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AGE GAPS & SEX
hey im 14/f and my bf is 19/f i dont have a problem with it but i just wondered what do other people think? Well that isnt really my problem. The thing is i havent actually met him. When we meet we are gonna sleep together, he is gonna come such a long way to come see me and im not sure if im gonna do it because i want to or because i feel like i have to because hes gonna come all this way, i dunno the next time ill have a chance, but i do want to, I love him, What do i do? I really like this guy. What do you think about my situation, and what should i do?
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Let me ask you, what do your parents think about this? I gaurentee they will be right. Parents are right 90% of the time. What i think? NO,BAD LITTLE GIRL BAD. Drop this guy. first off you shouldnt be pressured into sex, second off your 14 and he's (illegidly) 19. This poses the question why would a 19 year old want to hang with a 14 year old. A 19 year old would want to be at college parties with college girls. Odds are this guy is older than 19. Odds are also he will rape and kill you. I'm very math orientated. I will offer an alternative, if you think he will bring you no harm then what is the harm of having your parents with you when you meet. BTW You dont love this guy, you love what you think he is which is an illusion he weaved in your head so he would be loved by you. Which is easier than it sounds cause damn kids now adays dont listen and are quite stupid which i blame on new cartoons and rap music and the media and society. That is my 2 cents.
If 50% of marriages end in divorce, why would you today in this modern world assume you found the perfect person if you never met them. This will bring no good. Dont think you know someone that you couldnt possible know. What proof do you have that he is 19. What proof do you have that anything he says is true or what he thinks. Does he know that that is illegal even if you say yes? More than likely he is a sexual predator. Be careful.
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Ok----Here is myy oppinion--but you might not like it--I am not trying to be mean in ANY wayy!
Ok--I havve a 17 yr old b/f and I am 14..so I see where you are coming from.
It isnt good that you havve never met this guyy--what if you tell him No..and he rapes you anywayy?--he could be like 26 or something and be pretending to be 19.
But if you really think that you lovve him--you should wait till marrage--and trust me it will be worth it. Other wise it would be a sin.
DO NOT let him pressure you into having sex..ok..dont!
and if you do havve sex with him-MAKE SURE that yall use protection.
and keep in mind that this guy could go to jail--because enless your parents approve..it is illegal!!
You are like jail bait for him.
So keep things slow...and it will all be worth it in the end.
it is better for at least your mom to approve--because then yall could see eachother a lot more--I havve been there..and done that.
and remember that it really is better if you wait for marrage-because then you will KNOW that yall lovve eachother and there will be alot of trust. Pluss You will Know whether he has aids or not.
Thanx 4 listening--and I hope I helped!
if you havve ANY questions you can e-mail me at pricess_all_4_me@yahoo.com
KiSsYfuRr22
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you have got tobe kinding. You love this guy? Where did you meet him? A chat room, Myspace.? Its bound to one of the two. You shouldnt meet this guy he could be a killer or someone that you should not be invovled with you are only 14. Do not meet him or have sex with him or talk to him anymore. You cannot possible love this guy you have never meet. You dont even know if he is 19 && your only 14. A 14 year old and 19 year old invovled together is wrong and he is wrong.
I think you are way over your head. Find a new guy.
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well, i think that you should be extremely careful! if you've never met the guy in ur life, then how are you so sure that he really is what you think he is. he could be a 50 year old drunk that sits infront of the TV and drinks beer all day! and if this is the first time that you "meet" him, you shouldn't sleep with him. i'm not saying any of this because of the age gap. i mean, i know that 5 years might seem like a lot to some people, but that really all depends on the way that each individual looks at it. but my advice is don't sleep with him on the first date. hopefully, he won't be the kind of man that i described, but just be very careful. you might want to have a friend with you if you do decide to meet him. just incase
i hope i helped
xoxo
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HOLD UP LIL ONE!!! you are 14 years old. he is 19 (so he says) 9 tims outta 10 you meet him on my space.
don't even do this. one you don't love him you never really meet him. there is no way sweetie. i'm worried about this one.
how long have you "talked" to his guy? not that long.
what are you going to do when he comes down you guys have sex and then you get pregnant is he going to be around...NO HE IS NOT!
think before you do this. wait let me change that..DON'T DO THIS.
how about this. ask your mother what she thinks about this. if you can't ask her or talk to her about it. then it's wrong!! trust me
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My dad shows me shows on TV like this all the time. At the end, this guy from like CBS ends up arresting these 20-50 year old guys. I thought it was kinda creepy.
They talk via myspace or AIM or something and set up dates where they come and if the CBS guy wasn't there, thoes girls probably would have gotten raped.
And even with just a regural person, who you know well and are positive that you love, always be protected, even if he is coming a loong way.
I know this isn't the answer you probably want, but I think it only is the safe answer.
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I have a very bad feeling what my rating will be...
Your 14 and he is 19. How the DEUCE do you think this is gonna turn out. Do you even have proof he is who he says he is?
And don't be pressured into sex just because he is coming such a "long" distance just to see you and sleep with you. What kind of relationship is that? He is just gonna come and visit so you can have sex? Yeah that is a healthy relationship right there.
To me, there are too many unsolved variables for this even to begin to make sense. It is too risky for my mind and for you to even be considering all of that, is mind boggling. You need to protect yourself more if you are seriously planning on meeting him. And if he is coming all the way out to see you just for sex, then it isn't worth it and there are way to many risks.
Your 14 and I can tell by your answer, you don't love him, and my belief is only reinforced by the fact you have an internet relationship with him, he is 19 and your 14, and that him coming to visit, is just for sex. Don't do anything, especially have sex with him.
Honestly, why are you even considering this?
That is my imput. And I am sure peoples answers will be close to mine as well.
-Ryan
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wow you havent even met the guy and you are talking about having sex with him i personally dont think you should but that is my personal opinion maybe if you have met him and really got to know him and you knew he felt the same way about you then maybe it would be ok but otherwise it needs to be saved for a person you really know
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