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I have gone from younggrandma to just yg. Now,
I am using my real name.
I don't think anyone who knows me will have trouble figuring out who that is!


I have been gone a while dealing with things in my own life. I am back now to help once again. Do not expect answers from me that just tell you what you want to hear. Life is to short for nonsense. :)
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I am currently taking Abilify 25mg which is a very high dose , and I would like to know about the "risks that I am taking"... Should I check my blood sugar ...? And If so , how often..?
And Is there a vital risk that I might get diabetes 2....?
I would prefer if someone looked into the medication and if you are a health worker or not I appreciate your response.
Thanks for the replys in advance, apology my poor English I am foreign. (link)
Any anti-psychotic medicine carries the risk of hyperglycemia. From what I read, abilify has had only a few cases in studies SO FAR.

In most cases the good things it does for you outweighs the bad.

Keep all your doctors appointments. The doctor will
test your blood sugar and make you take a fasting blood glucose test occasionally. If you have any questions at all about your treatment or medications, never hesitate to call your doctors office and ask the nurse. They will help you with any questions you have. :)


Ok so I got on the depo shot just before thanksgiving. I skipped a period. And then I started one in late december. I have been bleeding for 3 weeks. At the beginning it was just brown spotting and now it is like a regular period. But just this morning I went to the bathroom and a large peice of something fell out into the toilet. It wasn't a blood clot it was bigger and not red..i'm not sure what it was. And then when I got into the shower a huge peice of blood[blood clot or whatever] fell out of me. It was a bit bigger than a toddlers hand. I don't know why it was so big. Maybe it was because of the depo. Please help!! I don't know whats going on. (link)
I have known girls to bleed the entire time they are on depo. The 3 weeks thing is probably a side affect
of the depo.

If you are having clots that large though, you really need to call your doctors office and ask the nurse about. They are glad to help you out so call
and see if the doctor needs to see you about it.
Mention how long you have had your period too. :)


Thank you for your advice. I would just like to correct you, lucky I did not sleep with her and the married man did also not sleep with her. I know that she has a mental problem. In a way I feel quilty that I did not sleep with her because maybe that is the reason for her actions. It sounds stupid of me thinking that but I don't like hurting people, and in a way I do adore her, reason for that I can't say. Just don't get me wrong I will never sleep with her because once I do that she will think I'm hers and I'm not a lesbian. Sometimes I just wish I never meet her but could it be that GOD put her on my road for a reason. (link)
I don't know. I do think things happen for a reason.

I don't think your not sleeping with her is causing her the problems she is having. I think they were there before she ever met you. As a matter of fact, if you had slept with her it might very well have been worse than it is now. I think you did the right thing.

It doesn't sound stupid. I am very much that way myself. I think your friend is a very depressed woman. Maybe you were put in her path to try and get her to get help. Talk to her. Tell her that while she thinks suicide is the answer it isn't. Her kids would have to live with that the rest of their lives. Whoever found her would have to live with it. Her friends who couldn't hep would have to live with it. She would be hurting all those she cares for.

Help her all you can but do not let what she does
ruin your life. Its very easy to get so wrapped up in someone else's problem that you yourself get depressed.

I wish you the best of luck. If you have any other questions or just want to talk feel free to. My email address is also on my column if you feel more comfortable using it. Just put advicenators in the subject line. :)


i have not smoked pot scine december 28th. from now till january 20, if i just drink lots of water and nothing else. will it be out of my system? (link)
It depends on how often you smoked it. Here is a short article on the half life of it. It tells you about how many days depending on weather you were a frequent or occasional user. :)

http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/8665.html

**EDIT

You will probably be ok then if just a UA. If they do a hair follicle test (probably not because its more expensive) it might show up.


Hey,
I just wanna know this song's name:
"When i was just a litlle girl, i asked my mother what would i be....Would i be pretty...would i be rich...here's what she said to me''
it's just all what i know, i would be grateful i u tell me the artist name and so the song
tanx a lot.
(link)
Que Sera Sera was sang by Doris Day


I am from South Africa, I am a female 27 of age. My friend is also a female and she is 31 of age.Married with two children.We are friends for just over a year now. She is a very difficult person, when we started to be friends she was a wonderful person. Then I got to know her a little better. I discoverd that she would like to have sex with me. Somehow I just couldn't get myself doing anything with her. Yes, agter a while getting to know her better I wanted to do it with her. But in the mean time she fell in love with a married man. So this friendship was just falling apart because then she wanted sex from me and the married man but not at the same time. The three of us was good friends till she decide that she doesn't like me speaking to him and he is not to speak to me. Now she is cutting herself and talking about killing herself. Is it because she never got it right to sleep with me and with him. I still want to be her friend but she doesn't make is very easy for me to understand whats really her problem. I want to help her but when we talk about it she says nothing is wrong. It's not normal for somebody to do things she does. (link)
It is not normal for her to to the things she does.
She needs some mental help. She needs to see a doctor.

She is married. She is sleeping with her husband, another married guy and you. She is probably going nuts just trying to keep her stories straight.

Recommend she see a doctor and find yourself a new friend to hang out with. This girl has to many problems and you don't need to make them yours.

You could also make an anonymous call to her husband about the suicidal talk. Hes probably the only one who could get her help with that problem.


i feel so sad about her situation cause her mom and her dad got divorced and her mom got a new boyfriend and she doesnt like him and she doesnt want to get along with him i told her things gonna get better but she wont listen to me i know its really hard but what else should i tell her other than tell her that im here for her i need advice to tell her to make her feel better i want to be there for her =[ but i runned out of words like saying "youll get over it" "life gonna get better' and her mom called her a selfish do u think shes being selfish? please what advice should i tell her please and thank you ='[ (link)
Parents getting a divorce is probably not something she will get over soon. It can get better if she lets it.

None of this is her fault. The thing she is probably thinking in her mind is this. Mom has a new boyfriend, so her and dad probably aren't getting back together. She probably had hope they would. Reality is setting in.

She doesn't have to like moms new boyfriend, or dads girlfriend one day. She does have to try and get along with them. Her moms boyfriend is not the cause of the divorce so she shouldn't blame him. She should be happy perhaps that he is helping mom move on.

So, in a way she is being selfish. Mom deserves to be happy too. Tell her to just be polite to him, she doesn't have to like him, yet she doesn't need to feel guilty if she does either. :)


14/m
this isnt appropriate but i need to get this out.
i dont really have a large penis or even medium sized. every boy says theirs is at least 7 inches. mine is smaller. i dont have hair on my armpits but im just wondering if that has anything to do with it. i have a little bit of pubes though. i dont want to stay this small as i grow up and go into my dating years. (link)
Hmm, funny how you know so many who are above average in size. :) I think they exaggerate.

Here is a site that will give you all that info.
There is a chart on penis size that you can get to by following the link. The rest tells you when you should expect hair growth etc. :)

http://www.coolnurse.com/puberty_stages_guys.htm


34/f
I have a friend who is divorcing her husband. We became friends through church, while the two were still together. They have two children together who are my child's closest friends.

Before they separated, 'Renee' showed me a lot of stuff, asking what she should do. They included e-mails her husband, 'Sam,' had sent on their joint computer, trying to entice women from other states to come have sex with him. He wrote
very detailed, intimate fantasies and sent naked pictures of himself. This wasn't the first time.

Back to the story, they are separated, but they share the custody of their girls. Because our girls are friends, I still see Sam occasionally.
When I do, he makes icky comments and does things like taking pictures of me without asking. I feel uncomfortable around him. Mike (my hubby) can't stand him either. The most explicit thing he's ever said to me, I think, is asking, in regards to the movie The Secretary, which I told him I had never seen, whether I was "into that sort of thing." It's a movie about an S&M relationship between a boss and his secretary.

He often e-mails, calls, or mentions when we see him (last was Christmas) that he wants to get together with us sometime when he has the girls. He suggests dinner at his house or outings to
the science museum, etc. We always politely decline. Either we have other plans or we're not able to commit to a date. He keeps trying. They've been separated for 9 months now and we've been trying to avoid him longer than that.

So, do you think we're going to need to tell this dude to buzz off in no uncertain terms? I don't want to make it Renee's problem. She has enough on her mind. I don't want to be mean, but he should know that I see her probably every week
and we get the girls together about every 2 weeks. We never invite him along. What do you think? Would it be less cruel to explain to Sam that I'm Renee's friend and don't wish to hang out with him? Think he'll get the hint eventually?
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I agree with the others that its time to tell him that your loyalty lies with Renee. There will be no socializing with him.

I wouldn't put up with him taking pictures of you without your permission, or making nasty minded comments to you either.

The guy sounds like he has a problem. The picture taking bothers me and I don't want to scare you needlessly, since I don't have the whole picture, but please, try not to see this guy alone. The pictures, the comments...Just use caution. Since he has been a friend in the past you may not be doing that.

I hate even saying that because I don't like to
make people worry about something that may not even be anything. I think maybe its creeping you out though. Don't be afraid to listen to your instincts where this guy is concerned. :)



how do u preform a sayone and are they dangerous? is there any rules? (link)
Here is a website for you.

http://www.soyouwanna.com/site/syws/seance/seance.html


how do i get a tampon out wen its stuck up there with the string too? (link)
First of all try to relax and don't panic as this will make the tampon more difficult to remove.

Simply squat down and insert your thumb and forefinger into your vagina. Sweep the fingers back and forth and try to feel the withdrawal cord or tampon. Once you feel the cord/tampon, grasp it and pull it out.

If for any reason you just cannot remove it, you will need to see a doctor ASAP. Do not leave it in over 8 hrs. because it can cause toxic shock syndrome.


i like all of my classes this semester except one [im taking 4 classes in high school]. i dont like it because i dont know anyone, the teacher has a reputation for being hard, and i just dont like the class [english]. the teacher said that there would be around 1 hour of homework assigned every night, not including the time we need to read the books she assigned, write a research paper, and study for weekly vocabulary quizes.

i have a part time job and i work 3-4 days of the school week.

i dont know whether i need to quit my job to dedicate more time to the class..or if the teacher just tried to scare us..or how to deal with this whole class situation. so any help would be appreciated.

-high school junior, age 16 (link)
Don't change anything right now. The teacher may not be as bad as they say.

If it gets to be to much for you to handle with the job, quit then. Don't worry about it in the mean time. I bet you'll do fine. :)


when is the best time to have sex. (link)
9/10 pm. :)


Hey iam 17 years old and i have this really bad cussing habit that iam trying to stop.
How do i stop? (link)
I have a website for you. Hopefully some of the tips found there will help you. The only thing I might add is make up some really goofy word to use instead of the swear word. :)

http://www.wikihow.com/Stop-Swearing


WASSUP??!?!?


Ok, this is a stupid question since I already know the answer...at least I think I do...I guess I'm just paranoid...w/e thats what this site is for

does diet cola....if drank in high quantities...I drink like 12 cans a day....

well if you do that...will it make you gain weight??? (link)
You know several months ago I would have said no.

I stopped drinking it in June and switched back to regular coke. I have lost 65 pounds since June.

So I can't give you any scentific evidence, but I won't be drinking any more of it soon! :)


my boyfriend and i want to start having sex. im thinking about the pill. how to i get it? do i have to ask my FAMILY doctor or who? and will they tell my parents?? (link)
Your family doctor will do fine. You have to have a pelvic exam before they will prescribe it. They will not tell your parents.

Depending on your age, you may be better off going to the local health department or planned parenthood. Your family doctor may not do the exam with out parents consent if underage. They would do it much cheaper too.

Doctors visits are expensive and the exam is extra cost. If your parents have insurance, it may pay for it, on your own though it would be costly. :)



how do you become a moderator? (link)
http://www.advicenators.com/faq.php?t=13


im young female when ever i get a boyfriend she finds atleast one problem with him and then if i dont break up with him right away she gets mad at me even if i fell in love with him and her boyfriend i going out with her because he feels sorry for her & i never juge her boyfriend it like she wants to ruin my life

should i still be friend with her if she thinks im to stupid to know if a guy is good or bad 4 me (link)
Sounds like shes jealous to me. You will just have to tell her you're still friends but you have a boyfriend and he is important too.

Friends can't pick your boyfriends for you. You have to do that yourself. You need to let her know that too. Ignore her as much as you can. Refuse to talk to her about your boyfriend if you have to. If she gets mad, just say oh well, if that's how you feel find another friend.

Hope she gets the message. :)


my room where i keep my parakeet gets cold, and i dont want my parakeet to get cold. is there any type of bird heating lamps that i could use to keep him warm? if so, where could i buy one?links? and what temperature should the cage stay at if i were to use a heating lamp? (link)
I think the safest thing for you to do would be to call a veterinary office or stop in at a pet store and ask them.

You don't want it to get to warm and you don't want to cause a fire. They probably sell them at any pet store. :)


what is an apples to apples party? (link)
Well, its a game I believe. So maybe a party where they play. Here is what I found.

http://www.answers.com/topic/apples-to-apples




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