Hey everyone.
My name is Chrissy, I'm 22 years old.
I'm married and am expecting a baby girl!
I recently started using this website again.
I had forgotten why I loved it so much. There is a feeling of accomplishment that I get when I give others advice to the best of my ability. It makes me feel as though I matter. And I hope it makes others feel the same way.
I work at as a 911 dispatcher so my profession is to help people. If you need any advice just let me know, I will definitely try my best to help you out. I have been through some pretty rough stuff ranging from relationship problems, to self esteem issues, to family violence.
So there is quite a range of things that I can give advice about due to my own experiences.
Ask me anything. (:
Website: Chrissy's Advice
E-mail: princess_all_4_me@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Location: Texas
Occupation: 911 Dispatcher
Age: 21
Yahoo: princess_all_4_me
Member Since: June 12, 2005
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Last Update: July 23, 2013
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15/f I have been seeing this guy for awhile we are hooking up or making out but nothing more whenever we hangout. we are good friends he is 17/m and we don't want to be serious. ideally I would like to be in a relationship to lose my virginity but are relationship is great where it is. we have respect for each other and care about each other a lot and we are comfortable around each other. im not one to rush into anything quickly especially with guys and I have a hard time trusting them. it took us awhile like two months to even hookup. we are very open with each other and talk about everything, including sex and he doesn't pressure me or anything. I know he is a good guy and I just want to make the right decision. I am so mature and responsible for my age that its not that im trying to rush anything I just feel so much older and im ready. if he uses a condom and uses it correctly and everything is their really any chance of getting pregnant? if everything does go fine should I still use plan B afterwards if im not on the pill just to make sure? the only reason is I don't want to get on birth control for someone im not in a relationship with so it could just be a one time thing and I don't want it to fuck up my hormones and everything. by the way what are some things I should consider if I decide to go through with this. thanks (link)
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Hello!:)
There's a few things I would consider before having sex.
You may think you are ready, and your level of maturity may have something to do with that but even your high level of maturity cannot prepare you for losing your virginity.
I lost mine at age 18, because I had decided that I wanted to get it over with and I thought giving sex would make someone love me. I wasn't ready at age 18 as much as I thought I was.
After that one guy lead to another and to another and to another.. And so on. I regret those decisions so much. I never received the love I thought I would by giving sex, and I didn't do it for me I did if for everyone else because I thought it was something I had to do. Now I'm 21 and about to get married in 60 days. I wish more than anything that I could have saved myself for my husband. I am his first and only, and I wish so much that I could have been the same for him.
I'm not saying that you should most definitely wait until marriage, I'm just saying.. Think about it realistically. Do you see yourself with this guy in 5 years? If not, then what's the rush?? People think sex is no big deal now, but it really is.
Once you lose it you can never ever get it back.. And you will be so emotionally damaged if that first guy breaks your heart. And then you might end up making the same mistakes I did. Because after the first time I thought "what the heck! I'm not a virgin anymore anyway."
Not a good way to feel or a good place to be in your head. Rumors started about me and everyone thought I was a slut.
Sorry for the life story.. All I'm saying is... Make that decision and it's like a domino affect... Everything else will fall down. I don't ever want anyone to go through what I've been through.
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Its me and i realy want ur help!!
as u answered my question about being raped... (link)
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Hello!
Thank you for reaching out to me.
Have you told the authorities yet?
And has it happened again?
Everything is going to be okay.
I'm here for you and am willing to listen.
Remember that no problem is to small or to big for God.
If you need to reach me more privately my
e-mail is
chrissymccluskey@aol.com
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Im 13 and im suffering from rape since i was 9.I was bullied,raped,molested and threatened.I cried,cried and cried but no one hears my voice.I want to be like other children but i am not.I am a bad and dirty girl.I want to end my life and i will and i deserve it.Yesterday I was again raped.Is this why,I came in the world so that people use me like a disposiable toy. (link)
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You are a precious child of God.
What has been happening to you is not your fault.
You are beautiful and worth so much more than this.
By blaming yourself you are letting the abuser win.
Do not let them win. This is their fault, not yours.
You do need to call 911 though, and I hope you have already.
Don't do it in front of the person who is abusing you though, as that might lead to more problems.
I am a 911 dispatcher and I can assure you that the person who answers the phone when you call 911 will help you to the best of their ability.
Everything remains confidential so no one else (Other than the officers) will know any of the details. They will keep it a secret for you.
Everything will be okay. You are loved from me here in Texas. If you need anything just send me a message to my inbox.
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I m weak and have been being called that for 20 years I can't take it I'm ready to leave this place nobody likes me I give people my last an I'm always the one being hurt I fuck hat myself (link)
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I don't have to know any personal details in order to know how to help you. You are not weak. Everything will get better with time, I promise. I have been there and I have contemplated things I shouldn't have. But I prayed and asked God to show me a sign. I opened my Bible to a random page and there it was, my sign. There was a verse right in front of my face that said that it wasn't my time yet and that God would take me when it is my time.
I don't know if you are religious, but that really helped me. Everything will work out.. I promise. Don't give up, just keep fighting.
You are strong and you are worth it.
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What should I do if my parents sell illegal drugs ? Like weed ? (link)
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Hello!
You should definitely call the police.
Make sure that your parents don't hear or see you do this though or it may cause problems.
I hope that helps!
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I feel so lame for seeking out advice on something like this at the age of 20, but I don't know where else to turn. My family friends have this cousin who I am completely and utterly in love with, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't know if he would ever bother giving me a chance, or if I'm wasting my time because he is so close with my brother that he would never want to screw up their relationship. It's literally to the point where I can't even date anyone else because he's all I think about and I don't want him thinking that I want anyone else. Help! (link)
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Hey. You are definitely not lame, I am 20 as well.
I have been in a situation similar to yours before and I recently got over the guy. It drove me crazy for a year, wondering if he liked me, thinking that I myself was crazy for loving someone when I didn't even know truly noticed me or not. The advice I have for you comes from experience. You must find out if he has feelings for you first and foremost. You have to know, otherwise you will always regret not knowing and always think, "what if." When I finally asked the guy that I had feelings for it was not easy at all, let me tell you. But through the process of thinking he actually liked me, I find out that he didn't and when I found that out I was fiiinally ready to let go. I felt so free from the "spell" he had me under. Your situation could turn out to work out in the other direction, and I pray that it does. I think that either way you will win and learn something very valuable and precious.
After letting him go, God brought me the one that I had been blind to seeing because I was too caught up on the other guy. Now I am blessed with the sweetest guy a girl could ask for.
My advice, Take the chance. One way or another it will be worth it. :)
- Chrissy.
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So I have worked things out with my boyfriend after a terrible situation we both went through,I wanted so much to sort things out with him once again so we had a second chance,but now that everything seems to be right again,I feel like I'm not that happy anymore with him and just think that it'd be best if we just finished our relationship,help?I just don't know what to do since I know this is not quite normal. (link)
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I have been in similar situations where I am not happy in a relationship, for whatever reason.
When I wasn't happy and I tried to continue on with the relationship, it didn't get me anywhere. It wasn't until I ended the relationship that I felt such a heavy burden lift off of my shoulders and I felt happy again. It's hard hurting others, but in the end we have to look out for ourselves and make sure that we are happy. It isn't fair to others if we stay in relationships just because we don't want to hurt them. I hope I helped. If you have any questions shoot them to my inbox and I will try my best to help. :)
- Chrissy.
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I have some stomach fat and It makes me feel unhealthy. What can I do to make it 'disappear'? I am 14/F. I want it to be a secret from my parents because they will be worried that they think I'm to fat and I'll go too thin. I'm planning to go on this loosing stomach fat within a month if that's possible. Any ideas? (link)
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Hey!!
Yoo could do some running..or even jumping on the trampoline will help. What I do is 300 crunches..&i jump on the trampoline on occasion.. it's easier then changing yr diet, &it doesn't take up much of yr time. My advice is to start doing them two times a week..&then slowly start doing them every other day..& then merge into it being an every day thing. I do them before I go to sleep.. like right after dinner. It helps me alot.. &maybe it will help yoo too!!
thnx for listening.
I'm here for yoo if yoo need ANY advice.
Caybles....
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so my myspace account was phished. i understand the phishing concept, although when i go to unphish it, the box with the random letters does not show up, what's the deal? (link)
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Dude..the same thing is happening to me right now..&it is ticking me off so badly!!!
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I am a guy who likes to be spanked I also seem to like girls to tell me what to do and i seem tro like it even if its humiliating things they make me do i sem to like it even more . Im not sure why i like these things can u think of why this would turm me on (link)
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Well *hehe* I think that you are just kinky--dont worry about it....It is actually normal--even if it doesnt seem like it.
Some Ppl just like Kinky stuff....&& you just happen to be someone that does--and that is ok.
I personaly--am NOT a guy..lol--so I dont know exactly what guys like--but I do know some stuff that yall like. The stuff that you like is normal.
Thank you for coming to me for advice--I am here for you anytime-and I am sorry if myy advice wasnt good..
Chrissy
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Hey Chrissy! ok so i need help. see, i used to like this guy for 3 years but i recently thought i was over him. then today i heard that he liked this one girl whos a complete slut and it hurt me for some reason. does this mean i still like him? or will it just always feel this way because i liked him for so long? please answer me as soon as you get this! thank you!
--Erika (link)
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Heyy Gurl!!
I think that you mayy still havve feelings for this guy...but if he doesnt notice what a Grreat gurl he is missing out on and if he doesnt notice that this gurl is some slut that will prolly leave him anyway...then..maybe--you should let him make that mistake--as a girl that "likes" him-- that is what you should do--but as a friend..I think that you should talk to him. He is understanding....he is just a lil hardheaded...lol.
here is myy second theory--You mayy just REALLY care about him friend wise--&& you dont want to see him get hurt--but considering you havve liked him for so..long--then I think that you mayy still havve those tiny feelings left for him.
Alls I can do is givve you some advice--but it is up to you to chose whose advice to take...
lovve you!!
Chrissy
Ps: who is the gurl--lol
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So, I was talking with this guy and I'm 15 and he's 16. We were planning on doing it because, I thought, we were basiclly dating. Today, I found out he had a myspace and apparently he has a girlfriend he never told me about or mentioned. I saw the comments she left him saying how much she loves him and then his replys and they were from today. I know this means he's basiclly an ass and I shouldn't be with him or care for him anymore but I really hurt. Should I just not answer his calls and have nothing to do with him anymore or should I confront him or what should I do? Should I tell his girlfriend that he was planning on having sex with me? (I've never talked to her before) Someone please help me before I lose my mind. (link)
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You should havve gotten to know this guyy better before you two planned on having sex. I mean you dont know if he has aids or something.
But If I were you I would tell his girlfriend, or tell him that if he doesnt tell her,then YOU will. Maybe that will convince him to tell the truth. haha.
S0Oo0Oo0Oo---that is myy advice--I hope that I helped. :-D
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I used to really really like this guy named ryan, we almost went out but i guess he got scared or somthing, idk, well then at this party his friend asked him if we were going out, ryan said yes and smiled at me. so everyone thought we were going out but he would never talk! i tried talking to him but he didnt talk much, then when school started someone else asked if we were going out and he said no! i was so confused and heart broken..i seriously really liked him. and now its like half a year later im with my boyfriend of 4 months and i love him but lately ive been thinking about ryan alot and i think i still like him..i always get these hints that ryan likes me but im not sure, he always stares at me, but idk what he wants. How do i find out if he really likes me and how do i get over him. (link)
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Myy advice is to just ask him I mean if you really want to know.
But myy OPPIONION--lol--is that He isnt worth it--he is such a player--and I wouldnt want to get mixed up with him. He is one of those Oh-so confusing guys-lol--but that is basically all guys--haha.
I am REALLY sorry if You dont like that advice--lol! :-(
Chrissy
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i have short hair i spike at the back should i grow it?
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Most Definatly!
Chrissy
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hey im 14/f and my bf is 19/f i dont have a problem with it but i just wondered what do other people think? Well that isnt really my problem. The thing is i havent actually met him. When we meet we are gonna sleep together, he is gonna come such a long way to come see me and im not sure if im gonna do it because i want to or because i feel like i have to because hes gonna come all this way, i dunno the next time ill have a chance, but i do want to, I love him, What do i do? I really like this guy. What do you think about my situation, and what should i do? (link)
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Ok----Here is myy oppinion--but you might not like it--I am not trying to be mean in ANY wayy!
Ok--I havve a 17 yr old b/f and I am 14..so I see where you are coming from.
It isnt good that you havve never met this guyy--what if you tell him No..and he rapes you anywayy?--he could be like 26 or something and be pretending to be 19.
But if you really think that you lovve him--you should wait till marrage--and trust me it will be worth it. Other wise it would be a sin.
DO NOT let him pressure you into having sex..ok..dont!
and if you do havve sex with him-MAKE SURE that yall use protection.
and keep in mind that this guy could go to jail--because enless your parents approve..it is illegal!!
You are like jail bait for him.
So keep things slow...and it will all be worth it in the end.
it is better for at least your mom to approve--because then yall could see eachother a lot more--I havve been there..and done that.
and remember that it really is better if you wait for marrage-because then you will KNOW that yall lovve eachother and there will be alot of trust. Pluss You will Know whether he has aids or not.
Thanx 4 listening--and I hope I helped!
if you havve ANY questions you can e-mail me at pricess_all_4_me@yahoo.com
KiSsYfuRr22
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ok. i have 2 best friends who i've been inseperable from since like 4th grade (one of them though since like kindergarten). and now i'm going into highschool. we're always together, (most of the time lol) i can tell them anything, we have so many laughs and fun times together, and i can totally be myself around them, which is great because i'm really shy. but last year, well technically still this year..lol 8th grade.. the one who i haven't been friends with since kindergarten..lets call her Jen. well Jen has been occasionally telling me some stuff about the other friend "Rachel" about how she annoys her sometimes, and stuff like that. ok so i was just talking to my friend Jen online. and this is sort of what she tells me:
she was like: no offense because i know you are really good friends with Rachel but i really dont like hanging out with her. then she gives me all these reasons why. she also telling me that she thinks Rachel has become conceited, and gave me a reason. "she just like acts immature sometimes and tries to be funny when she's not" thats also something she said. "like I'll be her friend and everything.but i definitely don't want to hang out with her a lot in highschool"
so my question is. do you think it is right of her to say this? we're supposed to be BEST FRIENDS, yet she's saying all this shit behind Rachel's back. i don't want our friendship to just die, i mean i have the greatest times with these two girls. high school will be a huge change and we'll make new friends and everything but i don't want it to completely tear apart our friendship. idk i just can't believe she's saying this because i feel like i have the best times when all 3 of us are together and now if Jen doesn't want to hang out with Rachel it will never be the same. what should i do/say to her? do you think it was right of her to say this? if you want the reasons of why Jen said what she said then give me your email and i'll tell you. thank you. (link)
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Well I dont think that it was right of "Jen" to sayy all that about Rachel. But if that is her oppionion then maybe yall will have to deal with the fact that yalls friendship isnt what it used to be. Someone told me once that you find out who your TRUE friends are in middle School--or Junior High-or whatever--lol.
It kinda sounds to me like "Jen" is worried about what PPl will think about her for hanging out with Rachel, but that is just myy oppionion.
Things happen for a reason--and we all just wish that we knew every reason that God has for doing stuff--but none of us do.
I think that Rachel and Jen need to talk about it with eachother--Jen needs to tell Rachel her feelings----so that yalls friendship can be healed.
Myy advice to you is to get them together so that theyy cann fix it. and it would be good for you to be there too.
Hope I helped..if you havve anyy questions about myy advice e-mail me at princess_all_4_me@yahoo.com
thanx,
Kissyfurr
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Dear Chrissy, I have this friend we'll call me Kissy, she is so great how can I let her know this?
~*Brianna*~ (link)
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Well--I think you just did!?! But if you are talking about someone else-then just tell her. LOL
I love yo Bri!
Kissyfurr
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there is this guy i met, and he got my # and said he would call. he seemed like he really liked me, but i haven't talked to him and it has been 2 weeks what do i do?
Cyan (link)
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Dear Cyan--Maybe he hasnt has the time to call..or maybe he is a liar. If I were you I would have gotten his number too--that wayy--You could call if you wanted. Well--It's okayy Cyan--Maybe he lost your #...I dont know..but I do know that we should tryy and believe the best of everyone--not the worst. So...just hope for the best!
Sorry if that was bad it's just I am kinda rustyy--I havent given advice in a while...I love you gurl!
Kissyfurr
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I LOVE music but i need something new to listen to what are some good bands??
i like mostly rock and altenative music.
5's for anything. (link)
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try Christian music..that's what I listen to..that's the Only thing I listen to! if not that's ok you don't have to take my advice...Lol..good luck!!
Chrissy
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I hate u go fuck urself slut (link)
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look!! I am tired of all this crap!!! I don't know who u are but you need to leave me alone!!! I didn't do anything to deserve this crap!!! so leave me alone!!!!!
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