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do i need to get on birth control?
15/f I have been seeing this guy for awhile we are hooking up or making out but nothing more whenever we hangout. we are good friends he is 17/m and we don't want to be serious. ideally I would like to be in a relationship to lose my virginity but are relationship is great where it is. we have respect for each other and care about each other a lot and we are comfortable around each other. im not one to rush into anything quickly especially with guys and I have a hard time trusting them. it took us awhile like two months to even hookup. we are very open with each other and talk about everything, including sex and he doesn't pressure me or anything. I know he is a good guy and I just want to make the right decision. I am so mature and responsible for my age that its not that im trying to rush anything I just feel so much older and im ready. if he uses a condom and uses it correctly and everything is their really any chance of getting pregnant? if everything does go fine should I still use plan B afterwards if im not on the pill just to make sure? the only reason is I don't want to get on birth control for someone im not in a relationship with so it could just be a one time thing and I don't want it to fuck up my hormones and everything. by the way what are some things I should consider if I decide to go through with this. thanks
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There's a few things I would consider before having sex.
You may think you are ready, and your level of maturity may have something to do with that but even your high level of maturity cannot prepare you for losing your virginity.
I lost mine at age 18, because I had decided that I wanted to get it over with and I thought giving sex would make someone love me. I wasn't ready at age 18 as much as I thought I was.
After that one guy lead to another and to another and to another.. And so on. I regret those decisions so much. I never received the love I thought I would by giving sex, and I didn't do it for me I did if for everyone else because I thought it was something I had to do. Now I'm 21 and about to get married in 60 days. I wish more than anything that I could have saved myself for my husband. I am his first and only, and I wish so much that I could have been the same for him.
I'm not saying that you should most definitely wait until marriage, I'm just saying.. Think about it realistically. Do you see yourself with this guy in 5 years? If not, then what's the rush?? People think sex is no big deal now, but it really is.
Once you lose it you can never ever get it back.. And you will be so emotionally damaged if that first guy breaks your heart. And then you might end up making the same mistakes I did. Because after the first time I thought "what the heck! I'm not a virgin anymore anyway."
Not a good way to feel or a good place to be in your head. Rumors started about me and everyone thought I was a slut.
Sorry for the life story.. All I'm saying is... Make that decision and it's like a domino affect... Everything else will fall down. I don't ever want anyone to go through what I've been through.
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Yeah I think you do.
Bottom line, whenever teenagers start having sex in a committed relationship they end up having it every chance they get. If you wait, that's alot more exposure, more time when a condom break can change your life permanently.
Get on birth control first. I'd recommend still using condoms as well. Two lines of defense are better than one and all, and I have no idea where your guy has been.
Plan B is expensive still. You don't want to rely on that or have to shell out 50 bucks every time you have sex. Plus, it's basically a super dose of birth control. It's not a great idea to fuck with your hormones that much on a regular basis, it's not something you want to be doing a few times a month or more.
It's called emergency contraception for a reason. You just got done telling us how mature you are. Prove it. Wait until you're on birth control and have given it enough time to be effective.
Welcome to the world of adulthood. Self control sucks.
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Ask your gyno about an IUD!
Every girl I've ever met who has one agrees that it sucks to have it put in or taken out or messed with, but after a bit of discomfort you basically don't have to think about birth control for years. No forgetting pills or anything.
Just make sure you ask about what interferes with birth control. Certain types of antibiotics and other drugs can make it less effective. Ask your doc, I can't remember the list but my ex and I had cause to be careful a few times when she was on prescribed medications, if you take anything else ask about it. It may never come up, but you want to know because if it ever did, you know, pregnancy.
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You could make sure to keep a kit of spermicide on hand to use for times when something goes wrong. Or if you aren't sure but want to be covered just in case, to go pharmacist and ask for the morning after pill. As long as taken the next day you should be fine.
I understand the concerns of taking hormonal contraceptives. Perhaps in 6 mos, a yr of 2 years you may be ready. Either you wait until then or find out if your doctor if okay with you having an IUD put in. These things are good for up to 10 years on some kinds, never having to come back out. One is hormonal, the Mirena, but the non hormonal one you may want to check up on on-line is the copper IUD. Something about the property of copper reacts with the lining of the uterus so fertilized eggs can not ever implant. It is carefree, there all the time, its the closest to being as effective as having tubes tied as you can get. You may not want to get it yet, but think about it for the future. You can get it put in by the family gynecologist or planned parenthood is a separate entity who can do the same.
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