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affectn my relationship
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im stressed out a lot. a lots been going on for the past year and i cant handle a lot like i use to. so i cry easily. i cry a lot because stress and stuff. and i know my boyfriend is tired of me crying,and so are my friends. i dont want to cry no more but i cant handle all of this crap. it seems like nothing worse can happen and it gets 10xs worse.
what i can i do to stop crying all the time? ill be so completely happy one second and the next i think of one thing thats happened and i then i start feeling depressed then i cry.
i dont have time or money to seek professional help. i dont want my mom to know because i need to be strong for her and my brothers. And i cant talk to any one at my school or an adult because i cant trust any of them,and i dont feel comfortable talkin to them because their people ill have to see and i dont want them to think of me like that.
What do i do?
I dont want my boyfriend to see me or hear me cry no more. he doesnt want me to be sad but i cant help it.
Thanks in advance.
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Being stressed out and crying a lot is pretty normal for a teenager. Trust me, I know, and nothing is going to change easily or quickly. Try writing down what your feeling, in a poem, story, journal, diary, song, maybe even art. If you don't talk to anyone or express your feelings either on paper or outloud, everything will be bottled up inside of you and the your emotions will explode, making you even more depressed. There are so many people, adults even, who don't let their emotions out, in the long run, thats not healthy. Stress can take a toll on your health and sanity...don't be discouraged though. Try talking with some guidance counselors and let it all out. It won't be easy at first, but I promise if you seek help and get your feelings out, you'll feel much better in time.
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Why is it you think you have to be strong for everyone? How did you come up with being strong equals being phony? Sometimes being strong is admitting weakness and having needs. The real reason you are afraid to show weakness and sadness, is because you have tried to in the past and no one helped you or comforted you and so you learned to deal with it on your own. You can't carry on like that forever and let it build up. I am glad you are realizing that you need help and that you are seeking help...keep it up. Talk to your school counselors and teachers for starters. Keep talking to them. Things won't change overnight, but it is a step in the right direction. You are not alone, no matter what or where or whatever you are feeling, there are people in the world that are going through similar things and would befriend you if they could. You will find a way to open up and reach out and be strong enough to be vulnerable again someday. Start today with someone who has not let you down in a big way. You can't really fool people and you need to start helping yourself out of this hole you are in. This is a stressful time, but you will make it through and there will be joy in your life...
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you should set aside, 10 min. in the morning and 10 min. at night to cry. this way you can be sad and get all you crying out, but not let it control you. and in those 10 min. cry as hard as you want. then when the 10 min. is up, make yourself stop crying. and when you are with your boyfriend and you start to feel sad just think about how he is there for you and cares for you, this will make you smile. and I'm sure that if there is the ocassional time where you want to be comforted be your boyfriend he will be there for you.
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