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im bi and dating my best friend but i dont like her!!!!
ok so im dating my best friend she asked me out yesterday and ok well its nothing serious and its not public. im middle school most people are not ok with gay people yet so yea. the thing is i only said yes to her because well every guy shes ever liked has rejected her and i kinda felt bad. i dunno if she really likes me. she said she doesnt and that she just wants to make sure she is bi by dating a girl. okay but ive never had a girlfriend or boyfriend before and this is all new to me. somehow it doesnt feel right and i dont wanna end up hurting her. its the last thing i wanna do. maybe she does like me but is just covering it up so i dont wanna break up with her. ugh and well i just got over a guy friend - my other best friend- and he and i flirt around a lot, so she might get jealous? i dunno please someone anything works. im just so confused at this point. ahhh thanks.
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I once did a similar thing with a guy I knew. He asked me out and he was a genuinely nice guy but never really dated before and he really liked me, so I said yes.
I went on ONE date with him because I worked out that far from being attracted to him, he actually kinda gave me the creeps.
My point is, most people would do this. It doesn't mean you're really a bad person, it just means your good intentions were a little misguided. This girl is probably thinking "Yay! A girl who wants to date me!" and has no idea what you're thinking.
You need to talk to her and let her down gently. Just explain to her that the relationship isn't working for you. It's not that you don't like her but you just feel like there's no chemistry. The spark isn't there and it's better to tell her now than to keep letting her believe something that isn't true.
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You are so right to be confused and you should break it off w/ her if neither of you like each other. If she is really your friend just explain how you feel and be nice about it. Act like its not that big of a deal and it won't be. I hope this helps. Good Luck!
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You should tell her that you enjoy being close friends with her but think if you continue to go out both of you will get hurt. Tell her it's nothing personal but you don't feel a romantic attraction and would not want to lead her on or hurt her and your friendship.
She should understand that. If you kept dating her that would be wrong if there's no romantic or emotional attachment. She would end up building love, an attachment etc. and then when the truth came out would be crushed. Tell her how you feel and end the relationship but stay friends.
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If you don't like her, end it. If you keep dating her & have no feelings towards her, she's only going to get hurt more when she finds out. Just end it now. She's going to hurt eventually, but at least it wouldn't be as bad as if you led her on.
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You are not comfortable being in a relationship with your best friend. So tell her.
Maybe she will feel the same and realize it just doesn't feel right.
but maybe she does have strong feelings for you - and the longer you let this go on, the more hurt she will be in the long run.
You are best friends, so you obviously share a strong bond. Next time you see her, explain you just don't feel comfortable being in this "relationship" with her.
She should understand. Let her know it won't affect your friendship.
That is all you can do really. You can't be expected to carry on being in a relationship you really don't want to be in.
If you'd like further advice, don't hesitate to contact me.
I wish you the best of luck with your friend.
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