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He's all I can think about!
I feel so lame for seeking out advice on something like this at the age of 20, but I don't know where else to turn. My family friends have this cousin who I am completely and utterly in love with, and I don't know what to do about it. I don't know if he would ever bother giving me a chance, or if I'm wasting my time because he is so close with my brother that he would never want to screw up their relationship. It's literally to the point where I can't even date anyone else because he's all I think about and I don't want him thinking that I want anyone else. Help!
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To askjane:
She didn't say it was HER cousin. She said it was a FAMILY FRIEND'S cousin.
To the person who asked the question:
Why don't you just tell him? There's nothing wrong with telling a guy how you feel, as long as he doesn't have a girlfriend already. Please, don't make the same mistake I made by not expressing your feelings. It will spare you a whole lot of confusion and frustration.
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well you know it's not a bad thing to have a crush or to fall in love with your cousin but i think maybe it would be the right thing if you just don't bother on telling him because he is your cousin and having a relationship or dating a family member is just wrong. but anyway life is short, so if you really can't stand it anymore and you want to tell him, then go for it. just be ready for what answer/reaction you will get from him.
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Hey. You are definitely not lame, I am 20 as well.
I have been in a situation similar to yours before and I recently got over the guy. It drove me crazy for a year, wondering if he liked me, thinking that I myself was crazy for loving someone when I didn't even know truly noticed me or not. The advice I have for you comes from experience. You must find out if he has feelings for you first and foremost. You have to know, otherwise you will always regret not knowing and always think, "what if." When I finally asked the guy that I had feelings for it was not easy at all, let me tell you. But through the process of thinking he actually liked me, I find out that he didn't and when I found that out I was fiiinally ready to let go. I felt so free from the "spell" he had me under. Your situation could turn out to work out in the other direction, and I pray that it does. I think that either way you will win and learn something very valuable and precious.
After letting him go, God brought me the one that I had been blind to seeing because I was too caught up on the other guy. Now I am blessed with the sweetest guy a girl could ask for.
My advice, Take the chance. One way or another it will be worth it. :)
- Chrissy.
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it's okay if your 20! were here to help people all ages!:)
you never know until you try! your a person, he's a person! you never know, he can be the nervous one liking you but he's to shy to say anything. but maybe he doesnt like you... but you can make him! hang out with him. maybe you & your brother and the guy all hang out and do something, laugh and tell jokes and be funny. but dont be to shy because he might not notice you. be cool about it all. what's the worse that can happen? become friends with him first and take it step by step, you don't want to be to up front with it because you might scare him away!
you will be totally fine. just pretend like he's one of your friends. and the most important thing to do is act yourself, don't act or pretend to be someone your not just for him to like you. don't lie and DON'T tell him you love him, he will probably be confused and think your weird (haha) :)
i hope i helped, if you have any questions just message me! :)
melissa.
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