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How to transition
My girlfriend wants me to finger her, but I don't know how to transition from kissing to start touching her.
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I don't think it needs to be such a distinct thing of now we are kissing and now I am going to finger you. It's not the same as hand jobs or anything for boys where there is a clear switch from when you are doing it and when your not and when you are done doing it would suggest surprising her since she already asked you to do it and said that she wants it, while you guys are kissing just slowly start touching her you can start with touching her butt and over her underwear or pants in the front but gently and do it a little then move your hands back to her stomach or boobs or wherever else and keep doing that for a bit getting closer each time then eventually go insider her underwear or take it off depending on how she is reacting . You can also go out again and then start again a few minutes, also goes without saying but just in case: don't stop kissing hear just because your fingering her. You should be still making out or at least kissing her neck or semthing while it's happening. Best of luck
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I think you should ask yourself if you really want to do this. Then ask her if you guys can take thinks slow. Start off small and work your way to the bigger things. If you are feel uncomfortable with something then stop and go to a smaller thing or stop and try again later. Being honest with you girlfriend is the key to your relationship, so you should talk to her about it. Ask her how she feels about things as well. A relationship is for two people not just one you have to meet them half way. Try your best to do what she wants without feeling too uncomfortable. Start to kiss her in other places, and while you kiss her caress her face and arm, ect. I hope I have helped you, and if not I tried my best to do so. I wish you goodluck!
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Alexisgirlie is correct in the advice she gave you. Sex like anything else in life is a learned experience. The best way is to ask her what she likes, where and how she likes to be touched. If she is asking you to finger her then it is a good bet she masturbates.
Don't be alarmed that she might as 85% of us do. If she does masturbate then she knows exactly how she like to be fingered. There are two types of women in this world when it comes to sex. They are either vaginal or clitoral. Vaginal women get more enjoyment from having fingers put in the vaginal when being fingered. Clitoral women get more enjoyment from having their clitoris gently rubbed.
The same goes for you if you're a guy and you masturbate. You know what feels good and how you like your penis and testacals played with. How are either of you two to know what the other likes if you don't ask.
Se which includes fingering, hand jobs and eventually oral sex are all learned experiences that must be learned anew with each new partner in order to give them ultimate pleasure. Communication in sex is just as important as communication is in any other situation. So talk to her as you start to finger her. Ask if she likes what you're doing. Ask her to take your hand and place it where it feels pest. Do the same when you ask her to give you a hand job.
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Hey there!
Dragonflymagic basically answered your question, and she is so right and goes into detail.
I just wanna stress that when you are trying to please someone, the best way to accomplish that is to ask them how they like it. They know their bodies. If you wanna have the best chance of giving her great pleasure ask her how and where! And also, you get better with experience.
And in general, when you are with someone, always make it your own. Make it special. Make it you. Please them like you would wanna be pleased yourself and don't be shy to admit that you don't have much or any experience.
Tell her that you would like to learn what she likes.
Good luck! STAY SAFE!!
xoxo
~alexisgirlie
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Ask her how she would like you to do that as she's the one asking you to finger her to begin with.
If she has no clue or is open to anything, just do whats most comfortable to you or whatever you like. Just stop kissing and start fingering. Or you could move the kisses in a trail down her body til you get to the area and then begin to finger her.
If I were you and you are just beginning to explore and get familiar with her or the female body and its capabilities sexually, then I would suggest doing some reading on how her parts work.
Prep before fingering: make sure you have no rough skin,especially at the corners of nail beds where dry tough skin there could scratch the tender flesh inside her and no ragged edges to finger nails. Make sure to have lube on hand. You can check to see if she has gotten wet as her pre lubricant works well but there are off days when there isn't as much. Always ask if she needs you to use lube, even on your fingers and her private parts as lube seems at least for me to provide a better friction than my own fluids. Some women if you get them to orgasm by doing this, will gush, the female equivalent of the males ejaculation and this liquid is much thinner and again, in my experience rinses away lube and any thicker fluid of my own. I am older but when young I still had the same issues.
Then the next would be for you to learn some facts about the clit for stimulating that for orgasm or stimulating her g spot, that rough patch of skin only 2 inches in on the belly side of the vagina behind pubic bone. When stimulated correctly, it will swell with blood like a penis does and she can have a totally different orgasm experience with that. If you want any links to info on this, let me know, otherwise...good luck and have fun and remember to communicate and ask her if she likes it or wants you to move to massage just a fraction over or what. Thats the most important thing when doing anything sexual with your partner. If you do write me, do not put request in where comments go. You'd have to go to my column and choose to write to me from there or I won't be able to answer under commments field.
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