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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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I'm a 16 year old girl. a sophomore. ive never had a boyfriend. people have told me im good looking. guys have liked me in the past and a lot do now. what are guys looking for besides good looks, and are good looks even important? i guess im just not so into commitment because im picky and i wanna make sure when i go for a guy hes the best guy out there. im also really shy around guys. i freeze up and get self conscious. i have a hard time talking to them in person obviously. i just dont know what to do. at the rate im going ill never have a boyfriend.
im so confused with guys. (link)
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I could really go into details about what guys want other than looks. I'm not every guy so I can't really answer it, as I said above.
The one things I can say most guys who aren't jerks and don't just want you for looks, is that honesty is an absolute. Also is the willingness to be yourself and not be someone else just to make an impression.
Also though, just because your 16 and don't have a boyfriend, doesn't mean anything. My first girlfriend wasn't until I was about 15 and a half. There isn't anything wrong with not having a boyfriend, and just because your 16 doesn't mean anything. By not having a boyfriend until now, you have demonstatrated a good character trait. And that is the willingness to find the right thing for you, as opposed to charging into something blindly (like most relationships nowadays). By proving this, probably the first boyfriend you get, is gonna last awile, as apposed to just weeks and months.
And don't worry about being shy, everyone is shy sometimes, it just takes adjustment to get used to it all, and you'll come around in time, I promise you that.
My honest advice is to keep doing what your doing, be picky about who you let into your heart and pick a guy who is right with you. When you find him, that shyness and everything else you think is gonna go away and your going to be left with just you. You'll get a boyfriend, but when you do it is gonna mean something, and not just be some kinda of quick flirt thing.
If you need anything else, IM me or leave something else in my inbox. But I do hope that maybe this advice helped.
-Ryan
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What happens when the unstoppable force meets the immovable object?
Serious answers only, please. Dumb answers will be met with horrible flaming death by pyromaniac ninjas. (link)
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If the two meet, then neither move at all, they are constantly locked in a struggle in which neither of them can win.
-Ryan
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Im having trouble knowing weather to ask this girl out i really like (a lot). Im 14 years old and in 8th grade and theres this girl a year younger than me in the 7th grade. Im not like the nerdy unsociable kind of guy. I have a lot of friends and i get along with almost everyone. My friend told this girl i like her (i didnt want him too) and i kind of get the impression shes not intrested. i was planning on telling her i like her and asking her out but now i feel funny after he already said something. Shes considered a 'preppy' girl and my friend said she wont go for me cause im to 'skater'. The truth is i normally go for preppy girls and i like them more. Even though i like skating and into punk and shit, i dont know if i should take my friends advice and change my image then ask her or completly ignore asking her out all together. Its a hard decision cause i like her a lot. (link)
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Don't change your imagine for any person. In the end it isn't gonna matter. You need to be YOU and find a girl that will like you, for YOU, and you shouldn't have to change for her (unless of course, you have really very bad habits and such that you really should change anyway).
Don't ask her if you are willing to change your imagine and who you are for her. If she is willing to work around that, then ask. If she just isn't interested, then don't even bother.
That's all I got. So I hope this helps and everything gets straitened out
-Ryan
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See i like this guy but he thinks we should just be friends.because we have known each other sence 3rd grade.and he likes me and i like him. what should i do?
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Well, you've known him since third grade, which means you are both going to know alot about each other and are probably extremely good friends.
If you both like each other, then what is holding you back? And you both are gonna know each other pretty well. So my advice is go with what your heart says you should do and if that leaves you going out with this guy, then great. And if it does leave you going out with him, ease into your relationship, be just like you were as friends and slowly get into that whole boyfriend/girlfriend kind of thing, you know?
Talk it over with him and decide where you should let your feelings go from where you are now.
I hope this goes well for you and this advice helped!
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I like this guy, hes not that popular and i know people will think i was crazy if they found out i liked him! I dont know if he likes me or knows i like him. I always drop hints and stuff and he is like one of my good friends. Everytime we talk about who each other likes he says he dosent know who he likes and i say i cant tell him . I dont want to make things akward between us if i do tell him. I am really confused and i cant take it anymore.! (link)
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I've been in your situation before.
Only in mine, social acceptance for liking the person (in my case, a girl) was not an issue. But I got to know a friend of mine over the summer and it got to the point where I considered her my best friend. We would talk alot and I got really caring of her. To the point where I was constantly looking to talk to her or see her, just to talk with her and see her again. The only thing was, she had promised herself she wasn't going to date anyone. While I realized this and accepted it, I tried to just blow off how much I cared for her. But...it got the point where I couldn't take not telling her about how much I cared for her and around October I finally broke myself down and told her everything. I was afraid if I did we wouldn't be friends anymore, and she would stop talking to me. It was the opposite and we are still good friends. Not like we were before (we both are usually very busy, so can't talk as much) but we are still good friends.
What does that long rant mean? It means you need to tell him. And find out what he thinks and feels about it. Tell him if he doesn't feel the same way, that you still want to be good friends. The longer you wait to say something, the more stressed and confused your going to get. Trust me on that, I know.
I hope this helps and you find what to do!
-Ryan
P.S. Don't worry if he is popular or not. You can tell the people who think that to screw off. You make your own decisions, don't let them be influenced by what is "cool" and what is not.
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Hi! Ok, I really need ideas of what my class can do for fundraisers! I'm in 8th grade and we're trying to raise money for 8th grade graduation & our trip to our state capitol. We need to make more than the meager cents we get from bakesales, car washes, and ballgame concession. Does anyone know of any ways we can make money? Time is running out! Thanks!
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This comes from what my sister did to help raise money for her Washington D.C. trip she will be taking in March (or sometime around there).
What her class did was they had a spaghetti dinner, but instead of making it just like a line dinner where you got in a line, some people put some spaghetti on a plate with some bread and a salad and you sat down at a table to eat it, they did this.
They made it like the atmosphere of an Italian restraunt. All of the kids in her class dressed up in white shirts and black pants, wore aprons and took orders at peoples tables and brought them their food to their tables. The tables were decorated with candles and tableclothes and had the decor that you would found in an Italian restraunt, even down to the opera music you might hear in those kind of restraunts.
Altogether the food was very good and it was a very enjoyable time. Spaghetti is cheap and so is the bread, you can easily feed hundreds of people for less than $40-50 in bread, spaghettic noodles and sauce bought in bulk, so you will hardly lose any money on it. Also the tableclothes, candles, and other small decor can usually be found anywhere for very low prices.
Overall, they raised alot of money for their trip and they hardly broke a sweat with losing money for it. So I think you could probably do the same thing and no be too overtaxed with the price.
I hope this helped!
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anymore info or have questions, please be feel free to leave something in my inbox. Good luck with your trip!
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this has been botherign the heck out of me for a week and a half now and i finalyl decided i cant handle it anymore. last week we had a b-ball game and we won and our coach expected us to run 13 suicides because we missed 13 lay up but we still won( 34-12) on that sunday i got a cold and was sick barely could breathe or anything. i couldnt miss school because i was having finals and had tog o. i had my dad talk to my coach and tell her that i didnt feel to good and i didnt want to show up feelin all shitty and get everyone on the team sick. so anyways she told my dad that i didnt have to go to pratice if i didnt feel good. adn honestly i ahvent felt good all week i showed up to one pratice but only stayed for 1 and 1/2 hours out of a 3 hour pratice. since i havent been going girls have been talkin shit about me behind me back and it isnt a rumors bc i heard them say it. i dont if i should go to pratice or nto. coach makes me feel liek the worest player by puttin peopel that dont go to pratice on the team instead me when i used to go to all pratice and i used to stay after and pratice extra. i am not used to quieting i never have and i dont know if i should. someone please tell me what to do. i feel like i am wasting my time for nothign.
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the captin is a snoby ..... and i dont like her. o and i already tryed tellin coach about the girls and she just blew me off and didnt care. (link)
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If you quit, then you have let them win.
So, don't quit, finish out the season and show them that even though they are talking shit behind your back and your getting downplayed for getting sick missing practice. If you stick with it, then you show them you aren't a quiter and can take the crap they throw at you and not be affected like they want you to be.
Then after the season, don't play for the team again. Simple as that.
I hope this helps and you finish out strong!
-Ryan
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Well my best friend since 1st grade (im in 8th by the way! Well she has always been the goody goody type like when she goes out with guys all she does is the basics (kiss), well just this year she went out with a guy named mark and she didnt know this but he loved to go all the way just on the first date. so she goes on the first date and then goes back to his house. she didnt exspect to you know do anything. Well then they start kissing and little before u know he has hind down her pants and she didnt say anything cause she is "shy" well all through that night they were so close to haveing sex, she gave a blowjob and a handjob, but his dad came home so they didnt go any further. And I might sound over protected but to go all that way in one night i mean who knows what there gonna do. I am worried only because she was a mistake when she was born, so wouldnt you think she would be careful and not have sex?? should i talk to her about it?? or what???
please help
sincerelly,
lost at thought (link)
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Quite honestly, you need to express your concern to her and talk to her about it. Let her know your thoughts on it.
Also, is this guy in 8th grade as well? Because it is then I have just lost another bit of my sanity and overall patience with the world and society. Seriously, how young are kids gonna be when they start all this stuff? And for this guy to go around and on his first date with a girl go all the way with her, just makes me want to hurt him.
As an extra bit of advice, tell your friend to get away from him, because any guy who is gonna try and go all the way on the first date with a girl is no good at all.
I hope this helped in some way and she takes your concerns seriously.
-Ryan
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I have a friend named Tara. Shes in 12th grade, graduating this year, and going to college for Theater.. I've been quite worried about her lately, because i know that she cant have her whole life rely on Theater. She wasted her past 6 years working to be an actress. And shes not all that bad, but someone from a small town and such like ours, prolly wont get very far. I've tryed talking to her about other options. I dont want her whole life to be thrown out the window because of some, un-realistic dream.. Do you think that I should try harder to convince her that theres more to life than thearter.. and thats just there as something to do on the side? Or should I let her make her own mistakes? (link)
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Obviously it is not unrealistic, since she has put the past 6 years into it. I agree with what has been has answered before me. While you may think you are doing her a favor by telling her off about acting, it is HER dream, and thus her dream should be encouraged and atleast somewhat supported by you, since you are her friend (although...I do wonder about the level of friendship you are at). Yeah sure there is more to life than the theater, but there still is the theater, and believe it or not, it can be a successful career and you said yourself she has talent, so that means she has potential, which means if she does go to college for theater, she has a better chance at succeding in her dream. Which proves you wrong at saying it is a waste.
By the way, location really doesn't matter on who gets noticed and who doesn't, because there are always ways to get noticed.
I am done with my thoughts on this, I hope you take these opinions into consideration.
-Ryan
P.S. I consider it insulting to her that you would discourage her like you did, what do you want to do after highschool? What will your major be? It is going to have risks, everything does, but we all still take them because we have to.
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I put this in spirituality even though it doesn't really fit...
When I was a young teen I was very active in my church and school. I was in the choir, I helped to organize the children's liturgy, and I took part in the discussions and events that our Catechist organized all the time.
When I was seventeen I feel in love with another girl. For a few months we kept our relationship secret, but eventually it had to come out and my church pretty much ostracized me and told me in no uncertain terms that my help was no longer needed. My relationship with that girl lasted for two years and we are still very close friends. What happened with my church makes me very sad, but I don't regret my choices. I am a bi-sexual woman and I'm not ashamed of it.
The problem is now I am dating a guy and have been for a while. Old friends from the church are suddenly talking to me and being all nice and welcoming again. It's breaking my heart because I know if this relationship ends and I meet a woman I want to date I'll be kicked out again just as quickly. They keep inviting me out to dinner or to mass, (I have kept going over the years but I'm basically ignored by everyone.) Part of me wants desperately to be accepted and loved by these people again, the other part of me is just furious with the way they treated me and the pressure they are putting on me now to conform. Should I just accept this while it lasts or should I maybe say something to these people? (link)
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They are hypocrites for sure, there is absolutely no doubt about it. For them to judge you soley on a sexual preferance even when you did so much for the church, is a complete backstab to you. And even when you kept going to mass during the time between then and now, you were still ignored. That is absolutely terrible for them to do that.
My advice for you is to bring up the issue and how you were treated, even when you remained faithful to the church and were commited to it. Let everyone know their hypocricy, because if you bring it up, maybe they will change. Keep your faith and keep going to mass like you have been, but raise your voice on the issue and remind them.
-Ryan
P.S. This is why I do not like any church today. It is too conservative and has to be a certain way or it is no-go. I am Lutheran and I am quite fed up with how the church (any denomonation) acts these days. While I do not approve of any kind of homosexuality and do believe that it is wrong, The church goes to far with it.
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i know the how the saying goes " don't judge a book by its cover ", but i'm still wondering what is it about 'reality' shows that make them so popular. i don't really see anything so special about them whatsoever. im a guy, and i even hear other guys talking about tv shows like its the latest gossip or something. i really don't have time to watch any tv though... ive asked around and everyone always says " because of the drama ", shows like laguna beach, the oc, etc. is that all there is too it or is there more? thanks, will rate. (link)
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Personally, I hate reality TV (and most of everything else on TV as well) and a big deal of it is because of the situations and drama the people are put in and take part of. I also don't like the gossip surrounding it and how people set a priority in their life to watching the lives of others through hardship, triumph, and a whole host of other assorted things. I find it unnescessary and annoying to hear people constantly talk about their favorite reality show and what is happening in it. This is just my opinion.
I agree with yours.
-Ryan
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So basicly sense I was little ive been vergbaly and physicly abused.. and I really cant take it anymore I have gotten to the point i feel so low about myself I could crawl in a corner and hide for ever. I have reported my parents and so have other people but nothing has happend. What should I do now?
Someday something will happen and no one will be able to fix it. Im scared (link)
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As with what everyone else said, you need to tell the police, friends, school counciler, whoever AGAIN. And don't let up until something is done. Because if they won't respond once, the only thing that will get them to respond is persistance, or if something very bad happens.
Percerverance and persistance and something will be done.
I hope this helps and something is done soon. You are in my prayers.
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else, please feel free to leave something in my inbox.
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I have a huge problem.....I'm a failure at everything in life . All my previous friends have told me so and my whole family is CONSTANTLY telling me that I'm a failure. Even people who don't know me personally, tell me that I'm a failure when they hear about me. So , what they're saying (that I'm a failure) is true, since so many people have told me the same thing. Before, hearing that statement would motivate me to work really hard. And it would work because I would achieve my goals, temporarily. Now, whenever anyone tells me I'm a failure, it doesn't motivate me anymore. Instead, I get really sad and stay in my room alone and cry. I even skip going to college because I'm so sad and don't want to be annoyed by anymore people telling me the same thing. I already have depression and am taking medication for it, so hearing this statement from people doesn't help. Now my question is: HOW DO I GET OVER THIS? HOW DO I MOITIVATE MYSELF AND STAY MOTIVATED? HOW DO I PROVE TO EVERYONE THAT I'M NOT A FAILUTRE? Sorry for the long letter. Please, no smart alecs. (link)
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I suppose looking at this I need to ask you. Do you believe in yourself at all? The reason you are being brought down by everyone and come to believe you are a failure, comes from a lack of self-confidence. Don't listen to them. Just because everyone tells you that, doesn't mean you are. The old saying "if enough people say it, it must be true" is NOT true. I don't know what all people have said you have failed at, but I believe your not. If you can't do something right, keep trying at it. Practice and repetivenes brings perfection and ease with what your doing. I'm sorry that people say this to you, but don't listen to them. If you do, you will doubt yourself, and you should NEVER doubt yourself, ever. Your motivation, should be yourself, forever and always.
I don't know what else to say, all I can say is believe in yourself and not what other people say, and let that be your motivation
-Ryan
P.S. If you need anything else at all, please leave me something in my inbox or IM me, my sn is on my column.
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I'm 16/f catholic; and I masturbate. Is masturbating a form of lust, thereby making it unacceptable against the commandments? I was just wondering, as I found that I'm virtually addicted, and although it is healthy, I want to know whether it is morally wrong for me.
Cheers. I rate high (link)
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I am Christian and this verse (I don't remember where at, I am horrible with remembering bible verses) sums it up.
Jesus said. "If a man looks at a woman lustfully, he has already commited adultry in his heart"
Therefore, yes it is wrong because usually when you do masturbate, you are lusting after someone else, so you have already commited adultry in your heart.
Hope that helps.
-Ryan
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I'm a dude.
I have a friend who says he might want me to duct tape him to a chair. Is this wierd?
Btw, I know he's straight and so am I.
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Yeah, it is a little off and odd sounding, did he just randomly say it? Or was it a kind of joke?
People are strange you know.
Hope this helped.
-Ryan
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Hey I'm 13 years old and I'm a really advanced reader for my age (just so you know). It doesn't mean I can read/understand adult books but whatever! I really want a list of GOOD books from like all genres!! If you could give me the title, author, and genre of the books you're suggesting that would be great!
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I don't really remember many authors, but I will list the title of the book and the genre and the author if I remember them.
To Kill a Mockingbird
Band of Brothers - Stephen Ambrose (war)
Animal Farm - George Orwell (modern fable)
1984 - George Orwell (dystopian)
Any short story by H.P. Lovecraft (horror)
Any Harry Potter book
Pet Sematary - Stephen King (horror)
Salems Lot - Stephen King (horror)
The Shining - Stephen King (horror)
Brave New World - Audelos Huxley [sp] (dystopian)
Any Lord of the Rings book [including The Hobbit and The Silmarllion] - JRR Tolkien (adventure and fantasy)
Fahrenheit 451 - Ray Bradbury (dystopian)
Night - Elie Wiesel (war and holocaust)
The Art of War - Sun Tzu (basically a book to war, but has alot of practical uses)
The Red Battle Flyer - Manfred von Richthofen [the Red Baron] (war, and he describes the effects of it, both mentally and physically and it shows alot of insight into what soldiers thought of the war)
There are literally dozens more books I could list(mostly classical books, such as The Odyssey or The Illiad or The Aeneid) but I will leave it at this.
Hope this helps and good reading!
-Ryan
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Alot of people smoke weed. Even my boyfriend used to but i made him quit. Even my parents do. For some reason i dont like weed. Ive never really tried it. But knowing my parents do it makes me think bad about them. It makes me think why do they do it but they are supposed to set a good example. Most of my friends do it too. I guess im just a good girl. But my boyfriend tries to convince me that theres nothing wrong with it. And i never agree and i dont think its right. Its a drug and im ashamed of everyone that does it. I dont know why though. Is there somthing wrong with me? anything will help! but please dont leave me rude comments.
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Conformity is never good, ever. I admire you for being able to say no to pressures around you and stay away from it. There is absolutelty NOTHING wrong with you about not liking it and not smoking it. In the long run it will and does hurt you through loss of memory and a whole host of psychological affects that are never good.
Keep your beliefs and don't do it. There is absolutely nothing beneficial from smoking weed and you should just stay away from it. Your not weird and there is nothing wrong with you for not doing it, and remember that!
Joshua 1:9- Be strong and courageous, do not be terrified, for the Lord your God is with you all the time.
I hope this helps you.
-Ryan
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Does anyone know the social hierarchy (like kings and slaves, and what's in between) for Ancient Greece? I'm doing a project on Ancient Greece and I don't know the order or anything that is between the Kings and Slaves. I've been searching Google for the past 15 minutes. It's not working =/
And I'm not asking for you to do my homework, I'm just asking for a little help, because I've already tried to get it. Can anyone help me here? Thanks (link)
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It depends where in Greece you are talking about. Certain city-states had different forms of government, such as Athens and her allies being a upper-class democracy (where only land owning males and free men could vote) to Sparta being socialistic military state whose head was the king.
Also it depends on the time frame, if you have the earliest of ancient greece, then you have kings in every city in greece. If you are thinking around the time of the Golden Age of Athens, then it was democratic (Athens and her allies) and monarchy (Sparta and her allies).
Then you have the time when ancient Greece was a large empire under Alexander the Great and his father Phillip II of Macedonia, in which every city was under control of the Macedonian crown and became a major world power.
I would say Ancient Greece ended around the time of the Roman occupation, because after the Romans took over, Greece was under occupation clear up until the late 1800's. Also you could say Ancient Greece ended at the time of the conversation of Greece from their patheon on gods to Christianity.
I hope this helps and good luck on your project!
-Ryan
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Does anyone know any famous life scientists that discovered somthing to do with the human body/brain? thanks!
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Alzheimer for discovering a memory and brain deteriorating disease we know today as Alzheimers disease,
Hope this helped.
-Ryan
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hey, well i am going out with someone on the internet (AIM) and i like him ALOT! like, he means alot to me. but... he lives far from me, and we talk alot and everytime we talk on aim i get so happy, and supposably i'm gonna go see him in the summer,(hopefully) and he says he loves me and everything, but i still have doubts, wut if he's cheating on me??? wut if wut he's telling me is all FAKE??? when i think of those things i get really upset, but to be honest with you, i try NOT to love him, so that way i won't get hurt. but wut if he really loves me?? and i'm trying NOT to love HIM?? i'm SOOOOOOOOOOOO comfused, and i dont know if i should keep going out with him and wait for summer too meet him or just break up with him. i dont know. PLEASE HELP MEEE!!!!! :(
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Sadly, there isn't a whole lot I can say about this. This is one of those sitations where you really have to throw your trust into the wind and see if it lands right. I can relate to this because a friend of mine lied to someone she knew for almost 2 years via the internet and the person she was talking to was absolutely DEVASTATED when she found out (my friend had been telling her that she was a guy). So this is just a situation where you have to just trust the person if you feel that is the right thing to do. This is why internet dating is just so unreliable. Because nothing can be what it seems. It's sad and happens all the time, people manipulating others via the net, but it happens.
If you want my honest advice. Don't do internet dating. Especially at age 14. I am not discrediting your age but there are a bunch of people out there who would love nothing more than to get into your heart, twist around, and get to the point where they want you to meet them and then they got you where you want them and you are caught completely off gaurd. I am not saying this would or will be the case, but it does happen all the time, so you should be aware of that.
Bottom line, you should probably just forget it. But if you absolutely insist on still meeting him, make sure you have 1 or 2 friends with you when you meet him and if you do meet him and everything turns out right, well then good for you.
Just remember, nothing on the net is always what it seems.
I hope this helps and you get this all worked out.
-Ryan
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