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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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Okay im 13/f and today i got suspended for kissing my boyfriend and we wernt even on school property and now we can barely talk the only thing we can do is talk and give hug's but can you give me advice on this please befor tomarro even thoug il lbe home

You got suspended for kissing your boyfriend? That's not school -- that's prison!


Anyways, there's nothing you can really do. It's the school's rules & you've gotta follow them, no matter how dumb & unfair they may be.

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Okay, so ever since I was a little girl I've loved barbies. Ya, like 5-10 I was playing with them etc. Now I'm 13/f and I know there's nothing wrong with a 10 yr old playing w/ barbies. but since i turned 11 i've wanted to play with them -- but i've been really embarassed. so how do i like... play with barbies without my family members noticing? or something? if i want new stuff how could i buy it without my family or friends knowing? i'm 13/f so yeah - no car. help!!

It's okay for you to play Barbies. You're still young -- grasp your childhood! You're not a kid forever.


Don't worry about what people say. I still have my stuffed animals, and I'm 16. Hell, I still drink a sippy cup. And it has Clifford on it. There's nothing wrong with what you're doing. If it makes you happy, do it.

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What does it mean if a guy SAYS he likes you and flirts with you and stuff but constantly teases you and basically makes no effort to continue the relationship further?

14/f. =]

He's probably immature & doesn't know what to do next. If you like him back, kiss him. Let him know you're interested as well so he'll maybe go further with you.

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hey, this question has probably been asked 100 times before. But i havnt seen anything on it lately. So....
I was wondering, I need some cute stuff to put on my myspace profile. Right now it is kinda boring and I just need some embelisments to make it cooler. Like is there a way you can put some of your pics in your profile instead of just in the picture catagory. And is there a way to change color/font of the text on your profile? Any good websites for girly stuff to add to my myspace? Anything helps. Thanks!

I use this:
www.freecodessource.com

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ok well my best friend asked me out yesterday and i said yes. we're both girls both bi. we're 14 and in 8th grade so our relationship is a secret. tomorrow we're supposed to go to the movies together and all but i was thinking maybe i should tell her i dont want to date her. i mean for me it would be better just to kiss her and see how that feels. ive never kissed a girl before but i really want to and see i can imagine doing things with her but not "liking" her. its very complicated. i just dont see her as someone i can relate to on that kind of level of girlfriend to girlfriend. she and i are cool as friends. but we could also be friends with benefits. how do i explain to her that i dont like her but would still like to make out with her. the thought of kissing her turns me on. haha i could even go father than that! hmm help? thanx

Just tell her. I'm sure she'll be cool with it since you guys have a great bond already. If she's not, accept it.

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I was outside earlier today and got two mosquito bites on my forehead! They are HUGE! Does anyone know anything that could help them dissappear? Home remedies..anything? THANKS!

I'm assuming they're huge because you scratched them. Don't scratch them! That's what makes them bigger.


There's nothing you can do to make them go away. Just get some anti-itch cream & use that. Until then, wait it out & don't scratch them.

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Well I like this guy named kyle, we dated before but only for 6 days because his friend lied to me and say that he was cheating on me, which he wasnt. We've started talking again& I like him alot, but I think he's changed, he's had a couple girlfriends since me& well none of them have been real good, like to him or anything- I think he's starting to become a "player" and well I want to change that, how can I? He likes me too which helps.

The only person you can change is you. You can't change anyone else. If he wants to change, he will.


If he's a player, you can't change that. Just accept it. I mean, you could go out with him & let him see you're not like every other girl he's dated, but it's all up to him to change.

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when you masterbate can you get pregant off of it and what happens when you on your period and you masterbate at the same time.

No. Your finger is not a penis.

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I had unprotected sex (I know, I know..stupid me) about 1 day after my period...Well I did it twice, the day after my period, and the day after that. My boyfriend didn't actually ejaculate inside me, we pulled out long before hand, but I know the risks of precum. However, since it was so close AFTER my period, was it possible really that I was ovulating? Some insight is needed!!

Penis + Vagina - Condom = Chance of pregnancy. There's no getting around it. Get a pregnancy test.

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okay so i started my period last saturday night (like i noticed it very late at night on saturday the 12th) and i'm supposed to be hanging out with my boyfriend this saturday night..is there anything i can do to make my period go away sooner? i think it'll be pretty much gone by then but do you think it will it be gross if he fingers me even when its just the tiniest itsiest bit still there? you know what i mean like when it's just about to go away?

:( please help!

I'm assuming you get your period for a week. If so, it'll be gone by then. When it's over, just wash yourself real well. It won't be gross, trust me.

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ok so i am 15 going on 16. and i am a freshman i am 1 year older then everyone else.but noone knows that. since i am very childsish and i blend in alot. som everyone is alwys like aww stephanie is so cute. shes such a little girl. but they dont know i am older. this is a huge big deal. and i realllllllyyyy dont want to tell them i am. they already asked me and i told them i was 14 and they are going to think that i lied to them and make a huge big deal. i really dont know what to do! i am going crazy! and the kid i like in my school hes a freshman going on 15. and i am going on 16. i dont want to tell him i'm older becase he asked me once and i said i was 14 and he likes me and so do i! also, i neevr show anyone my id card becase it says my date of birth. do you think they will find out i am 1 year older? how? and i will neevr show my id card! so they wont find out this way. any other way? has the tacher ever asked you how old you are in front of everyone, becase she needed it for a school thing? i am really depressed about this. please dont tell me to tell them the truth please help me!!1 thanks!

First off, why did you lie? There was no reason to. There's nothing wrong with being older. Some kids start school late & tend to be older than most kids. Some kids in the 10th grade are 17. There's nothing wrong with that. If you're in the correct grade, why does age matter?


Just tell people the truth. There's no reason to lie. I'm sure they're not going to care that you're going to be 16. Why should they? Age is only a number. Personality is what matters honey, not age.

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14 f
ok so my body is maturing and i hate it! like having puberty hair and getting big boobs. i hate it. sometimes i never want to take a shower becase i hate seeing myself naked. i am such a momys girl and i know my mom hates it that i am growing up! i dont want tog row up! i hate having a mature body1 i dont feel ready or mature what should i do?

Rate me low; I don't care.


Get over it. There is NOTHING you can do to stop yourself from growing up & maturing. You're going through puberty. You're going to get pubic hair. You're going to get taller. You're going to get body odor. You're going to need to shave. And you're going to grow boobs. You're also going to get your period.


As unpleasant as some as those changes might be, they're natural & you can only change some of them. You can shave the hair, & make sure you wash everyday to make sure there's no body odor, but getting taller, getting your period & growing boobs is something you cannot change.


Why in the world would your mother be upset with these changes though? It's not your fault she made you a girl. It's not your fault you're growing. It's nature that's doing this to you. But don't get pissed at it. Growing up & getting more mature is amazing. You get more freedoms, and you can do more. You're becoming a woman. Doesn't that mean anything to you?


Instead of seeing these new things as things that could potentioanlly ruin your life; try seeing them as something good! They're positives [except for the period, that sucks], and they're good for you. Just accept the changes. And keep showering. I don't like myself naked either, but that's not a reason to be dirty.

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okay so i took a playtex gentle guide tampon, took out the cotton and filled it with warm corn from the can. i heard it insilates ur vagina better than the actual cotton in the tampon. i tried it and it didnt exactly work. the corn was all wet with blood and dripping like a bitch. did i do anything wrong?

Lmfao, you put corn in your vagina?

What the hell is wrong with you? Corn will do nothing for you except give you the health & nutrients you need WHEN YOU EAT IT.

Ahaha, oh god. I'm sorry, but that is rediculous.

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14/f
well my bf "antwan" and i have been dating for almost a month.well im leaving for bootcamp in the next 6 days. we want to be together and i trust him. BUT it will be about 6 weeks before i EVEN talk to him again, and maybe about 10 MONTHS before i SEE him. he wants to stay together and so do i BUT i dont want to hold him back from other things. what should i do???

If you don't wanna hold him back, it's best you break up until you get back. You're not going to be able to see each other for almost a year, and you're not gonna talk to each other for 6 weeks. How in the hell is that gonna work out? It probably isn't. It might hurt to break up, but it's best for both of you.

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hi im a 16/m and im starting to fall for this freshman girl..shes on my bus and i staretd iming hr last week.we have never talked in person and i want to so bad but i cant bring myself to say hey i feel like im gunna say something stupid i dont know why but i do...so ive imed her alot lately everyday pretty much...so should i continue to i/m her or no talk to her in person then continue...i also have her cell number she gave it to me for when we can hang out...so please help thanks in advance

When you IM her, ask her to hang out sometime.

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how do you make your font bigger on myspace?

< b i g > TEXT HERE < / b i g >
Take the spaces out.

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she went out with a guy, broke up with him. started to hook up with me, then inbetween seeing eachother, she starts dating this new guy. so she's not single anymore, but i know she ahs feelings for me, and I want it to be like it was when she was'nt with either guy, and thinking about me :( how can i get her to break up with this new guy and go with me, am i wrong for wanting her to cheat on him for me, i care about her so i would never ask her to do anything while she is seeing guy 2. but damn, i want her to so badly

Dude listen to yourself. She's with a new guy after hooking up with you. Not to offend you or anything, but she sounds like a skank. You can do so much better. Honestly, if you get with her, she'll probably hurt you. Just like she is right now by being with somebody else. Forget about it & find someone who won't do that to you.


Besides, if she cheats on him with you, she's only gonna be cheating on you as well when she does things with him. Either way, you're both getting cheated on. And don't try to get her to break up with him. If he found out, he'd be pissed. And put yourself in his shoes, if some guy convinced your girl to leave you, how would you feel? Pissed? Right. So don't do that to him.

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My ex best friend will do anything to get "revenge" on me when I didn't even do anything to her.. We got in a fight like 2 months ago and ever since then she'll do anything to make my life hell.. Any new friend I make she has to go steal them on me and then become "best friends" with them and then she tells them lies about me so they hate me. I'm losing tons of friends because of her! The worst part of all was yesterday. My best friends Sarah and Olivia that I had finally gotten sooo close to (because I have a hard time making friends so I couldn't believe I had made friends) were taken away by my ex best friend. She buddied up with them during school and she was telling them I was bitch and that I had talked about them behind their backs (WHEN I DIDNT BECAUSE I LOVE THEM AND WOULDN'T IN MY LIFE) and they believed her because she seems so innocent so my ex best friend got them on their side and they were telling people I was logging on to peoples screen name and making up schemes to ruin my life (while I was away from my computer) and when I logged on my computer my ex best friend and 2 other friends that she stole made up a group name called the "tempting three" when OUR group name used to be the "sinister six" and their AIM profiles said "omfgg i love the tempting 3 biffs for ever ever we've been through it all" and they had only talked like twice!!!.... later on when my ex best friend signed off i told my 2 friends that i would NEVER talk about them if my life depended on it and that i love them and my ex best friend has caused me trouble all my life.. and the line "see what she's doing to me? well think about what she could do to you guys!" made them believe me and we were friends again. they said they wont talk to my ex best friend again...

well as you can see my ex best friend breaks up all of my best friends in a sneaky way so i don't know about it till the damage is done.. and i am sick of being in a new fight every day because she buddied up with ANOTHER one of my friends and told them i talked about them when i didnt...

what can i do to make her back off and show her that im strong and i wont let her ruin my life?! because shes tooken away at least 7 of my friends. and shes put me through so much pain. ADVICE!

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Don't listen to what the girl below me said. She only gave you a way to make things worse. Fighting won't solve anything [trust me] & it'll only get you into trouble. What does that do? Nothing. So don't fight her.


What you can do though is tell people the truth. Tell your old friends that you never said anything about them because that's not how you are. Tell them how sneaky your ex best friend is & how she's doing this on purpose over something dumb.


If they don't believe you, then they were never your friends. And don't worry about your ex bff. There's no reason to get revenge on her. Yes, it's sweet. But KARMA will come around & bite her in the ass eventually. Remember that.

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ok so one week i had my period. it ended, but came back only 2 weeks later. then the same thing happened again and im having my period now. i know that you're not supposed to have your period every two weeks, can anybody tell me if something is wrong?

No, you're normal. It's gonna be weird for the first few years you have it. I'm 16 and mine still isn't regular & I got mine at 13.

Maybe see a doctor if it bothers you.

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ok so im dating my best friend she asked me out yesterday and ok well its nothing serious and its not public. im middle school most people are not ok with gay people yet so yea. the thing is i only said yes to her because well every guy shes ever liked has rejected her and i kinda felt bad. i dunno if she really likes me. she said she doesnt and that she just wants to make sure she is bi by dating a girl. okay but ive never had a girlfriend or boyfriend before and this is all new to me. somehow it doesnt feel right and i dont wanna end up hurting her. its the last thing i wanna do. maybe she does like me but is just covering it up so i dont wanna break up with her. ugh and well i just got over a guy friend - my other best friend- and he and i flirt around a lot, so she might get jealous? i dunno please someone anything works. im just so confused at this point. ahhh thanks.

If you don't like her, end it. If you keep dating her & have no feelings towards her, she's only going to get hurt more when she finds out. Just end it now. She's going to hurt eventually, but at least it wouldn't be as bad as if you led her on.

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