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ok i recently started going out with this guy that i don't like, well actually I just like him as a friend. He is really funnny and sweet a bit cheesy but overall really sweet. He kissed me the other day and one of my friends saw, she thinks it's kinda cruel for me to be going out with him if I don't like him and also cause two of my other friends liked him and one still kina does. What do you think I should do? I don't want to upset him because he is a really great friend and an even better boyfriend
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okay, situations like these are always hard. although you dont want to hurt this guy,staying with him and letting his feelings for you get built up and then eventually ending it is much crueler than breaking up with him right away. the longer you are with him the more he will start to like you and if you dont feel the same way back,yet you pretend to,its all a big lie and that would break his heart. i think you should end it with him in the nicest way possible, and let him know that you definetely want to stay close friends and you think he is an awesome guy.
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I've been in your exact situation so I know where you're coming from but the truth is that if you don't like him in that way then you really shouldn't be going out with him. Not only are you wasting your time but you're wasting his too. If you know that he isn't the sort of guy you can truly see yourself with then there's no point and it would be much kinder to break it off now than to wait until it will be more painful.
Try to meet up with him somewhere and just explain to him that he's a really nice guy and you care about him a lot but you just don't feel any chemistry and you can't be his girlfriend when you don't feel the same way about him as he does about you. Stress that it wouldn't be fair to carry on going out with him when you know he can find someone who can truly care about him the way he should be cared about.
The important point about breaking up with someone is that you're not telling them you don't like them at all and you think they're too terrible to go out with. It's that they deserve someone who can give them what they want and you don't want to take the chance of getting that away from them. This is what you need to get across to him.
Don't worry. He might be upset at first but he will realise that it wouldn't have been right to carry on a relationship and soon enough he will be able to move on and hopefully get the sort of relationship he wants. Equally as important, so will you.
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Break it off with him. If you only like him as a friend then you could really hurt him if you break up with him later on in the relationship. Tell him that you're doing it because you like him more as a friend, you don't want to ruin your friendship, && it's unfair that you're going out with him when you only like him as a friend. You could also tell him that one of your friends likes him. If you're going to break up with him, don't do it online or on the phone. Tell him face to face because that's the best way && you both can talk the whole thing out. Make sure nobody's around if you do it, you could embarass him.
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you could just tell that you dont want to ruin your friendship with him by going out with him becuase youve heard stories about friends going out and when they break up they dont talk anymore. tell him that if you guys break up you dont want to have an awkward relationship. he might feel the same way. but break up with him soon, you dont wanna lead him on.
hope i helped
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