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I've stayed here so that I can share the knowledge I do have. I know I'm not changing the world but I do hope that I spark others to open their eyes.
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I hope that even if you absolutely hate my answer that it'll kick start your brain. Hopefully you'll begin taking your time to respond instead of hurried answers that are useless to an already confused person.
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I'm just curious about this question. Can virgins have/get herpes? Even when they don't have any sort of sexual contact? (link)
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Sure can!
Virgins can be born with herpes or contract them by their own parents. There are many, many, many mothers and fathers on herpes help forums that panic because during diaper changes they forgot to wash their hands and ended up transmitting the herpes virus--resulting in very painful sores for baby to have to deal with and the parents becoming confused as what to tell the child when it is older. It's becoming pretty common now because it's SO easy to forget to wash your hands BEFORE a diaper change. For note, many parents are so embarrassed about this they choose not to tell their child that the sores they sometimes experience are not normal. In addition to that problem, some people can go longer than 10 years without ever having a visible sore or symptom of the herpes--making it possible for someone to not even KNOW they have herpes for quite some time.
(Yes, herpes can be spread even if there is not a sore present.)
Pregnant women can also transmitted herpes (hsv-1 or hsv-2) to their infants during birth. This is why is it VERY important to tell your OB/GYN if you have herpes during pregnancy so that they can take precautions during childbirth (i.e.: not allow vaginal birth and pray the c-section doesn't end up resulting in infection). Many times the babies become blind though when the mother gives birth vaginally and has hsv-1 or hsv-2 on her genitals.
And, last but not least, even masturbation can cause you to contract things like herpes or even HPV strains. Unclean hands can carry so much bacteria, and new studies are finding live strains of STDs deep underneath the nailbeds where most people just don't scrub down before they touch themselves.
For a factual event: I contracted HSV-1 from my mother by drinking after her occasionally. My parents are completely against kissing children on the lips so it was not contracted that way. My strain came from sipping my mother's hot beverages while we waited for my bus to arrive when I was 4 years old (in kindergarten). At 4 years old, yes, I was a virgin ;) and, although it was quite some time ago, I can remember my first outbreak very clearly.
There you have it.
Virgins can very well have STDs.
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i have acne marks. the brownish ones. what's a cheap drugstore lotion or something that i can get that will fade them?
i have sensitive skin.
and i want it to be guaranteed to work. (link)
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Personally, I would go the natural method to help your skin heal up from the scars since you already have sensitive skin. While you could use the over the counter creams I'm just not sure about what it might do to sensitive facial skin.
Vitamin E capsules can be broken and applied directly to the skin to help it repair and renew. There is also a liquid version you can get.
And lanolin can be bought in the baby care section for breastfeeding mothers. It sounds insane but this stuff really does wonders for making your skin all soft and smooth on your face. I've been using it on my dry areas and man you can really see a difference in the health of the skin.
You can also take vitamins and something called MSM to help you body renew skin cells quicker and more efficiently.
Steam can also help the cells get enough moisture in addition to drinking a lot of water. You can just heat a pot of water on the stove and then pull it off and let the steam go on your face for a few minutes. It helps the skin to be more supple.
If you don't want to go the natural path then I really recommend you seeing a dermatologist before diving in and purchasing something. The last thing you want to do is burn your sensitive facial skin by using a product that is too hard, harsh, or strong for you.
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Hey, last saturday i woke up with this really bad pain above my left eye kinda surrouding the eye kinda like pressure. As the week has gone by the pain is getting worse and worse. Today it started getting to the point where i couldnt keep my head up it was getting so bad. It feels like a knife keeps stabbing above my eye. I was sitting in the back of class and leaned my head against the wall and taped it kinda and it didnt hurt where it hit but when it hit all i could feel was the area where this pain is. Everything else wasnt bothered. When i got home today the last couple hours ive been getting dizzy and out of it. It seemed at first like a sinus infection but i never got dizzy or anything this bad with a sinus infection. Anyone have any ideas? if it doesnt get better soon i gotta go to the er i think. im 17 and male by the way (link)
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You should go to the Emergency Room right away.
When head pain lasts for more than 2 days then it's usually pretty serious. You could have internal bleeding. You could have a tumor. You could have a blockage. This could be an early sign of an early stroke (yes, at 17 you can have a stroke; my cousin had almost 20 of them, starting when he was 13).
When your body feels pain like this it's trying to tell you that something is not right. Listen to it. Get emergency medical assistance right now. If it turns out to be absolutely nothing then you'll be lucky. If it turns out to be the early signs of something more serious then you're going to be thankfully you handled it this soon.
Get checked out. Something is seriously wrong.
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Okay so I'm 19 male and my girlfriend doesn't want to be penetrated. I'm okay with it. But she still likes doing sexual things with each other. We have been together for a year and didn't start fooling around till 6 months ago. Basically, we are getting bored with the things we do and i don't want to hurt her by suggesting straight up sex. I want her to keep her "virginity" but we just don't know what to do. I know this is an awkward question and i feel really awkward asking it but i could really use the advice and i think i derserve this since seeing how all the advice i've given. Thanks in advance guys(gals) (link)
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Spice things up with what you do now. Build anticipation. Make her want it. That is really all you can do in any relationship regarding sex.
Yes, even if you were to have intercourse you would, eventually, find yourself doing the "same old thing" over and over again.
So, how do couples "fix" this problem of bedroom bore?
They incorporate toys. Consider purchasing an external vibrator to use on her when you two are having a lustful moment. It doesn't have to be a dildo or penetrative kind either.
Blindfolds, handcuffs, ties, and the like. A lot of people like this sort of thing. A blindfold can add mystery. Being handcuff means you've given all of your control away to trust the other person to please you without crossing boundaries. If you think this might be a good idea then I'd go with the blindfold only first and then, later, talk about the usage of other things.
Become sensual. A body massage can really heat things up. So can a foot massage, for that matter. A lot of people have great success being, ahem, sexual and sensual with nonsexual body parts, if you can catch my drift on that. The receiver gets all worked up for an orgasm (which can be done with outer stimulation, of course).
Everyone likes romanticism. Take her out, treat her to a nice evening, and then bring her home and make it all about her. You can slowly remove hers (and yours) clothing if you'd like and work your way around her body slowly. Lots of movies have these sorts of suggestions if you notice. The whole "panties in the teeth" or kissing on the body. Yeah, it builds that anticipation.
Find what feels good. A lot of times people don't even think about doing things out of the box. Instead of being in the same position every time you do something rearrange yourselves. Sometimes you'll find a surprisingly good "spot" you didn't even know about. Change positions when you're doing some acts. Try a few new things you can think of that might have new results for whatever cause.
Surprise! Everyone likes surprises, right? Instead of talking about what you want to do next week to her just plan it out by yourself. Surprise her. Read up on new material to gather some ideas. Sometimes people react well to the unexpected.
Learn together. I know this might sound crazy but sometimes you can really spice up your sex life by learning things together. Check out some sex books from the library. Rent a few adult dvds (even the educational ones are great for watch-and-try purposes). Have her tag along so if she sees something she can say, "Hey! That sounds good to read/watch about!" I know you're young (probably too young for the local adult stores) so maybe you two could sit down at the computer together and see if something nice could be found.
Leave it as a treat. Doing sexual things all of the time, every time you get a chance wears a person out. Eventually you don't have the same get-up-and-go. You don't have that anticipation because you know it will be coming. Cut down your sexy time and focus on other aspect of your relationship.
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Ok I weigh 250 pounds 5'11 and im joining the Marine Corps. They gave me a diet and work out plan and ill be joining after about six months, but if can lose 50 pounds, more or less, in 3 months i could join earlier. My question is with proper diet and exercise is it possible to lose that much weight in 3 months? (link)
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The problem here is that losing too much weight too fast can actually be detrimental to your own health. Chances are, if you end up losing 50lbs in 3 months (or 90-ish days) you're doing something extremely unhealthy and you body is going to really have some issues.
When you lose weight you should also build muscle. This comes along with great workout plans with cardio and strength training. Muscle weighs more than fat though. If you're fat you have a lot less muscle than you should.
That means when you begin your weightloss journey you aren't going to just drop off all of the fat and that will be that. You might even see weight INCREASES at times because of muscle mass gain. It's perfectly normal, safe, and healthy. That's why it's important to ONLY weigh yourself once a month and do body measurements when you do that so you get an accurate idea of where you may have gained muscle tone and lost some squishy fat.
Health doesn't mean just getting rid of fat. You have to do it the right way without starving yourself or overworking.
Example:
You could strength train every single day. Did you know that it takes about 32 hours for your muscles to heal from tiny tears that occur during strength training? You have to rest during that period of time--or switch to cardio workouts--to let those muscles stay long and lean and not big and bulky. It also increases the strength of the muscle by giving time in between. So, while you could lose more weight faster by doing, say, strength training every day--in the end you don't get the results you're hoping for.
A safe estimate of weight you can lose per month is about 10 pounds tops. It's pretty decent to lose 1 to 2 pounds per week of healthy diet and exercise. Any more weight loss than that then you're probably losing muscle, too, unfortunately. Going into the Marine Corps is not the best time to be lacking muscle power.
Losing too much weight too quickly can also increase the odds of other health problems. You can suffer an electrolyte imbalance, dehydration, and even problems with your heart.
So, your best bet is to shoot to lose about 30-ish pounds in 3 months. That means in 6 months you could possibly be under the 200lb mark, which is even healthier for your height (I'm 5'11" too!). While you might not want to wait right now, it's the healthiest thing you can do for your body.
So, yes, it's possible, but it's far from safe or healthy.
Remember, you didn't get to be overweight overnight. You're not going to be at a healthy weight overnight either. It takes a lot of hard work, dedication, and time. It's a pretty lengthy process of ups an downs.
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if i have discharge , that's Like a bage coLor and a LittLe bit of itching . What does that mean ? (link)
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It could mean you have the start of a yeast infection. More so because of the small amount of itching than the beige colored discharge. Aside from the possibility of being a yeast infection, it could be a bacterial infection that you need antibiotics to defeat.
See your doctor if things just aren't right down there right now. You know what is normal for you body. If something has unexpectedly changed then you should get things checked out.
Remember, you are important and you have to rely on yourself to take care of yourself.
Talk with your mother about setting up a doctor's appointment soon. Just explain how things aren't usual down there and you want somebody to take a look for you. Infections happen from all sorts of things so your mother isn't going to jump to conclusions and accuse you of doing something bad.
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Hi I was just wondering if it's possible for a Hickey to show up 2 days later? (link)
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It is very possible.
A hickey is pretty much just a bruise. Blood vessels break open and some blood rises to the surface. The bruising of a hickey is taken away by healthy cells when they clean out that spot, which can take quite a bit.
Sometimes it will take a day or more for a bruise to be seen, even thought here is settling blood beneath the skin surface. The same is possible to happen with a hickey. It isn't as likely, especially if the sucking motion was hard, but it is possible.
If you feel the bruising spot is not a hickey then it may just be a bruise. If you think it may be more than that then it's best if you speak with a doctor about it to ensure your own health. Remember, you are important and you have to rely on yourself to take care of yourself.
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how does a girl 69 while shes on top? i need really good details like where to put my legs, how to do him while holding myself up, how far i lower my body on him, etc.
and please dont leave me a link to any websites!
thanks! (link)
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Basically just how 69 is done other ways. You move so that the guy has access to your vagina and you have decent access to his penis. If you've ever given head with him laying down then it shouldn't be much difference at all in this position. Your knees are all you really need to "hold yourself up" though a hand (or both, if available) can help keep you balanced more at times.
Most of this is just personal preference. Some guys like their women to almost lay on them, especially if she's lightweight. Some guys prefer her to not even touch his body with hers during the act. Do whatever feels most comfortable for you and your partner.
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Okay, I have until October 26th to have my cosplay ready to go, but the problem is, we just got a visa card so I could buy a cosplay. The one I want?
Madam Red from Kuroshitsuji. (Yes, I asked earlier questions about cosplay for it) But this time I'm sure I'm doing Madam Red, but we just found out that the visa card will only work within the USA. I REALLY need to find somewhere in the United States of America that sells cosplay at a good price! PLEASE, PLEASE, I need help because the time limit is so short! (link)
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eBay all the way!
http://shop.ebay.com/i.html?_nkw=Kuroshitsuji+cosplay+red&_sacat=0&_odkw=Kuroshitsuji+cosplay&_osacat=0&_trksid=p3286.c0.m270.l1313
There are wig and full costumes for cosplay right there at that link! The words I typed in, just for note, were: Kuroshitsuji cosplay red
And I got great hits if you can see them. Gorgeous. And VERY affordable! ;)
A paypal is quick, easy, and free to set up. You can transfer funds to it from bank accounts or link it to cards. It doesn't take ANY time to get that set up and every place on ebay takes PayPal so you don't have to worry about a seller declining payments from PayPal. Try it out! Look for seller who have good ratings though above 95% positive feedback so you know you won't get jipped.
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Hey I was just wondering if anybody had opinions on the best graphic novels out there. I would like to know of ones similiar in quality to Identity Crisis, cause that was a great GN. So thanks in advance. ps I only like DC so please dont suggest any marvel GN's. so thanks. (link)
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I'll be honest in saying I don't read much comics. I never have, really, but I have absolutely nothing against comic books. Anyway, I did a little looking to see if I could find something you might be interested in and I ran into this line:
"Identity Crisis was parodied in the six-part limited series Ambush Bug: Year None"
Now, you probably know more than I do but if you didn't know about this Ambush Bug: Year None then maybe you want to pick up and copy (or copies?) and check it out? Oh, and for note, I did get that information from Wikipedia:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Identity_Crisis_%28comics%29
That being said, did you take a look at the Watchmen works? The movie was a great hit and people seem to really like the graphic novel, too.
Here is a short list I found online of DC comics you might want to check into if you haven't already:
Watchmen
The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen: The Black Dossier; The League of Extraordinary Gentlemen Volume 1 & Volume 2
V for Vendetta
The Sandman Volume 1: Preludes & Nocturnes
The Sandman: Endless Nights
Fables Volume 1: Legends in Exile
Superman for All Seasons
All Star Superman Volume 1
Superman/Batman: Public Enemies
Batman: Arkham Aslyum
Batman: The Long Halloween
Batman: The Dark Knight Returns
Batman: The Dark Knight Strikes Again
Batman: Year One
Batman: Hush (Volume 1 & Volume 2)
Kingdom Come
JLA Volume 1: New World Order
Green Lantern: Rebirth
Crisis on Infinite Earths
Transmetropolitan Volume 1: Back on the Street
Pride of Baghdad
Hellblazer: Original Sins
Y: The Last Man Volume 1: Unmanned
Kamizae Kaito Jeanne
Crayon Shinchan Volume 1
Ex Machina Volume 1: The First Hundred Days
Other people suggest:
Final Crisis
Batman: No Man's Land
Superman: Red Son
Superman: Birthright
DC: The New Frontier
Kingdom Come
The Sandman: Seasons of Mist
Salvation Run
The Killing Joke
Hulk: Future Imperfect
The Golden Age
Tales of New Gods
JSA: Princes of Darkness
Spectre: Crisis Aftermath
Black Adam: The Dark Age
Our Worlds At War
There ya go! Maybe one of those will jump out at you? They ARE recommended by people who love DC comics so maybe you'll spot one that sound good. I hope so!
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What's the best kind of camera for a 14 yer old girl that just likes to take pictuces of herself an her friends and is super super easy to download onto the computer and can do it within like 20 minutes and is less than 200$? Thanks! (link)
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Here are a few:
Canon PowerShot SD1100 IS Digital ELPH Digital camera for about $179
Sony Cyber-shot DSC-W55 Digital camera for about $153
Kodak EASYSHARE M863 Digital camera for about $100
Sony Cyber-shot DSC-W170 Digital camera for about $187
If I were you I'd go with the Sony Cyber-Shot DSC-W170 because it has 10.1 megapixels. The other ones are lower than that and so the pictures aren't as clear of a quality. $187 is very affordable and will last you a long time camera-wise.
Sony Cyber-shot DSC-W170 Digital camera for about $187, 10.1 megapixel, 5x zoom, 2.7" display screen, high detailed vivid color, ultra compact, and lens expands when the camera is turned on.
There is also one that I read online:
The Canon PowerShot SD770 packs 10 megapixels and a 3x optical zoom inside its sub-$200 frame. Plus its pocket-sized. The Canon Powershot SX110IS, which packs similar mexapixels, but has a 10x optical zoom
If I were you, I'd totally give a look online for better pricing than listed above. I didn't do a whole lot of research for pricing but I'm sure you can get them cheaper than that.
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Hello i have a 7 month old toy fox terrier and i've had her since she was 3 months old. She is still having difficulty learning potty training. I take her outside and she pees right away but doesn't always poo. I know she's not going to have to go every time she's outside. But if i let her run around the house she will find a place to poo. Yesterday i took her outside after eating and she pee'd and pooped so i praised her and she got to play. But then i went into the kitchen 5 minutes later and found out that she pooped under the kitchen table and as soon as i looked her at and called her she ran and hid. It's like she knows its wrong to do it because when she does it she goes and hides. How can i teach her to go to the bathroom outside, its like she's learning but it hasn't clicked yet. She goes poo wherever its convenient for her to go. Any suggestions on what i should do? Thanks in advance! (link)
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Crate train the pup now while she's still young.
Crate training is a lengthy process. You'll have to withstand hearing the little one whimper at night. It works though, completely, and you won't ever have another accident again if it's done right.
It starts by purchasing a dog crate that is slightly too large for the puppy. This should be fairly easy since your dog is small. Don't get one that is too big. Just enough so she can stand up in, really.
You put her in there when she comes inside from potty. You can put a bed in there and some toys--and her food and water. It is vital you put her food and water in the crate with her.
Dogs don't like to go potty where they eat and sleep. She will learn to hold it so that she doesn't have to sit in her own potty mess.
She'll probably whine during the day and some at night for the first week or more since she won't be with you. They're social creatures. You can "visit" every now and again but don't allow her to have full roam at the house, especially unattended. Limit your visits to short periods of time so that she knows you DO come back but that she needs to be a "big dog" and get along in her own little space.
Eventually the dog will learn to stop marking territory in the house. This usually takes about 1 month to complete. Make sure you take her out for good walks before you bring her in so that she gets her exercise. Make sure she goes potty at least once while outside before putting her back into her crate. Give her enough potty breaks in the day but, again, supervised!
Look up dog crate training online. It's really a miracle when you need your dog to stop going potty in the house. Nobody wants to live in a dog's filth.
The little dog here has been crate trained for years. It's heartbreaking when they whine for you and you look at them through those crate bars. You have to be strong though.
If she potties her bed in the crate then put a fresh bed in (purchase at least 3 to keep on hand for these 'accidents'; you can wash the dirty bed as needed). Wipe out the box well, put the fresh bed in, wash the puppy, and then put her right back inside the crate. Don't check the box too often for potty messes because if she messes you'll want her to know she just messed where her food is. Check the box only when you bring her out for walks for potty messes, usually, and that will give her enough time to say, "OMG I just pooped where I eat! MISTAKE!"
Praise her if you go to get her out and she hasn't pottied. If she has a favorite treat (I recommend cheese Pup Corn) then you can give her a SMALL treat and tell her that she's a good dog. Don't get too excited though or she might "lose it" right there out of the box. When she comes in from pottying you can give her scratches and lovings the praise her before putting her back into her crate.
Seriously. Crate training. It's the only way to go. In the end you won't even need the crate. It's great.
Last note: She is NOT too young to learn!
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My husband forgot to log off his gmail account. I found out that he signed up for "citysex.com" and amateurmatch.com". When I confronted him, he told me it was a stupid mistake and he was just playing around. I'm so confused, because our relationship has been so harmonious (physically & emotionally" and can't understand why he would sign up for something like that. Please help (link)
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This is exactly how marriages crumble quickly.
He may or may not have been going to go through with these sorts of things. The truth is, nobody really knows other than your husband. Nobody can even give you an good, reasonable guess as to whether or not he was going to have some sort of sexual reaction with another person.
First you should talk with your husband and see what he says about it. It's possible he was trying to live out some fantasy on the internet. It's possible he wants another woman. We can't really say.
Then, go to a marriage counselor to talk about this. If you don't get into therapy this is going to eat at you for the rest of your marriage. You will always have the "what if" questions if you cannot get this fully resolved. A marriage counselor can work with you both to figure out where these actions stemmed from and what the true motives were of his. The counselor can also help you to ease your mind and relax about what has already been done in the marriage so that you both can move on and heal.
A lot of men try to act out fantasies online that they feel ashamed of to request from their wives. This could be a threesome or even sexual relations with another man. It's fairly common but can definitely destroy a marriage because of the gunk that comes with the online adventure.
Talk with a professional together and see what can be done about getting this completely resolved on both ends.
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Is it normal for your period to become light to almost non-existant at night? It seems that no matter what day im on whether or not ive had a heavy flow, my period just dwindles to nothing at night, and kicks back up an hour or so after i wake up. I looked it up and it seems most people get a heavier flow at night, which is what used to happen to me.
Is this normal?
Btw im 20 years old and ive been getting my period for around 7 years now (link)
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Many women have a lighter flow at night because they lay down. The horizontal way our bodies lay can allow menstrual blood to stay within the vagina and dry some. You are also less active at night so the body isn't pushing and pulling down there as much as it is when, say, you are walking around your house for a few hours picking up dirty laundry and getting things cleaned up.
It's completely normal and healthy. The body doesn't projectile the blood out so it's natural to have some stay in the vagina or uterus for awhile while you are asleep. It isn't harmful and is quite natural.
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Husband wants me to get a 3some together me him and another girl. we've been married 4 months. I have experianced this before and have kissed girls when really drunk. He knows I like to look at girls and love to watch porn with him. I dont know if this makes me bi or just loves the woman body. I kinda do want that 3some he askes for but in a way dont want to share our bedroom love life with someone else. Is this a normal thing a guy wants or do you think he is not happy with JUST me and my body. I am 29 180lbs and 5'7 he is 6'2 272 and 36 yrs old. (link)
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If you're even the slightest bit unsure of going through with the threesome then do not even consider it any longer. Seriously. That is how couples break up from having a triad fling for a night or two.
Sit down and talk with you husband about this. Having fantasies is complete normal and part of being a human. It doesn't mean anyone has to actually act on those fantasies.
Let him know that you're not entirely comfortable with the thought of bringing another person into the bedroom. Compromise by suggesting you two only watch the porno flicks together and use your imaginations.
If things cannot be settled and he insists on the threesome then it's time to seek counseling instead of continuing to be pressured. If you want your marriage to survive then you have to think about the future and possible outcomes of everything. If he cannot be satisfied with just you then maybe it's time to talk with a professional, too.
Again, it's absolutely normal for people to have fantasies--especially like this. It doesn't mean you have to fulfill those fantasies if you're not 100% alright with it. Many guys, probably more than anyone would think, have fantasies like this. Women have fantasies of having threesomes, too. It doesn't mean they don't love the person they're with. It just means they have sexual thoughts about a different sort of situation. It doesn't mean those thoughts should be acted upon.
Sit down and talk with your husband.
If things seem to not be improving and you cannot find a reasonable way to satisfied this desire then seek a professional to help you two work through this.
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Please list any suggestions, comments on my format, and whether I used the 1st person, 2nd, 3rd, etc correctly, whether I should have split the paragraphs into more paragraphs. If so, at which line), any mistakes I should fix, should I not have ME capitalized, and are my information/sentences properly grouped together, or is my thought process scrambled everywhere? Certain information was blocked for privacy issues.
I know that it might have the word "you", etc, but this isn't for English class and it didn't specify how they wanted the essay to be so I thought I'd have it like this instead of the complex grade 12 english essays that I usually come up with.
Why Volunteering is Important to Me
As one gets older, they notice things. I first discovered the inequalities in life when I turned on the television as a child and discovered that people in Africa needed sponsors because they suffered from famine. As I have grown older, I have noticed people in need wherever I go. I see the homeless, the massive hospitals, the nursing homes, the retirement homes, the crumbing buildings, the results of disease, and people that are suffering day to day in life with their own problems. I see the sadness that fills up these areas and thought of not only what they can do to make their lives better, but what I can do to make their lives easier. From then on, I visualized on how I could turn my observations into something positive.
When my father immigrated to Canada, he and the others stayed in a refugee camp. It was volunteers of --------, Ontario that raised a petition and enough funding to pay for a house for him and the other refugees to live in. The volunteers were always there when someone needed them. They took time and money from their own hands to buy them clothes, foods, and even drove them home to and from school. My dad got to where he is today because of what the volunteers did. No matter how busy he is, he always take time off to volunteer at the Food Bank every once in a while.
No, you don’t get paid for volunteering. No, you will not get any special benefits like dental insurance. It is so much more. Volunteering is giving help, and lending a hand to others without expecting anything in return. Volunteering means being able to just make that one person’s gloomy day be so much better. It’s the feeling you get knowing that you made just a bit of a difference in someone and some peoples’ lives. I wish that one could feel the joy that I receive when I take a walk with an elderly. Or finish sorting out a pile of papers that one worker will have one less pile to sort. Money doesn’t give you happiness. The memories do.
It is always good to know that when you need someone to talk to at the hospital, there is always a volunteer to offer you the right words. Volunteering builds character, self esteem, and gives you a chance to interact with different personality types that a student like me would not normally encounter in school. It is also a great learning experience.
With my early volunteering in the healthcare field, I was able to set myself ahead of other healthcare driven students in my class. The skills I learned helped me through my first job in a healthcare setting and I’m using those skills now in my Co-op placement at the --------- General Hospital.
Helping others is really a way of helping yourself. Volunteering encourages youth to care about the world around them. Volunteering is what has gotten ME here today and has helped me greatly. Volunteerism will be a habit me mine that will lead me to a lifelong commitment to helping the community. I have concluded that by volunteering, I could work in a group, and together, we can reconstruct what it truly means to have humanitarian values. This, is why volunteering is important to me.
thank you so much! (link)
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There was a bit of rewording that should have been done, in my opinion. The usage of "one" coupled with "you" and even "me" really doesn't "go" together at all. I know this isn't for you English class though so you might be a little slack in the sentence structure department but I did make a few appropriate changes below for you to look at and think about. You certainly don't need to use the below material but I thought if I provided you the same work that is written in a slightly better style you could pinpoint a few of your basic errors. Of course, the below work is far from perfect since I didn't want to create an entirely new essay but I do think you'll read it and get a few of ideas for future assignments like this.
For note:
Never capitalize the word "me" in writing. The word "me" is not your name or any type of formal name so it does not ever merit a capitalization of any sort (of course, unless it is, say, an abbreviation or the specific name of an organization).
Your first or second sentence of each paragraph should give a very brief summary of what the paragraph is going to talk about.
Your very first paragraph within the writing should always have one sentence (near the beginning to middle) that provides a very brief single sentence about what each following paragraph will be discussing, or the overall jest of the upcoming writing.
Your very last, final paragraph should summarize the above material again in one or two sentences.
All paragraphs should be at least 3 sentences long, preferably 5 in a well-written assignment.
It's usually the best idea to avoid using the word "me" in essays.
You usually should choose between "you" or "one" in a paper but not use both. The word "one" is more formal and generally more acceptable.
You should always write words like "it's, there's, doesn't, can't" out into two words like, "it is, there is, does not, cannot." It makes the work flow better.
You did a great job though!
Here is what I did for a few minor changes:
Why I Feel Volunteering is Important
As a person gets older, they notice many things like the value of volunteering. I first discovered the inequalities in life when I turned on the television as a child and discovered that people in Africa needed sponsors because they suffered from drought and famine. As I have grown older, I have seen people in need wherever I go such as the homeless, the massive hospital overflow, the crowded nursing homes, the influx of retirement homes, the crumbing buildings, the results of widespread disease, and ordinary people that suffer from day to day struggles. Sadness fills up many areas within myself and the thought of not only what someone can do to make their lives better, but what a single person can do to make their lives easier becomes an attainable goal. I began to visualize how I could turn my observations into something positive.
When my father immigrated to Canada, he and others stayed in a refugee camp. It was volunteers of --------, Ontario that raised a petition and enough funding to pay for a house for the refugees to live inside. The volunteers were always there when someone needed them. They took valuable time and money away from their own hands to purchase clothing, food, and provide transportation to and from school. My father's achievements stem from the care the many volunteers gave so freely to him. No matter how busy he is, he always take time off to volunteer at the Food Bank every once in a while.
Volunteering is giving help, and lending a hand to others without expecting anything in return. A person does not get paid for volunteering, or receive any special benefits like basic dental insurance. Choosing to volunteer means being able to make one person's gloomy day be so much better, and this concept helps to fill a void deep within our souls. The value comes from the feeling of getting to knowing that one single person made just a bit of a difference in others' lives. I wish that one could feel the joy that I receive when I take a walk with an elderly gentleman, or finish sorting out a stack of papers so that one hard worker will have less paperwork to sort. The memories of being able to help another human being is more worthwhile than any monetary value.
Volunteering builds character, self esteem, and gives you a chance to interact with different personality types that a student like me would not normally encounter in school. It is comforting to know there will always be a volunteer to offer support at hospitals, nursing homes, and various care centers, and that they will receive great emotional reward for their time and efforts. It is also a great learning experience to watch volunteers assist people in need.
The skills I learned from volunteerism have assisted me through my first job in a health-care setting. My early days as a volunteer in the health-care field set me ahead of other students and created a drive within me like no other. I am carrying those learned skills to my co-op placement at the --------- General Hospital, and reaping the emotional benefits each day.
Volunteerism has touched my life greatly and assisted me in more ways than originally expected. It has become a persona habit that I believe will lead me through a life-long commitment to helping my local community. Helping others is really a way of helping one's self. Volunteering encourages youth to care about the world around them. I have concluded that by regularly volunteering, a person could work in a helpful group or organization, and together, can reconstruct what it truly means to have humanitarian values. This, is why volunteering is important to me.
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I am a fourteen year old female turning fifteen in December so relatively soon. I want to get a job at like a store preferably or perhaps a movie theatre or ice cream shop.. So if I got a work permit where could I work? (link)
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Try some basic things locally first. With the economy the way it is it can be very, very difficult to snag a job at your age. Your competition are 30-something year old professionals in fields with degrees and experience. Even a job at McDonald's can be difficult to get in at because of this.
Try doing the odd jobs around the neighborhood. Try things like:
Babysitting
Mowing yards
Raking leaves
Pet sitting
Pet walking
Grocery shopping for the elderly
Having a yard sale
Washing windows
Painting houses / indoor and/or outdoor
House cleaning / House-sitting
Ask around and see what people are looking for in reference to extra help. There could be something as simple as a man needing an extra pair of hands to move something from one location to another that you could possibly do. Talk with your parents about finding a part-time job for now. See if they have any additional ideas.
If you absolutely must venture out and look for a job in the places you suggested then do just that. Walk right into the store and say, "Hi, are you hiring?" and if they reply, "Yes," then ask about age limits. Many states don't even allow anyone under the age of 16 work anywhere. The employers will be able to talk you through the process and if you make a good impression may suggest when you would be able to come work for them (if you're too young at the moment, of course). You have to be forward, confident, and mature to snag a job nowadays so get to it! ;)
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I am Hoping someone can give me Advice on how to Have someone Sponsor Publication of My Writing!? (link)
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There are tons of things online that can help you find someone to sponsor your writing publication. Here is an article written about this very thing (including information on self-publishing):
http://www.writeandpublishyourbook.com/publishing/self-publishing/self-publish-for-free/
Apparently there are legitimate sites like lulu ( http://www.lulu.com/ ) that help you to self-publish ebooks and the like.
Personally, I wouldn't be in a hurry just yet. You'll want to kind of shop around for a decent publishing place that will accept you before finding someone that will sponsor the publication. That means you'll have to find publishers that will read some of the book for little cost or none. That's kind of tricky, too.
If there is someone locally who does this sort of thing then you should talk with them about what they feel the process usually goes like. Even an English professor might have an idea of where you SHOULD start rather than where you might end up starting ;)
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I’m trying to find this one ghost story. I think its in the new young oxford book of ghost stories. I’ve found the book on the internet but nowhere I look can tell me all of the names of the stories within the book. The story is about this girl who has a tumor and is said to die within a few months. She befriends and eventually falls in love with a ghost who appears at the historic museum she works at. He lived back in the civil war and was shot by a man who thought he’d stolen from him or something. I don’t remember exactly. But she ends up running away into the woods and freezing to death. Does anyone know what this story is called and where I could find it online? thanks (link)
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I found the The Oxford Book of English Ghost Stories on Amazon and some kind soul actually listed some of the short stories from the table of contents! Here is the link:
http://www.amazon.com/Oxford-Book-English-Ghost-Stories/dp/0192826662
And here is what was listed:
Here is a sampling from 'English Ghost Stories':
"The Monkey's Paw" by W.W. Jacobs -- A horrible variant on 'Be careful what you wish for. It might just come true.' This is a sad, frightening story--maybe 'the' perfect tale of the supernatural.
"The Confession of Charles Linkworth" by E.F. Benson -- A telephone call from a hanged man.
"Man-Size in Marble" by E. Nesbit -- An overly sweet Victorian marriage comes to a tragic end on All Saints' Eve.
"The True History of Anthony Ffryar" -- When a fatal epidemic sweeps through Cambridge, a scholar witnesses an unusual Mass for the Dead: "'Requiem aeternam dona ei, Domine,' chanted the hooded four; and one candle went out..."
"Smee" by A.M. Burrage -- A Christmas Eve game of hide-and-seek has one too many players.
"Bosworth Summit Pound" by L.T.C. Rolt -- A haunted English canal tunnel: "Not only was the narrow cavern of crumbling brickwork as cold and dark as a vault after the warmth and brilliance of the May sunshine, but water streamed from the roof and descended in cascades from the chimneys of the ventilation shafts. He had the utmost difficulty in keeping a straight course, for the damp atmosphere exhaled an evil-smelling mist which obscured the farther end of the tunnel..."
"Hand in Glove" by Elizabeth Bowen -- A young woman on the hunt for a titled husband is in desperate need of a clean pair of gloves.
"Bad Company" by Walter De La Mare -- A haunting encounter on the Underground.
"The Judge's House" by Bram Stoker -- A likeable young man seeks solitude to study for a mathematics exam.
For note, I know there is also "The Phantom Ghost" (1864) by Amelia Edward listed in the book.
I'm not entirely sure if this link will work but, actually, here is the actual image of the table of contents within this book:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/reader/0192826662/ref=sib_dp_bod_toc?ie=UTF8&p=S008#reader-link
If that doesn't work simply scroll down until you see this:
Browse Sample Pages:
Front Cover | Table of Contents | First Pages | Surprise Me!
and click on Table of Contents ;)
For the book called The Oxford Book of English Ghost Stories (Oxford Books of Prose & Verse) the complete table of contents is listed here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/toc/019955630X/ref=dp_toc?ie=UTF8&n=266239
There is, of course, the book called The Young Oxford Book of Nasty Endings, which can be found here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Young-Oxford-Book-Nasty-Endings/dp/0192781588
With the link to see the complete table of contents listed (if this URL works) here:
http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/toc/0192781588/ref=dp_toc?ie=UTF8&n=266239
Last, but not least, I found the book called The New Young Oxford Book of Ghost Stories. I have a feeling this is what you're looking for probably. Here is a link that gives you the ability to check out the table of contents
http://www.powells.com/biblio?show=9780192781543#table_of_contents
Here is the Volume 2 of that edition (which looks exactly the same, oddly enough):
http://www.amazon.com/Young-Oxford-Book-Ghost-Stories/dp/0192781545
You can probably figure out which story it is by typing in the title and author and looking for a clip of the material. You probably remember more detail than you think and it'll be easier for you to find quickly rather than us searching for hours and going, "Uh...this MIGHT be it?" ;)
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So, i am average weight. The thing is i have some tummy fat and i dont like it. I'm not trying to lose weight or anything because i know im still growing. I just want to know how to make my abs tighter so i can lose some of the fat just sitting there. I already walk, run, do crunches and sit ups. What other exercises can i do? How many crunches and sit ups should i do a day and how long is it going to take to get a tight stomach? thanks! (= (link)
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It sounds, to me, like you may already be doing plenty enough exercises during the day being that you walk, run, do crunches, and sit-ups.
Have you taken into consideration your eating habits?
Sometimes things make up bloat up more than usual. Sometimes we have a yeast growth within us that adds to the bloated look. Sometimes we're not eating enough fiber so things get a little backed up and puffy looking.
Make sure to stretch after you exercise to help pull tightened muscles into becoming long and lean. Tiny air pockets are present within muscle tissue right after working out. Stretching will help pull those air pockets away from the muscle so that the tissue doesn't get big and bulky, but, rather, long and nice.
And make sure you're not wearing too restrictive clothing. It sounds weird but wearing too tight of, say, jeans can cause fat deposits in places you don't want fat deposits ;)
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