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can you seriously date a girl who said they had a mmf three some in the past?
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Of course you can if you like her and she likes you. If she asks if she can have one with you and another male in the present or future, and you really couldn't go for it in a million years (for whatever reason) then she'll have to either give up the idea, or you'll separate and she'll have to pursue it with another boyfriend. Having sex with two guys together is one of those things that consenting adults try out and indulge in sometimes. It's not immoral, unethical or illegal if they are adults in full consent. It doesn't mean that the woman is likley to be unfaithful and cheat on you with other guys in your relationship. It was a deliberate choice. She wanted to have sex with two guys together, and both they guys were OK with it. she didn't 'cheat' on anyone. If it's all a case of peer group pressure (your mates know about her activity, and might goad and tease you with it?) then it's a question of YOU being able to 'handle it' or not. Personally, I wouldn't give a damn if I liked her. I'd never let other people's gossip and opinions influence MY life and choices.
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Does a person's history ever prevent people from dating or marrying someone? I am not saying what she experienced is wrong. I AM saying that we should never base our current judgement of a person based on their past. therefore a previous smoker, alcoholic or gambler who truly quit their bad habits shouldn't be excluded as a choice for a relationship based on their past.
What people do sexually is up to them as long as any participants are not being forced or coerced into it. As long as all are willing, consentual adults, there is nothing wrong with a MMF, a FFM, swinging, polyamory, and so forth. I will agree that it isn't for everyone. Many can't handle the complexity of one partner let alone having another sweetheart or lover. If you know you can not handle that and would be jealous then don't even pursue her if she is wanting to continue being experimental and open minded about trying different things sexually. What you don't know could come back to bug you later so if she seems interested in you...have a good talk and discuss sex. Ask all that she is currently open to and everything she thinks she'd like to try someday. Then you share with her what you are comfortable with and how risque you are willing to be. If it matches, great, if not, don't try to change yourself for her or force her to change who she is for you sexually.
The two most important things for any relationship is being the best of friends and being sexually compatible so don't shy away from talking in detail about the subject.
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You can choose not to date someone for any reason you want.
You could decide not to date someone who paint thier nails green, or believes in ghosts, or whose skin colour you don't like.
You can also choose not to date a woman who choose to have a threesome in the past - although honestly, I find it interesting you specify a MMF threesome. It's like you'd be okay with an MFF threesome - Why? Because you think that is sexy and you like that idea, but an MMF grosses you out? That's a bit immature isn't it.
It doesn't matter though. You get to decide. Personally, I like to respect the person I met today, and not judge them on choices they made in the past, or demand they be ashamed on things they are not ashamed of to make me more comfortable.
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Why not, we live in the present and the future. Would you want her to hold it against you if you had a FFM threesome in the past.
What happens in the past stays in the past. What counts is what happens today, tomorrow and beyond between the two of you. We live in a sexually free society if you can't live with someone's sexual history then you may be a very lonely person.
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