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TOGETHER OR NOT???
Okay, so im 15/f. Ive known a girl named...lets call her Jane. So Jane has been like, one of my best friends since third grade. But then we were in a fight, for like a half a year and then I said sorry but I didn't really do anything in the first place, she was the one who got into the fight. Well I said sorry and she said, "Well ,it's taken you a long time to say sorry." and I thought, BUT I SHOULDNT EVEN BE SAYING SORRY! JANE SHOULD BE THE ONE APOLOGIZING!! So then later that day she calls me and says, "Well, I forgive you. and I said okay,... and she didn't even say sorry for what she had done!!So now I am still kinda angry at her for that, and now when we pass each other in the hallway, we kinda give each other a strange look, like we dont know if this friendship thing is going to work out. I mean, I don't think she has any other good, best friends, but she desprately wants to be popular. she isn't even trying to be friends with me, just people who are "popular" I dont know if I should just let her go or what? I have plenty of other good friends, friends I made when we were in the fight. WHat should I do??? Some days I just get fed up with all this drama and think it would be best if I let her to find other friends. But then I think, she has been my friend since third grade!! What should I do???? Any sort of advice welcome!!
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Well it really depends on how much you have been through with each other. Like throug the bad times. I mean it depends how much you like her and care but dont push it
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I have been there, done that. My friend from pre-school totally went on one of those "If I can't be popular, then I don't want to be anything" stages. It hurts, but it's the fact of life, people change. Everyhting changes. If the friendship ends, it never really began. She may have been your best friend once, but you need to let her go, what else can you do? You can still be friends, but just try to stay away from all the drama and try to remember that you have other friends, not just her. Also, it seems like she is kind of ditching you (I know the feeling) if she doesnt appreciate your friendship, let her find other people. Don't worry about it, take some deep breaths and roll with the punches. Life isn't perfect, you have to let people go, but theres always more fish in the sea. :] hope it all works in your favor!!
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Sad fact of life: Sometimes friends come and go- even best friends since the third grade.
Been there, done that.
You deserve to have a friend who treats you like a friend. Someone who realizes when they are wrong and apologizes when they should. Someone who doesn't expect you to take the blame when they are the one at fault. Someone who respects you and your feelings.
If they can't treat you that way, they aren't a friend.
You don't keep friends who treat you like crap just because they have been your friend since grade school. The third grade has no bearing on what's going on right now.
You surely have countless good memories of the past years of your friendship, so why taint that with bad memories yet to come if this is how she plans to treat you?
Yah, trust me, I know it hurts to let her go. But sometimes it hurts more not to.
ygs-29/f
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personally,
i think you should TELL HER.
maybe even you can call her or have a chat with her, face-to-face.
tell her how you feel and how you didnt think it was totally right that YOU had to say sorry, and only you.
tell her what you think about her trying to be popular. ask her if its true, but dont sound to harsh/mean.
you shouldnt let her go.
keep friends that you've had for a long time,
especially best friends.
if she really is changing, in a bad way.
talk to her.
dont let go, until you understand the situation.
hope this helps.
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