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i think im making a mistake.
okay so here's the deal. I'm 16/f and my best friend is a guy. He's attractive but i've never really like thought about doing anything sexual with him. He used to date one of my other friends, and now he's asking me to do stuff with him. I'm sure if I should. I'd feel bad because of my friend, but I want to at the same time because I haven't been with anyone in along time. Considering i've only been with 2 other guys. What should I do? Am i bad person for even considering it?
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Of course your not a bad person for considering it but don't ever do sexual things with somebody because you feel bad or embarrased by saying no. If he is truly your friend and you say no, he should respect it. Don't ever let anybody manipulate you into a situation that you are not comfortable with.
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Do you honestly like him? It sounds like you are considering him for the wrong reasons. That is wrong. But do you really want to risk your friendship with the girl he went out with who is your friend? Make sure you actually like this guy before you do anything you might regret.
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It sounds to me like you are just considering this out of pity or because you haven't been with anyone for a long time. Just think it through if you want to go with it, and no your not a bad person for considering it. It's your choice.
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I really don't think you are a bad person for considering it because the fact is that he's an attractive guy. What might make you a bad person is acting on those feelings without speaking to your friend first.
I have to make a point that if he's just asking you to do stuff with him but doesn't want to go out with you as well, he doesn't sound like a great guy. He might be attractive but he clearly doesn't have any respect for you as a person because he doesn't have the decency of having a relationship with you while asking you to do stuff with him.
Now, you might be happy with this sort of situation. I know a lot of people are. However, if you don't want to risk your friendship with the girl who previously dated him, I seriously advise that you ask her if she minds BEFORE you agree to do anything with him. If you agree to do say yes to doing anything with him or worse still, actually DO anything without getting her seal of approval first and she then finds out, you can kiss goodbye to your friendship.
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Your intentions are wrong, yes. Just because you don't see many people doesn't mean that since this guy wants to do something with you, you should. You'd just be using him.
You aren't bad for considering it, that's normal. If you were actually do this, it would most certainly be wrong. Make sure you're in it for the right reasons.
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First of all no you are not wrong for thinking this. But if it is your friends feelings you are worried about then all you have to do is ask if it would be ok with her. She will more than likely say yes because she will see you are a good enough friend to ask her first before you do something about your feelings. It is your choice on wether or not to ask her but it will make you feel a lot better if you do.
Good luck,
Hope I helped
(If you would like more of my advice e-mail me at truelovers2104@yahoo.com)
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Well please what ever you do don't give into this guy and do what he wants because you've only been with two guys and need someone. I don't really know the kinda of things he wants you to do but there are many STD's so please make a wise decision. And if you decision is to do stuff with this guy talk to your friend. Just be like "are you ok with the fack that i'm going out with him and you wouldn't be mad or upset if we _________ (what ever he wants you to do)
Hope I helped
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I wouldn't do it. It could ruin your friendship with your girl-friend and your guy-friend.
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