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is it time to give up?
sorry if this is long.. but pleasee read.. thanks soo much in advance..
well i have or had.. a really good friend... lets call him jack.. and me and jack have known each other since 2nd grade.. and well.. me and jack get into alot.. and i mean ALOT of fights.... and well i think that we arent friends anymore.. cause i said (which i should not have said) i understand if you dont want to be friends anymore... and then.. he just didnt say anything.. so i guess that means we arent friends..(right?) and i've just known him for soo long.. i dont want to lose him as a friend... but should i just give up on trying to make our friendship work? or should i try something to be friends with him.. and if so.. what should i say or do?? THANKSS ALOTT FOR ANSWERINGGG...
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If you are really fighting that much then I guess the truth of the situation is that you haven't really been friends with each other for some time, especially if they are particularly vicious. People put the title 'friend' on someone and then if this happens, it's always a big decision whether or not to remove the title. Actually, a friend is only as good as their behaviour towards you. If they don't treat you as a friend, they aren't your friend at all and you deserve better.
I know it's nasty to have to say goodbye to someone who meant a lot to you in the past but it sounds like it would be the right thing to do right now. Maybe at some point in the future you will be able to be friends again but right now you need to cut this one loose and focus on the people who really can be good friends to you. Don't worry, you will be fine without him.
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It seems like you and "jack" have been through alot together. It sounds like you two are still friends but have hit a bump in the road. Explain to jack that you didnt mean it when you said thet the two of you shoudln't be friends. Your friendship means alot to him snd more than liely he was hurt by this. Let jack know that you still want to be friends, that you really value his friendship, and that you're sorry for what you said! I'm sure he will understand and the two of you will be friends agian in no time!
Kait♥
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don't give up, persevere.
it's up to you if you want to be friends with him or not, but if you do, then hear me out. i would say to apologize to him, even if you don't really want to. then try to explain to him why you said that. like you feel really distant from him and you want to be closer and that you really don't like fighting with him. if he accepts you, then hang out more, and do things that you both like to do.
good luck & hope i helped!
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