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Boyfriend trouble
Okay soo I'm a 15 year old female. I've been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month now. I love spending time with him! but i see him more as a friend than anything else. When we kiss there just arent any sparks. I'm afraid of hurting him, but i think if i stay with him ill just hurt him more later on... any ideas?
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Tell him. It's only going to hurt him more in the end if you don't tell him NOW! I know it's going to be hard because you like him as a friend but you really need to tell him that. Make sure you break it to him gently.Make sure you let him know you want to be friends.
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Well, you're right. Leading him on would much worse. The best thing you can do is tell him what you just wrote. Tell him how much you love to be around him and how much you care about him. Don't do it over the phone, email, internet chat, text messages, or through other people, etc. Just tell him in person so that he can see that you sincerly mean it. It'll probaly be akward at first, but if you keep trying things could get comfortable again.
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Hi there, your better off telling him quickly that you would just like to be friends for now. No pressure but the longer you leave it the more worser the situation will get for you. Daniel.
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hey,
As i read through your problem, it seems to me that when you say i don't want to hurt him, it means that i will keep dating him out of pity.
Listen to me, as long as your hanging out with him and pretending to take him as your boyfriend, than that is unfair for him and for you, and that means that your wasting your time and his time. You know why, because there could be a girl who really does like him and wants him as a boyfriend, and then again, there could be someone that you will see later on and would really like and want as a boyfriend. So you see what i mean? Now all you have to do , is to come out straight and tell him how you feel, because boys like honesty. And not all relationships work, sometimes you are just meant to be close friends or best friends, but you can't be more than that.So forget about the kiss now, because you can't kiss someone that you don't like, and you can't kiss someone that you simplly think of as a friend.
Finally, i think i've clarified my point, and i have nothing more to say, but if you have any further worries or troubles, please be free to contact me. Thankyou.
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hes going to think youre using him like this....sit down alone by yourself and think it all out how do you REALLY feel towards this dude?cuz theres a big difference between love and like.if you "love" him then stay with him if you love him as a FREIND then i think you should just tell him the nice way that hes just a freind or you can just stop what youre doing to the poor guy....you wouldnt like it if that happened to ya
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Tell him exactly how you feel.
Tell him that you love spending time with him and he's great and you would still love to hang out and stuff, but that there are just no sparks and you want to end it before he gets really hurt. Don;t rehearse it, just let it be natural so he knows that you really mean what you're saying and you're not just breaking up with him.
Good luck. Hope you guys can stay friends.
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I've gone through this before and I ended it. But the problem with me was that I ended it too late so I feel like he was hurt even more. So if you are 100% sure that you don't want this any more, talk to him before it's later. Explain it to him, and try doing it face-to-face.
And luckily for me, my ex is one of my best friends. Maybe it will be the same for you. Just be 100% sure that you do want to stay with him, b/c if you aren't you may have doubts afterwards if you break up with him. I've through this before so I know. Just be sure, and go with your heart. Hope this helped some.
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Try spice it up a bit, maybe move to a better surrounding for a better mood to kiss him, maybe something will spark then. Or let him be the one to kiss you, maybe the spark will come when he is in the right mood - he might kiss better. Other then that, there isn't much you can do if the relationship isn't lifting you in anyway. If you want to be friends with him, then go out and have a good time with him, then try breaking the news to him, give him a bit of time, and then start going out with him again, as a friend.
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Ok well if you don't like him. Then you shouldn't be going out with him. I know you don't want to hurt him but just tell him you'd rather just be friends. Good Luck =)
♥ Risa
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I know you don't want to hurt him but you are absoloutely right in saying if you leave it longer you could end up hurting him far more in the future.
A month is still relatively new for a relationship so if you end it now, it will be upsetting but not as bad as it could be.
Tell him the truth. It's tempting to lie and say something that will sound less hurtful but he deserves to know the truth and if that means telling him that there just isn't any chemistry then so be it. Tellingt him that will mean he won't spend the next few weeks wondering what he did wrong. Tell him that you care about him but that spark isn't there for you and you would rather let him go and let him find someone he can find that with than lead him on. That way it shows that you're doing this as much for his benefit as it is yours and will hopefully make a difficult situation easier.
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Dear Friendly,
Its better to break up with him now, then to lead him on believeing that you like him. If there is no spark, then there will probaley never be one. But remember the longer your together the harder the breakup will be on him. If hes a descent guy he should understand, and be happy that your not leading him on to believe that you like him.
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