of birth control and backed up with a condom are almost 100% effective.

The only time a doctor may speak to your parents about your medical condition now or in the future, until you marry, is if you are unable to speak for yourself and the need consent for an operation.

05natalie05 did an excellent job of answering your questions though like her I do recommend you discuss them with your GYN as well. Remember the only dumb question is the one not asked. Also the questions you have asked have been heard before by your doctor and they will be only too glad to give you the proper answers.

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I wanted to know how young is appropriate to get engaged

To answer your question directly I would have to say that any age under the age of consent in your state is too young to accept or propose marriage.

Reasoning: If you cannot agree to sexual intercourse, sign contracts, dropout of school or do any other things that require legal consent. How can you legally accept a marriage proposal. This is the legal aspect of your question.

There is a cultural aspect to your question that is entirely different that will run afoul of the legal aspects. There are some cultures that still live by the old country was where girls are betroth by their fathers to men or sons of friends when they reach a certain age.

Legally her in the US either the boy or the girl can walk away from this engagement at anytime. The courts will support this and the courts will not award any damages to either party for breaking the engagement.

I believe as you can see there are a lot more aspects to your question then just the simple what is age appropriate. I hope my answer has helped answer all the aspects that I am aware of and that they have helped you.

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Im a 15 year old girl and always had good relationshiops with my mother.As I knew she loves playing Scrable i shown her a website to play...she loved it but as she was playng she started talking with others using that site...she is not mentioning anything personal just chat...but she has overdone it..she plays 19 hours a day and sleeps for the rest of it...she doesn't do any housework..half of my clothes are waiting to be ironed for 3 months...the only think she thinks about is the players she are talking with...she always takes my laptop and begs my aunt when i don't give it to her...if i can persuade her to pay attention to me she only says about what she was talking about playing Scrable...whenever i try controling the hours she is playing she says that she is older and can fix it herself....but she never does....what can i do?

Your mother has an addiction not unlike an alcoholic. She needs help but not the kind you can give her; she needs professional help.

If you and any younger siblings are being neglected then you need to speak to someone. Not ironing your clothes is not neglecting you as you are old enough to iron your own clothes. If she is not shopping for food, cooking good meals, seeing to it that you and your younger siblings are in good health and have clean and serviceable cloths. That constitutes neglect.

What can you do about it. First you need to find a trusted adult you can go do. If your parents are divorced and you can contact your dad he is the first person you should call. If dad is not in the picture or will not help then an Aunt, Uncle or Grandparent should be contact and asked to help.

If they can't help or their help is refused or does not work. The only option left is to go to the nearest police or fire station. These are safe havens for children. Child neglect is also child abuse. The fire fighters or the police will contact the proper agency to contact your mom and get her the help she needs. They can by law force her to get the help she needs.

What is happening with mom is a relatively new phenomenon for the medical profession and is treated much like alcoholics are treated. Through therapy and programs like aa.

Mom is right when she says she is the older, she is wrong when she says she can do this herself. Addictions are almost impossible to overcome without professional help and guidance. So talk to a trusted relative who mom might listen to. If she won't, which is most likely. Then you have no alternative than to ask for state assistance to force mom to get help.

You are old enough to care for yourself if forced to. You should not have to. If you have younger siblings they are not old enough to care for themselves and you should not have to take on that burden. The right thing to do is if need be, is to ask for help from the state agencies designated to provide this help.

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Ok...im 12 and I'm a girl I need different ideas on how to reach a n orgasm I've tried my fingers and house household items and can't get a vibrator. So..plz help.

To reach orgasm your body first has to be ready. Meaning you have to go through or be in puberty and the hormones that allow that to happen have to be released. You may have entered puberty but those hormones may not have been released yet.

The second reason for not being able to reach orgasm is that you may be one of the twenty percent of the women out there that vaginal stimulation does not turn them on enough to reach orgasm.

This is the nice thing about masturbation; it allows you to explore your own body. To find out what turns you on and what does not. I would suggest that you relax, take a nice bath, then go in your room, close the door and lock it if possible. Turn down the lights and lie down on your bed.

Let you hands caress your body, your breasts and your nipples, Find your clitoris and gently rub it. Use some lubricant such as say baby oil so as not to rub it raw while you get excited and produce your own lubricant. Let your fingers run up and down your vagina while stimulating your clitoris. It may take some time; 15 minutes or more but you should reach orgasm this way if you are more clitoral than vaginal.

If this does not work for you and other forms of masturbation have not worked then the problem is age. Your just to young at the moment and have not fully entered puberty yet.

Every one enters puberty at different times in their lives. Some of your friends may have already entered puberty and some may have even gotten their periods and had them for a time. This does not mean there is anything wrong with you or them. Nature has a plan for each of us and when the time comes, if this is the case, puberty will come and hit you like a ton of bricks.

I watched my sister, who did not start through puberty until she was almost 15. Just about overnight she got her period, her breast exploded on her chest and her body went from that of a little girl to a women. When it did I thought my dad was going to go postal for the boys where swarming at the door.

Moral of all this is everything in good time. You can't rush these things. You're 12 years old not yet even a teenager. Your far to young to be worried about sexual things and have plenty of time to enjoy being a teenager when you become one. For now enjoy being 12.

Just a little grandfatherly advise since I am old enough to be one. Just remember when you get frustrated with waiting for something; "Everything in good time."

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Hi, Im a 13 year old girl I will be turning 14 in October. I have had my periods for about 2 years now. Recently for the past2 months there have been no sign of my period at all except mild cramping, but no blood.I am not sexually active at all no question about that. But I live with 8 brothers. Is it possible maybe they got sperm on the toilet seat and it traveled up by itself? Im still a virgin. I masturbate like 4 times a week usually. Could I be pregnant ?

There are many reasons for not getting your period, pregnancy is only one of them. If you have not had sex, are still a virgin, then you are not pregnant.

You cannot get pregnant from sperm on the toilet seat or through masturbation by yourself. If you masturbated a boy, hand job, then masturbated yourself after he came on your hand and you did not get all the sperm of your fingers. Then there would be a remote possibility if you put your fingers inside yourself.

Two or three of the other or biggest reasons for your period not showing up are; stress, new medications you may be on and extreme exercising. If any of the above are appropriate to you then they are a possibility.

Since you are a virgin, and mom will ask anyway so be prepared, you need to talk with mom. Your period is not sex or sexual. It is a bodily function of women just like pooping or peeing. If you had a problem with either of them you would go to mom. Well not getting your period when you know you can't be pregnant is reason to go to mom and ask her if you need to see a doctor.

As I said the first thing mom is going to ask is if you have had sex. You know you are a virgin so there is no reason to shout or get hysterical. Calmly tell her you're a virgin. IF you get hysterical and start shouting mom will not believe you. This is just the way parents are it is the first thing that comes to mind. Once you get past this point mom will ask you other questions and then decide if waiting is in order or of you need to see a doctor.

At your age, even with having your period for 2 years, it is not uncommon for a girls period to take a short hiatus as puberty releases different hormones.

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my boyfriend and I have been dating for 5 months, he just turned 18 and I'm almost 16. before we had sex we went through all the smaller steps, which was good, and we've had sex a few times now. I'm not on birth control and I've tried to go on it for other reasons but my mom and doctor didn't think it was necessary unless I was sexually active which at the time I wasn't but now I am. we use a condom every time, I wouldn't do it any other way and neither would he. should I be taking a form of the morning after pill or something? I just don't want anything to happen. please any advice helps, thank you!

By a Federal Law called HIPPA if you want birth control medication your doctor has to prescribe it. You mother does not have to know and your doctor cannot tell her that you asked for it and that it was prescribed.

In this law which is Heath Information Personal Privacy Act there is a section covering young people 14 years and older and their reproductive systems.

This law states that anyone 14 years of age and older may visit a doctor without parental permission or knowledge for anything related to their reproductive system and have total confidentiality.

What this means is any doctor you see in regard to any question or problem related to your reproductive system may not inform anyone of why you are being seen. Why you are being treated. What questions you may have asked without expressed written permission to do so. To release any information without permission could place the doctor or the staff in prison for up to 5 years.

Under HIPPA regulations you can have birth control medication if you want it. All you need to do is see your doctor or go to any family planning clinic. The HIPPA regulation also means mom can no longer be in the exam room with you any time a doctor is going to do any type of a female examination. All you need say to the doctor if mom is with you is that you invoke your rights under HIPPA and mom will be asked to wait in the waiting room.

Your parents or anyone else cannot be told of any visit to any doctor for any examination of your reproductive system. If you have a pregnancy test done it is between you and the doctor. If it is positive it stays between you and your doctor. You parents have not say in what you chose to do and you cannot be forced to have an abortion.

Congress did not write this clause to give young people license to have sex. They did so because many young people are afraid to go to their parents when something is wrong with their reproductive system or they have a question. This clause allows then to seek help or get proper answers to their question. As a byproduct of the clause you are able to get birth control.

Your parents health insurance will pay for these visits and a parent cannot have the visits refused by the insurance company. In fact at 16 you should be carrying an insurance card with you as you are old enough to need this should you be injured away from home.

As for the plan "B" pill. The only time to take that is if you think you may become pregnant from having unprotected sex. If the boy is wearing the condom correctly the condom is 85% effective in preventing pregnancy.

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I am 19, and a female working FULL TIME and in college FULL TIME. I live with my boyfriend and three roommates. It is a decision through our house that we don't eat each others' food or share food.

With that said, I usually eat a lot of fast food. And I mean way too much. It hit me the other day when I bought breakfast at McDonalds- 5$, lunch at Tropical Smoothie- 9$ and finally dinner for my boyfriend and I at Taco Bell 12$
Talk about a heart attack.

So now I'm trying to change my ways, save money, and feel better but I have one major problem: I don't know how to grocery shop, plan meals, or even cook. Of course we go to the grocery store but we end up buying junk and microwavable meals that my stomach is now telling my brain it's right their next to puppy chow.

I have realized that I cant google how to do change my fast food habits, I have to make a lifestyle change.

Oh, I just wanna throw this out their that my boyfriend doesn't cook but maybe once a week, if that and its pretty much a can of green beans and then some random meat with some more random spices and that gets old real quick.

Please just give me any advice you have on how you eat healthy and plan meals.

I need a system that requires very little actual cooking and can apply for breakfast lunch and dinner. (I don't always eat fast food for breakfast- I eat cereal if we have the milk to go with it. And sometimes ill bring a sandwich for lunch but both those options are plain and boring and not really nutritious, either.

Sorry if this is too long, I just felt everything is pretty important to include in order to get the advice I'm looking for. Thanks in advance for the advice.

P.s....please don't just warn me of the health risks associated with my current diet. Thanks.

Okay the first thing you need to do is plan ahead and cook ahead. It is hard to come home from school and face making dinner with homework and whatever else has to be done. Most working couples face the same problem. So the real problem is time management.

You need to set aside time in your week to do a proper grocery shopping and time to cook ahead. Assuming you and your boyfriend will do this together. Time management is going to have to be a priority.

You start by sitting down with your boyfriend and a weekly planner/calendar. Write in your classes and work schedules. Then look at what time is left open for studying, cooking and shopping. This is going to have to be a joint effort to be successful for you both.

Meals that can be cooked ahead frozen and then reheated or put in the microwave are going to be better for you and more inexpensive than fast food. They also will generally provide leftovers that can be taken for lunches.

Meals such as meatloaf, hamburgers, chicken are inexpensive and good evening meal, generally provide leftovers and easy to make. Shopping at warehouse stores such as Costco, Wal-Mart, BJ's and Sam's Club will stretch your buying Dollar.

A Breakfast of cereal, fruit, an occasional Yogurt is great. Yogurt is high in sodium and should not be eaten as part of a regular diet.

Lunches: Unfortunately lunches can be boring if you try to stick to the generally accepted bag lunch of a sandwich and chips. You can purchase some plastic containers in various sizes. In these you can put together various types of salads just be carful about refrigeration needs for things contain mayonnaise. You can take a piece of chicken and some fruit or fruit salad. The leftover meatloaf is good. If you purchase a cooler pouch with a cool pack the types of things you can take for lunch become endless.

We already spoke of some dinners above. What you need to do is find out each others cooking skills and plan your meals around them.

In shopping for you food you first plan for your evening meals. From this you will see how many meals they will provide and what if any leftovers can be had for lunches. This may be a little hit and miss at first but you will learn .

Then you plan on the type of lunches you would want and list the items you need. Breakfast is almost a staple of things though you still go over the items you want. Then check and make sure you have the staples you need milk, eggs, butter and so forth.

As part of your time management plan you may or should divide the workload. For instance whoever shops this week the other cooks. Next week you reverse the workload.

Time management is the most important tool you will need to conquer in the adult world. If you can learn to control your time now you will forever be in control of your time. This is something employers value almost or even more than the ability to do a job. They can teach you to do the work. Teaching someone time management is the hardest thing an employer has to do and many a time they fail to do it right.

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what is awesome to cook im bored with what i usually cook (mostly Italian food,spaghetti,mostacholi,linguini)and was wondering if anyone had any good food ideas.:]

This is a great question though it does depend on individual tastes. I love to cook, in fact it is something my wife and I do together on weekends when it is cool enough.

We have the same tastes in food so that is not a problem. I like to experiment with recipes and my wife is more reserved when it comes to looking at a recipe and deciding to try it. I can look at a recipes ingredients and tell if they are ones we like or if I can substitute one or more for ones we like.

One of the things I love to do is to go to a restaurant have a meal and try to identify the ingredients then try to make it at home. I've become pretty good at doing this. At the moment we are working on a creamed cauliflower or mashed cauliflower we had once. We have the taste right but we need to stiffen it up as at the moment it is more like soup.

Japanese cooking is easy to do if you have a recipe and you do not need a wok. Most of the taste is in the prep and the way you prepare the (cutting) of the vegetables. German food is also easy to do, though it can be kind of heavy. French food is nice though some sauces can be tricky as they can break if the timing is off.

I learned to do most of what I cook by watching TV cooks on PBS and some of the food channels. There are also some very inexpensive cookbooks out there for beginners and intermediate cooks.

Recently my wife and I took a dive into baking. We made rolls, breads, both Italian and French. Then we decided to make Bagels. The first time with the Bagels was some what funny as they turned out to be mini-Bagels. We did better the second time.

Italian cooking is something I like to do and consider it my specialty.

Here's my version of chicken nuggets I made up on the fly many years ago.

Chicken breasts, boned and skinned
Bread crumbs, seasoned or not is fine
Flour
egg
milk oil
salt
pepper
paprika
garlic powder

Cut chicken breasts in to nuggets

season bread Crumbs with salt, pepper, garlic and paprika. Do so even if using a seasoned bread crumb. Season to taste.

Make an egg was out of the egg and milk

Dip the chicken in the flour, shake off the excess, then the egg wash and then the bread crumbs.

In a deep frying pan add enough oil to just cover or almost cover the chicken; this will depend on how deep of a fry pan you have. Heat the oil to just below cracking stage, about 350 degrees. Add chicken, don't crowd the pan. Fry until golden brown and remove to a drain cloth. Turn as necessary.

Serve with Duck Sauce and Hot Mustard.

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hai, i have to do shopping for women's wear in online, i don't know the shopping sites names so plz give me online shopping sites names...

Could you be a little more specific in what you are looking for. Women's wear can be anything from the skin out and from the toes to the nose, so to speak. It is not always meant as intimate apparel.

If you type "Women's wear into a search engine you will have returned hundreds of sites. Being more specific in what you are looking for will return sites more specific to what you may be looking for. Intimate apparel will return lingerie sites from everyday wear to sexy.

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whats the diffrence between cum and sperm?

Cum and sperm are the same thing when it comes to the male. Be it from masturbation or intercourse cum or sperm is what the male ejaculates.

For the female a white gooey substance is sometimes found on the fingers of the person fingering her. This is the lubricant that coats the vagina when she is sexually excited and makes penetration by the male penis easier. This is generally referred to a lady cum.

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i easily get out of breath then it takes me a wile to catch my breath afterwards, i also sweat really easily, and i have bad anxiety. whats wrong with me? should i go see a doctor? help?

Yes you should see a doctor. We are not doctors and can not make diagnoses.

There is an old saying that says, "the better the devil you know then the one you don't know." Now depending on how you use this saying it has different meanings. In this case it is better to know what maybe causing this problem then sitting home thinking you have some sort of fatal disease. We all think that so don't say I'm wrong in saying so.

If you live in the states anywhere where there is the current heat wave any respiratory problem you may have is going to feel worse because of the weather. Call your doctor and make an appointment to see him or her.

If for some reason your doctor cannot see you there are a growing number of walk-in clinics that are available to see patients both by appointment, same day or walk-in. Most insurance company will pay for this service. If your breathing becomes that bad that your having real trouble do not be afraid to call 911 for help.

As a former first responder, I'm retired now, I can tell you this is why we are here. We can bring emergency medical help to you and help you breath better while taking you to the hospital for medical treatment.

You have a number of options available to you. Make an appointment to see your doctor. Go to a walk-in clinic or if need be call 911. You decide which option you need or is the best option based on how you are feeling right now. You do not need to be an adult to call 911.

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