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My crush told my friend that he thinks I am "pretty, pretty" as in like wow, you're pretty cool, except it's pretty pretty.
I'm debating if that's a compliment, I mean, it's cute but the way I take it as, I'm pretty, but not pretty enough.
Girls, would you take it as a compliment? (link)
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Being told you are "pretty" is a compliment.
Fairly pretty = compliment
Pretty pretty = compliment
The crush may not have the right "words" to use in this. Maybe you don't fit the sexy or hot categories just right but you are a pretty girl. If you're looking for him to say you're outstandingly gorgeous then he might just not have that sort of phrase in his vocabulary to toss out. Saying you're "REALLY" pretty might feel a little embarrassing to him, especially if he thinks his friend might make fun of him. It's best to play it safe and use those smaller, less-impact words in case the person says, "What?! She's hideous!" It reduces the risk of embarrassment. He also doesn't want to run into a trap--your friend says, "Do you think Suzy is pretty?" and he says, "Yeah! Wow, is she!" and she says, "Well, she hates your guts, loser!" Teens can be cruel.
I'd say thank you and be pleased by it, personally.
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For the third time in the past few weeks, when I whipe my vagina after peeing..theres some blood in the toilet paper..but it isnt my period because I dont start that will the 8th. So is this ovulation or somthing else..? Im sexually active and getting on the pill next month.. :/ (link)
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Ovulation does not result in bleeding most of the time.
There may be blood coming from your urethra where you pee from. If so, you could have a kidney infection or something more serious.
If it's coming directly from you vagina then it's possible you're having some break through bleeding due to hormonal imbalances, cysts, or even uterine fibroids.
Since we're not doctors we aren't able to examine you and give you a proper diagnosis. Since this has been going on for more than just a couple of days then it's past time for you to call the doctor and get an appointment made.
I once had a period for 2 months straight. It isn't healthy if this blood is coming from your uterus. I ended up having a cyst on my ovary and they got it to shrink by using some basic medication.
Call your doctor and explain the situation. Set up an appointment and get checked out. Your health is important. Make sure you're in good health! Don't wait until next month--make an appointment for as soon as they can fit you in to make sure this isn't from an internal infection of some sort.
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So i like this guy and we have talk and hug.But all of a sudden he just stop talking to me. did i do something wrong or do i need to fix my appearance? (link)
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He may have realized you weren't a good match for him out of your personality. Sometimes YOU might feel a connection when the other person is sitting on the other side going, "Well, she's nice and friendly but I can't see myself going with her."
Relax, take it easy, and move on if needed. If it's been only a few days then give the guy a break. If it's been more than a week then he's probably disinterested in being in a closer relationship with you. Instead of worrying about changing your appearance all of a sudden for one guy who may or may not be interested in you think about finding someone else who might be attracted to you as you are already.
Sometimes friends hug. Sometimes friends sit and chat for a good while. He may only feel that friend connection. You can make someone fall in love with you, like you, or be mad at about you. It's just a part of life.
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My boyfriend and i had sex and we used a condom. afterward, he took off the condom, put on hand sanitzer, used a hand sanitizer wipe, and fingered me like five minutes later. i'm freaking out about the possibility of pregnancy because i feel like he could have touched sperm when he took off the condom, and apparently hand sanitizer doesn't kill sperm. but, i also thought that if his hands were completely dry before he fingered me, which they were, it would be okay because sperm is killed when it dries. also, he used a hand sanitizer wipe, so that could have at least wiped the sperm off of his hands. so, am i okay, or should i go buy the morning after pill?... (link)
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When the sperm is fully dried then they are dead. If his hands were completely dry then no sperm were likely to be alive. By the time it dries the sperm have no fluid to swim and survive in so they are likely to be dead.
So, sure, if one sperm was a live then you could get pregnant. I mean, it does only take ONE sperm to impregnate you. Fortunately, this is pretty darn low risk. The alcohol probably helped dry the semen faster and there was a good 5 minutes in between which probably allowed the hands to dry completely with that sanitizer.
Next time, have your partner quickly wash his hands. It'll save all of this whole slight-possibilities thing and ease your mind. The sperm will wash down the road and the soap should handle drying the hands enough to prevent them from living if they are still on there somewhere.
I wouldn't jump the gun and buy the morning after pill for this. Then again, it's entirely up to you. If you feel you put yourself into too much risk then definitely do it. If you feel your odds are plenty low enough then skip the pill and monitor yourself. Your risk is pretty darn low.
Next time: wash hands.
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if someone can help me i will worship the ground you walk on.
i want to be an entertainment business major, either concentrating on music business or film/tv, movies business.
any colleges in north eastern US will be great. or preferably, the bay area (california). even southern california will be okay. but really, anywhere in the US haha
i cannot go to USC, NYU, or any school like that cause i'm not qualified lol. also not five towns college, or point park cause i've heard of them already.
omg i know that was really specific, but help me and i will (link)
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Well, there is a place called Full Sail that even allows business entertainment majors to do online coursework:
http://www.fullsail.edu/
Here is a great list of entertainment business resources:
http://www.trade-schools.net/directory/entertainment-business-management.asp
That listed schools like THE COLLEGE OF WESTCHESTER
White Plains, New York; GLOBE UNIVERSITY
Woodbury, Minnesota; and INSTITUTE OF PRODUCTION AND RECORDING
Minneapolis, Minnesota.
Your best bet might to be to get some basic courses in at your local community college before taking off to something bigger. Sometimes getting a few English courses, mathematics, or foreign languages classes out of the way makes it much easier to be accepted into other universities out of state. In the meantime, it also gives you a great opportunity to talk with your local college counselors about where to go and how to pursue your dreams. They are the people that can help you the most since this is what they do for a living--get you to and through college!
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there is this boy at school i fancied him for ages
but i dont know how to tell him how i feel about him. how do i? (link)
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You should approach him and be honest and straight-forward with him.
Simply come up to the guy and say, "Hey, I think you're a really nice guy and I was hoping you might be free this weekend. Do you think you and I could get together and go out for pizza on Friday after school?"
Do something where you two can talk. Going to the movies might be your first idea but it leaves too much dead space. You aren't able to talk and get to know each other. He might think you're a WONDERFUL, lovely person but if he isn't able to get an idea of your personality then you might just end up being arm candy (or nothing at all).
So, confront the guy and see if you two can arrange a time to go out. Give him your phone number and let him know he can give you a call after school if he isn't too busy. If he calls, he's definitely interested. If he doesn't then just wait it out for the first "date" and see where things go from there.
So, try asking him out to go:
Skating
Bowling
Eating
Dancing
etc.
Something you two can chat while doing and have a little fun, too. Try something fairly plain at first until you find out what he likes. If you find out he, say, is extremely interested in history then you might be able to go out to the local museum later. You might be able to walk through the zoo if he's into wildlife. You might be able to go to an art gallery if he's into artsy things.
Sometimes you just have to make the first move. Take a step forward and see where it leads you. The worst he can say is, "No, I'm busy," and walk away. No big deal. You can get over that easy peasy.
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Ok so our school dance is coming up and this really sweet guy asked me out to the dance. I wanna say yes but I am afraid everyone will make fun of me. HELP! (link)
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Just do it!
Who cares if everyone laughs or thinks you're stupid? You're going to go to the dance with someone nice and have a blast. Forget about the people who are jealous of the fact that a guy who is actually NICE is interested in taking YOU to a dance in front of EVERYONE?
Do it. Totally do it. It's just a dance anyway and it's a GREAT way to get to know someone better.
Go to him and say, "Yes, I'd absolutely love to go to the dance with a guy as sweet as you. Thank you for inviting me. I am really excited about this!"
In a few years the people who giggle about the whole ordeal will look back and wish they had someone who was as sweet as this guy then. They are only being stupid about this whole thing. When you're older you'll realize that it doesn't matter what people say in this sort of situation. You aren't doing anything bad and neither is the guy.
Go for it. Totally go for it. Have lots of fun with this guy!
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So my girlfriend and i have been dating for almost a year know and before now she had hung out with me a ton like almost everyday possible. I'm not saying thats all we did, we definately had some free time and hung out with our bros or girls. but just now she didn't hang out with me this whole week and like was like i'm just out don't worry. Then she called me and told me that she was hanging with these dudes who have been like wanting to hookup with her for like ever.. and i was like its whatever and she was like "well i mean i didn't want you to get upset cause i know you know that they think i'm really hott and stuff.. it was just so much fun like i felt so special cause they like just talked about how attractive i was and how they were obsessed with me! i know it sounds weird but i wanna hang with them a lot more i'm sorry if it interferes with us but like they make me feel so wanted.." like i feel like scared and what not like i dunnoo.. am i overreactinggg i feel like they are going to like take her and stuff...
I probably sound like messed up or something but it's been worryinggg.. Thank you (link)
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Dump her.
The girl just wants attention. She left you hanging and spent time with guys she knows would hurt your feelings. She knew the guys want to be sexual with her. She knows you were probably going to be bothered by the fact that she was with them and not you. She made a point of saying they make her feel special. That means she only wants attention.
Dump her and find a girl that can be true, honest, and faithful to you. It's fine to hang out with other people. It's not fine to completely ignore your partner for an entire week and then suddenly call and say, "Oh, I'm hanging out with these guys that totally want to have sex with me! I feel so special!" It's rubbing it in your face.
Find a girl that is better for you. She just isn't the one after all. That's a part of dating and a part of life. You date so you can find someone who is a good match for you in the long-term. This girl isn't. She needs to grow up and be more mature about this whole situation. The world does not revolve around her and she can't swing your emotions around just because she wants some extra drama and attention.
You better off without her. Call her up, dump her, and then go hang out with the girls who think YOU'RE hot.
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what relationship is my stepson kids to me
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They would be your step-grandchildren, actually. They aren't blood relation or they would just be your grandchildren.
Some people don't want to recognize this type of "relationship" since there is no blood relation for it and it isn't immediate family so make sure you speak with your stepson about what he prefers the step-grandchildren to refer to you as.
My grandmother is actually my step-grandmother, too. When I am around her I do refer to her as granny, grandma, or grandmother but in real life I usually don't acknowledge her existence because my parents never pressured me to believe she was actually my grandmother.
Talk with your step-son and see if he wants you to be a grandfather or just the person his mother is married to. Most people do have a preference and this is up to him to decide in the end.
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It doesn't happen very often but I was just sitting here then all of a sudden my bottom lip got hot, then a little sore then a bump appeared. It's gone already which is like 5 minutes later. Any ideas on why this happened or what it could have been? (link)
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Well, actually, it could be herpes.
I, personally, have dealt with HSV-1 ever since I was about 4 years old. I contracted it by drinking after my mother. HSV-1 is also referred to as coldsores, fever blisters, and oral herpes. It can be contracted a number of ways.
Most times an outbreak will fully blister out, burst, weep, hurt, and ache. The sores can leave scar tissue behind.
Sometimes I get the same thing you're talking about where I usually have my outbreaks. The lip will become very warm and a little bump will begin to appear. Sometimes it never blisters out. Sometimes I can also catch it in enough time that I can reduce the swelling and prevent a possible outbreak from occurring.
If you want to be sure if you have hsv-1 then request a full STD screening at your local doctor. Ask him to test for both types of herpes and see what happens. The test will be a blood test and is usually fairly accurate in telling if you have herpes or not.
If you are infected then you can spread it to people you kiss (anywhere on the body). The infected cells will shed whenever they want--even when there is not a bump present--so it's important to take precautions, inform partners before putting them at risk, and be smart about what you do with your mouth.
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how do i give my guy friend a boner ,how do boys get then,can u feel it coming ,and dose boners hert (link)
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Boners are hard-ons, woodys, stiffys, or, basically, erections. It usually means he's sexually aroused and his genitals (specifically the penis) react to that arousal in preparation for sexual intercourse. Sometimes, of course, the penis will become erect during non-sexual activities during periods of growth and hormonal changes (i.e. puberty).
The only time that I'm aware this is discomforting to a guy is if it's an embarrassment or if there is something medically wrong with him (like he just had surgery, for example). I'm, of course, not a male so I cannot answer that with entirely truthful information. It's only a gathering of information I've taken in over the years.
So, if you want to give your guy-friend an erection then dress proactively and speak sexually. You can caress him, kiss him, and engage in sexual stimuli to cause him to become sexually aroused. His body will follow through with that arousal and a boner will probably appear rather quickly then.
The thing about this is that teasing often leads further. You can't just get a guy hard and walk away, pretending that all will be well. He may be disappointed, upset, or even angry at the flirting with no follow-through. Some guys, usually not very close to a person and that are aggressive in nature, may even pressure you to go further or force himself upon you. It's wise to only act sexually to someone you are planning to have sex WITH. Nobody likes a tease.
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Hi heres my problem:
theres this boy i really like and i've had a crush on him for 4 and a half years now (i'm 18) its not even a crush anymore it feels like im in love with him. Basically i know his email address on you know hotmail msn but he doesn't know who i am and i don't want to add him as it will be like i add randoms so i want him to kind of find me because i don't want it to be a msn relationship how can i get him to add me? please help all answers are kindly appreciated thanks in advance xx (link)
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Why don't you send him an email first and introduce yourself that way. You can say your friend had given you a few email addresses of people to become friends with and you're writing to see how he is and what-not. The email may start into a back-and-forth type deal or conversation and you can later suggest something like, "Oh, hey, do you have like a messenger that would be faster for us to chat on?"
Carry on with being friendly and then suggest you two hang out sometime once you two are doing well with that. You can get together for pizza or something and just have a FRIENDLY outing. After a few friendly dates you can express to him your further interest. You could say something about how you're really glad you've gotten to know him, that you have a great time meeting up with him, and that, oh by the way, would he might be interested in you two becoming something more? ;)
Anyway it is, stick to the now, of course, by approaching him first. Add him to your email contacts and be friendly with him. Don't jump the gun and send, "I LOVE YOU!" to him though. Just be friends. Shoot for a friendship first. That's how you can make relationships last for a good, long time.
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Okay so I had to take the morning after pill in July because my boyfriend and I were stupid and didn't use a condom. We made a mistake and learned from it, so pls no lectures. The pill worked for me. But I had to take it again in September because the condom broke (at least we were being safe) well my period is over a week late but a pregnancy test said negative. Is it possible that the pill damaged me in some way so I'm not going to have periods or something? After I took the pill a few days later I started to bleed like a period for about a week. But I didn't think it was my normal period cause it was two weeks early. And the first time I took it in July, I spotted blood the whole monthtil my regular period. Also the first time the pharmacy gave me the "second choice" brand which is two pills taken 12 hours apart. The second time I was given the actual "plan b" which is just one pill. Maybe that has something to do with it? But I'm pretty sure it's the exact same medication
Any help please?!?! Thank you (link)
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It's unlikely that the high dosage of synthetic hormones damaged your reproductive organs in just a single dosage; however, there are recent findings that you might find concerning:
There is concern that the very high dose of hormone taken in the 'morning-after' pill might 'kick-start' cervical cancer if a woman is already infected with human papilloma virus.
[Chen Y-H, Huang L-H, Chen T-M. Differential effects of progestins and estrogens on long control regions of human papillomavirus types 16 and 18.]
The 'morning-after' pill causes an increase in the incidence of ectopic pregnancies (lodgment of the human embryo in the Fallopian tube rather than in the womb.)
[Sheffer-Mimouni G, Pauzer D, Maslovitch S et al. Ectopic pregnancies following levonorgestrel contraception. Contraception. 2003;67:267-269]
"Repeated use of Emergency Contraceptive wreaks havoc on a woman's cycle, so the resulting menstrual chaos acts as a powerful deterrent to using this method too often," said David A Grimes, MD.
There is so much hormone within that one single pill that your body literally freaks out. It's dosed at something that is simply not a normal dosage and not healthy for an adult human to be producing on their own. The body says, "OH MY GOD!" and starts to shed the lining of the uterus fast because of the high dosage of hormones. That is, typically, why a woman bleeds after taking the morning after pill.
Shedding of the uterine lining is natural during a period. If it's shed too often then it can scar you internally and make you unable to have children in the future. It's, I suppose, a possibility here but probably unlikely.
There IS probably a reason why experts still warn of taking the morning after pill too often than recommended even though it's considered safe. There are probably a lot they don't quite know about the future in taking this often.
It probably isn't going to make you expel your uterus or cause scar tissue on it if you're only taking it once but having a high dosage of something that isn't natural just isn't good for you body anyway. It's like eating a whole big bucket full of sugar and thinking there won't ever be side effects from it. There are more things going on inside of you body than you're aware of anyway.
If I were you, I would talk with a doctor about this and express your concerns. It could be a cyst grown on an ovary. It could be a severe hormonal imbalance started by the pill. It could be so many things I couldn't really imagine what might be going wrong internally now.
Talk to your doctor and have them check you out for possible underlying problems.
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i had this diet broccali suffle but i ate a lot of it so idk if its fattening or not:
its broocoli eggwhites 3 squirts of light mayo and onion soup mix (whihc is just spices google it for nutriotion facts)
i twas made in a little tin size of 1 and a half iTouches
and 1 inch high
is it bad that i ate the entire tin? (link)
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Broccoli: No fat
Egg whites: No fat
Light Mayo: 4.9g of fat per tbsp.
Onion mix soup: 2g of fat per package
You should probably be getting about 65 grams of fat per day in a 2000 calorie diet. This is, typically, the amount of calories a healthy woman should be consuming.
You should probably be getting about 80 grams of fat per day in a 2500 calorie diet. This is, typically, the amount of calories a healthy man should be consuming.
So, you're looking at about 7 grams of fat in one single meal. That isn't bad at all, really, and you should probably be even eating more than that if you're only eating 3 meals a day and doing regular exercise routines. We're looking at shooting for about 21 grams of fat per meal if you're a healthy woman and only eat 3 meals per day.
So, is that fattening?
No, not at all.
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What would be gender neutral ballet flats that a man could wear everyday? (link)
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First, you should totally check out eBay for ballet flats for men because there are a GREAT selection that you might be interested in:
http://shop.ebay.com/?_from=R40&_trksid=p3907.m570.l1313&_nkw=ballet+flats+for+men&_sacat=See-All-Categories
The Hollywould brand also has recently come out with a whole line of ballet flats for men you might want to check out.
Your best bet is to just shop for ballet flats in neutral tones like blues, blacks, greens, and browns or tans. Most are just not labeled as unisex or men's yet so you might have to shop in the women's sections of stores or sites for awhile until they get onto this new trend.
Etsy might be a good place to shop though, as stores do have ballet flats handmade for men like this store:
http://www.etsy.com/shop/TheGeneration
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kay so i have a dance coming up next week and its called sadies aka girls choice dance and the girls have to choose out matching outfits for them and i dont know what to do.
the theme is going hollywood soo any ideas let me know!(: please and thank you! (: (link)
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Dress up like any famous celebrity couple:
Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt: http://eletrostars.blogtv.uol.com.br/img/Image/Eletrostars/2007/Novembro/brad-pitt-angelina-jolie.jpg
Johnny Depp and Vanessa Paradis: http://elio-and-oliver.com/oliverblog/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/Johnny-and-Van.jpg
Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher: http://www.babble.com/CS/blogs/famecrawler/2007/12/16-22/emilio-estevez-demi-moore-ashton-kutcher-pregnant.jpg
Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes: http://thebosh.com/upload/2010/05/30/tom_cruise_and_katie_holmes_try_to_learn_from_their_mistakes/TOM%20Cruise%20and%20Katie%20Holmes.jpg
Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson: http://igossip.com/photos/wordpress_gossip_Robert_Pattinson_9012_robert_pattinson_and_kristen_stewart2.jpg
Marilyn Monroe and James Dean: http://www.sprintusers.com/wallpapers/uploadedfiles/0924071396~Marilyn-Monroe-and-James-Dean-Posters.jpg
Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall:
http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_QF-H5oxJgVs/S6fFXBvThjI/AAAAAAAAD-E/JQqEvN0QfSs/s400/anna+nicole+2.jpg
Marilyn Monroe and Arthur Miller: http://i.telegraph.co.uk/telegraph/multimedia/archive/00644/news-graphics-2007-_644266a.jpg
Here are some more 2010 hot celebrity couples ideas:
http://www.zimbio.com/100+Hottest+Celebrity+Couples+of+2010/articles
Otherwise, be glamorous. Big sunglasses for you both, maybe gold chains, pretty boy meets uptown girl. For something funny, go looking like you're drunken/sloshed/just made-out with messy hair, lipstick all over the guys face, unbuttoned buttons, etc.
Hilarious celebrity dress up for Kurt Cobain and Courtney Love: http://backseatcuddler.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/08/toridean2.jpg
You could also go as Lucy and Desi/Lucy and Ricky, a couple from the Beverly Hillbillies, or Whitney Houston and Bobby Brown. Heck, there's even Miley Cyrus and Liam Hemsworth abilities in this.
Be fun, be creative, and be comfortable!
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are laberdodels ok by thier self for acouple hours. (link)
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A couple of hours would mean 2. All dogs should be safe to be left home alone for 2 to 3 hours unless they have a health condition.
If the dog is crate trained then he/she would be able to be left for a little long time without worrying about messing in the house or damaging property.
Dogs are social animals and need to be played with and loved on so once you return home make sure to spend quality time with the dog. Make sure you always, always, always walk the dog at least once before you leave and at least once when you return back home. It's very important that they get enough appropriate potty breaks like this as well as spend a short period bonding out.
It really depends on the dog after a couple of hours. Some dogs will become depressed if left home alone for long periods of time. It depends on his/her personality rather than the breed. You know your dog and how social the dog needs to be for optimal happiness.
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are laberdodels ok by thier self for acouple hours. (link)
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The dog should be walked at least once before you leave the house and at least once after you have returned home. You should spend some time with the dog once you're back home to reassure them that you WILL be coming back when you do leave for school or work. Dogs are very social creatures and it is scary to suddenly be left out of the "pack" even when it's just a "pack" of two animals so makes sure you spend lots of special time with the little guy.
Most dogs will be alright to be home alone for a few hours. Some will have behavioral problems if they're wanting more attention. Some will go potty on the rugs if left too long. If possible, have a friend come over and walk the dog a time or two if you're going to be out more than 4 hours at a time. It is also VERY helpful to crate train the dog so that they don't mess in the house if you're gone for a long period of time and nobody can come over.
It will really depend on WHO the dog is rather than the breed. Some dogs are more tender and need more affection while others are more self-reliant and happy with being alone for a few hours at a time.
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i am trying to find something to watch online and dont know what.if u have any ideas tell me.give me any even animes or cartoons or any tv shows.i like about anything except horror. (link)
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Midori no Hibi can be found on YouTube for free and has English subtitles. If you like strange anime love stories with a little bit of fighting and a whole lot of laughs then it's GREAT!
You can also watch a whole bunch of television shows for free on Hulu. Some of my favorites to watch are: Hell's Kitchen, Fringe, Burn Notice, Pawn Stars, White Collar, Human Target, and The Pretender.
Here you can find Hulu's list of animations and cartoons:
http://www.hulu.com/channels/Animation-and-Cartoons
I know that Fruits Basket, Bleach, Death Note, and Black Butler are all suppose to be pretty darn good.
If you have NetFlix online then even better. They have such a wide selection and will show you the television shows that they think you will most enjoy after rating a couple yourself.
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My boyfriend has herpes. He told me before we ever did anything and I accepted him for who he is and this disease he has had to deal with. He hasn't had any sores or anything since we been together but we only been together for like 3 months and he says he usually gets sores like 1 time a year or maybe 2 if it's really bad. We always took precaution to make sure he wasn't going to infect me. I looked over his penis and we made sure we were both freshly cleaned and he always ALWAYS used a condom. So 4 days ago I was feeling weird on my vagina and BOOM theres a freaking sore. I freaked out and went to the clinic and they tested me and it came back positive for herpes. I know I got to deal with it and stuff but...How did that happen? (link)
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Herpes can be on outer parts of the penis that the condom does not cover. The cells shed at a very rapid rate and are not visible to the naked eye. Infected cells can spread even if your partner doesn't currently have an outbreak going on. It happens. That's herpes.
Talk with your doctor about treatment options and the prevention of further spreading it all over your body. Many people don't take care of their outbreaks and wind up having sores on places of their bodies you don't normally expect herpes outbreaks to show up.
Take some l-lysine for 2 weeks if you have an outbreak but stop it after those 2 weeks for awhile of your body will become used to it. L-lysine can help block l-arginine, which the herpes virus (either HSV-1 or HSV-2) can "feed" off of and spur outbreaks.
Vitamins c, e, and d can help your skin heal from the lesions faster. MSM can support cell regrowth after the damage is done.
Never touch the sore. Refrain from ALL sexual contact during an outbreak and, preferably, 2 weeks after the outbreak so that the skin cell shedding is minimized and the risk of spreading the infection is greatly reduced.
Keep using the condoms to help protect other body parts from, hopefully, not getting the virus. If it spreads there isn't much else you can to other than keep the areas clean and not mess with it too much. Your doctor might offer you some prescription medication but choose that option wisely because some side effects are pretty darn serious, such as death.
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