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break-up help!
I have been going out with him for about 3 months. I feel obligated to him. I feel that I can't leave him, but I want to. I see him at school, so that would be weird. He makes me so so mad, then so happy. I just want to not do this anymore. He is not confident in himself, so he uses me as a feel-good agent in his life. I don't want to do that. It's so draining and I don't have time and energy to do that!
How can I break-up with him so his feelings are not too hurt?
Thanks.
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What I would do is this. I'd just tell him that you can't go around propping him up. He has to do that himself. He has to be the one to find confidence. It is too draining on you and sadly it makes you resent him. Tell him that you know most guys need a pat on the back sometime but you have given far more than what you feel is necessary. I think if you are honest here, it gives him that chance to fix this before you hate him. More than likely, you will break up with him shortly anyhow. But it gives him a chance and gives you a clear conscience. If he doesn't adjust, you just tell him that what he needs and what you can give aren'te the same. I think it's honest. I think it does give him a last chance. I also think it gives you a guilt free way out.
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there is no easy way to break up, he will probably be hurt no matter how gentle you let him down, but you need to keep in mind what is best for you. just tell him exactly how you feel so he knows why you broke up with him. you know him better than we do so you would know if it is best to do this online, on the phone, or in person.good luck with everything!
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mabey you should talk to him in private and tell him what happening and how you feel about how he acts and mabey he will change. If doesn't tell him that it is not working and tell him we can still be friends.
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I would just tell him how you feel. You kinda have mixed feelings, and maybe you guys just need to take a break so you can really think about what you want, and if he is it. If you are certain you want to break up with him then just say you don't feel the way you used to feel towards him. He should understand.
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