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Does it hurt
Does it hurt when you have sex for the first time and your boy freind or whoever you are having sex with have a huge dick and you have a tight pussy or small pussyhole
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There are actually several answers to this question.
The first is that the younger you are the more it is or usually will hurt. Most of the pain comes not from the tearing of your Hymen. The tearing or rupturing of your Hymen is generally a sharp momentary pain. The greatest amount of pain will be in the penetration of your vagina by the penis if the boy is not gentle and or is very large.
Why is this. If you are young say between 13 and 18 you may have the body of a women but you are still maturing. If you have trouble inserting a tampon your going to have pain or may even not be able to have sexual intercourse as your vaginal muscles have not developed the elasticity they need to allow penetration.
Remember what is meant to come out of your vagina so the ability to stretch is there. Certain hormones need to be released which happen at different times during puberty which will allow more elasticity to those muscles.
Next in line is comfort and fear factor. Here again age is a big factor. The younger you are as the female you are going to have more fear of sexual intercourse as you are the one that can get pregnant. Even if using condoms that fear is always there. We receive letters each week from young girls asking if they can be pregnant because there period is late. They used condoms or are birth control. There period is late because they are stressed out over having sex and the fear of pregnancy.
Privacy and comfort are also important. IF you can't find privacy and a comfortable place you are going to be tense. The fear of being discovered while doing the deed as it was once or may still be called will do that to you. If you can't relax your going to stiffen up.
I'll let you in on a secret that is as old as time. Boys do not have the same definition of love that girls do. Boys confuse lust with love. Many a time a boy will tell a girl; "If you love me you will have sex with me." This is not the purpose of sex to prove your love for someone. Sex is the end result of a loving relationship.
Boys going through puberty are hard wired to find sexual relief. It is the hormones of puberty hence the word horny. Don't prove your love for someone by having sex with them.
If you are a young teenage you will have several boyfriend throughout high school. Wait until you find someone you truly love and someone who has respect for you as a woman and a person.
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Depends on the gal and the guy. Some gals are very tight and have not stretched their hymen out yet with use of their fingers or dildos or vibrators. I suggest you start working one finger in and working up to two fingers and more and then using a dildo.
Use lots of lube. Lack of enough lubrication accounts for some of the pain. The hymen can also shrink again when years have gone by without any sex. Women who have been used to an average size length of 5-6 inches all their life, and at mid life is singe and dating guys who may be 7 + can experience pain too. Sometimes a guy is just too long and his cock will hit the cervix or to the sides of it which in me caused horrible charlie horse cramps down my leg that wouldnt stop until he stopped. Sex should be pleasurable, not painful.
Since sex ed is rarely taught anymore and those writing in today have no knowledge what so ever, not even about how one gets pregnant, what contraceptives are, how a female can achieve different orgasms...etc. But if you are willing to be self taught, I recommend a wonderful site with about 160 3-4 min videos on sex dating and relationships Its Sex plus with Laci Green.. please look it up on this link for the one on hymens.
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