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my brother
i need help my brother and i we dont get along at all i mean he can be a push over and a control freak. And like he is one of those people that love talking bout killing and weapons like he keeps knifes in his room and he will threaten me with them sometimes when he gets really angry with me. And he hits me almost every single day and what ever i say to him it just makes it worse and we get into arguements every single day. And every knows bout him hitting me and my parents to but just talking to him does nothing.I am the middle child and sometimes i think that he takes advantage of me.
i am 15 yrs old and i am his younger sister and he is 17.
What can i do?
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Okay you really need to do something about this now because he cannot be allowed to get away with this behaviour.
If you have tried talking seriously to your parents about this (and by that I mean sitting them down when your brother is nowhere around and calmly telling them he is threatening you with these knives and you want it to stop) and they have still done nothing then you really need to speak to someone else.
The first port of call that I would recommend is your school guidance counsellor. As much as I would like to think that my advice would be adequate, the circumstances of your problem will require someone who is in a position to take things further if necessary and can provide further information that I will not be able to. If you don't have a guidance counsellor at your school, speak to a parent that you can trust. Stress that you just want to know what you should do because you don't believe your parents are handling the situation in an adequate or sensitive manner. (I would like to make the point it might be that with his aggression and use of knives they are probably just as scared of him as you are).
The guidance counsellor/teacher may wish to meet with your parents and discuss this. I would recommend you go along with this as realising that they are not really dealing with this as they should be might just give them the boost they need.
However, at the same time, here is what I would like to recommend. Keep a record of what could be classed as threatening or abusive behaviour by your bother. In other words, times when he has threatened you with knives or made threats about using them on you at any time. Record when he hits you and ensure that while doing this, you do NOTHING back to him. You don't threaten him or hit back, you just let him get on with it. I know that sound unpleasent but you need to be as blameless as possible.
If, after speaking with the guidance counsellor/teacher and/or parents things don't improve at all, I would suggest you refer the matter to the police. It probably sounds very dramatic but you may need to do something like this to make your parents realise what is going on. The fact is that your own flesh and blood is keeping weapons in his bedroom and using them against you and the people who are meant to protect you from such behaviour aren't doing it. So get in someone who will. Go to the police station if you can one day after school or get a friend to go with you on a weekend. Show them the record you have kept of what he has done to you and when and tell them that you're scared and need to know what to do. Explain you don't necessarily want to do anything specific about it but you need advice. I really think they would be happy to help you with this.
I'm really sorry you're in this situation but you have to do what is best to protect yourself and your parents. Your brother really sounds like he needs help but probably isn't about to accept it. Just hold in there for now and try to let it all blow over. Stay out of his way and keep the records. Everything will pan out and he will probably calm down but for now, if you need any further advice or just want someone to talk to, I'm right here so please don't be afraid to drop in a message or two.
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