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I love writing and thought it would be neat to have an online job.
I had the assumption I would never get hired or have any luck so I set up A few ads. Before I knew it I had a business set up and doing all kinds of services.
I'm 11 and Its awesome. I won't take the whole thing down so don't recommend that.
I want to know as far as hiring people how to go.
Promoting services. Doing them and stuff.
I do want to keep the business and work on it. Although I'm not sure how to maintain it because of my age. With school and keeping it secret.
Thanks and email me
Also I'm a female
With your drive, you can go far dear. There's no reason why you can't have a business because of your age. The only on line job I can think of that is inappropriate would be if you were doing on line sex camning as an underage person. Otherwise, whether its writing or creating things, helping people set up web site design or whatever, the skys the limit.
Understandably, most parents would be shocked to find out their child is a business entrepenuer at an early age as children doing so are very much in the minority. But that doesnt mean a parent wouldn't support it. My 2nd husband has a story of his one daughter who began creating outfits and such for purchase to players on IMVU long ago. She was your age. She asked them if she could have her own bank account and they never questioned it and said okay figuring she wanted to save Christmas and birthday money in it. She then got set up on Pay pal and before long was making approx. $135. a week. She would then begin to order large clothing purchases from Pyramind collection and the parents freaked when packages began arriving that they knew they hadn't ordered so thats how they found out. She wasn't trying to hide it, just independant. She was a good student too and kept up with her school work.
That will most likely be the parents biggest concern is your keeping up with school so I see no reason to not tell them. It would be good to have their support.
As for hiring others, not many kids your age may have the skills or if they did, not the drive to stick with it for long. You may have to hire out to older kids and thats when it may become awkward. If the parents notice you associating in any one older than you, like teens. Depending on the nature of your business, perhaps you could tell a teacher what you have going on and ask for their recommendation, if they know of any students they think would be perfect to fill the spot for you. As far as legal implications, I believe that the usual laws that pertain to grownups for business like having a business license and deducting taxes from an employees gross pay, don't apply until you are of legal age at 18. But thats where it would come in handy to have your parents to help check on that for you.
Not knowing what your business is, I can't really recommend where to advertise, promote it. Think on who you are selling your service to. If its young people, perhaps you can have your ad on all your social media sites. I know of many adults starting up a business recently who created a facebook page for their business and asked people to post their page to all their friends so they could meet their goal of 500 likes. A recent example had over the 500 likes, 3 days after creating the page and the word keeps getting spread and its free.
If you're going after older people for customers, other than people in their 70's and older who tend to not be as much on computer or even have one, everyone would eventually see an ad online. Some local coffee houses have bulletin boards where you can leave your business ad/poster/card. If you have a good printer, you can design and create your own business card. Have these on you always. Hand them out to all the adults who know you. Offer to show them examples of your work so they will have the confidence to pass your cards on to other adults if thats your target market for customers. Often, us older folks have trouble keeping up with technology that is constantly changing on us. I know if my husband didn't know more than me, that I would hire a teen computer whiz to sit and teach me how to use whatever. All I need to have is confidence that they know what they are doing. Once you have a few satisfied customers, ask them if they are willing to write a letter of recommendation for you and your busines. Have copies of these to pass out to people. Hope this helps you some. Good luck dear.
My girlfriend wants me to finger her, but I don't know how to transition from kissing to start touching her.
Ask her how she would like you to do that as she's the one asking you to finger her to begin with.
If she has no clue or is open to anything, just do whats most comfortable to you or whatever you like. Just stop kissing and start fingering. Or you could move the kisses in a trail down her body til you get to the area and then begin to finger her.
If I were you and you are just beginning to explore and get familiar with her or the female body and its capabilities sexually, then I would suggest doing some reading on how her parts work.
Prep before fingering: make sure you have no rough skin,especially at the corners of nail beds where dry tough skin there could scratch the tender flesh inside her and no ragged edges to finger nails. Make sure to have lube on hand. You can check to see if she has gotten wet as her pre lubricant works well but there are off days when there isn't as much. Always ask if she needs you to use lube, even on your fingers and her private parts as lube seems at least for me to provide a better friction than my own fluids. Some women if you get them to orgasm by doing this, will gush, the female equivalent of the males ejaculation and this liquid is much thinner and again, in my experience rinses away lube and any thicker fluid of my own. I am older but when young I still had the same issues.
Then the next would be for you to learn some facts about the clit for stimulating that for orgasm or stimulating her g spot, that rough patch of skin only 2 inches in on the belly side of the vagina behind pubic bone. When stimulated correctly, it will swell with blood like a penis does and she can have a totally different orgasm experience with that. If you want any links to info on this, let me know, otherwise...good luck and have fun and remember to communicate and ask her if she likes it or wants you to move to massage just a fraction over or what. Thats the most important thing when doing anything sexual with your partner. If you do write me, do not put request in where comments go. You'd have to go to my column and choose to write to me from there or I won't be able to answer under commments field.
I have natural hair and I want to keep it curled, but when I ge my ends trimmed, the hairdresser has to straighten it. What do I do to keep my ends cut without having to straighten my hair?
When hair is wet it is easier to do a trim and there are special tools hairdressers have to hold hair in place so they can trim ends. I should think it would work for all hair. Ask them about it before making an appointment. If they say there's no way to trim curly hair without straightening it, then call other random hairdressers in your area and ask the same question. That way you will know if you hairdresser is doing things the best way or if there truly are other ways to go about it. Then ask yours if she can do what ever the others told you. If she can't or won't, perhaps she simply dosnt have enough experience with or doesn't like working with curly hair. In that case, then go to one of the others for trims from now on.
22/f, 28/m
My boyfriend has proven himself disloyal and dishonest. We have been trying to rebuild trust and have been trying to make things work.
He has fixed what he has done wrong before: he got deleted his dating apps/websites, removed random girls he has randomly added in the past, etc. And he has been giving me a lot of reassurance telling me that he's all mine, he's not seeing, dating, or talking to anyone else, he only wants me, and for the past two months he has not done anything that I would not approve of.
For those who doesn't know what snapchat is: I don't have it, but from what I have heard. It's where people can follow you and when that person is being followed posts a picture, it can send it to a list of people/everyone that is following you on snapchat. But the thing is, it's a picture app and you only have about 5-10 seconds to see it before the picture disappears.
I went through my boyfriend's phone (please don't judge me on that), and one of the apps that were opened was snapchat, and his ex-girlfriend's name was on it. Obviously, the picture was gone but I became suspicious on why he was looking at her picture or why she would even send one.
So, I asked if he used snapchat. He says that he hardly uses it, but he does use it to follow people on it. He said he has never received or sent any nudes and that the only time he uses it is when he would like to post pictures that he wouldn't on facebook such as food, travel pictures, etc. For some reason, I'm having a hard time believing him. He told me that he has not spoken to his ex-girlfriend since December (the last time we argued over him lying to me about telling her that he missed her) and that he has been completely over his ex since early January.
Do I have anything to worry about? Should I just let it go? How can I trust him again? How should I approach this situation if I should talk to him about this?
I have the feeling that the two of you may not even have been dating long enough to really get to know each other, to have visible confirmation of his consistancies...the good ones. If a handful of months, it usually is not enough for most people to really learn who their partner is at core.
Deep down inside of all of us, at core there is a mixture of what we believe in, our morals, what we stand for, what we are supportive of, etc.... that will spur us to act a certain way in life. this is what's called our true nature. People can attempt to hide the not so good parts of their true nature but it will always find ways to make itself known in little, sometimes subtle ways. You have had a glimpse of some so I would dare say, either he is not mature enough to realize how to treat a partner in a relationship and out of naivity he is making mistakes of inexperience or he has shown you a portion of his true nature and since people don't just change overnight or in a months time or so, (usually takes years or a lifetime) you'd have to be okay with him being just as he is, no improvement. Since this man is 28, he's had enough time to figure out basics of relationships and that women want to be the only one he gives his attention and love too, not others on social websites or in person.
Sometimes, a womans intuition or subconscious picks up on some of these things and thats why she can't trust him and knows she never really will. That's reason to break up. Or the woman herself has a string of failed relationships because she has a problem for whatever her own reason not being able to trust even the most trustworthy people.
As Razhie said, the fact you felt you had to check his phone is a sign that you can't trust him whether he's innocent or not. Even if innocent, something is missing in how he builds you up, supports you and communicates with you. Also I would guess in communicating, he seldom compliments or tells you how special you really are...at random times, not only when he is trying to prove he's done nothing wrong on social sites. I'm on a 2nd marriage and this guy has from the beginning told me every day something to confirm in me that he has only eyes for me. One day he'll comment on how he loves my sense of humor, another, how having me with him while doing mundane things makes life more exciting and fun, how I have the exact shape and looks that he finds attractive, How another woman with the same shape and looks is not attractive because we observe other people together and he points out that she is maybe the same on the outside but could never match the person I AM on the inside. He affirms that he is attracted to the whole package, me on the inside and outside. I hear often 'i love you', or 'I couldnt keep my eyes off your chest in that shirt today, etc... the confirmations continue on and on and there's something said every day. A drunk hostess once asked him to dance, well, sort of, she grabbed his hands and pulled on him. I know he cant stand dancing and that he didn't even have much respect for her as a person and I laughed at his discomfort knowing that whatever she tried with him while dancing to catch his interest would never work in a million years. He's mine and I know it, know it so securely that other women can talk to him, flirt, and I am still the one he is in love with and wants to be in bed with every night. I hope you can find the guy that inspires that confidence in you. Sounds like this guy doesn't.
Why are there some people who rarely seem to experience failure? Like they have some magic answer to achieving success all the time? I work so unbelievably hard at the things I do and with the utmost level of passion and enthusiasm, keep an open mind and am always going for things and putting myself out there. I'd say I fail 90% of the time and succeed 10%. Of course, I'm grateful for when I do succeed, but I just don't think I'm reaching my full potential; as if I don't hold this magic key certain other people seem to have.
My brother is one of these people who never fails. In high school he was top notch at just about everything: ranked in top 10, amazing musician, star athlete, organized, level-headed, "kind", you name it. He didn't get rejected from any schools and got full scholarships. Now a few years into college, he continues on that path and is starting to get opportunities for really impressive career endeavors. No internships or programs ever turn him down. My parents seem to think that hard work is the answer to everything, but quite frankly I put my entire soul into what I do and don't achieve the way he does. Why are there some people who just KNOW what to do to achieve success? They make me feel like I am blind.
I understand that comparing myself to other people is not the answer, but watching my brother and some of my friends/classmates/colleagues right now achieve the kind of success I so envy is blinding my ability to see things clearly. It's also making my view of a bright future somewhat dim. I am terrified I will have to live at home forever or be miserable in a career that makes me a living but that I don't enjoy (I am in the process of attempting an extremely difficult, competitive career path in the arts).
I know these are questions without clear answers, but please. help me out with some level-headed ideas as to what I am doing wrong or why I feel this way or anything really.
Not sure this applies. But my husband and I often notice people who are applying themselves as much as the others who find success and yet nothing happens to them in life. Example, a really talented singer is doing everything right, she has amazing talent and yet no matter how much exposure she gets, no one really takes notice. Then you have a rock band with a lead singer who has an awful voice and somehow without even trying, they become popular overnight and go on to produce many hit albums. Hubby calls this situation, "Being born with the Golden Spoon stuck up your ass". It means that no matter what this person does, whether they work hard for it or not, whether they even have the ultimate talent or not, they are going to find success and all people will think they are the greatest thing. Neither of us have the 'so called golden spoon' and we have to work hard for everything and yes, it doesn't seem fair. But when you look at the population as a whole, those born with such luck are in the minority. There are more people like you and I who have to work hard for every inch of gain, as it doesn't just fall into our laps like for the lucky few.
Hy bro my name is honey I live in Pakistan lahore
I have a good relationship with my girlfriend
From 4 year but I can't do sex with her because she
Don't want to sex from for year ago ? She always
Said me that she's not type of that all girls
Who do sex ? But I want to do sex with her
So plz tell me who I forced her to do sex
With me ? Give me some tips ? Take care a lot
I am waiting for ur ans ?
I second what Adviceman said. I also want to point out another possibility, that this "girlfriend" as you call her may in her heart not feel like anything more than just a friend.
While it is possible for people of the opposite sex to be close friends, that is only one of the important criteria needed for two people to be able to successfully be a dating couple or married couple. The other would be to have chemistry together sexually, romantically. This would be that invisible but strongly felt sexual pull towards the other. So its possible she has no sexual chemistry with you but is still considers you a best friend.
If you are looking for a girl with whom you can be intimate with sexually, then you need to find one who has sexual chemistry with you. You can not make chemistry happen between you. Its a matter of the pheremones your body produces not being a good match and this is something a person can't change about themselves.
Is ayurvedic treatment really good for treating with sugar?
Lots of people seem to be asking the same question these days. It's best to talk to a person who offers Ayurvedic treatment to find out if they can treat you for whatever particular thing ails you. They would know better than anyone else. And they shouldn't charge you just for the free advice of answering that question and explaining to you how and why it works. And kudos to you for wanting to take interest in seeking the best options for your own health. I have not heard or read anywhere about Ayurvedic being good for a particular disease but then that type of health practice, though common in India is still very rare and unknown in the U.S. so it may be hard to find other people just like you with the same issue who are using such treatment and can tell you of their results. That's like hunting for a needle in a haystack. You will have to do the same as any of the rest of us and listen to all the options from both Medical doctors and all the various natural health systems out there. Of course people are going to promote their method as being the best and leave you still wondering if all say theirs is best. What you will have to do in the end is make the best educated guess you can and just go with it. That's what I have to do. But keep in mind that if you've already been diagnosed with diabetes or pre diabetes, that you take full responsibility for any results of choosing any treatment other than the Drs and medical system. Read books and do research on the computer as to what Ayurvedic is good at treating. The net is full of info. but as i said, you can always ask a practitioner. GOOD LUCK!
So long story short a while ago I bought a replica gold Pandora bracelet from somebody online after my real one was stolen, to replace the feeling of having one without spending another $1200. It's high quality and looks almost the same as the real one. It even says Pandora on it.
So basically I have a replica gold Pandora bracelet and I also have an authentic silver Pandora bracelet that I was gifted by my fiance.
She's wanting to give me ANOTHER gold (replica) Pandora bracelet in trade for my Fendi wallet.
In the past I worked for Pandora and I got a discount to buy my fiance's mother a silver Pandora bracelet (and also my old real gold Pandora bracelet that was stolen) but my mother doesn't have one. I've asked my mom before if she wanted one and she said no but I felt like she was just saying that because they're expensive and she didn't want to seem jealous or petty.
The silver authentic Pandora bracelet is $65 which isn't too bad if you have extra money and why I could afford the one for my fiance's mother. The gold authentic Pandora bracelets start at $1200 so you can see the obvious price difference.
The fake one is $50 and like I said it looks almost exactly the same as the real one except for one minor difference that I only notice because I worked for Pandora.
I really want her to have one because I want her to feel like she has something nice and glamorous and I want to be able to buy her charms in the future for it. What I don't want to happen is for her to bring it to a store and have somebody with a very good eye notice that it looks a tiny bit different on the inside of the clasp and ask her if it's fake but I really don't think anybody will because it's VERY SMALL difference.
I also don't want her to look online for charms though and wind up finding out the real ones are $1200 and heckle me about where I got the money to buy her one...though I figure I could just tell her I got a really good deal at a estate sale or something.
Should I give it to her or should I just keep it for myself?
While you worked at Pandora, did the mother in law ask you to get her the bracelet there with your discount or was it just a gift. And if a gift, was it for no special reason at all or for her birthday or Mothers day or some such event? It's true that most parents will see any gift from a child as a special thing given from their heart in love and treasure even the sloppily home made art and craft thing. You know your Mom better than we could ever guess. She is the type of person who prides herself in owning name brand things? Does she seem at times to have issues with her self esteem? Does she get jealous easily? Does she have a typically suspicious nature and will dog it til she discovers all she can about a gift of a bracelet to her now. Considering you have a wedding coming up and probably are saving every penny to go into paying for some of the things, even if the parents are pitching in, it will seem instantly out of place for you to spend such an amount on a bracelet that is even more needed time wise right now for a wedding. Making up a story because you think she'll require it when she doesn't will cause more problems if it was no big deal to mom that she has a replica. Then Mom will be disappointed that you didn't trust her enough to tell the truth and level with her.
If you were asked to get the bracelet while working there at your discount for mom in law, thats one thing and the fact you no longer work there, no mom in her right mind would expect her daughter to gift her also with an authentic same thing with out the discount now. She may be sad she missed out on the opportunity but realistically, it's not going to happen and she knows it. What you are struggling with could be more in your mind than a reality. Your worry is that Mom is going to react like a child and make comparisons and want to be your only favorite parent and get jealous if any other adult gets that kind of attention from you and throw a tantrum of anger at you for not getting her the same exact thing. That sounds like grade school kids and thankfully most adults no longer have that sort of issue. If you are saying your mom acts like a 3rd grader all the time, then its your Mom who had a problem and no matter what the situation, will always be comparing any of your actions towards her with those towards his mom. It could get as petty as, how come you call her more often than me. How come you talk to her for an hour but me only 15 minutes?
In all situations, I prefer telling the truth to making up stories cus stories are hard to keep straight as time goes on.
You may have come up with this bracelet idea for mom out of the only frame of reference you personally have, one of struggling with your own self esteem so you automatically think Mom will have the same issue as you, when that may not be so. You could be worrying over nothing. As has been said already, what if she doesn't like wearing bracelets? I certainly don't as I have bony wrists and it's uncomfortable. I prefer wearing rings and necklaces for jewelry. So if I got a ring and mom in law got a bracelet, something totally different, I wouldn't be getting upset that I didn't get the same thing as the other did...do you see where I am going with this? I truly would appreciate the gesture of the gift but would stick it in a jewelry box and never wear it. What good is a gift like that. Surely you know what your own Mothers tastes are and what her favorite things are, favorite color, etc.... and it should only be a very odd coincidence that she and mom in law have the very exact same tastes in things. You're a female, how many girls your age including yourself like it when you happen to be wearing the exact same thing? Women generally don't even like that. We take pride in being the only one to own a...... whatever the item is, a particular dress, pair of shoes or handbag and would be truly upset if even two of your friends bought the same dress and purse to match yours. It wouldn't matter if one was name brand and the other a replica, just the fact that others have copied to look just the same as you would bug most women.
The real issue here is non communication with your mom. If she has come to you with the proposition of you giving her your name brand wallet in exchange for, her replacing the bracelet you had stolen with a replica of it, then it would seem she has the money for a buying a bracelet herself but is not interested in one, she seems to have a greater interest in the wallet. I would just tell mom I already bought a replacement for myself with a replica as I CANt afford the real one now with not working there. Then ask her about her interest in the wallet. Would she like one of her own, the real thing or is a replica okay? As your money is tight with the wedding coming up. Your time might be better spent searching for a replica of the wallet or a steal on the real thing and giving it to her as a gift. So have a talk with Mom and if she cares not about bracelets but really wants the wallet, offer to give her yours, even used, or search for and get her a replica as a gift.
I have friends, but I'd like to have a lot more. I'd like to have as many as possible and to feel like I've made a difference in as many lives as I can. I just want to make an impact in people's lives and I want to be liked by a lot of people. I don't mean to sound desperate or needy or anything, I've just been inspired by one of my role models, a guy named Phil, to try to commit as many acts of kindness as I can, rather than stopping at being nice enough.
My question is about how to go about it. I want to do nice things for people without looking like I'm trying too hard, but how? Do I look for nice things to do? Should I do things like bring my classmates and coworkers cookies or coffee or something like that? Should I only do nice things when the opportunities to do so present themselves? How can I be more like Phil and be the best person I can be?
I agree, stick with just opportunities that come up. So the issue then becomes, being able to spot an opportunity to do random acts of kindness. While its a good idea to show kindness to people you do know, it has an even greater impact when that person is someone you don't know.
Examples, you let the person behind you in line for a cashier go in front of you because they're in a hurry and pressed for time or have less to purchase than you. Or someone is short on change for a purchase and you pull it out saying, I've got that for you. It could happen anywhere. On way walking home from somewhere you see an older person getting out of their car trying to carry as many bags of grocery to their front door as possible and you rush over and offer, here, let me help you carry those to your door. You witness someone dropping something of theirs and unaware, you do whatever you can to catch up with them and return it to them. Sometimes, all it takes is being willing to be a listening ear to someone you witness just had a boyfriend break up with them. Or offer to give a hug to someone who looks really depressed. Hugs actually do help in dealing with sadness or depression by raising their levels of feel good hormones. Do not be surprised to find many refuse your offers or help. In time you'll get better and better at it.
Heres a random act of kindness story that happened to my sister who was in a long time at the store and so starting talking with the lady infront of her in line. My sis is a widow with 4 kids at home, lives too far away from family for support and has one barely functioning car and no money to replace the washer that broke and couldn't be repaired over a year ago. Something the lady said made my sister mention that and the fact she was actually spending her last cash today to get the few items her family really needed. The woman offered to give her some cash and did so. However, once my sis left the store, the woman had enough time to think about doing something even better. the cash was needed indeed but the greater need was for a washer. SHe'd talked to her husband and they agreed to buy my sister a brand new washer if she could find her. She waited for my sister to exit the store and asked for her address and phone number stating her and her husband would order a brand new washer delivered to her home.
She of course broke down and cried. It's the people who are the most needy who will be the greatest best by any act of kindness, even if its not a financial one but just your service or help, like knowing the young couple with kids want to go out once in a while but right now can't afford a babysitter and you offer to watch the kids for free one night just to bless them. Good luck and God bless you dear.
I'm a 14 year old Indian girl. I'm currently in the 9th grade in a school in Delhi but I really want to go to boarding school abroad. I'm not a very distinguishable student but I play the violin at a grade 3 level. My parents cannot afford to send me to a boarding school abroad so I will need some kind of financial aid. Are there any ways to do this and how can I make myself a stronger candidate?
I do not know if there is financial aid to help a high school kid go to a school abroad. I do know that many college age people do end up going to college in another country though, thats more common. If your biggest reason for wanting to attend school in another country is wanting to experience a different country, then it doesnt necessarily have to be school that you go for. There are quite a few very independant teens, who after graduating, go touring another country just for the experience of seeing somewhere else before they get settled and married with kids and not likely to be able to do so later.
See how you feel in a couple years as you're closer to the time of graduating high school and preparing for college, and start checking then into which countries are easier to get into for college. I know the US always sounds attractive to those from other countries but there may be other countries more open to and who actually welcome foreign exchange students and have the structure to help foreign students go to school. I've heard that Sweden actually seeks foreign students and offer scholarships but it probably applies only to college age. Heres an article on it.http://www.thelocal.se/20140115/sweden-needs-more-international-students
If you are unable to look up such things at home, write in with a list of what countries you are interested in attending college in and perhaps I or someone else can find links to information on those countries for you.
Okay. So I had a girlfriend who I was dating for three weeks (I'm a thirteen year old girl by the way) I know it was a short time but I had been crushing on her for ages and I was (maybe still am?) in love with her. She has a friend who she was close with, too close with, out of school with texting and stuff it was fine. But at school her friend (everyone in this situation is a girl, this is at an all girls school) was all over her, and she barley spent any time with me at school. I told her I was uncomfortable with this and she said that her and her friend wouldn't be separated by a boy or girl, and that if I wasn't comfortable then I should leave. I said that I will always love her but I couldn't be in a relationship where I was unhappy. So I broke up with her nicely and we left it at that. The next day we didn't speak to each other at all. I didn't want to abandon our friendship so I asked if she still wanted to be civil. She said Ahaha, no. We hadnt spoken in about two weeks after that. During this time there was a girl that I had also previously crushed on, and as it didn't seem like girlfriend 1 wanted anything to do with me, 2 days after I broke up I got together with girlfriend 2. Girlfriend 2 is kind and pretty and sweet, I can't find 1 flaw with her. But once with her I realised that I had moved relationships too quickly and I was still dwelling on girlfriend 1. But I thought that if I broke up with girlfriend 2 it would ruin a chance to date her when I was ready to move on. I still dwelled on Girlfriend 1 at times, telling my friends I hates her to suppress my feelings. And then I got more into the relationship with girlfriend 2 and we told each other we loved each other so much and stuff with love hearts and a billion kisses on texts, exetera. But deep down I'm not sure wether I love her like that, or she's just a distraction. Yes I know! I could be being a real bitch but I'm super confused and that's why I'm asking for advice to help me with decideding what to do with things. Anyway, so I'd have been dating girlfriend 2 for 2 weeks tomorrow, we've got each other gifts and stuff for our two week anniversary. But then tonight girlfriend 1 text me saying this exactly:
So
Um hi
This is just to say I'm really sorry for being such a bitch two weeks ago and I know I'm probably the last person you'll ever want to speak To again
But I'm willing to take up your offer on being civil if not friends again?
It's just that I do miss having you as a friend (let alone girlfriend) because you were an amazing person I appreciated having in my life even if I didn't show it much
So
Wanna be friends again?
Seeing this instantly made any progress I made go down the drain as old feelings were brought up again. Girlfriend 1 doesn't know I'm dating girlfriend 2. Old feelings were brought up and I agreed to try being friends again. I asked her about her sudden change in feelings after 2 weeks, she said that she missed having me in her life. I think she may want me back from his she's put things, I think she'd wait awhile before she asked anything though. But if she does want me back I feel like I'd want her back as well. But then there's girlfriend 2 and I think I may like girlfriend 2 as well, but who am I kidding? I think I still like girlfriend 1. Someone please tell me what I should do!!! I'm so confused and upset and I really need some help. Thanks :(
This sort of thing happens often whether it is same sex or opposite sex couples. It is especially more common when those involved are older and just don't know what they are looking for in a partner or too young and starting out to have any previous experience with this.
Think back to how you felt when 1st girlfriend left you for another. You may have heard the saying that two wrongs don't make a right. This is where you are at right now. For if you leave #2 for #1, you will be doing the same thing to her that #1 did to you. You will be hurting her when she's done nothing to hurt you and doesnt deserve such treatment, just because you happen to love two people at the same time.
There are relationships like that which do work out for couples who have more than one they love at the same time but all partners are aware of the other and have given their okay for the one person to have two partners, in your case two girlfriends. It is however very rare as it is intensely much harder to handle than just one relationship and most older adults can't even handle the complexity of it. However I have heard of teens who are able to make it work. I do not think this will be necessary in your case and most likely won't work but just in case you end up at a stalemate with both girls and neither is willing to give you up, then it's something to at least mention.
My advice would be to stay with #2. Even though #1 wants you back in her life. Life is about forgiveness when hurt by someone and giving a person a 2nd chance. However in your case, it would mean hurting someone else. So you will need to be clear with first girlfriend that you found someone really sweet and are dating her and have feelings for her while at the same time your feelings for the first one (her) never went away so now you feel torn between two and don't want to give either up. She needs to know this as this is the risk we all run when we break up with someone and change our minds. The person we break up with just may find someone new. It happens to adults too dear and sometimes, that person is now happily married so there is no chance of getting back together with the other. Its how life turns out sometimes. It sounded like she was just asking to be friends cus she missed you, but I am guessing she is hoping for more which you can not give now without either cheating on your second girlfriend without telling her you're back with an earlier girlfriend at the same time you're dating her, or you tell her and break her heart. This is what's called “Being between a rock and a hard place, you're being squeezed to make a right decision and none is going to be great but there will always be one that is a bit better than the other and is part of what learning to make mature decisions as you grow up, is all about. The best would be to be honest with the old girlfriend. You are not responsible in this situation for doing something terrible to her as she did to you, even though her feelings may be hurt either way.
At your age, most relationships do not have a track record of lasting long anyways, months only usually, it comes with the territory of just learning about relationships through experiencing them. Its not an excuse, just saying that in time, most likely you and number 2 will decide to agree to part on good terms and move on to someone else. So if your first girlfriend is willing to take you back as just friend now without being her girlfriend and wait until you are single again and available, then problem solved. It doesnt change the fact you have feelings for both. But even adults find themselves attracted to or wanting someone else when commited to another. Just because they have those feelings doesnt give a person freedton, its best to use self-control, and choose to not pursue the other, if they are not single. Even adults mess up on this but more do get it right.
If being friend only to first girlfriend is something that you are sure would make yourself too tempted to take her back and dump #2, then it may be best to explain to her that you just can't do that right now and be just friends because of the feelings you have for #2, as you be too tempted then to do the same to #2 as she did to you. You can tell her you forgive her and still have feelings for her, as also for the other and that the right thing for you is to stick with your commitment. In the end, its all your decision and part of your learning process. There is no easy way for a happy ever after endings. Someone isn't going to be happy with the results or at worst, someones heart will be broken.
I used to have bright blonde hair, just lately thanks to the hairspray I use my hair is more brown than blonde. I'm going to start using sheer blonde hairspray since it sprays on clear without changing the color more, but I'm wondering how I could get my blonde hair back? I heard sunlight was good for it, so is there any hair product I could use that would attract sunlight? It doesn't even have to be a hair products as long as t doesn't damage my hair.
When my middle daughter was a pre teen, she wanted golden high lights in her hair, I had fried my hair so badly before I had kids that I was still leery about usage of hair dyes, so we checked at the pharmacy and found a product called Sun-In. You comb it through your damp hair and then let the sun do the rest. They claim using a blow dryer on warm will help speed up the process. I looked on line and see there are several versions available but we used the one with lemon in it. My daughter used it every time she was done washing her hair. It wasn't harsh and it did an ideal job of lightening her hair. It slowly turned her from a medium brunette to a golden honey blonde, and since I saw her on a daily basis, I didn't notice the change until one day a woman in a park came up to me and said, "Is that blonde girl over there yours? She just tripped and fell and is crying." I was about to say I had no blonde daughters when I looked where she was pointing and realized, my daughter was now a blonde. Here's a link but call pharmacies in your area to see if any still carry the product. I am sure they do. The package just looks different than it did back when we used it.
http://www.sun-in.com/lemon.asp
OK Firstly i would like to apologize for the length of this. To begin with i am 15 yrs of age and i have realized that since i was 14 years i had been attracted to older guys. i mean older guys like 3 years older and more. i am really embarrassed by that fact but i this just me.
so i dated this guy who is 23 years .he was perfect mature enough and never made me do anything i didnt want to do.he was really sweet and he took my age into consideration.He was never rude to me and was quite honest.the problem was that my mum knew about him. she thought we just spoke and were friends. so i decided to break up with me and i regret it dearly. i want him back although he said we are not meant to be.i have tried dating other guys but i dont have any feelings for them and they have a lot for me. i dont want to break any hearts. Every time i try to tell him ( my ex) how i feel he says he dont believe me and that i was only being nice because that is the way i am.now i am depressed and horny about him .i have never felt sexually attracted to anyone and i cant.help!!!
You may be more mature for your age while guys your age are less mature so it's natural to feel attracted to older men, however, at 18 males have to be careful. Even if a female younger than 18 was perfectly willing, they can be arrested for having sex with a minor. I know it may not sound fair to you but imagine if someone else found out and squealed on him and thats what happened to him, how bad you would feel. Its a tough spot you're in, but to protect any guy you may date, either he be under 18, or you wait until you turn 18 to be with older males.
The reason there are laws regarding when it's ok for young people to have sex and when its okay to drink legally, is only for their protection. The laws have to be a general age of when those making the laws felt that young people would be mentally mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come with having sex (protecting against disease and pregnancy and for drinking, not driving while under the influence at these particular ages.
To be honest, they are actually being very generous with choosing those ages, as the pre frontal cortex of the brain responsible for good decision making is not done growing or mature until we all reach our mid 20s. For some, our brains mature a little earlier and others, more towards the late 20s.
I will say that at your age, I did not find any guys sexually attractive, though I got horny too. I just took care of it with masturbating.
It seems this 23 yr old guy was willing at one point but after a break from you he changed his mind, and mind you, he wasn't even 25 yet so its possible he wasn't thinking either of the danger he placed himself in by dating you and having a sexual relationship. He may be confused as to what to say to you, may be feeling guilty as to waking up and changing his mind. Someone who knows what was going on, may have threatened to tell the police if he went back to you so he is staying away and trying to convince you that what you felt for him wasn't for real. I know it hurts, and you may never know the reasons, but truly it is for the best, not your best as far as your heart is concerned and I don't expect you to see the wisdom in waiting until you turn 18 to have sex with a guy older than you while dating him. I was one of those who was mature at my age and just after I turned 20, got married to a nice guy 24, from church. It turns out there were signs there, that he would not be a good choice. and there certainly were incidences after I married him. I may have been mature dear, but I was lacking life experience to really know how to deal with relationships and too naive to see the signs before me. I ended up being verbally abused for 30 yrs of marriage before I left at the end when he was just beginning to become physically rough with me as well.
I wish I knew better back then, but there really is no way for teens or people in their 20's to really know any better from experience. Thats when it comes in handy to have older people you feel comfortable bearing your heart to, ones you can trust who really know you well. Its too embarassing for most to talk to their mom about such things if mom is uptight about talking about sex and not open minded. I had 3 daughters dear. I know when they became horny and offered to buy them sex toys, when they were entering high school I asked them to watch closely the girls who were in and out of relationships all the time and what happens to them. They observed girls getting so upset as you when things didn't work out as they hoped, the worry, the heartbreak and all, took concentration away from grades and they noticed classmates failing on tests or in certain classes. They all decided I was right, that it was better to wait until they turned 18 before even dating and having sex. They could have all the male friends they wanted. However, I did say that if by chance, they meet a male friend for whom there was a strong mutual attraction to the point they might want to have sex, that all they needed to do was tell me and I would make sure they had contraceptives and condoms to protect againt disease as well. If any guy was interesting in just dating, he was welcome to come hang out at our house. Though they all had male friends, none ever took them up on coming to our home. And they all waited on dating. Not all Moms will be as easy to discuss dating and sex with as me, but if you have anyone who you trust, its always good to get the perspective of an older person who knows you...hopefully someone older than 25 whose mental thought processes have matured by then. I wish you the best. Just be patient, it takes lots of time to get over someone when there is a break up.
hi. i had unprotected sex with my boyfriend a week after i saw my periods so i took nordette pill the same day and the following day.now im seeing my periods again in the same month but the blood is dark.do i have a problem or is it normal? plz help im stressed
Even with out the pill, I had times in life when my period was delayed due to illness, stress or regulating to the timing of other women I was around. In these cases, the blood was a darker brownish color for about 2 days followed by a pale pink for a half to full day before starting regular flow. This happens often with women regardless of their birth control method and shouldnt be need for concern. There are side affects to any hormonal birth control and below is a site for yours so you can look it up. Break through bleeding for first 3 months is not uncommon so if that happens too, its part of what comes with taking the pill. There are more side effects that are just a hassle or uncomfortable or could be a severe reaction and the Dr. needs to know, so read the list carefully.
I went on line just by searching for the word Nordette and here's one of the links:
http://www.drugs.com/mtm/nordette.html
From what I read,Sounds to me like the pill must be taken daily or at least no further apart then 24 hrs for a missed pill. It does say if you miss a day you increase your risks of becoming pregnant.
So since Nordette is your protection, I must assume if you say you had no protection that you weren't taking the pill for a period of time. If you find it too difficult to take it regularly, then you may want to ask you Dr. about a no fuss contraceptive like the implant under the skin, the patch, the shot or IUD, and that way you won't miss any days. It is also important to start taking the whole package at the time it suggests like the Sunday following your period to start a package. I do not know why it must be started at that time buts thats what the article says.
hi. i want know...on the trigestrel pills there are 4 kind of colours white,red,yellow and brown can you explain to me how they work acording to the colours
I can't say for sure as I've never taken them myself. But logically thinking, since there are four colors and 4 wks in a month, my guess is each color represents a week. Whether a certain color must be taken in any particular order, I wouldn't know but the information that comes with the packaging should be able to tell you. If you've thrown it away already, call your local pharmacist to ask, where you picked it up and ask. Or call your Dr. office that prescribed it and either should be able to answer that for you.
22/f
My ex and I broke up nearly a year ago. Before that, we were dating for 3 years and best friends for 2. I was insanely depressed when we broke up - I couldn't sleep for a month, slept too much for another, and hardly ate for 2 or 3 months. I didn't start feeling better for a really long time, and when I did, he came back into my life. He said he missed his best friend and still wanted us to stay in each other's lives.
In trying to be friends, one thing led to another and you could say we became friends with benefits. I was fine with that; I wasn't trying to get him back or anything. After a while though I realized I couldn't keep doing that. I still had (have) intense feelings for him. So we stopped.
I just found out he has a new girlfriend. She's absolutely gorgeous, and seems to have a lot more in common with him than I ever did (one of the many reasons we called it quits). I'm trying to stay rational and think that she's great for him, and I should be happy that he's happy - or at least, not be bitter. But it stings...really bad. I feel so stupid for being his plaything while he found someone better for him...and for still being in love with him.
It's currently 7:56am and I've been awake for 3 hours. That's after not being able to fall asleep until past 2am. I can't expect it not to hurt but I'm terrified of falling back into the depression I felt a year ago. The sleepless nights have apparently already started and I've been throwing up a lot ever since I found out (not intentionally l; I just literally feel sick to my stomach).
I know everyone says "focus on yourself, find someone better, stop thinking about him, forget he exists, etc" but it's ridiculously difficult to see past all this to get to that. Keep in mind, it's been about a year. And I'm still in the same place I was when it first happened. Any way I can avoid having this hurt to bad? Or am I really gonna be forced to feel it out until the end
It sounds like you may have been best of friends but that maybe you didn't have enough chemistry to be sexually compatible. This doesnt reflect bad on you or him since it has nothing to do with something either did wrong or lacking doing. It's a matter of having the right pheremone connection and that is what causes the sex beyond mere attraction to actually be out of this world or just enough to barely take care of the horniness for some and for others not at all. So you weren't the best match for him but you will be for someone else. Since you gave it two good trys and it didn't work but he found someone who is a great match for him, you feel left out and want the same while at same time missing him cus thats all you know..you don't know anything better than that in relationships but girl, ya gotta trust me, it can be way the hell better when you find the right one for you. Yes, there is no person without their faults however their faults shouldn't be something that harms you or hurts or disrepects you. If so, and you're best of friends and also sexually compatible, then you've found a keeper. So how to find that? You may not feel ready yet. But amazingly, when you do find Mr Right, your mind begins to think less of your past and only focuses on what you have right now if its good. Since I don't know when you'll be ready, I'll share my instructions for how to find the best match for you, right now. Here goes dear:
How to determine someone is a good match for you
Dating is for determining if there is interest beyond basic attraction, discovering more about the other to determine if you like and can handle their personality traits, and whether there's enough in common, or evidence of destructive habits or tendencies in one or both people that would harm the partner emotionally and/or physically and kill the relationship. Depending on what you discover, you either continue dating the person and take it to the committed couple level or you break up. Dating in the beginning should be more of an investigative process, to learn about the other, not to become instant bf/gf and date socially until something breaks you up.
After a divorce when starting my search again, I believe my Angels gave me this idea, and it worked. I found it most helpful. You will make two lists. I choose to call it a list of criteria for finding the right partner/mate because that's exactly what it is. So here's the tool you use to help you in determining if someone is a good match for you.
You will make two lists. The first most crucial one is a list of Must Haves. A 'must have' for you is something which if it doesn't apply to this other person, then that's a deal breaker, you don't date or get into relationship with them. Very important serious stuff here. So how do you know what to put on the list? Think of things that are very important to you in life, things that no one can sway your mind to a different viewpoint and importance in your life. Major issues seem to hinge on topics such as religion/beliefs, sexuality and children. Here's an example of what I am talking about. Even tho a person wanting to date isn't ready to have kids yet for 5-8 years, they know they do want children someday, their own or adopted is another concern. If one does not ever want kids and can't be swayed to change their mind, even if in love, then that is a deal breaker and must be on the list. Not to sound shallow, but the wanna be stay at home mom will never be happy if she must compromise that dream when the kids are little because the guy doesn't earn enough to support both. If she isn't flexible enough to be able to deal with reality and uncertainties of life, she could have emotional issues for being forced to work or he with her staying home and not able to meet the budget and fighting ensues. Why take a chance that something might go wrong in the future, long after your heart has fallen in love?
Finding ones best friend and sexual equal should be top priorities and whatever pertains to that in which you have specific requirements had better be on your list. You want a mate who likes to travel an incredible amount but she is a home body, no match. You may coax her on one vacation a year but more she'll be miserable, and it becomes a battle. You have a high libido. Spell out what you want. If its sex once a day, you better be sure before you even get to the point of being ready to try sex whether she also has a high libido or she thinks thats over kill and once a week or twice a month is reasonable. I hope you understand the importance of a list of Must haves. I had about 5-7 if I remember right.
Next list is a list of Wants, and a want is like the frosting on the cake, it is not a deal breaker, and you can live happily without it but here's where you might think about others who do meet this or admire others who do. That's okay. I have great memories of past guys who loved to dance as I do. It was on my list as was a guy with long hair and much more. I didnt get the dancer but I got long hair. You will only need to use the lists of wants if by some miracle you find two or even 3 people who meet all your criteria of must haves, and need something else to determine which one to choose, you go for the one who meets most of them. In my case, the man I married met all my 'must haves' but no one else did, however he met half of my wants list. So I am very happy and in my mind, I have sorted out that it is okay that he never will meet the other half of my list of wants.
A person who knows what they want, and won't back down under harrassment, won't settle for less and isn't afraid to tell others what they are looking for in a mate, is going to come across as confident to others and that is an attractive trait in people and will draw the right one to you. I didn't find my right one instantly though. Many sounded great because they lied or didn't understand their own needs and wants well and once I met them and got to know them better, saw they were not a match for me according to my criteria. Hope this helps you.
can you seriously date a girl who said they had a mmf three some in the past?
Does a person's history ever prevent people from dating or marrying someone? I am not saying what she experienced is wrong. I AM saying that we should never base our current judgement of a person based on their past. therefore a previous smoker, alcoholic or gambler who truly quit their bad habits shouldn't be excluded as a choice for a relationship based on their past.
What people do sexually is up to them as long as any participants are not being forced or coerced into it. As long as all are willing, consentual adults, there is nothing wrong with a MMF, a FFM, swinging, polyamory, and so forth. I will agree that it isn't for everyone. Many can't handle the complexity of one partner let alone having another sweetheart or lover. If you know you can not handle that and would be jealous then don't even pursue her if she is wanting to continue being experimental and open minded about trying different things sexually. What you don't know could come back to bug you later so if she seems interested in you...have a good talk and discuss sex. Ask all that she is currently open to and everything she thinks she'd like to try someday. Then you share with her what you are comfortable with and how risque you are willing to be. If it matches, great, if not, don't try to change yourself for her or force her to change who she is for you sexually.
The two most important things for any relationship is being the best of friends and being sexually compatible so don't shy away from talking in detail about the subject.
Are Ayurvedic medicines helpful in diabetes control?
No natural method of treatment will help for something like diabetes once your pancreas is already blown out by having to process an over use of sugar in diet for years. Once destroyed, you can only take a diabetic medicine to help control it. Some people who are in the pre diabetes stage can control it with diet still and if you're at that stage, any Ayurvedic or other natural health treatments shouldn't hurt. Be sure to ask your pharmacist if a certain product will have a bad reaction with diabetes pills. If you're bad off enough to require insulin, then unless God miraculously gives you a new pancreas, you can go back to what it was before destroying it with sugar, no matter what you do.
How can I prevent from diabetes?
Yes diabetes can be genetic however od all the people who have diabetes, the majority is due to their diet. I know of a pre teen girl of a church family where the parents didn't have diabetes but they discovered she had it after she went into a diabetic shock and ended up in emergency and ICU for a while. However, of all the people I know in life, a small percentage again got diabetes as they entered old age, not necessarily due to diet but that its more common to get diabetes with the onset of senior years. I still remember when the grandma type neighbor across the street told me she had just discovered she had diabetes when she never had it until in her 60s.
The majority have pre diabetes or have the full disease. Their diet is always the culprit. American take in way too much sugar, salt and fat in their diet. Those 3 things make everything taste better and each contributes their own problems like salt connected to high blood pressure, certain fats to high cholesterol and sugar to diabetes. So if its not hereditary, to prevent getting it, cut down on sugar intake. Start reading labels carefully. Sodas and pops are one of the worst culprits and can have sugar at a total of 40 to 50 when some apple juices, not all might be only. This would also mean cutting out pastries and candy and other sweets or at least having it seldom. Another trap for people is taking sugar free products thinking they won't get diabetes from it. That is totally false. Your body still sees it as a sugar and is affected by it as a sugar. What sugar free sweeteners are limited to, is only being good for not adding on extra weight...thats it. I learned all this while being a care giver for a mentally disabled gal who had diabetes and began to dutifully use only sugar free products and yet still had diabetes related episodes. Hope this answers your question.
I am female and I am 43 years old. The guy I like will be 47 in 3 months. We live in the U.S.A. .The guy I like at work that said he wasn't interested in me is now going out of his way to walk by me since I have started ignoring him. I saw him one time in the hallway at our job,and I was going to go in the area where he was to get to the area I needed to get to but when I saw him and he saw me I looked at him shook my head and went the opposite direction to get to my destination. I didn't shake my head at him on purpose it was just automatic. Ever since then he comes by where I am working and walks by me,looks up at me or glances at me. Some how he was Always scheduled on the same days I was even though he works a different shift than I do and he has a different manager than I do and his Manager knew that I liked this guy. Could he be interested in me now ? How do I get this guy. I don't want to lose any chance with him because I Still like this guy but I am afraid that he will stop liking me if I keep ignoring him. Please I need help with what I should do so I don't lose any chance with him !!
You say you dont want to lose any chance with him.
But there are a few situations in which you really do not 'have a chance'.
A most obvious one is if he is one of those guys who are into this for the sport, for the chase and once he catches the girl, then he ignores her because he wasn't into having a real, full relationship with her, he just wanted the excitement of the chase. That kind of excitement is like a high, a drug that a guy can become addicted to. What little you've said, certainly sounds like it. If you had begged him to date you after he said he wasn't interested, he would have continued to resist as there was no longer any challenge to pursue once you're caught. However, you instead ignored him, as if you changed your mind about him toying with you that way. So instantly, you became a challenge for him to play his game of pursuit again. He said he wasn't interested by chased you anyhow. The other possibility depending on if he's a bachelor, divorced or married, is that he has a commitment to a girlfriend or wife. And he doesn't dare 'actually' start something with another female if he's happy with the other. He may have the wandering eye and enjoy the high he gets from the romance of the chase but will never make a commitment to you so he simply says he's not interested.
These are situations in which you won't have a chance with him no matter what you do.
You need to ask yourself what you are looking for. Just some male attention? Need emotional bonding only like a friendship? Need your sexual needs met only? Just wantin a guy for a person to do social stuff with? Looking for romance and love and a real relationship? You need to know what you truly need down deep or what you get if you pursue a guy may be less than he is willing or able to give you.
Simply liking a person when we first meet someone does not mean we won't find out after some "in depth interaction" with them in a relationship that they are not perfect for us after all. Right now you're attracted at just a surface level. If all you want to know is if he could have changed his mind, or lied to you about having no interest, is to ask him. If your asking us, you're asking the wrong person. Find a time when you and he can talk privately as it would be embarassing for anyone else to hear this.
I would ask something like this. "Look, I am getting mixed signals from you. First you act like you're interested in me and seem to me to be pursuing me. Once you got my interest and I asked, you told me you were not interested in me that way. So I ignored you as there wasn't a chance of anything with you. Now since ignoring you, you seem to be going out of your way to find excuses to be near me. Are you aware you are doing that? Because you are. That sends the signal to me that you were lying when you said you're not interested or you have changed your mind. One other possibility is that its a game for you and you're into this just for the challenge of the chase. So I am going to ask you right now to tell the truth, are you free to pursue a relationship? And if free, are you interesting in dating me? I will not stand for a guy who plays cat and mouse with me. So if into for the game of the chase, you can count me out as being willing to play the 'mouse'. If you're too chicken to say you're interested and willing to try a relationship, then you're also not for me as I want nothing to do with wimpy 'mama's boys'. I don't know if I'll like what I find when I look deeper but I am willing to give it a try. Are you?"
You have to be direct to get an answer. Watch his body language and facial expressions and his eyes, as this can give him away if he's uncomfortable with discussing this or trying to hide something. Then go with your gut feeling, and intuition.