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my life is screwed up
me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months and two weeks ago i broke up with him because for the last 2 months he has been so mean to me it's ridiculous. well turns out he was so hurt from me breaking up with him he didnt talk to me for a week and i tried so hard to talk to him but he just said mean things to me. fast foward to tonight, we finally worked things out and i told him while we were broken up i kissed another guy thinking that he would appreciate my honesty but i just got screamed at for that. We are finally going back out but it has to be a huge secret because his parents dont want us together. so today he snuck over my friends and we were drinking and i told him not to drink too much sine he had to go home and he had 8 beers and was really tipsy and kept annoying me to have sex with him and like i finally gave in because he gets mad when I dont so i did but he could tell i wasnt into it [ i wasnt wet] so he got pissed off and flipped at me, but he was drunk but still. then he started screaming at me for kissing another guy eventhough he said he was over it and he broke up with me over it and whenever i say he hurt me he always goes "well you kissed that guy" and before he left he said dont listent o me im drunk i love you i promise ill call you tonight. and i said pleasse call it'll break my heart if you dont and he never called. this isnt the first time he's done this to me, he doesnt have a cell fone either and he has work tomorrow and i cant call his house ever. now the guy that i kissed really likes me and hes sweet but hes kind of not my type but hes hot and popular and an amazing football player, i just dont knw what to do please help me out!
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i think your ex boyfriend isnt the one for you if he keeps screaming at you and forcing you to do stuff. its hard to tell if a guy is telling the ruth or not when he's drunk...personally i would go with the guy you kissed because maybe then he would treat you better and be a little nicer to you.
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Gongratulations, you are in an abusive relationship.
Why?
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That is quite the story.
At this point, I would say you don't want guy 1 whom you've been with for 9 months. Honest appraisal here, I mean hes no catch. He drinks too much, he pesters for sex, and you are having sex you arent into.
You kissed another guy when you were broken up. Yeah, there are always going to be bad feelings there. My girlfriend and I just got back together after a two month break. We both slept with other people. We're both working past those emotions together. The key there is working together. We talk about whats going on in our heads and work through it together.
He doesnt sound like the type to do that, he sounds like someone who just likes throwing a tantrum for whatever he wants. And your history shows that you give in. The relationship isnt going to change, not with someone who is that immature.
There is such a thing as too much bad history, and my advice there is break it off and leave it off. Honestly speaking, hes not going to change unless he gets a huge kick in the ass, and if you have any interest in being with him still, you guys need a break for a month or more. I normally say two to three months, enough time to make definite changes, not enough time to grow apart and fall out of love generally.
Now, the second guy, I'll just say don't read too much into a guy who you kissed. I used to be the sweet hot somewhat popular football player myself. I was also kind of an asshole, it comes with the territory. Proceed with caution.
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