I work as a Customer Laison Complaints Case Officer at a major insurance company, where I have worked for 3 years. I left school when I was 17, as I had some very bad experiences at school and wanted to see what the real world had to offer.
I now live with my boyfriend of 3 years and spend my spare time reading, writing, socialising with friends or just watching some TV.
Times are still hard and I'm trying to cope with various health problems on a daily basis but I'm working my way through things and really want to stop it from getting me down.
I dream of some day going to America and watching a real baseball game (we don't have that at all in the UK) and perhaps finding a job I find creatively fulfilling. Until then, I'm happy trying to be me and making the best of what I have.
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Can anyone put a cherry into their mouth and tie the stem with their tongue into a knot? How do you do it? Does anyone have any tips on it?
I've been practicing all afternoon without success.
Hahah thanksss :) (link)
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I have to admit, I was a little intrigued too, so I ran a little search and this was what I came up with:
http://www.sheilaomalley.com/archives/003155.html
It gives a step by step guide on exactly how you do it. I haven't tried it myself but suspect it's easier said than done!
There is also:
http://www.everything2.com/index.pl?node_id=1020992
You'll have to let me know if it works!
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I feel like I am not needed. Like I don't have a purpose on this Earth. I feel like if I was gone, no one would notice. And I honestly believe that no one would. I would be gone for weeks before any of my "friends" noticed I was gone. And my family, they would all move on extremely quickly. I am always forgotten, left on the sidelines, doing nothing, locked up in my room, wishing that someone loved me....
How do I get pass this? (link)
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I'm so sorry that things are so tough for you right now. What you're feeling right now really isn't that uncommon and that's the first thing you need to realise.
You need to have a good long think about what it is that has made you feel this way and if there is any way at all that you could have helped the situation. I'm not saying it's your fault but what I am saying is that sometimes we do things every day that separate ourselves from others without even realising it and if we can work out what we do, we can fix it and be open to others again. I went through the same thing myself and I used to shut myself away in a classroom away from my own, by myself because I felt like nobody noticed me. Then I realised nobody noticed me because I was never there and when I was there, I warded people away with my negativity. People avoided me becasue I was upset all the time and they didn't know what to say to me. So this is why I say you need to think about this.
Next, you need to find a reason, a purpose for your life. It doesn't have to be anything huge. You don't need to rush into meeting that special someone or having children. What you need to do is work out what you used to feel passionate about and then find a way to work with that. For example, if you were good at drama, find yourself an amateur dramatics group where you can get involved in acting in real productions. If you liked writing, commit yourself to writing a book or a story. If you liked sports, find a sport you enjoyed and join a team. Whatever it is, make sure it is something that you can devote yourself to and try to make it social if you can. If it's not social, make sure it's something uplifting (i.e - if you want to write something, write a comical or enchanting children's novel).
Believe me, people DO notice you and people would be devestated and crushed if anything happened to you. The fact is that with the busy lives everyone has today, sometimes they forget to truly appreciate the ones they care about and they feel pushed into the sidelines. If that is the case, then remind them you're there. Get out of your locked room and go join them. Try to get them engaged in a game or a family outing or even just sit and talk with them or watch TV. Please remember that however low you might feel right now, you won't make yourself feel like they notice you if you shut yourself away, which prevents them from noticing you. I hope that makes sense...
It always hurts to feel forgotten or unimportant and it's easy at times like this to subject ourselves to criticism and self loathing but it won't make things better. You need to throw open your curtains and MAKE people notice you. Just try being more involved and you really have to make an effort. If it doesn't work to begin with, it's purely because people might not be used to it but you keep at it and I promise you, you will notice a change in them. Maybe even you too.
In the meantime, if you need to talk, please feel free to contact me any time. I know how hard things can be.
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So what's the deal with diet coke? It's zero calories and no fat, and only 1% sodium of the daily amount. Other than the caffiene, is there something else in it that's not good for you? (link)
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It has not fat but it does contain some sugar, additives and sugar-free replacements. Basically, it contains a lot of chemicals that nobody should put into your body. Tests have also been done which prove there really isn't much difference between Coke and Diet Coke.
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Yesterday me and my boyfriend were lying in bed and he started to rub his penis on my clitoris. He did that for a while and then he came. I didnt think that was a problem because he wasnt inside me but then he started fingering me. Is there a chance that his sperm went inside me? Could I be pregnant? Pls help! (link)
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The person for me is, I'm afraid, incorrect. Yes, you can get pregnant without having intercourse because all that needs to happen is for sperm to get inside you.
The chances of you being pregnant after what happened are very slim but yes, there is a small chance you could get pregnant if some of your boyfriend's sperm was on his hands when he was touching you, especially if it got inside you at all.
As I say, the chance is very small and I doubt you have anything to worry about so don't rush out and buy a test yet. However, if you skip a period, make sure you see your doctor.
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I (13) share a master bedroom with my sister(17). I want to decorate the room. It's diffcult for us to agree on ant thing since we're so diffrent. How should I decorate if she can't agree on any thing? (link)
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I know how you feel. My twin sister and I used to share a bedroom and we couldn't agree on ANYTHING.
The best thing I can recommend is that you get some snacks together (a peace offering!) and sit down with them to work out what sort of ideas you both had in mind. Then find a way to compromise. For example, if you wanted pink and she wanted black. Do pink along the top half of the bedroom and black along the bottom half, separated with a border.
If that doesn't work, split the room in half. Decorate your half of the room however you like and she can do her half however she likes. That way you both get what you want.
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you can use a condom and be on birth control right? because im on birth control but trust me in nowhere near having sex people wanted to with me but i said no :D im not ready for that or the consequences yet! well i was just wondering. because i am on birth control for my period not because im being sexual. well yeah i was just checkin sorry if that was a dumb question! just wanted to be sure. (link)
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You can and it's actually a strongly recommended method of contraception. In Holland, it's known as 'going Double Dutch'. Condoms are between 92% and 95% effective and protect against pregnancy, STI's, STD's etc but if they break, they do nothing. However, the Pill is around 99.9% effective when taken correctly but doesn't protect against STI's or STD's. If you use both at once, you're as well protected as you can get.
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What is dry sex? (link)
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It basically is grinding up against someone, normally while kissing, while you are still fully clothed.
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Okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for 7 months now, and we've only made out. If we go any further with him..would that make me seam Easy? (link)
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If you have been going out for 7 months and are of a legal age to take things further then no, I don't think it would make you seem easy.
Just don't forget that taking things further doesn't mean you aren't allowed to set boundaries. You can take things further a little at a time without rushing into anything like full sex. Moving on from kissing is a big deal and there are a lot of guys who might try to take advantage when they realise they can go further so make sure you make it clear that you are only prepared to go to a certain degree.
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Im just checking if anything is wrong with me or anything. lol. Im not sure what it could be or if its nothing really. Well, lately i have been getting dizzy a lot. Sometimes when i first get up from sleeping. When Im watching T.V. ill get up and then ill get really dizzy when i get into my kitchen to the point when i know its coming now. I also get really dizzy when its hot outside. Its not hard for me to get dizzy, and i can feel it coming. When i do get dizzy it lasts a while and sometimes i loose my balance, well, most of the time i do. Im not sure what it is, or if i have to worry about it at all.. If anyone knows or has any ideas of what it could be or if you have any suggestions please let me know. Sorry its so long. (link)
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There is a condition called vertigo, which can cause you to feel dizzy a lot. It's a viral infection and can last for usually around a week or so. If this is around the amount of time you have had it then this could be the cause but you should see your doctor for a formal diagnosis.
I would recommend you speak to your doctor regardless because there are a number of other possibilities, including anaemia and ear infections and the majority require treatment. If dizziness is your only symptom then I doubt it is anything serious but it's always better to be safe than sorry.
In the meantime, try and find some travelsickness tablets. I know that sounds a little weird but it was recommended to me when I had Vertigo last year. You get motion sickness because the equilibrium in your ear gets disturbed, making you feel dizzy and disorientated. Travelsickness tablets combat that so if you try using them, you might find that controls the dizziness until you can see a doctor.
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i was raped when i was younger and i don't know what to do anymore it haunts me in my sleep. I think about it all the time and when i see any of the guys that did that to me i freak out i start crying and they were all over five years ago so i can't go to the police and tell them i was raped i don't know any of the guys names. All i know is that they used to date my mom and when i told my mom that they were doing that to me she didn't believe me. I am now in foster care and i don't ever see my mom. But that fact that i was raped is scary and i need all the help and advice that i can get. so please anyone help me. (link)
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First thing you need to know is that it is NEVER too late to go to the police about this. There may not be any forensic evidence now but you can still report them and they can still take steps. Please don't let this go unreported. If they did it to you, who knows if they have done it to anyone else? If you report it and they have done it to others, other people may start to come forward. It also means if anyone reports it in the future, they will already be aware it has happened before. It's very important you do something about it.
You also need to speak to someone to arrange counselling. You should discuss this with your doctor as they can refer you to someone who can help. They can also arrange for you to have testing, to ensure that when they raped you they didn't pass any infections or dieases on. It is unlikely but it's better to be safe than sorry. If you feel more comfortable, get someone to go with you to the doctor but you need to see someone about it. Rape is a serious this and five people is far far more serious, especially given your young age. You shouldn't have to deal with this alone and you don't have to. Support is available for you so don't be afraid to seek it.
Please don't let what those evil men did destroy your life. It happened and believe me, I understand that it must have been a truly awful experience. But the only way they win is if you let what they did destroy you. You have your whole life ahead of you to make something amazing of. Who knows what great things are in your future? Don't let them take that away. So speak to someone, get counselling, report them to the police and then try to take steps to move on with your life. Easier said than done but you're stronger than you think and you CAN do it.
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i hate math...me and math will never understand each other...i always get c's on my report card...i was in tutoring but that did'nt help much....my parents give me a hard time on it all the time..and all my friends are really good at it...my parents are always saying look at my friends there doing perfect in it...wat do i do??? (link)
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I do actually know exactly how you feel. I did my exams and got a 4. Not 4%. That was the number of marks I actually got on the whole maths exam. Thankfully that was a mock but it was enough to shake me. My Dad is a teacher and tried numerous times to teach me to do maths but I could never get it and we would have blazing rows over it.
Unfortunately, I can only suggest to you the same methods I took. They managed to bump me up to a D grade but I think maths is one of those things for some people that you just cannot 'get'.
SO....first you need to find a way to make your mind relax. If you're anything like me, you see a sum and your brain puts up this huge mental block and you can't get past it. If you can try to relax it will help to get rid of that block a little. So try rewarding yourself with a piece of chocolate or something else whenever you finish a sum, whether you get it right or wrong. Then you shouldn't see it as so bad when you're faced with one.
Next, the best thing I did was get the help of a different maths teacher. I was learning *nothing* from my own teacher but my sister said her teacher was great. So my Mum and I went to him and made a deal. He took me for an hour or so after school every Thursday for a little money. He taught me right up from the basics to the level I needed for my exams and it is only because of him I got a D, rather than an F.
The most important thing is that you need to make sure you have your basics. I expect you have the same problem I did, where I wasn't taught the basics properly and because of that, anything that followed went right over my head. If you can find a lower level maths book (even if it is a few years below your level - you have to start soewhere) and then start working your way through it, things might just start to fall into place.
Try to relax about this. If you keep saying you hate it, it will make it more difficult for you to cope with it. Believe me, I know!! So stop saying you hate it and instead just say that you aren't as good as you could be but you are working on it.
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Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas? (link)
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I know you don't want to hurt him but you are absoloutely right in saying if you leave it longer you could end up hurting him far more in the future.
A month is still relatively new for a relationship so if you end it now, it will be upsetting but not as bad as it could be.
Tell him the truth. It's tempting to lie and say something that will sound less hurtful but he deserves to know the truth and if that means telling him that there just isn't any chemistry then so be it. Tellingt him that will mean he won't spend the next few weeks wondering what he did wrong. Tell him that you care about him but that spark isn't there for you and you would rather let him go and let him find someone he can find that with than lead him on. That way it shows that you're doing this as much for his benefit as it is yours and will hopefully make a difficult situation easier.
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what is the best product or method for removing leg hair besides shaving with a razor? any bladeless kits or anything that works good with little burning? (link)
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The best form I have found other than shaving is Veet Bladeless Shaving Kit. You use a little on a patch of hair on your leg to ensure you aren't sensitive to it. They do also do a product for sensitive skin. You put it on, leave it for around 8 minutes and then use the bladeless razor to get rid of the hair.
It doesn't sting or burn at all if you aren't sensitive to it (I had no problems and I've used it a lot) and the only downside is that the actual hair removal foam smells kind of like rotten eggs! However, you can't smell it when you wash it off and your legs are left silky smoothy.
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When you have sex for the first time on a scale of 1-10 how much did it hurt for you and was it really that pain ful ? (link)
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For me, I would say it was about 6 or 7. However, it varies from person to person and a lot of the pain depends on whether or not your hymen has already been broken.
It was more painful than I actually imagined it would be but that is one reason I am such a believer in never having sex until you are in a stable relationship. However great they make sex look on TV, the first time is normally quite awkward and painful and you need to be with someone who will be gentle and understanding so that if you can't do it the first time round, there won't be any bad feelings about it.
Unfortunately, there really isn't anything that you can do (as far as I am aware) to prevent it from hurting. However, the good news is that after the first time it should start getting less painful and more enjoyable the more you do it.
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My hair is really poofy. Even after I straighten it bottom layer, then top. I've bleached my hair and all that good stuff. I was wondering, if I got my hair chemicaly straightened, would that make it non-poofy?
Sorry, for the bad spelling. (link)
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In theory yes but it isn't necessarily the best answer. I found that straightening my hair made it less poofy (actually what I call it too!) but was warned away from permanent straightening by a reputable hairdresser. Although it can be a good idea, if you have thin, weak or brittle hair, it will completely destroy it. The chemicals they use for the procedure are quite strong and will do long term damage, no matter how good the condition of your hair is. So although it would work, make sure you check with a good hairdresser (that doesn't offer it and would therefore be impartial) whether or not your hair type would be suitable for this.
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When shaving your legs, are brand new razor or razors that have been used about 1 or 2 times better? Like what type will get the hair off faster and more easier? (link)
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You should always use a newer razor. They should be adequate for shaving your legs and underarms for some time but you will know when they become dull because you will notice you get cut more or it starts to hurt a little to shave. This is because over time, the blade starts to get little knicks in it, where it has worn down and it becomes rough.
I would recommend trying a Venus Razor, as they have a wonderfully close shave and the blades last quite a while. If you get a newer version, they also have a moisturising balm on the razor so it soothes while you shave.
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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please (link)
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I understand that you like him and his opinion will matter to you but the bottom line is that losing your virginity is a big deal, especially for girls. You shouldn't let him get away with trying to pressure you into having sex. Let's face it, you're 13 and (forgive me for saying this) barely a teenager! You've started the path to womanhood and have enough to deal with in life right now and it's a bad age to let sex into the bargain as well.
I know that to most guys, sex is just this thing, this right of passage and they have to have done it by a certain age otherwise they get made fun of but it's different to girls. We're the ones that get lumbered with their mistakes if the condom breaks. You have to consider this seriously. No method of contraception is 100% effective and nobody should really have sex until they are certain they could cope with the consequences.
I don't want to sound preachy by saying this all to you so please don't think I am but I want to stress to you that guys like this are not the sort of ones you deserve. You deserve respect and care and love and patience. If he can't see that and thinks you should be having sex so early in life, he is the immature one, not you and you shouldn't let him make you think otherwise. If he puts pressure on you at all, you should really consider your relationship with him carefully. He doesn't deserve you and you could do a lot better.
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Me and my hubby are trying to concieve...and i was wondering...i have been xtremly horny..for the past 4-6 days and i have never been like this before..is it possible that this could be an early sign of pregnancy?? (link)
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It's not considered a common symptom of pregnancy. A more likely reason is that because you are trying to conceive, you have increased the number of times you have sex. Sex is very much a 'more you have it the more you want it' thing, which will be why you feel turned on more right now.
However, if you are trying to conceive, I suggest you take full advantage of it while it lasts!
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How does birth control work? Also what makes it not be 100% accurate to not cause pregnancy? Finally how does birth control prevent somebody getting pregnant? (link)
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Basically, it works by controlling the way your reproductive system works. It prevents your ovaries from releasing eggs. Although you will still have 'periods' in between Pill packets, you won't be releasing any eggs and therefore won't get pregnant.
However, it is worth noting that there is no such thing as a 100% effective method of birth control. The Pill is considered the most effective, as it works at between 95-99.9% but if you miss one or take it at the incorrect times, the level of contraception is significantly decreased.
If you want to be extra-careful, use a condom at the same time. It is what the Dutch call going 'Double Dutch' and is basically the safest you can get when it comes to birth control.
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I have an injured jaw (with an unknown cause) and I have to go in for an MRI scan. Has anyone else gone for one? How long do you usually stay? (in the machine) I guess. Haha if you could please tell me about your experience it would be greatly appreciated! THANKSSS! :) (link)
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I had one around 6 years ago for a bad hip problem.
You have to take off literally everything you are wearing that is made of metal, because the machine is basically like a big magnet.
When you go in, it's a really long tube type thing and you have to lie perfectly still. I was in there for around 2 hours, but that was because I accidentally moved during one of the 'photos' and it came out blurred. You usually get given a set of headphones to put on because the machine is REALLY loud and they play music so you have something to occupy you.
It's not too bad to be honest and even though I was in there for ages in the end, it went by really fast. The best thing you can do is shut your eyes, focus on the music and try not to move. It'll be over before you know it.
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