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raped when younger
i was raped when i was younger and i don't know what to do anymore it haunts me in my sleep. I think about it all the time and when i see any of the guys that did that to me i freak out i start crying and they were all over five years ago so i can't go to the police and tell them i was raped i don't know any of the guys names. All i know is that they used to date my mom and when i told my mom that they were doing that to me she didn't believe me. I am now in foster care and i don't ever see my mom. But that fact that i was raped is scary and i need all the help and advice that i can get. so please anyone help me.
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Darling,
Why didn't you mother believe you and how did you get in foster care. This is a serious matter and it will haunt you for the rest of you life unless you do something about it. Maybe the man will not get caught and maybe he will but the going to the police is neccassarry. ASAP. The longer you wait the better the chance he gets away, the reason you need to go to the police is they can get you help. Therapy may not sound like the answer but it can solve those nightmares that wont leave you be. Also they can go to your mom and she can help with the search. Men like him shouldn't be allowed into the world to corrupt other young womens life. Hard to think about but not all men are like this. I know that you know this and its hard to justget over and go to a guy but the easier it is for you to open up to a guy the easier it will be to get over this. There will always be a scar but maybe you can help other young girls all over the world by explaining what you've been through and why its important for people to listen and respond and for them to tell. Hope everything heals as it should. Always here,
Vennessa.
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Hey Darling,
It may be hard but your doing the right thing.I know its going to take all your courage to do this but i have complete and total respect for the courage you have. It amazing. Help other girls. Ask the police department if they know any programs for young girls that have been through being raped;and if your not comfortable helping other yet, thats fine. It takes time to heal. I've been praying for you and all the best of luck finding him!
Hoping the best for you,
Vennessa.
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Dear Raped When Younger,
Alot of people go through this but I think that you should never hold back your feelings this is very serious and if you are afraid to tell the police dont be the police will try and do everything to help you. They can't just ignore you they need to help it is their job. God Bless!! <3 Alli
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I'm so sorry this has happened to you. No-one deserves that. And the people who did this to you don't deserve to get away with it. Tell the police. They'll believe you. It doesn't matter that it was so long ago, they'll still be able to sort it. Otherwise this could be happening to other people to. They'll help you get help, and therapy and stuff. Let people help you.
clairejones00@hotmail.com email me if you want to talk any more.
God bless you.
xxx
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Wow, Im very sorry to hear that. You have oviously been threw alot. Being raped is serious, you should never hold it back. But in your case you did tell ur mom, but she didnt believe you.
I consider for you to go to a therapist to talk out your feelings. It helps alot.
&& Also, try to keep your mind on other things, [ i know its hard] but hang out more with your friends, do sports. Anything.
Your not alone. Theres always help =]
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i know it sux and theres nothing you can do but forget it you have to. whats past is past you have to move on with your life you cant let this haunt you.why not consider seeing a therapist ?going to a therapist isnt abnormal itll help you a lot
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Hi, Im sorry that you have been through such a dreadful experience. It is good that you've asked us for opinions and the best thing you can do is go and see someone like a Psychologist or a Counsellor. Try and find out your local rape centres. Right now you need to talk to someone about it. This is a very tough time for you, and you need lots of understanding and support to help you with things. Hope things go well for you soon. Getting help is the best option you can do. Daniel.
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hey,
i read your problem and i think that was such a hard and tough experience. I am really sorry it all happened. umm...alot of us go through different experiences which haunts us for the rest of out lives, and we never forget and we come to think of it, we just end up crying our eyes out for hours and hours. We also lose very close people to us and sometimes hurt other's feelings. But then you have to come and think again, did life come to an end when you were raped? No it didn't. Is there no more hope in this world anymore? ofcourse there is.
Do you see what i mean? hope is there believe it or not, but sadness can control alot, don't let it get to you, and don't let it beat you, and let faith grow from the inside. I am sure, and although i don't know you, but i am sure that you are an extremely amazing person with a great personality, and that you care about others.So don't waste that on shit. I know that what happened was really major and bad , but i also know things that happened and were much worse than that, if you can imagine.
Look, i know that it has been really hard and tough for you all those years, but there has to come a time when you get over this, and consider what happened as a part of your past,but not as a part of your future or the time being.So bury it deep deep down under layers and layers of ground, where no body could ever find it, and move on and start a whole new life again, and meet new people, and make new friends, and stand up for yourself, and be confident, and as long as you know that you are a good person and that you don't do anything wrong or anything of that shit, then god forgives you and everyone forgives you. Sometimes, you have to face your weakness points and try to overcome the things that upset you, or else you'd change into something more like a suicidal person, which would be nothing but a dumb and idiotic act, to waste a good and fascinating soul like yours,who could have had a great life and a great future, and satisfied her dreams and became a successful person and got married and had kids and lived happily ever after.You see, this is how the story should end, by someone having a horrible miserable childhood, but then he stood up for himself and moved on, and overcame his problem. And if you weren't a good person, you wouldn't have dreamt about it everynight, or thought about it every minute, or felt guilt, or came here on this site and asked for advice.So screw those boys,because they are going to hell and you are going to heaven.
Good luck, and please try to consider this, and have you have any further worries or questions, please be free to post more questions at any time, or if its personal you can contact me on alaa.abuali@hotmail.com.
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sweety it is never too late to tell the poluce but you don't need to know there names but the way they look and what they did to you... you really need to tell the police because trust me you'll be reliefed also you don't tell the police this wil probably haunt you for the rest of your life well hope I helped =) tell the police
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Oh I am so sorry that happened to you. It shouldn't happen to anyone. And it's not fair that your own mom didn't believe you. You can always talk to a therapist. That might help. You just need to talk to someone, and try to get through it. Talk to a counselor, therapist, or some adult you trust. This is very hard to get through, so you need someone to talk to. I hope you can get help and talk to someone.
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It isn't too late. You can always tell the police this, they would be able to contact your mother somehow. Talk to a therapist aswell, they would help you in releasing that inner fear and tragedy. Talk to a trusted friend as well, or maybe a close family member, it is good to have some one else other then a therapist to be able to talk too and keep you on your feet.
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I am REALLY sorry this happened to you..Its terrible. I think the reason why this is haunting you is because you need closure. You need to talk about how you feel because obviously there was no one there to talk to about it - your Mom didnt believe you. I would strongly suggest talking to a trusted family member about it. But, I think you would be better off talking to a professional..a therapist. It would really help for your FUTURE to be able to learn how to deal with this. You will learn how to be with men and not be afraid of them because trust me, not all men are like that.
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First thing you need to know is that it is NEVER too late to go to the police about this. There may not be any forensic evidence now but you can still report them and they can still take steps. Please don't let this go unreported. If they did it to you, who knows if they have done it to anyone else? If you report it and they have done it to others, other people may start to come forward. It also means if anyone reports it in the future, they will already be aware it has happened before. It's very important you do something about it.
You also need to speak to someone to arrange counselling. You should discuss this with your doctor as they can refer you to someone who can help. They can also arrange for you to have testing, to ensure that when they raped you they didn't pass any infections or dieases on. It is unlikely but it's better to be safe than sorry. If you feel more comfortable, get someone to go with you to the doctor but you need to see someone about it. Rape is a serious this and five people is far far more serious, especially given your young age. You shouldn't have to deal with this alone and you don't have to. Support is available for you so don't be afraid to seek it.
Please don't let what those evil men did destroy your life. It happened and believe me, I understand that it must have been a truly awful experience. But the only way they win is if you let what they did destroy you. You have your whole life ahead of you to make something amazing of. Who knows what great things are in your future? Don't let them take that away. So speak to someone, get counselling, report them to the police and then try to take steps to move on with your life. Easier said than done but you're stronger than you think and you CAN do it.
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i know where you are coming from. one of my best friends was raped when she was younger by her neighbor that she sees almost everyday. just imagine. Ive heard her story..and everytime she talks about it she crys. so i deff. know what you are going through. it must be really hard to have gone through something like that and i want to start off by saying im sorry that happened to you because no one desurves having to go through that. try and keep your mind off of it and if you have a true friend you might want to talk to her about it..she could help you feel better. i hope you can stop thinking about it..and if you ever need someone to talk to about it..im always here to talk. feel better. -Michelle
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