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college...
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 2 years now.. this year im going to be a senior in high school, and he's going into his sophomore year of college. he plays basketball, so sometimes during the season it is hard for us to be together. we made it through last year, but i just feel like im not really up to make it through this year. he lives like 20 minutes away down in the dorms. i really love him and dont want to break up, but what else can i do? i need attention haha... i feel selfish, but no.. im really just used to having him around whenever i need him. any tips, thoughts, suggestions?
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Well maybe just wait a while.. if you really love him then you can wait till you get of highschool- and go and live with him and maybe go to his college or one near it.. 2 years is long- if you broke it off youd prob really really miss him
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I'm sure you already do, but spend whatever time you can around him. Show up at home games and practices if you're alowed. Talk on the phone a LOT, and use the Internet to help stay in touch. Video chat can be pretty cool.
My fiance lives an hour and a half away from me, and we see each other on weekends, and we see each other the rare times that we're anywhere close to each other.
Hope that helps.
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being in luv should make u happy if ur not happy while ur in luv sometimes it's best to get out of it. explian how u feel and how u need attention maybe that will make him realize he should spend as much time wit u as possible! maybe u guys can work somethin out. give it some time to see if things get better but if they don't u need to figure out wether u can keep up wit a relationship like dat or wether u need someone u can ALWAYS count on to be there. hope EVERYTHING works out 4 ya.
~Reenie~
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Hey there. Well, you guys have had a long run. If you really love him, you'll wait for him. I understand though, the whole need of attention ... your not selfish. Look, you'll see every once in a while. If you want some attention, act in a play, hang out with the girls ... lol. Sing Kareoke. Don't break it off with someone you love!!!
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Look, the misconception is that you two need to be together or talk EVERY SINGLE DAY. If you two are really close, you can handle just seeing each other twice a week or something. Besides, you can just call each other anyway since everybody and their brother has a cell phone. One thing that worries me is that you admit to being selfish and require constant attention, yet you're not willing to walk/bus/drive TWENTY measly minutes? I have to go 30mins+ a few times a week, and it's no problem for me. And don't worry about things like "I'm worried if we don't spend enough time together, he might find somebody else, blah blah blah". If you two truly love each other, both of you'll remain loyal. Remember, "love dies the moment suspicion is born." Now, stop hanging around these boards and go out and play. =P
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if you dont get to see him as much as you want then just tell him!!! maybe yall can work something out!
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If you love each other, you should both be willing to do whatever it takes to make it work.
When I was in college, my boyfriend (at the time) did something really special for my birthday. He knew that I was too busy studying for mid terms, to go out and celebrate my 19th birthday. So he worked with my roommates to surprise me. While I was studying at the library, he set candles and roses all around the dormroom. He cooked a fantastic dinner, complete with dessert. And even paid for my roommates to go out to dinner and a movie, so we could have the room to ourselves. That was truly the most romantic thing anyone has ever done for me. But I also remember all the small things he did, like leaving messages on my answering machine, saying "I just wanted to hear your voice and tell you that I love you." And he would slip little notes in my coat pocket or send flowers for no reason...
I hope this story provides inspiration for you and your relationship.
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I think that if you two care about each other as much as I believe you do, then I think that you should try your hardest to stay together. Set aside at least 1 day each week where you can just go out to the movies or go out to eat, or just spend the day together (or night.) Make sure that you try to go to his basketball games, that way you can be in the stands cheering him on. This will also help build up your relationship because he will know you care about what he does. You aren't being selfish. You have your own personal needs, everyone does. Things like this take adjusting, and you just need to have faith in your relationship and patience that things will turn out right in time.
Good luck, hun. If you have anymore questions, please feel free to leave them for me. I hope I helped.
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just talk to him about trying to see you a little bit more often or you going to see him more often when there is time, then you did last basket ball season. explain to him that you need him. im sure he will understand sinceguys have been together so long, and he will probably want to see you more too.
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