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I'm having a lot of problems involving members of my family. I'm constantly stressing over not only these problems but also school problems and I just can't take any of it anymore. My brother and his girlfriend recently accused me of going into their bedroom and stealing 20 dollars from them now before any of you start contradicting me about this, I didn't go into their bedroom and I wouldn't steal not only from them but from anyone. What stresses me out the most is that because of this issue we no longer acknowledge one another or have any contact what so ever. My brother has brought into this my older sister and sort of "stuffed" a lot of BS about me into her head and now because of this my sister and I haven't been speaking to one another and she no longer trusts me. I just don't know what to do my one option would be to leave and go live with my aunt since everyone here has made it
Clear that they don't want anything of me. What would you do in my place? (link)
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First of all, take a few deep breaths and relax. Your family does want you there, they aren't shunning you forever, your brother prbably needs his space right now. However, getting your sister to believe all of that BS about you didn't really help the situation, but you still can! Try having small and not so heavy conversations with your family. Sit down with your sister first and explain to her that you did absolutley nothing worng, and don't forget to mention that you love her and look up to her, hopefully she will appreciate the compliments and honesty. Now, your borther, well, he will be a challenge, but nothing is impossible. He's just growing up and probably doesn't want you "snooping around" in his stuff, even though you are innocent. He'll prbably start blaming you for a lot of stupid things, but in time he'll forget about it. Don't worry, you won't need to live with your aunt, maybe you should talk to your parents about it...I'm sure they could talk some sense into your brother. Maybe even try talking to him, and telling him your part of the story. Besides, trying to talk to him more than once cant hurt.
I hope things work out!
xoxo Understatementoftheyearx3
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I am the world's worst procrastinator. I'm really smart and I love to take care of people, but when I have to go out and get something done, I put it off and off and off. Like I just tell myself that I'll do it later and later and I always wind up getting things done quickly (though efficiently) at the last minute. I mean, it's not like my put-off project is a failure, it's actually very good in the end, but I have this tremendous stress on my shoulders from all the stuff I just take my sweet time to get around to doing. Any help please? (link)
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You are not the only one. I can be placed in that category also. I'm sure that a lot of people have the same problem as you do. It's really common for people to want to put things off until the last minute, and it's hard to break the habit. But just think about it, wouldn't it be so much easier if you could get it done before its due? There would be less stress, and a little advice, stress will catch up to you. You can start to have lack of sleep, eating more or less, and not being totally focused on your work. You might be doing fenominal with the procastinating now, but you'll regret it in the long run. Try thinking positive and willing yourself to put up with the work and don't do it the night before, it just gets worse. I suggest thinking about how relieved you will feel when you get it done earlier, it always helps when your tempted to wait another day, and then another, having a fight with your conscience yet again. It stinks to have to do all that work, and the pressure to get it done may persuade you to procastinate, but do the best you can to put your pen to the paper. Once you start, you'll be good to go.
Hope I helped (from experience, lots of it)
give yourself a break, you're doing fine :]
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latley, ive been really bored with life. i havent had any suiciadal thoughts of any kind. im just bored with life...i do the same stuff everyday. and then i got to sleep, wake up, and then do the same stuff. is their something wrong with me? (link)
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Bored? Ugh, that's the worst! It usually happens this time of year because people like to stay inside and escape the frigid weather. Lack of sun and activites can also bring you down, so why not try a club at school? Or switch it up and ask some of your friends to go out and do something fun! If you are locked up in a school all day, and you go staright home, most of the time, you can have "cabin fever" you need to get outside and do something. Only you can make your life not boring, do what you like to do. And trust me, there is nothing wrong with you. You're normal and it's normal to be bored, just steer clear of the things that make you want to fall asleep, it always works for me!
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14/f
im stressed out a lot. a lots been going on for the past year and i cant handle a lot like i use to. so i cry easily. i cry a lot because stress and stuff. and i know my boyfriend is tired of me crying,and so are my friends. i dont want to cry no more but i cant handle all of this crap. it seems like nothing worse can happen and it gets 10xs worse.
what i can i do to stop crying all the time? ill be so completely happy one second and the next i think of one thing thats happened and i then i start feeling depressed then i cry.
i dont have time or money to seek professional help. i dont want my mom to know because i need to be strong for her and my brothers. And i cant talk to any one at my school or an adult because i cant trust any of them,and i dont feel comfortable talkin to them because their people ill have to see and i dont want them to think of me like that.
What do i do?
I dont want my boyfriend to see me or hear me cry no more. he doesnt want me to be sad but i cant help it.
Thanks in advance.
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Being stressed out and crying a lot is pretty normal for a teenager. Trust me, I know, and nothing is going to change easily or quickly. Try writing down what your feeling, in a poem, story, journal, diary, song, maybe even art. If you don't talk to anyone or express your feelings either on paper or outloud, everything will be bottled up inside of you and the your emotions will explode, making you even more depressed. There are so many people, adults even, who don't let their emotions out, in the long run, thats not healthy. Stress can take a toll on your health and sanity...don't be discouraged though. Try talking with some guidance counselors and let it all out. It won't be easy at first, but I promise if you seek help and get your feelings out, you'll feel much better in time.
Hope I helped :]
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Okay, so im 15/f. Ive known a girl named...lets call her Jane. So Jane has been like, one of my best friends since third grade. But then we were in a fight, for like a half a year and then I said sorry but I didn't really do anything in the first place, she was the one who got into the fight. Well I said sorry and she said, "Well ,it's taken you a long time to say sorry." and I thought, BUT I SHOULDNT EVEN BE SAYING SORRY! JANE SHOULD BE THE ONE APOLOGIZING!! So then later that day she calls me and says, "Well, I forgive you. and I said okay,... and she didn't even say sorry for what she had done!!So now I am still kinda angry at her for that, and now when we pass each other in the hallway, we kinda give each other a strange look, like we dont know if this friendship thing is going to work out. I mean, I don't think she has any other good, best friends, but she desprately wants to be popular. she isn't even trying to be friends with me, just people who are "popular" I dont know if I should just let her go or what? I have plenty of other good friends, friends I made when we were in the fight. WHat should I do??? Some days I just get fed up with all this drama and think it would be best if I let her to find other friends. But then I think, she has been my friend since third grade!! What should I do???? Any sort of advice welcome!! (link)
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I have been there, done that. My friend from pre-school totally went on one of those "If I can't be popular, then I don't want to be anything" stages. It hurts, but it's the fact of life, people change. Everyhting changes. If the friendship ends, it never really began. She may have been your best friend once, but you need to let her go, what else can you do? You can still be friends, but just try to stay away from all the drama and try to remember that you have other friends, not just her. Also, it seems like she is kind of ditching you (I know the feeling) if she doesnt appreciate your friendship, let her find other people. Don't worry about it, take some deep breaths and roll with the punches. Life isn't perfect, you have to let people go, but theres always more fish in the sea. :] hope it all works in your favor!!
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What is the best face wash to get rid of acne that isn't a set? Nothing like proactive...just a regular facewash I could get at a grocery store. (link)
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Women's Adidas BODY wash...Aloe Vera...Clear bottle.
I know it's body wash but it's for sensative skin and it's helped me SOOO much.
It even helps back acne and chest acne and crap.
(face wash: orange bottle, "clean & clear" morning scrub or something..it's very noticeable cause it's bright orange)
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Jay and i have been together for 2 weeks and a day and he told me he "loved" me and "cared about me more than anyone" and i asked him why...and he wouldnt answer because he thought that i'd call him "corny". i told him i didnt care and he still wouldnt tell me. my last boyfriend told me he loved me and i believed him. and i let myself fall in love with him and he swore he'd never hurt me. and he broke it off in less than 3 months. and it hurt me like crazy. and i told myself i wouldnt go out with a boy until im ready, but im such a pushover, and thats why im with jay. and truthfully, im still not over my last relationship. not in the least bit. and i most definetely dont wanna get hurt again. but i cant ever picture myself loving jay, i mean love him like a brother or something, but never being romantically involved. should i end it or just keep going on like this? and when he says he loves me, how can i find out for sure? how do i know hes not just saying it because he thinks hes supposed to? or for another perverted teenage boy reason? (link)
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If you can't see yourself EVER being with him, even though there is a possibility that he loves you and just isn't ready to sound stupid, then end it. Don't lead him on and do what your last boyfriend did to you. But if there is even a 2% possibility of loving him, don't let this go. It might turn out to be the best thing you've ever had later on in life. Give it timeee! But, just because your last boyfriend hurt you...it isn't Jay's fault. At some point in your life, you have to learn to trust and fall in love and stop blaming other for your heartbreak.
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My mind is troubled. I am thinking about suicide. I know it isn't the answer, yet I have been thinking about it for years, but have done nothing. I am not suffering from depression, but I am a bit depressed. I get aalong each day yet there is an empty void inside me that has no solution. It eats at me everyday all the time. Suicide seems like the only solution. The more I deny it the more I want it. I can't inflict pain on myself, but if I were to do it it would be by pills. I am not saying I am going to, just that I think I think about it too much. I have no religion. I believe that when you die, your soul moves on and takes you to the place you truly desire. Not heaven. For me I belive that my soul will take me to another body of the alias and world I created in my mind. Mostly I created it for an escape from family and life, but lately it has become an addiction.
What should I do. I can't talk to my parents, a therapist, without anyone knowing, but I am afraid that one day i will end my life. and that pull to do it is getting stronger, not because I am depressed, but because I am curious, and the void is pulling towards it.
I really need help. (link)
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Letting it all out is the first step, you're doing great! I think that it is time for a change, find something that you are interested in, think about how this could NEGATIVELY affect your life, you may not realize it yet, but people do care, if I did not care, or the other people that wrote you, we would not have wrote anything. But there are many people that still care, and you just have to trust me. You need to start thinking possitively, and taking adventures, and branching out, see what the world has to offer you, if you look closely, there are many wonders and adventures surrounding you, dive head first into them! Everything will be okay...but it starts with you first.
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dear courtney,
ur advice did not help at all.
-yours truly,
angry anonymous (link)
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I'm sorry that my advice didnt help you, but sometimes people don't agree with what you have to say, I guess you feel that way with my advice. You can ask me any advice at anytime and I will do my best to give you good advice.
Sorry!
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dear courtney,
today i was suppose to hand in a study guide for the book to kill a mockingbird which was actually due FRIDAY. but, all of my answers are crap and dont make any sense so, i was planning on coppying my best friends study guide but she handed it in! thatt little biznatch. and now im screwed, what should i do????!!!
yours truly,
anonymous
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Hey, don't worry. Slow down and take ten deep breaths. I'm sure that you can do your study guide on your own. Just use your To Kill a Mockingbird book and start reading. OR you can go onto savemygrade.com and sparknotes if you are in dire need of help. The worst thing you could do would be to panic. Good luck!
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I always thought that field hockey was really fun, but I never played it before on a team, just for recreation. I'm starting high school next year, and I really want to try out, but I have these questions:
1. What kind of things would I have to do at tryouts?
2. What are practices like?
3. How long are games?
4. What should I do at tryouts to best make myself a good pick for the team?
5. How many people are on teams?
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i loveee fieldd hockeyy i just got back from a tournament hahha
1)its basics, because at my school, most people come having never played. and my high school hold national records, such as the most consecutive wins of state champs in the country (9 straight), as well as winning 13 state championships, and also we have the record for most years going to states (18 years). anyways, as long as you get a stick now, and just do like pulls and stuff like that during commercials for tv for example, you should be fine. also, you could join an indoor team. like a winter team (its what i just came back from) they are what makes a player very veryyy good. (thats how i got good...im pretty good haha)
2) drills. like 3vs2s. sometimes scrimmages. defenesive and offensive stuff. practicing corners (which are penalties)
3) jv games are 25 minute halves, varsity are 30 minutes (it could change state to state, though)
4) look driven! and do a lot of communication: liek "got ball" "wide/through" (wide=way out open to the side--horizontally, through means open vertically, like straight ahead), and be a fast runner.
5) theyre are 11 players (including goalie,) so teams could range from 15-25 players. normally about 20, though so you can do scrimmages. are team is 22, though so you can do 11 vs 11.
i hope i answered you questions, and i'm soo happy your interested in field hockey! its greatt =]
if you have any more questions ASK!
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how can you boost your metabolism?
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http://menshealth.about.com/od/diet/ht/boost_metabolic.htm
this should help you out
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also, this is what causes LOW metabolism.
-fasting
-if your on a low calorie diet for a long period of time
-if you eat too much sugarr
-and if you dont excersize.
so check to see if your doing any of that
but basically, excersizeing is reallyyyy important!
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how can you boost your metabolism?
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chillie's boost your metabolism, just add some to a bit of food, to spice it up. i also heard soaking a teaspoon of fenugreek seeds in water, then downing it all all help to..not really sure though.
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On myspace, when you press "view more pictures", some people have other pictures as their captions!!! HOW do you do that! PLEASE help..i rate (link)
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how to find the adress url:
right click the picture you want to use and go to properties, and then its right there. select it, and place the link there =]
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me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months and two weeks ago i broke up with him because for the last 2 months he has been so mean to me it's ridiculous. well turns out he was so hurt from me breaking up with him he didnt talk to me for a week and i tried so hard to talk to him but he just said mean things to me. fast foward to tonight, we finally worked things out and i told him while we were broken up i kissed another guy thinking that he would appreciate my honesty but i just got screamed at for that. We are finally going back out but it has to be a huge secret because his parents dont want us together. so today he snuck over my friends and we were drinking and i told him not to drink too much sine he had to go home and he had 8 beers and was really tipsy and kept annoying me to have sex with him and like i finally gave in because he gets mad when I dont so i did but he could tell i wasnt into it [ i wasnt wet] so he got pissed off and flipped at me, but he was drunk but still. then he started screaming at me for kissing another guy eventhough he said he was over it and he broke up with me over it and whenever i say he hurt me he always goes "well you kissed that guy" and before he left he said dont listent o me im drunk i love you i promise ill call you tonight. and i said pleasse call it'll break my heart if you dont and he never called. this isnt the first time he's done this to me, he doesnt have a cell fone either and he has work tomorrow and i cant call his house ever. now the guy that i kissed really likes me and hes sweet but hes kind of not my type but hes hot and popular and an amazing football player, i just dont knw what to do please help me out! (link)
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Gongratulations, you are in an abusive relationship.
Why?
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Does anyone have any real, personal sucess stories of how you overcame depression sans medication? (link)
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Well...once upon a time something bad happened.Well... many bad things happened.At the same time.
I alwasy considered myself a strong person but at that time, I just felt on my knees.
Sometimes you are going through some stuff and you dont really understand how much they are actually getting into you.
I was crazy.Literarly.Out of my mind. Couldn t think straight, talk straight or even watch a movie and remember the movie afterwards. Why? Cause my mind was stuck. Stuck in the same thoughts. Again and again. Couldn t sleep. Couldn t study, couldn t work.I was broken.
I did one thing.
It might sound a lot like Forrest Gumb but...I run.
I was running before I went to work, after I finished work and after I study.For real, I ran my ass off. More than 4 hours a day every day.
That thing made me so strong.It helped me sleep (or faint) at night and mostly keep my mind clear. As time went by I started carring less and less till eventually the day came where I though about those things, and felt sad no more.
Gymnastics helps you built a balanced body and mind.But do not go to a fitness center. Most of the people that go there suffer from depression already and will always will. I consider running on a treadmill for 45 minutes every day 5 days a week the BIGGEST FORM OF DIPRESSION. You can start walking on mountains, mountain biking, dirtbiking (I am so into bikes), swimming, scuba diving, some short of training, dancing. Work your self out to sleep.
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okay so my boyfriend has fingered me a lot. i like it to a point but he like scrapes me when he does it. i know, ouch. but like on the outside to find it. how do i tell him that that DOESN"T feel good? (link)
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Well...just tell him.Its OK, he will have to keep looking till he finds out what works for you.Its how it goes girl.
As long as you keep faking it, he will never make you happy.
You can start by just letting him rub on your clit.It might tickle like hell though but you can work on it.
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I am not a cutter but I have cut myself. Only a few times im not addicted. i have self-injured myself as well. My one best friend knows because she used to and i felt very comfortable telling her. my other best friend used to as well and im going to tell her too. she goes to my school though shes older but she will be able to help me even more. im kind of preppy and usually outgoing and happy. dont think im like an 'emo' or w/e. i want to know why i should stop because I know it isnt good but it helps me and just because its different doesnt neccasarily mean its bad-does it?
i know hurting myself isnt the right way too but i never cut deep or a lot and i don't self injury myself any more than mildly. its how i deal with stress and being upset. sumtimes i write but other times i dont have time to sit there and write i need immediate relief. thats what i think of it as-relief. quick, easy, relief. and it helps. i want to stop but in another way actually i dont.
im afraid to tell my bf because i dont want him to think something is wrong with me even tho he works at a teen youth center helping kids with addictions. he still might not want to date me-just be friends.
i have a lot im dealing with and thats just the way i do. my parents dont know either and they would freak if they knew. it isnt on my arms i have a couple on my stomach and a couple on my leg. 2 on my arm but you cant tell they were intentional cuts. i like seeing them and knowing that they represent what im dealing with. it comforts me. any suggestions or advice? i want to know why its bad and what else to do thats quick and easy. it feels like it isnt bad and doesnt really hurt me. it doesnt endanger me so why worry? i guess thats what i think. i at first (i just started last week anyway) i thought of myself as a 'cutter' but now im almost ok with it and just think of myself as a girl dealing with her emotion and problems in her own way.
Thanks so much!
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They represent what you are dealing with?
Doesn t seem like you are dealing with something.
It just seems you are doing the cool new thing to do.
You hang around girls who cut themselves, who are probably emo or think they need to see a shrink cause they are feeling down.
Well gongratulations, you are intentionally screwing uo your life cause it's a fag.Go for it. See how your body will look like in 10 years with a collection of 200 cuts. You wont be feeling proud then, now will you?
Dealing with what?You tell me what a 14 year old is dealing with?
Bad grades in school, divorce, did your doggy pass away?Even worst...abusive parents?Thats how you deal with it? Your father beats you up and you cut yourself.
I got my degree and PHD after so much hard work and I ended up working at McDonalds, I am poor as hell. I grew up thinking I d be a rockstar and I am finding out that no, I wont be. I wont even be able to afford a new car ever.Should I cut myself?Thats how I deal with it?
Just be smart, and be strong. Get yourself a real life away from new trends and discover yourself and what you like to do.Get yourself a hobby and be good at something.
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There's many questions I have to answer but one time I'm having a hard time trying to find is when was his birth date?
I searched everywhere but there was different results. We're suppposed to use the Bible but I can't read through the whole thing.. (link)
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25/12/00
Late night.Died 33years old.
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I know that this is probably no worried nothing to be worried about, but...
First off, I'm fourteen/female.
I have some pretty large lumps in one of my boobs. It's hard and I only noticed it today, though I've been having breast pain/soreness for the past week or so. I'm also late on my period, though it's only by a few days.
I know that I'm young so it's probably nothing. But is there anything that this could potentially be, and should I get it checked out? (link)
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You should get this checked out immediately. It is PROBABLY nothing, but don't count on it. My Dr says breast/genital cancer can begin to develope as soon as 13.
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