I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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HEY! :) 16/f
well my best friend has a boyfriend.but you see there is this one kid that is soo adorable! he is so nice and everything and we always use to flirt but whenever me and my best friend (katie) and this guy hangout my friend always flirts with this guy and i get soo pissed because she has a boyfriend and everything! i think my best friend is gorgeous and so this guy flirts back and i guess i get kind of jealous when they flirt because whenever shes not around he always flirts with me!! i try talking to her about it and saying ooooh you guys were flirting! im gonna tell kevin (her boyfriend) and shes like not uh!! no we werent i was just trying to get somethin back from him or makes up some excuse. i dont like this kid but i like flirting and just talking with him! i dont know what to do?? i get so jealous when he flirts with other girls especially my BEST FRIEND..when she has a boyfriend :( and me and her boyfriend dont get along either..at ALL...
what do you think i should do? whenever they flirt i just sit back and keep to myself just watch tv or somethin..theres nothing really i can do!
thanks so much for taking your time
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It sounds as though your friend probably has some self esteem issues. You may think she's gorgeous but she probably doesn't see it the same way and flirting with other guys makes her feel desirable and it might not even occur to her that it bothers you, especially because when you make comments like "ooh you guys were flirting!"
Of course, you have in part answered your own question. You said that when your friend is there, this guy basically ignores you. If you sit back and watch the TV and let them get on with it, he can't flirt with you at the same time! You're removing yourself from the situation and distancing yourself and he has nobody to flirt with but your friend. I know why you do this because I do it myself. You feel completely deflated and that you might as well not be there so you give up. You can't do that or you will spend the rest of your life doing it. You need to stay IN the conversation and keep reminding him of how witty and funny and interesting you are.
As for the situation with her boyfriend, there's very little you can do unfortunately. My opinion is always that a little harmless flirting is fine, as long as there is no real intention behind it. If she WAS to take it further, then by all means tell her to tell her boyfriend or you will do it yourself but don't tell him she's flirting with other guys right now. Especially because it will just make it look as though you did it purely out of jealousy. I'm not saying that is what it really is, but that is how it will look to your friend.
You can't make this guy like you more than your friend but you can give yourself better odds by making yourself more confident. Believe me, I know this is easier said than done but flirting is what happens when you are confident and shrinking into yourself is what happens when your confidence gets knocked. The fact is, people notice you more when you act more confident so when you feel yourself shrinking again, take a deep breath, sit back up and remind yourself to act confident. Think tall, think proud and think happy. Find an excuse to break into the conversation. Ask if anyone wants something to eat or drink. Ask if they want to go somewhere else and do something or ask what they want to do another time.
If you give this a go, I really think it will start to improve. If it doesn't there is a chance that he likes your friend more but please don't feel too disheartened over this. I had exactly the same situation with a friend years ago and she became....well....let's just say she started sleeping around a LOT from the age of 15 upwards. Not the sort of person I would like to be and not the sort of girl most guys would want a real relationship with. You keep being yourself and work on your self confidence and you'll start meeting guys who like you for you and see through your friend and her flirtatious behaviour.
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sorry if this is long.. but pleasee read.. thanks soo much in advance..
well i have or had.. a really good friend... lets call him jack.. and me and jack have known each other since 2nd grade.. and well.. me and jack get into alot.. and i mean ALOT of fights.... and well i think that we arent friends anymore.. cause i said (which i should not have said) i understand if you dont want to be friends anymore... and then.. he just didnt say anything.. so i guess that means we arent friends..(right?) and i've just known him for soo long.. i dont want to lose him as a friend... but should i just give up on trying to make our friendship work? or should i try something to be friends with him.. and if so.. what should i say or do?? THANKSS ALOTT FOR ANSWERINGGG... (link)
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If you are really fighting that much then I guess the truth of the situation is that you haven't really been friends with each other for some time, especially if they are particularly vicious. People put the title 'friend' on someone and then if this happens, it's always a big decision whether or not to remove the title. Actually, a friend is only as good as their behaviour towards you. If they don't treat you as a friend, they aren't your friend at all and you deserve better.
I know it's nasty to have to say goodbye to someone who meant a lot to you in the past but it sounds like it would be the right thing to do right now. Maybe at some point in the future you will be able to be friends again but right now you need to cut this one loose and focus on the people who really can be good friends to you. Don't worry, you will be fine without him.
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I'm in my first serious relationship with an amazing guy. My family & friends all like him, and of course I like him very much. The problem is, since him and I have been together, I've spent less time with friends. They have been trying to hangout with me, but for some reason I have more fun with my boyfriend. I feel like a horrible friend because these girls are great friends. Is it so wrong that I'd rather be with my boyfriend at this point in my life? (17/F) (link)
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Technically speaking (and certainly from your friends point of view) it's not a very nice way to be. However, something that a lot of women will understand and something your friends will understand when it happens to them is that when you meet a guy you truly care about and are very happy with, there will be an initial period at least where they get put on the backburner. In fact, that's where pretty much everything goes while you are in what is commonly known as 'the honeymoon period'. This is the stage during which everything can be going wrong. The world can be crashing down around you but you won't notice because you're so happy and loved up!
It's not really something I would call a bad thing because it happens to everyone at one point or other. Your friends just need to realise that you need to get this out of your system and then you will be happier to see more of them (I wouldn't put it in exactly those words though!)
The same thing happened to me. I started going out with my guy three years ago and for around 6 months to a year it was "What friends?!" but now things have evened out a little bit and when they're back from uni, I see them whenever I can.
The best thing I can suggest for now is that you make sure when you aren't with your boyfriend, you spend a good amount of time on the phone to your friends or text or e-mail them. That way you show you haven't totally forgotten them and they won't forget you. So when the honeymoon period is over, you'll still have friends to go back to.
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Hello,
I'm 17 and I've had my period for four years now, so it's usually very regular. However, it was supposed to have come two weeks ago, and yet it's not here. I'm still having the signs of "PMS" that I normally have (cramps, nausea, etc.), which have lasted for over a week, yet there's still no actual period. I don't have sex, so I can't be pregnant. This has never happened before. I figure that if it doesn't come within another week or so, I may have to see a doctor. Can you possibly explain this to me, and should I see a doctor? (link)
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There are a lot of different factors that can affect your period. Stress, illness, weight loss or weight gain, medication, etc.
However, the rule of thumb is that if anything does seem a little strange with any 'womanly parts', you should always get them checked out by a doctor, because it's better to be safe than sorry.
As I say though, there are a lot of possible reasons so I really don't think you need to worry. Pay a quick visit to your doctor and see what they think. It may be they suggest you just leave it a while until your period is next due and see what happens there but as I say, it's better to be safe than sorry.
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I'm pretty clueless when it comes to guys; so I thought I would ask a question for the guys (or girls) to answer.
If you were married (or in a serious relationship)but not happy; and you had a close friend who you were attracted to and had feelings for; would you be ticked off if that person told you she would never sleep with you as long as you were married? I'm asking because recently this has happened to me. I told one of my close male friends (that I had known for 4 years) that I would never have an affair with him while he were married but I still wanted to be his friend. Now he wants nothing to do with me. (link)
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Honestly, this is more his problem than it is yours. Your moral ethics are absoloutely in the right place because marriage is supposed to be sacred and if he wants to stray outside it, you shouldn't be the one to encourage it.
The only reason he isn't talking to you now is because he wants you to help him find an escape from his marriage. He is unhappy in it and an affair would give him a way to forget that his relationship is failing. In truth, an affair will only serve to further dissolve his marriage. You know you don't want to do that and you've done the right thing by saying no.
I would strongly recommend that if you do get the opportunity to speak to him again, you discuss his marital issues with him and urge him to seek some sort of help with saving it. He needs to remember the reasons he fell in love with his wife in the first place and if it really is doomed then he needs to end it, rather than seeking a temporary escape.
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I have like a million lotions and i have sooo many i can never find the kind i want. what are some ways to organize them so i can see all of them but it doesnt look junky like just sitting all of them on a big counter!! thanks!!! (link)
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It's quite a long winded method but would work really wll if you want to get the initial work done (I did it for my nail varnishes).
First, sort them into groups. Hand creams, firming creams, body lotions, foot lotions etc. Then number them all, using a permanent marker or nail varnish on the tops of the lids. Finally, make up a list and as you do so put the heading for the different types of cream, followed by the numbers of the creams in that section. Then, when you need to find a certain one, all you have to do is look on the list, find out which number you want and pull it out. As long as you remember to put them back in order afterwards, it should work very efficiently.
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ok i recently started going out with this guy that i don't like, well actually I just like him as a friend. He is really funnny and sweet a bit cheesy but overall really sweet. He kissed me the other day and one of my friends saw, she thinks it's kinda cruel for me to be going out with him if I don't like him and also cause two of my other friends liked him and one still kina does. What do you think I should do? I don't want to upset him because he is a really great friend and an even better boyfriend (link)
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I've been in your exact situation so I know where you're coming from but the truth is that if you don't like him in that way then you really shouldn't be going out with him. Not only are you wasting your time but you're wasting his too. If you know that he isn't the sort of guy you can truly see yourself with then there's no point and it would be much kinder to break it off now than to wait until it will be more painful.
Try to meet up with him somewhere and just explain to him that he's a really nice guy and you care about him a lot but you just don't feel any chemistry and you can't be his girlfriend when you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you. Stress that it wouldn't be fair to carry on going out with him when you know he can find someone who can truly care about him the way he should be cared about.
The important point about breaking up with someone is that you're not telling them you don't like them at all and you think they're too terrible to go out with. It's that they deserve someone who can give them what they want and you don't want to take the chance of getting that away from them. This is what you need to get across to him.
Don't worry. He might be upset at first but he will realise that it wouldn't have been right to carry on a relationship and soon enough he will be able to move on and hopefully get the sort of relationship he wants. Equally as important, so will you.
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i really need your help. im having really hard time in my life right now and i need answers quick. is there anyway that i can instant messenge you? i have aim -tiredxofxurLies and i have yahooinstantmessenger-cctrackcc
please get back to me asap! (link)
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Hi there,
I don't have yahoo but you might be able to add me from there as I do have a friend who uses yahoo and speaks to me over msn...
hottchickie@hotmail.com
If you can't instant message, feel free to e-mail.
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i need help my brother and i we dont get along at all i mean he can be a push over and a control freak. And like he is one of those people that love talking bout killing and weapons like he keeps knifes in his room and he will threaten me with them sometimes when he gets really angry with me. And he hits me almost every single day and what ever i say to him it just makes it worse and we get into arguements every single day. And every knows bout him hitting me and my parents to but just talking to him does nothing.I am the middle child and sometimes i think that he takes advantage of me.
i am 15 yrs old and i am his younger sister and he is 17.
What can i do?
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Okay you really need to do something about this now because he cannot be allowed to get away with this behaviour.
If you have tried talking seriously to your parents about this (and by that I mean sitting them down when your brother is nowhere around and calmly telling them he is threatening you with these knives and you want it to stop) and they have still done nothing then you really need to speak to someone else.
The first port of call that I would recommend is your school guidance counsellor. As much as I would like to think that my advice would be adequate, the circumstances of your problem will require someone who is in a position to take things further if necessary and can provide further information that I will not be able to. If you don't have a guidance counsellor at your school, speak to a parent that you can trust. Stress that you just want to know what you should do because you don't believe your parents are handling the situation in an adequate or sensitive manner. (I would like to make the point it might be that with his aggression and use of knives they are probably just as scared of him as you are).
The guidance counsellor/teacher may wish to meet with your parents and discuss this. I would recommend you go along with this as realising that they are not really dealing with this as they should be might just give them the boost they need.
However, at the same time, here is what I would like to recommend. Keep a record of what could be classed as threatening or abusive behaviour by your bother. In other words, times when he has threatened you with knives or made threats about using them on you at any time. Record when he hits you and ensure that while doing this, you do NOTHING back to him. You don't threaten him or hit back, you just let him get on with it. I know that sound unpleasent but you need to be as blameless as possible.
If, after speaking with the guidance counsellor/teacher and/or parents things don't improve at all, I would suggest you refer the matter to the police. It probably sounds very dramatic but you may need to do something like this to make your parents realise what is going on. The fact is that your own flesh and blood is keeping weapons in his bedroom and using them against you and the people who are meant to protect you from such behaviour aren't doing it. So get in someone who will. Go to the police station if you can one day after school or get a friend to go with you on a weekend. Show them the record you have kept of what he has done to you and when and tell them that you're scared and need to know what to do. Explain you don't necessarily want to do anything specific about it but you need advice. I really think they would be happy to help you with this.
I'm really sorry you're in this situation but you have to do what is best to protect yourself and your parents. Your brother really sounds like he needs help but probably isn't about to accept it. Just hold in there for now and try to let it all blow over. Stay out of his way and keep the records. Everything will pan out and he will probably calm down but for now, if you need any further advice or just want someone to talk to, I'm right here so please don't be afraid to drop in a message or two.
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ok i've heard some stories about girls having sex for the first time....and then it not being possible becuase it hurts to bad cuz the guy is...too big i guess?
does this happen and is it something that i should worry about?
cuz im a virgin and i just want to be prepared i guess.
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Originally, in most cases, it does hurt quite a lot because you're not used to having something 'up there'. Don't worry, the pain does usually eventually subside but there is also normally some bleeding after your first time. This is a result of your hymen being broken but if you wear tampons, it is possible your hymen may already be broken. As the pain you experience initially is through the hymen breaking, this does mean it might hurt less.
To be honest I don't think it is something that you should worry about. Every girl feels nervous before her first time but when you meet a guy you know you really want to be with in that way, you won't worry so much about the pain as you will the feeling you just want to be close to him. Believe me, when that happens, it will be worth the initial pain.
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Just wondering, but why does the majority of this site use horrible spelling and grammar when they ask questions? True, I understand it may be faster, but when you have a serious question such as when a friend might die, wouldn't you want others to understand what you're talking about? Also, why are there so many questions on people wanting to kill themselves, cutting themselves, and being just downers in life? Life can be so wonderful, and people make it seem so horrible when they cut themselves because their parents don't let them out past 9 or don't buy them a car, when they should feel lucky that they even have caring parents, or even food on the table. I dunno, just... why?
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I have to admit, I'm a bit of a stickler for correct use of the English language and I really hate unnecessary abbreviations and poor spelling. That being said, my Father is a teacher and my Mother has always been very careful to ensure that I use correct grammar and spelling and not everyone has that sort of upbringing. I have to admit, I hate it when I was growing up but I am grateful for it now because of the manner in which people talk or write.
It's really not just here. As someone has said, it's everywhere in the world. I work for a major UK insurance company and a LOT of our employees can't spell and don't know the difference between "whether" and "weather"; or "your" and "you're", which is appalling when you think these people are mostly in their mid to late twenties and are sending letters to customers!!!
The truth is that most people don't use speech like this all the time, it's usually on the internet but it's down to personal choice. However much it might bother you, you have to allow them freedom of speech (or typing as the case might be!) in the one place it truly exists.
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How many days after you are late for your period should you take a pregnancy test for it to be affective? (link)
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Actually, a lot of pregnancy tests will now work from around 4 days before your period is due. I know that one of these is ClearBlue. However, the best thing I can recommend is that you check the different tests available, as there will be different times at which they will be most effective. That being said, if you have already missed your period, the pregnancy hormone should be strong enough for any test to work, if you are in fact pregnant.
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So I have a crush on this guy I've been friends with benefits with. Good idea or no? and why? (link)
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I have to admit, I have always been against the idea of 'friends with benefits' for a number of reasons. I have never done it myself but I saw it emotionally destroy a friend I had. She got to really like this guy and one day he just cut her out of his life completely.
The thing you have to remember is that for most guys, this sort of situation is ideal. All the sex and other 'fun stuff' they want with no strings attached. They can do whatever they like with you and not only do they not have to worry about dating someone else while doing this, they can stop calling any time they like!! Not only do they lose all respect for you as a person (after all it's not normally as though they want to become acquainted with your mind when they do this!) but you lose respect for yourself and it's damaging to yourself esteem. Inside, there's almost always a part of you going "Well....he seems to like me when we're in bed/kissing/etrc, so why doesn't he want to actually DATE me??"
Honestly, I would say that you are best off getting out of the situation but if you really want to do something about it then tell him how you feel. The downside of this is that you have to be prepared for an answer you don't like. If you think you can handle that then take a deep breath and just tell him you like him. If you don't think you can then it would be better if you ended the whole thing because it will make it all far too confusing for you both if you have feelings for him.
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 9 months. Well, the other day I asked him to take a break for a week because he had been really mean to me and was picking fights. I really have no feelings what so ever for him but he still thinks I love him. He tells me he has never told anyone he loves them but he tells me all the time and he said that we are meant for eachother. I really want to break up with him because I have never cried so much in my life or have ever been so angry. I am very unhappy with him and I want to break up. The only problem is, if I do break up with him he will move 6 hours from me and I'll never see him again. I don't know what to do!! Please help me I'm so confused on what to do!! (link)
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If he as a person and therefore the relationship with him makes you unhappy then you really need to consider what is best for you here because there's really only two options.
You could stay with him and continue to let him believe that you still love him when you know that you don't, while ultimately depriving yourself of the opportunity to get out there and find real happiness with someone you really do care about, not to mention depriving him of finding the person for him; or
You could break up with him, gently and explain to him that the relationship doesn't feel right any more. Yes this may mean he might move away but you can't end the relationship and then prevent him from escaping the situation at the same time. You can tell him you still want to be friends but that you can't lead him to believe that you feel more for him than you really do, because it wouldn't be fair. By all means, tell him that he has hurt your feelings and you can't cope with all the arguments but be warned that he will almost certainly use this as grounds for negotiation; suggesting that you stay with him and try to work this out. The bottom line of the situation HAS to be that you just don't love him.
I'm not saying this will be easy. When any relationship ends (especially after a period of time like 9 months), it is usually painful for both the individual's involved but you have to be strong here. You know what you want and you know what you want for him. Be gentle but firm and stick to your guns. The relationship doesn't feel right to you and that being the case, you shouldn't be together. It's harsh but it's the truth. Don't worry. It will be hard but it will all work out for the best.
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Alright, I'm in a sticky situation because my BEST FRIEND likes me. (guy) and I really like him...but he was my friend first and I'm thinking that if I date him then it'll ruin our friendship. I've talked to him about it and he says that it won't (which on one hand I do believe him bc he's not one of those guys that tells you what you want to hear unless it's true) I love spending time with him, in fact I've been over at his house more this summer than my own i think lol. I also like the fact that he has seen ALL of my quirkey moments and still likes me for them. Like I said, I just don't want to lose my best friend. That would devastate me. What do you think that I should do??
love
mo
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When it comes to situations such as this, I always say there is a rule of thumb that needs to be applied when it comes to choosing whether or not to date the person in question.
Basically, it all boils down to how much do you really care about him and for how long have you felt this way? If you have liked him a lot for a very long time, this is not a crush that is likely to go away overnight and I would say that if this is the case, it will be worth the risk. You can't have great love without great risk and if there is a potential for something true and special then you should go for it. If, on the other hand, you have liked him for a month or less and you like him but aren't sure it could develop into anything with a future, then you are better off retaining your friendship and looking for someone else.
The good thing about this situation is that at least you know how he feels. To be honest, I really think you should go for it.
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my boyfriend has been an utter jerk to me lately. i dont know what to do. i found out a bunch of lies he been holdin out on me. but i cant break up with him because hes the father of my child- i just dont know what to do with him anymore. all he wants to do is hang out with his guys while i sit at home pregnant and in a crappy mood. hes blaming his ignorance on me, and says that im becoming the type of person he doesnt want to be around anymore. what in the world can i do to let him know tha its NOT all me, and that pregnancy CAUSES YOU TO HAVE MOODSWINGS???!!! hes jsut not gtting the concept. (link)
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I have never been pregnant, so I can't truly understand how you feel right now but I can imagine it must be a very tricky situation.
I think that really there are two different ways to look at this. From your point of view, I truly believe that he needs to be more understanding because he is using seeing his friends as a way of escaping the current situation and he can only do that for so long. Sooner or later, he will have to accept he IS going to be a Father.
That being said, I understand that hormones will be wreaking havoc with you right now and between morning sickness and finding out that none of your old clothes fit, it's a little hard to stay calm all the time. However, it might do you some good to try and relax a little bit (difficult I know with all this going on but it sounds as if you need it right now)and try to view things from a different perspective, just to work out if you really are treating him unfairly. I'm not saying what he is doing to you is right at all, so please don't think that but what I am saying is that around 'that time of the month', when PMS kicks in, there's a lot less hormonal change but we can still treat our men VERY unreasonabley (I know I do!!). Basically, you need to work out if you have been unfair to him.
I say this because you need to talk to him about the whole situation. My concern is that from the way he is walking out to go with friends rather than looking after you right now, he might not be ready for Fatherhood yet. The problem with this is that like it or not, it's coming and he needs to accept this. If he can't, however much you might not want to break up with him, you might have to for your sake and the sake of your baby. I know that might sound stupid, because after all, every baby should have a Father but in the long run, when you're having to do 3 time a night feeds and dealing with colic, you need to make sure you have someone there to support you and not someone who is going to make your life harder. You have one baby on the way, you don't need to be dealing with another.
However harsh it may sound, I think that you need to try to control your emotions a little more (I'm sorry but you might find that if you can control the mood swings, things might be easier) and he needs to grow up and realise that this baby is going to need him. So have a chat with him about it and promise you will try to work on the mood swings as long as he promises to stop going out with his friends all the time rather than dealing with his responsibilities. If he can't accept that, believe me, you will be better off with him gone because after that baby arrives, a man who behaves like that will be the last thing you will want to deal with.
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What are some good pop and rock 80s-90s music? (link)
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It all really depends on your taste. However, I'll give you the names of some groups/bands/artists/songs that I thought were good:
Duran Duran - pretty much anything by them!
Nik Kershaw - The Riddle
Bananarama - Love In The First Degree, Venus
Boomtown Rats - I Don't Like Mondays, Rat Trap
Will Smith - Pretty much anything
Madonna - Pretty much anything
ABBA (earlier half of the 80's and again, pretty much anything)
N-Trance - Set You Free
Faith Hill - This Kiss
Paul Young - Wherever I Lay My Hat, Love Of The Common People
Tiffany - I Think We're Alone Now
Billy Joel - The Longest Time, Uptown Girl
Men At Work - Down Under
Goo Goo Dolls - Iris
Europe - The Final Countdown
Adam and The Ants/Adam Ant - Pretty much anything
Survivor - Eye Of The Tiger
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So my friend called me last night when he was drunk... i'm dying to know: does alcohol kind of act as truth serum? or is it jus the first thing they think of saying? thanks! (link)
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It can do, although it really depends upon the person. Alcohol is basically a way of releasing someone's inhibitions. It relaxes people (in most cases) and numbs them to the fears of confessing feelings, opinions and attitudes that they normally suppress for whatever reasons. This is why it is commonly referred ti as giving people 'Dutch Courage'.
However, it can also make people more friendly, because they feel relaxed. If you truly trust someone, then normally you can tell whether it's relaxing them enough to tell the truth or whether they are just feeling very friendly and happy in general. It's a lot harder if you don't know the person well.
I really think you ought to talk to him about it. Don't be jokey about it. Just come straight out with it and say "I don't know if you remember but you called me last night and said you loved me." See what he says.
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okay so here's the deal. I'm 16/f and my best friend is a guy. He's attractive but i've never really like thought about doing anything sexual with him. He used to date one of my other friends, and now he's asking me to do stuff with him. I'm sure if I should. I'd feel bad because of my friend, but I want to at the same time because I haven't been with anyone in along time. Considering i've only been with 2 other guys. What should I do? Am i bad person for even considering it? (link)
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I really don't think you are a bad person for considering it because the fact is that he's an attractive guy. What might make you a bad person is acting on those feelings without speaking to your friend first.
I have to make a point that if he's just asking you to do stuff with him but doesn't want to go out with you as well, he doesn't sound like a great guy. He might be attractive but he clearly doesn't have any respect for you as a person because he doesn't have the decency of having a relationship with you while asking you to do stuff with him.
Now, you might be happy with this sort of situation. I know a lot of people are. However, if you don't want to risk your friendship with the girl who previously dated him, I seriously advise that you ask her if she minds BEFORE you agree to do anything with him. If you agree to do say yes to doing anything with him or worse still, actually DO anything without getting her seal of approval first and she then finds out, you can kiss goodbye to your friendship.
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heres a simple question, am i weird? i am 13 and i like old songs like by the 4 seasons and i have them on my ipod and stuff. and also ALOT of other oldies or old songs. not just oldies, like stuff from 80's and 70's. and i loved the jersey boys musical. i dont think of myself as a geek. i also love new songs but i love old songs just as much, am i a little.. odd? (link)
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No, you aren't weird. You're what they call 'eclectic'. You like lots of different types of music and believe me, that is a good thing because these days, most teenagers like your good self write off older music as 'stuff their parents/grandparents listened to and therefore not cool'. The fact is, the older stuff is more...real. There were no synthesisers to change the way things sounded, a lot more people wrote their own music and people back then had REAL talent like most of the singers today could never dream of without voice training.
I'm 21 years old and my absoloute favourite singer/performer in the world is David Cassidy. Pretty much nobody my age or your age will know who he is but at one point, he was more famous than The Beatles. He was 'the' sex God of the 1970's for quite some time and he has an amazing stage presence with a truly rich voice. However, even people my parent's age think I'm 'weird' because I'm a fan and I get some very odd looks when I go to his concerts!!
At the end of the day, you can't worry about how people judge you over the things you enjoy, as long as it doesn't hurt anybody. They may not understand and they may not want to but don't let their narrow mindedness make you close your mind. You like GOOD, TRUE music. You run with that and don't let anyone make you feel you shouldn't.
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