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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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This girl who is 12, in my school, had sex with a 14 year old.
I don't know the details or anything, but I know she has done it like 10 other times with a 16 year old too.

She agreed to, and wanted to, but couldnt they be charged with rape or something?

I live in ohio. (link)
As long as she is willing then no. If they were 18, which is legally an adult,they could be, but not 14. :)


Why are people not concerned with the environment? Why are people more concerned with the costs of saving our planet than the future of it? I don't understand why governments don't just unite [I know it's naive] and face the problems that we have, especially global warming. Because of global warming, the ice caps will melt, water levels will rise, and the poles will become extremely overheated, all while the population continues to increase. And no one takes action, so our children will have to suffer.

Why do people just blow it off? =[ (link)
Well, I personally don't think it is true.

You have Gore on Oprah talking about global warming...

Then Dennis Miller on Letterman with a Newsweek or
Time magazine (can't remember which) article from the 70's spouting the same story...only difference is its global COOLING they are worried about.

I think everyone should do their best to keep our
environment healthy. But there are just as many scientists saying this is a normal progression.

Anyone with an agenda can make a story sound good. I am always leery of any politician wanting their name in the news. I'm sure I am not alone. :)


how do i defrag my computer? thanx (link)
In the same place listed in the answers below you will find a disc cleanup. Run that first to get rid of temporary files and things you do not need. THEN
run the disc defragger on your C drive. Is easy to do, just hit defragment button.


what happens when i defrag? will it delete things like the unused ones or what? is it good to defrag? should i do it alot? thanks (link)

All a defragger does is put things back where they belong. If you download a lot of things or if you have deleted some things defragging can make your computer run a little faster.

Use the disc cleaner first to get rid of temporary files and all that. Then run the defragger.

Perhaps someone else knows how often you should use it. I have heard it can damage your disc if you do it to often, but I don't know how true this is.



how come whenever i go onto a myspace tehres ActiveControl X and they almost never work and it says send or dotn send error report. its EXTREMLY annoying and i want to get rid of it!

HELLPPPPP.

(link)
The only way I got rid of the active X message on almost every site I visited was downloading and using FireFox instead of Internet explorer.

It got really annoying and then would just close down the site more than half the time.

http://www.mozilla.com/en-US/firefox/


13 - female.

I met this guy a few weeks ago.
We exchanged numbers and he called me and stuff.
the next time i saw him, he found out i was 13, and i found out we was 17!
then he hasn't called me.
i really like him a lot, and now it feels awkward between us when i see him...
any good conversation starters i can use that will make it more comfortable between us? (link)
He will be 18 soon. Any moves he may make on you sexually would get him thrown in jail.

Even if you live in a state that okays that at the youngest age (16), that's still about 3 years in the future. I'm sorry to say you won't find many 17 year old guys willing to wait that long these days.

I know that is probably not something you are even thinking about at this point...but he knows all about it, and that is probably the reason he has backed off.

He evidently liked you so don't take it as an insult. Just tell him you understand why your age came as a shock to him and that you would still like to be friends. :)


Well It's me again, the girl who asked if that boy didn't call me back, that it meant he doesn't like me. Well he never did call me, and and he didn't really say anything to me at school, but I know he is really shy. I really want to call him, but it seems like I always call him and I don't want to annoy him. Plus he said I could call him anytime, but I really want him to call me. What do you think I should do? Thanks! (link)
I think you'll probably just have to call him.
In all fairness he should call you now and then too,
but if he is shy and doesn't like to use the phone
you may just have to be the one who does the calling. He said you can call anytime, so call him and see whats up. You'll feel better knowing. :)


13/f
Okay there is this guy that I have liked for 3 years and sometimes I get mad at him for saying or doing things but then I fall in love with him again. I really like this guy and I asked him out once last year and this year of school in the beginning and both times he said no. Now my friends keep on trying to get me to ask him out again and what should I do? (link)
I'm sure your friends mean well but this is one time that I would advise you not to follow their advice.

He has said no twice now. Maybe his parents won't allow him to date at his age, or maybe he just doesn't want to date you right now. We don't know.

What we do know is he has turned you down twice. If you keep asking he is going to start cringing when he sees you coming!

For now just talk to him when you can and try and be friends with him. He knows you like him. He will ask when he is ready. Don't bug him, it will be a big turn off. :)


does anyone know the lyrics for Chris Daughtry's GREAT SONG " over you " thankssss (link)
Over You Daughtry lyrics

Artist: Daughtry
Album: Daughtry
Year: 2006
Title: Over You



Now that it’s all said and done
I can’t believe you were the one
To build me up and tear me down
Like an old abandoned house
What you said when you left
Just left me cold and out of breath
I felt as if I was in way to deep
Guess I let you get the best of meeee

(Chorus)
Well I never saw it coming
I should have started running
A long, long time agooo!
And I never thought I’d doubt you
I’m better off without you
More than you, more than you know
I’m slowly getting closure
I guess it’s really over
I’m finally gettin’ better
Now I’m picking up the pieces
From spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together
‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through
I got over you!!!
(End Chorus)

You took a hammer to these walls
Dragged the memories down the hall
Packed your bags and walked away
There was nothing I could say,
And when you slammed the front door shut
A lot of other’s opened up
So did my eyes so I could see
That you never were the best for meee

(Chorus)
Well I never saw it coming
I should have started running
A long, long time agooo!
And I never thought I’d doubt you
I’m better off without you
More than you, more than you know
I’m slowly getting closure
I guess it’s really over
I’m finally getting’ better
Now I’m picking up the pieces
From spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together
‘Cause the day I thought I’d never get through
I got over you!!!
(End Chorus)

I never saw it coming
I should have started running
A long, long time agooo
And I never thought I’d doubt you
I’m better off without you

And I never saw it coming
I should have started running
I’m finally getting better
Now I’m picking up the pieces
From spending all of these years
Putting my heart back together
And I got over you!!!
And I got over you!!!
And I got over you!!!

The day I thought I’d never get through
I got over you…


So I was with my boyfriend one time and he would stimulate me on my clit and like my body would like shake because I couldnt help it and my nerves went nuts and I started going numb in my hands and around my lip and it felt so good... Is this an orgasm? (link)
yep. It sure is. :)


ive heard some people say that you may not even relize that your hymen has been popped, is that true? or .. yeah idk and another question, does it always hurt when it gets popped by tampon,sex etc.?
(link)
Here is a site that tells you all about it. I thinnk it will answer yuor questions. Lots of good info on the site so look around while you are there! :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/hymen.htm


ok i dont get what masturbating is. can someone explain it to me? (link)
Here is a good site that will tell yu all about it.
Look around while there, it has lots of good info for teens. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/masturbation.htm


This guy sometimes calls me, before that I use to call him, but whenever he wanted me to call, he would send me an e-mail saying that I can call him later if I wanted. Saying that just told me he wanted me to call him so I did. Well I sent him an e-mail saying he can call me if he wants, but he didn't send a answer back and I know he was on today. If he doesn't call me, does that mean he doesn't like me? I'm really scared here. Thanks! (link)
Some people, like me (LOL), just don't like to talk on the phone. I pick that thing up and suddenly can't think of a thing to say. I very rarely call anyone and don't talk on the phone unless someone calls me.

He could be that way since it seems you do most of the calling. He may just not be able to get himself to dial the phone!

I would go ahead an talk to him online if he is on.
If not give him a call. He may just be busy, he may be gone but have his computer on..you never know. I don't think it means he doesn't like you.

Don't panic! Give him a call or talk to him online. :)


Is it possible to do nursing when you are a junior? (under 18). Or any thing similar.

Thank you (link)
I don't think so. Nurses go through many years of college. :)



We are a small family of four living on my husband's income. We have a small farm that I run, and I home-school my children. My husband works full time in another job. We aren't poor, but we do have to count our nickels and dimes and budget for things we want.

This is the first year we have splurged on gifts for the children, and we spent more on my sister-in-law because, for once, we had a little extra to spend. It has brought us joy that we can be a bit more generous.

Now that our Christmas budget is spent, my sister-in-law has asked twice that we purchase gifts for her dog -- wrapped, no less -- because her dog likes opening packages! I ignored her request the first time. After the second one, I told her we don't ask people to purchase gifts for our kids, and we don't purchase gifts for other people's pets. Now she's offended.

It may not seem like a lot, but for us, it's a big deal when we get to purchase a movie and a pizza every few months. We never ask anything of anyone. We're a happy, tight-knit family regardless of our financial status.

My husband has had enough. He's tired of his sister's self-absorption and wants to tell her to grow up and that the world does not revolve around her and her dog. Instead, I asked her to simply return any gifts she has bought for us and spend the money on her dog. Are we being unreasonable? (link)

Some people do treat their dogs like kids. Nothing wrong with that, but they shouldn't expect anyone else to treat them that way!

Just simply tell her that you are spending any extra money you have on your children. You have no money to spend on dog gifts. Sorry, end of discussion.

Thought: If you want to you could find some scrap material and make the dogs some rag dolls! Maybe the kids could help make them. Just find a larger piece of material and throw some scraps inside. Twist the scraps like making a ghost and sew it or tie it up. :)


male
16 years old

ok well i have the history of being dumped for being "clingly" . and well im with a girl i really like right now and i dont want my "clingyness" to get in the way of this so could someone please clarifi (spelling) what exactly being clingy is and what i can do to not be clingy. like me and my gf go to the same skewl but not at the same time like i go to a after skewl credit make up thingy so we dont see eachother to much which dosent let me be to clingy but yea also what can i do to not be clingy if ya know what i mean ? (link)

Well, being clingy means you are just always there and never let someone out of your sight when you're together.

How many girls have called you clingy? If it was just one then don't be overly concerned. But if you think you are clingy just give her room to breathe.
Don't follow her around everywhere she goes.

The best thing you can probably do is just tell her.
"Look I've been called clingy in the past. I don't want to be. If I do something you consider to clingy, please let me know." :)


I've been dating my boyfriend for quite a few years..and while he's in another country right now, we always talk online, sometimes over the phone.

But the thing is, I never can talk about anything. Deeply I mean, besides my little problems, and the rest of our conversations are: how was your day, what'd you do, what're you doing now, what're you doing later, us flirting, us planning what to do when he can come back to see me...and you get the picture.

He's quite intelligent, and I'm not an idiot...I just don't know a lot, or I guess I might not get correct information. My boyfriend always gets bothered because I can never actually seem to talk about things...or when he offers to talk about things like politics or history I don't want to because I don't know a lot and I don't want things to end up in arguements because he's....opinioted.

So just...what can I talk about that doesn't make me look so stupid? Or just talk about to him with conversations? (link)

I may not be the biggest help on this problem. I don't get into to many conversations myself!

I will tell you, being married to an opinionated man...they LOVE to argue their point. You can learn a lot by listening to them too and will be able to jump in and argue your point sooner or later. And what sounds as if they are mad at you, they aren't.
So you could talk about those things if you wanted.

Other than that you could talk about friends and family. And there is noting wrong with flirting or planning.

You could talk about movies or TV shows you like.
Save up some good jokes or articles you read online and send him a link while talking online.
Then you can discuss it.

You could have him make an advice column and then you would have plenty of "did you read that question!" conversations.

So long as you are talking about anything you will do OK. Hope he comes home soon! :)


me and this guy are good friends...we tell eachother things that our best friends don't even know...we get along good...and now he wants to ask me out...i think i like him...but i'm not sure...what do i do?...cause i also don't want to turn him down... (link)
It sounds like he is someone you already trust with things so I think you should give it a try.

If it just feels to weird after you go out a couple of times, just tell him so and go back to being friends.

As a matter of fact, let him know right up front if he asks you out. Tell him you'd love to go out with him but if it starts feeling weird to either of you
then you go back to just being friends.

A tip: Do not treat each other differently just because you are dating. Act with each other as you do now. Sometimes in the quest to impress or be the perfect girlfriend/boyfriend, you start holding back or keeping your feelings to yourself.
Don't let that happen and it will work out fine. :)


Okay we know that it is alright for a black man and a white girl to date. But is it okay for a white man to date a black girl. If you are a white male, would you ever date a black girl. And if you are a black girl would you date a white man. If not,why? If yes, why?I am thinking about it, but I don't know. (link)

Its alright to date anyone who you have something in common with and someone you really like. It doesn't matter at all what color or what sex they are.

So if you are a white man and you really like a girl, go ahead and date her for those reasons. Meaningful relationships are much deeper than skin color. :)


I'm 26 yr old male and my brother passed away a few years ago, leaving his son who is now 12. I'm am still very close to my nephew. I talk to him on the phone alot, email with him, etc. His mom is a terrible mom, who happens to have 2 other kids from 2 other men and wastes the social security money from my brother on cigarettes, alcohol, and frivilous items. She pays no attention to the boy and he stays with his grandma most nights because she doesnt wake him up in time for him to go go school. I'm afraid my nephew might soon turn to drugs, alcohol, etc. I've also noticed quite a lack of self esteem. I know that he has had 'girlfriends' but have yet to see them or meet them. His friends seem to be good, but I believe Im too old to be able to judge 12-13 year olds. He needs a man in his life and everytime Im in the area he always stays with me (I live 2 hours away). I plan to move back into the area soon and feel that he may want to live with me. Heres the questions:
1. How can I help to make sure he stays on the right path until I get there? I've already had the sex, drinking, pot, and cigarette talks with him.
2. How could I approach to his mother the possibility of him living with me, which I want to happen for his sake.
3. If he were to move in with me, would it be wrong to ask for the social security that HE should be getting for my brother's death so I can start a fund for him for college, car, etc.? (link)

1) Keep in contact with him. Should you want to get custody at some point the more contact you have had, the better it will look in court. Not to mention it is good for him to know he has someone who cares. Be sure you let him know you are always there should he need to talk, and let him know how much you care about him.

2) Wait to talk to his mom until you move to the area. She may not agree to let him live with you, and you don't really want to give her time to think about it. If she is really a bad mother, you may want to sue her for custody. Wait until you can observe her behavior with your own eyes. Some young teens exaggerate how bad they have it at home...which is normal teen behavior.

3)If he does move in with you then you should receive the SSI check for him. She probably won't give it up voluntarily though. You will probably have to go through court and become his legal guardian to get it. That's not a bad idea anyway
since you will want to be able to give consent for medical treatment etc. should anything like that come up. So make it all legal to protect the both of you. You don't want her changing her mind and taking him back, which could happen.




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