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9 crazy months.
16/f
My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little over 9 months. Well, the other day I asked him to take a break for a week because he had been really mean to me and was picking fights. I really have no feelings what so ever for him but he still thinks I love him. He tells me he has never told anyone he loves them but he tells me all the time and he said that we are meant for eachother. I really want to break up with him because I have never cried so much in my life or have ever been so angry. I am very unhappy with him and I want to break up. The only problem is, if I do break up with him he will move 6 hours from me and I'll never see him again. I don't know what to do!! Please help me I'm so confused on what to do!!
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If he as a person and therefore the relationship with him makes you unhappy then you really need to consider what is best for you here because there's really only two options.
You could stay with him and continue to let him believe that you still love him when you know that you don't, while ultimately depriving yourself of the opportunity to get out there and find real happiness with someone you really do care about, not to mention depriving him of finding the person for him; or
You could break up with him, gently and explain to him that the relationship doesn't feel right any more. Yes this may mean he might move away but you can't end the relationship and then prevent him from escaping the situation at the same time. You can tell him you still want to be friends but that you can't lead him to believe that you feel more for him than you really do, because it wouldn't be fair. By all means, tell him that he has hurt your feelings and you can't cope with all the arguments but be warned that he will almost certainly use this as grounds for negotiation; suggesting that you stay with him and try to work this out. The bottom line of the situation HAS to be that you just don't love him.
I'm not saying this will be easy. When any relationship ends (especially after a period of time like 9 months), it is usually painful for both the individual's involved but you have to be strong here. You know what you want and you know what you want for him. Be gentle but firm and stick to your guns. The relationship doesn't feel right to you and that being the case, you shouldn't be together. It's harsh but it's the truth. Don't worry. It will be hard but it will all work out for the best.
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Hey there! If this relationship continues to make you feel degraded, or hurts you, then it's best to move on and end the relationship. Would you want to be stuck in a relationship where you're constantly feeling sad and angry, versus being apart from someone who continued to hurt you? You have also said that you no longer have feelings for him, so it is no use being stuck in a relationship where you are always getting hurt, and you hold no feelings whatsoever anymore, you know? Also, after you and your boyfriend may break up, it is a possibility that you and him may be still keep in touch as friends. If you decide to end the relationship, tell him straight-forwardly how you feel, and as gently as possible so that you both will not be even more pained, and it will end on good terms. With this, you will also have the chance to keep in close contact, even if 6 hours apart.
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Well what your doing to him isn't fair to him.It seems that you don't want to be in a relationship with him but only friends.Tell him that.He should respect that and you can still be his frined but it would be acwared..........
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katie
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