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WELL I have sex quite often without protection to my fiance and i think i may be pregnant.....or had a miscarrige!
i have been getting really bad cramps in the morning and diarrea as well....my period is not expected till the 7th of the month(sept) and i got it in august so it would have had to been this month it happened! i went to the bathroom yesterday and i started bleeding i thought it was my period so i acted like it was however i only BLED a little and then it stopped . its only the 23 so thats like 2 weeks early!
could i be pregnant or could the cramps be a misscarrige??
PLEASE HELP THANKS!

There's a thing called implantation bleeding. Sometimes, when you get pregnant you bleed just a tiny bit. It's almost like a period except that you just stop bleeding. Go to the store and look for the pregnancy test that lets you test the earliest. (They go by when you expect your period.) Then buy it and try to wait.

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i just got contacts on saturday and i like them alot and everything but the thing is i can't really see that good with them on. i don't know if i put them on wrong or my eye doctor gave me the wrong prescription. is it normal not to be able to see for the first couple of days you get contacts? or did i do something wrong?


p.s.- i always put the right contact in the correct eye... i have it in an order so i know that they are going in the right eye.

Maybe you should get your eyes rechecked. My doctor always give me a sample pair to wear for two weeks before ordering my perscription to see if we got it right.

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Ok does anyone think this is wierd..my dad goes in the kitchen cabinet and its like 4 boxes of cereal n he looks at my favorite box and he tellls my mom not to buy them cuz HE DOESNT LIKE THEM..wtf is that?I like the freakin cereal y cat i keep it?...plz tell me if u think thats realli retarded

My dad is worse. He tells me my cereal is gross, tells my mom not to buy it anymore, and then EATS IT! Aaahh! He does this with all my food.

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I lost my voice about a month ago when I went to a singing camp. I had basically overused my voice. Usually I am asked to sing at weddings and such, so my voice is important to me as a way to earn money and express myself. However, after my voice came back after losing it, it has changed. It almost seems for airy, or not as strong. I feel like I forgot how to sing in a way. This has never happened before. I can still sing, but it wasn't as good as it was. Any suggestions on how to build my voice back up to its full potential?

I don't think you can get completely back to full potential. Try warming up very carefully, and practice your full range of scales often.

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My Friend Lied to me telling me he got suspended for acting "pimp" and i knew that u cant get suspended for acting like that. But i had found out by a nother friend that he brought a knife to school. It totally shocked me and i started to cry because wat friend could do that. I'm still mad and frusterated. Now he may be suspended 4 good. im still mad for it should he still be my friend?? Should i trust him??? and I*m mad cuz wat was he gunna do wit da knife!
PLEASE ANSWER IMMEDIATLY!!

Maybe he didn't do it on purpose? My bf always carries a Swiss Army knife with him, and more than once he's ended up in place he shouldn't have been with it.

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Hello, over the summer a few of my freckles got REALLY dark on my face, and I don't like the way it looks. I heard that lemon juice works... is it true? How much would I put on? And how often?

It's just a part of tanning. Use makeup to cover them. I doubt that there is a permanent way to lighten freckles.

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Well there is this guy in my dance class ( I swear he's not gay) and I like him a lot and all my dance friends say he likes me and I like him too, and I've told my best friend about him and she said make a move but i don't know if it's right for a girl to make a move on a guy( I don't really think I'll be good at it), plus i think he has a girlfriend and another girl likes him in class(she's my friend too) what should i do...

I would leave him alone if he has a girlfriend, especially if they're serious. If he's with someone, it is his job to break it off, or make a move on someone else.

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I'm 21 years old, but I already have an almost constant back pain. Can anyone tell me a daily exercise I could do to make my back stronger and less likely to get strained when I pick up a piece of paper?

You might have scoliosis. Press your doctor for a back x-ray looking for it. Physical therapy works wonders for this. Hopefully it will be something simpler.

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Hey Hey You guyZ- well i have a really high metabolism- and after every meal i eat even if its a big meal i feel hungry again- i eat alot even all my friends say i do- im 5"5 and weight 103- any suggestions on gaining weight? or will i gain weight as i get older and my metabolism slows down. Ive tried protein shakes but they didnt work-:/

Your metabolism will most likely slow as you get older, probably by a LOT. Don't worry too much for now, and just try to eat healthy.

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Do women find a guy with a hairy chest attractive? I'm 24, hairy, but not out of control hairy. I'm not overtly self-conscious, but I get the feeling that body hair is considered unattractive. ???
Don't hold back. I want real answers. Hopefully, from real women. Thanks.

My guy has a hairy chest, and I think it's great! It's so masculine. Most women don't mind hairy chests, legs, and arms. A lot of women don't mind hairy tummies (like me!). A lot of women ARE bothered by hairy upper arms and upper backs.

Hope that helps!

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My boyfriend and i had sex the first time last week. Now we are doing it w/out the condom. He says that he has his cum under control and he knows when it is comming out. So he said that when it comes out or feels like it he will get out of me and wipe it off. He said w/out cum you can not get pregnate b/c with cum it has the sperms. Now is this true or is he lying to get me pregnate. Please help Me!!!!!!! :*(

Yes it is possible to get pregnant from precum. It is also pregnant for him to think he's not "ready" yet and he really is.

This is where my baby came from.

He's not lying tp get you pregnant. He is lying to feel good.

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hello. i'm 13 and my parents are divorced. they have been ever sice i was 6 years old. and my dad just remarried a really AWFUL woman! they just had there 1st anniversary. her son is CONSTNTLY making fun of me and my dad just says "deal with it" its taunting a bull at school would do. well to cut to the chase, my mom still had my dads last name and just changed it today. i feel so different now it really makes me sad. i feel like i'm closer to my stepmom than i am her. please help. all answers will be rated a 5 for effort! :`(

Ask your mom about changing your name too. You could take her name, or a name in the family, or some other name that you like.

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Is it true that girls dont like gamers? By gamers i mean people who play video games as a hobby or a profession. Also is it true that they dont like computer techs? It seems like everywhere around where i live that girls find that to be a turn off. I live in Tennessee, if that helps. Just wondering.

My fiance is a gamer, and I love him to death. He spends at LEAST an hour a day on his games, but usually much more. Sometimes I join him, sometimes I let him game by himself. It's not a problem, I actually think it's kind of cute.

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ok theres this guy that i met online ad we talked and stuff and i sorta like him and he likes me and we talk on the phone everynight now he wants to meet me do u think i should meet him

That's how I met my fiance! But be careful. Meet in a public place, let lots of people know where you are, and try to make it a group thing the first time you meet.

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Ok if u have sex in a pool or like in the shower pretty much in water and u dont wear a condom can n e thign happen like when the guy busts?!?!?!?!
plz answer and DONT delete!!!!!!



NEED TO KNO!!!!!

You can get pregnant just like if you weren't in the water.

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what are some jobs you can get that are good paying without going to college?

Most jobs that don't require college are either very low paying, very hard work, or both. You could start your own business, like a restaurant or pet grooming or something. You would need to get a loan and they are a lot of work.

Otherwise, there are jobs like fast food and mall shops. These are like the jobs that you would get while you're in high school. None of these pay very well.

If you live near a huge and wealthy city, consider baggage handling at the airport (tips are uber) or waiting tables at a very fine restaurant (but keep in mind that you have to start in cheaper ones to get experience). But these only really pay well in big (like LA, New York, Chicago) and rich (like the Keys and retirement towns) cities.

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okay well my ex boy friend when i was on vacatio i found out that he hooked up with this gurl from a friend but he still liked me but he also liked this other gurl so i broke up with him!!!
see i still like him but i dont know if i should just be his friend now or just forget about and i think i still like him what should i do?????

I would just forget about him. A guy who cheats once is really likely to cheat again. I wouldn't be friends with him because there's a chance that you could hook up again, and he would probably do the same thing again.

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my friends are super skinny and i feel left out cause all the guys are like in love with them and they dont pay atteintion to me at all :( do you think i need to lose weight or just ignore them like ive been doing forever im 5'4" 135 lbs :(
and im 14 yrs old please help any advice is good advice

You are right at the correct weight for your height. You are not too fat or too skinny. If you have a really large frame you may actually be underweight. However, I think that you're weight is healthy, and so do insurance company longevity surveys.

Your friends, if they are your height and skinnier than you, are underweight. They are most likely unhealthy. As you get older you will find plenty of men who prefer girls who aren't twigs, and are actually sickened by the superskinny look.

Judging by just your height and weight, you are the healthiest of the group. I recommed that you don't change a thing!

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my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now.. this year im going to be a senior in high school, and he's going into his sophomore year of college. he plays basketball, so sometimes during the season it is hard for us to be together. we made it through last year, but i just feel like im not really up to make it through this year. he lives like 20 minutes away down in the dorms. i really love him and dont want to break up, but what else can i do? i need attention haha... i feel selfish, but no.. im really just used to having him around whenever i need him. any tips, thoughts, suggestions?

I'm sure you already do, but spend whatever time you can around him. Show up at home games and practices if you're alowed. Talk on the phone a LOT, and use the Internet to help stay in touch. Video chat can be pretty cool.

My fiance lives an hour and a half away from me, and we see each other on weekends, and we see each other the rare times that we're anywhere close to each other.

Hope that helps.

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okay last night was my cousins baptism and it was fine until the party when his parents got durnk, and his parents are my uncle and my aunt and my aunts like a second mom to me and my aunt got stoned and sooo drunk and my uncel got drunk and they culdnt take the baby cuz they culdnt care for it so my mom had to fight with them to get it and it feels like my whole family is falling apart...im afraid of my aunt now wat do i do?

I don't blame you. I can't believe someone would get drunk at a baptistm party, and obviously Christian gathering! I would try to get them some help. There's a time to drink, and there's a time to stay sober. If you can't get them help, then I would stay away from her any time there is alcohol around. If you get afraid of her, then there is probably a good reason and you should stay away, as hard as it may be.

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