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can't take any of it anymore
15/f
I'm having a lot of problems involving members of my family. I'm constantly stressing over not only these problems but also school problems and I just can't take any of it anymore. My brother and his girlfriend recently accused me of going into their bedroom and stealing 20 dollars from them now before any of you start contradicting me about this, I didn't go into their bedroom and I wouldn't steal not only from them but from anyone. What stresses me out the most is that because of this issue we no longer acknowledge one another or have any contact what so ever. My brother has brought into this my older sister and sort of "stuffed" a lot of BS about me into her head and now because of this my sister and I haven't been speaking to one another and she no longer trusts me. I just don't know what to do my one option would be to leave and go live with my aunt since everyone here has made it
Clear that they don't want anything of me. What would you do in my place?
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First of all, take a few deep breaths and relax. Your family does want you there, they aren't shunning you forever, your brother prbably needs his space right now. However, getting your sister to believe all of that BS about you didn't really help the situation, but you still can! Try having small and not so heavy conversations with your family. Sit down with your sister first and explain to her that you did absolutley nothing worng, and don't forget to mention that you love her and look up to her, hopefully she will appreciate the compliments and honesty. Now, your borther, well, he will be a challenge, but nothing is impossible. He's just growing up and probably doesn't want you "snooping around" in his stuff, even though you are innocent. He'll prbably start blaming you for a lot of stupid things, but in time he'll forget about it. Don't worry, you won't need to live with your aunt, maybe you should talk to your parents about it...I'm sure they could talk some sense into your brother. Maybe even try talking to him, and telling him your part of the story. Besides, trying to talk to him more than once cant hurt.
I hope things work out!
xoxo Understatementoftheyearx3
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What's more important about the $20 is that you know the truth and nothing but the truth. YOur brother and his girlfriend just want the finger to point at someone. But you've done nothing wrong and ask them what you'd need to do with $20 anyway?
Talk to your parents about this because this is a form of anti-social behaviour and bullying and you cannot allow them to feel as if they can get away with it. Your father or your mother can help you, for that is what parents are for. Tell them the truth and they will speak to your brother and sister. It isn't cowardly to do this, the bullies are usually the weaker ones and have issues of their own, in this case, your brother.
Good luck with the future,
triquetra
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I know how you feel. I constantly feel like life gets too hard to handle at times. If I was in your situation, I would tell everyone you want to have a family meeting. Tell them that you want to stay with your aunt for a little, simply because you need a break from your them. I'm sure they will understand, and if they don't it is probably because they want to make things better. Everyone needs some time away from people, and this just may be your time.
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