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ok so my boyfreind is 15 im 13 the age doesnt bother me that much but the fact that he has has sex before does we can talk about it openly and all but i think he thinks i am imature for telling him there is no way in hell i will lose my virginity when i am only 13 and stuff i dont really no wat my question is i think i just need to talk to someone about it help please
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THANK YOU! You are the only person alive who is smart enough to do that. Most people are too scared too do that and stuff. But that was brave what you did. If he thinks you are immature, then..uh..he needs to rethink that. That was VERY mature what you did. I doubt he thinks you are immature, though. Don't worry about it.
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You need to distance yourself from this guy right away. He doesn't have the emotional maturity to deal with sex right now, and you are showing a great deal more common sense by refusing than he is by asking.
If he continues to pressure you, get someone to intervene for you - a parent, a teacher, some kind of adult. DO NOT give in and DO NOT place yourself in a position where he may try to force the issue.
He is disrespecting you. You should not put up with it. My advice would be to end your relationship with him right away, and warn your friends about him.
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i had the same problem before and if you need to talk then im here, you can message me anytime you'd like..but i really have nothing to say to you right now. just tell me what you need to know about it and what i did.
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well if he really loved you and cared for you he would accept the fact that you are WAY too young to be having sex. it's good that YOU realized that you're too young to be having sex and he should realize that too as your bf. but if all he wants is sex, you should get out of that relationship. good luck and hope i helped.
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If your boyfriend really cared for you, he'd respect the fact that you'd rather wait a while for sex. I mean, you're 13, he should understand that. Talk to him about it, though. Hope everything goes well, good luck. :)
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I understand that you like him and his opinion will matter to you but the bottom line is that losing your virginity is a big deal, especially for girls. You shouldn't let him get away with trying to pressure you into having sex. Let's face it, you're 13 and (forgive me for saying this) barely a teenager! You've started the path to womanhood and have enough to deal with in life right now and it's a bad age to let sex into the bargain as well.
I know that to most guys, sex is just this thing, this right of passage and they have to have done it by a certain age otherwise they get made fun of but it's different to girls. We're the ones that get lumbered with their mistakes if the condom breaks. You have to consider this seriously. No method of contraception is 100% effective and nobody should really have sex until they are certain they could cope with the consequences.
I don't want to sound preachy by saying this all to you so please don't think I am but I want to stress to you that guys like this are not the sort of ones you deserve. You deserve respect and care and love and patience. If he can't see that and thinks you should be having sex so early in life, he is the immature one, not you and you shouldn't let him make you think otherwise. If he puts pressure on you at all, you should really consider your relationship with him carefully. He doesn't deserve you and you could do a lot better.
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Hi, you are both quite young to be having or considering sex. Choosing to not have sex at your age to me shows that you have some maturity and know what the consequences of having sex are. Good that you told him, thats excellent. Daniel.
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At 15, losing your virginity isn't really cool. It's kind of immature. Boys who brag about it are usually lying, and boys that keep it mostly secretive and discrete aren't. You are only 13. Wait until marriage. It's more special when you are in love. I know it sounds stupid, I'm 14. But imagine going into high school with a rep as a slut who gave "it" up at 13. No one would be to taking with that. Guys in high school like girls who have less experience. If he has a problem with you not being easy, tell him to get lost. Sex isn't everything and he needs to realize that. And besides, you could be over reacting. Tell him how you REALLY feel.
I hope I helped..
If you need anymore advice, IM me at Babyy Gqirl x3.
MY NAME IS ABBY lol sorry about that <3
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Oh gosh, been in the same position.. I'm 13, but the guy wasn't my bf. Anwayz if he truly does like you for who you are he wouldn't care that you aren't ready for sex and would wait. If he ever tries to pressure you, just say alright I'm done! I have more self respect and morals than to do it w/ some punk who thinks he's soo experienced when he's only a 15 year old whore!! lol Sorry to be harsh. Trust me, let him know from the start how far you wanna go and that your not just some stupid 13 year old who is going to be easily persuaded just because he's older! I'd tell him, I won't do anything with you, until I know for sure you like me and not what I can give. Don't give in. You'll regret it. Don't do anything stupid and don't let him use you! Good Luck!!
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Yeah its not a big age difference, but sometimes the thinking is, especially in a boy. The middle age teenish for them their hormones are raging. I would dump him, before he pressures you into having sex. Because the pressure is always REALLY heavy. It is crazy to lose your virginity when your 13, in my opinion you should wait until marriage so you know that you both are virgins, and no stds, no aids, stuff like that.
If you need someone to talk to you can IM me at Kaylehmae - I'll be happy to talk and listen :)
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Being 13 and not wanting to loose you virginity is a good thing. He should respect that and if he doesn't then he is only in it for sex. You should tell him that it is immature of him to try to pressure you. If you need someone to talk to i'm here.
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aight look if he thing your immature then he just cares about him just gettin some and that's it he has to respect the fact that your gonna loose it @ that age and that a great decision because let me tell you something he's already has done it with girls so imagine those girls he's done it with how many guys the girls done it with understand me the chain continues... your really smart thinkin that because I know a lot of people that regretted loosin there virginity young well hope I helped =)
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oK LOOK THIS IS GOING TO SOUND LIKE A FAMILY LIFE ANSWEr BUT YOU need to kno that if he has a problem with that He dosent love you And if you havnt noticed he's not exactly with those other girls now is he>.
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I would like to congratulate you on your honesty and trying to look for help. This is a very difficult thing to go through thats why its called peer pressure. He is not too old for you age wise; however, it seems you would be better off with someone who will not pressure you into sex. I was pressured many times and it was my weakness and I cant tell you how often I regretted those times I had said to a pretty face. I know its hard but you need to find the strength within and resist. Fill your life with people that care about you as well as people who do the right thing. Those people can help guide you through this difficult time. Whatever happens, do not be afraid to say no and if you are, have your mom enroll you in a self-defense class which will empower you to no end. Please reply to me and let me know how it went and how you are doing. If you need further assistance, please do not hesitate, I am here for you.
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Dont do anything until you KNOW and are COMPLETELY sure you are ready. Sounds to me like he is an asshole. How are you immature for telling him that your not ready? If he is really mad about that, then i would say he is not worth it. Maybe, if you feel comfy enough, compromise with him. Only makeout, then feel up, handjob and stuff and gradually go up. JUST MAKE SURE YOU ARE READY. AND DONT DO ANYTHING YOU DONT WANNA DO. AND LASTLY, DONT LET HIM MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY:)
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